TTC after miscarriage thread #7

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Hello,

Starting a new one as we've maxed out the #6 thread.

Hoping MrsY, Brenna, Rose, Legend, Miami, Bertie, Insufficiently and all the others find it!

Let it be our lucky no.7 thread for BFPs

Welcome to all the new people, can't believe how many of us there are, but it means a lot to have compassionate understanding company on this path x

I'm in my fertile week and back in the saddle a cycle after my MMC and MVA. Feeling a bit chippy to be ttc when I should have been 20 + weeks and making exciting baby plans. Feels like such a crappy step backwards.

But I feel optimistic as well, we're DTD like rabbits, I've never loved my DH more, he's been my rock throughout this and it's wonderful when your hopes of support when the chips are down are met.

So back to baby lube, legs up the wall afterwards, loads of fruit, veg and water, vitamins for both of us, watching the booze, getting plenty of sleep, obsessing over Ovia and cracking on!

Not looking forward to the bastard 2WW because despite trying to tell myself I'm calm and collected and patient, it's a big fat lie and I'm desperate to be pregnant again.

Just a quick update I'm on my 3rd cycle after mc and currently in my fw so are planning to dtd as much as possible. Really hope this is going to be the month.

Is anybody else the same where they think about nothing else? I'm really struggling to concentrate at work and find myself wishing the days away. I've been counting down to fw and then will be counting down the tww.

Kirsty I'm the same and can't think about anything else. It's 3 months from my mmc and I just got AF so we're now onto cycle 4. Already getting fed up but need to carry on!

4 weeks and 1 day since my mc. Seems like I've been waiting forever for my first af to return :( xx

3 weeks 4 days since my miscarriage and like you sugarplum still waiting for AF to arrive! Hoping I don't have to wait too long

Is anyone else on Clomid?

Xx

It's hard work Anna2006 it just takes over doesn't it. I feel like I'm not having a life at the moment. Fx for bfp's very soon.

My first af took longer than normal after mc Littlemiss and Littlefox it was 32 days (normally 27/28) so hopefully you shouldn't have to wait much longer

That's reassuring, thanks Kirsty. I haven't got any pre af symptoms at all so not expecting it to arrive in the next day or two. We will see.
Ahh littlefox, it's nice to know someone else is at the same stage as me. We will have to keep each other updated xx

Hi all, I introduced myself just before Christmas but then took some time out to try a clear my brain. Essentially 2 MC last year, one early in Aug, then MMC at 11+5 in Dec. I had an ERpC on 7th Dec. My first AF turned up on 7th of Jan, and was heavier, although not terrible, but 10 days later I'm still having slightly brownish discharge which is unusual for me. Has anyone else had this? I'm sure it'll settled, and I'm just trying to psyche myself up for FW, OPKs again etc. I almost feel worse now than I did a month ago, I too desperately want to be pregnant again, but really feel like it might never happen. Really trying to push that feeling away but don't want to get my hopes up and be disappointed. Anyway, enough negative thinking. Good luck everyone x

Thanks Kirsty.

If I remember rightly it took around 6 weeks after my last miscarriage but I was further gone and needed ERPC (I think that's what it is called) after giving birth and I bled for a good 3 weeks - sorry tmi! However this time I didn't need a d&c or anything and only bled for a week - again sorry tmi. Fx AF shows up for us soon sugarplum. Yes keep me updated on how you get on.

How old is everyone? xxx

I had the pessaries Littlefox and bled for a week, I've dated it from when I actually passed the sac though. Be interesting to see if af arrives similar times for us.
I'm 28 by the way, how old are you?!
Hi wibble, so sorry for you recent losses. Fingers crossed we all have a positive outcome for 2017 xx

DH and I are 36 nearly 37, so time not on our side😟. Have one DC now 2.5, conceived easily in blissful ignorance of just how tough TTC can be.

Ah okay, I have no idea when I passed the sacs so I have dated it from first day of bleed when I passed the most clots which was 22nd Dec then went to the hospital 28th Dec where they did a pregnancy test and told me it was negative, so I think they didn't grow much and my pregnancy was over before it began.

I'm 24 (25 in a few months) and my partner is 27. No DC between us yet. Do you have any DC? Xxx

Ahh I should have been 11 weeks when I found out but only measured 7 weeks. The sac was quite a size (just a bit smaller than the palm of my hand) coming out so I didn't miss it.
Nope we have no dc yet, feel really negative about the whole thing and as though it'll never happen. Started slimming world to try and shift a stone to hopefully prepare my body a little better.
Wibble, plenty of people are having babies well into their 40s nowadays. You still have plenty of time yet :) xx

I'm 33 (34 in a few months) and have two children already. Conceived them really easily so finding it harder that it's taking longer this time.

I just find it so hard coming home to an empty house. We bought a house middle of last year (big enough for a family) just waiting to be able to fill it with family and whole lot more of love! I had an early scan at what I should of been 6+5 and both sacs were measuring 4mm & 5mm so very very tiny, no babies seen or heartbeats but the hospital wasn't worried as it was twins and they grow slower apparently? But before my next scan I had already lost them so cancelled

I work in a nursery and going back was hard! And there is another girl who is pregnant there and she hasn't been with her partner long before she fell pregnant and now isn't really with him because he lives 2 hours away so they never see each other!

After my first loss I honestly thought I'd never get pregnant again and lost all hope until I fell pregnant again with the help of Clomid. I am just worrying now if Clomid doesn't work on my last 4 cycles, then what do I do?

I've done slimming world before and lost two and half stone, then lost my first baby and it all went out the window, I've probably put it all back on by now. I really need to get my spark back and start losing weight again.

Xxx

Hi can I join? Had ectopic in October. I was lucky (!) in that it was caught early and was treated with drugs rather than needing surgery. We were told to wait 3 months before ttc due to this treatment. The time is now up and I thought I was doing ok with everything but the reality of ttc again is terrifying and all consuming.

I have one DS who is 18m. I'm a sahm and it just seems that all my sahm friends are pregnant with no 2 at the moment. I know you don't know what people go through in private, but it's so horrible when they have similar due dates to what mine would have been.

Good luck everyone

We moved into a family home in August and we have 2 spare rooms completely empty at the mo 😕 I know how you feel, and it is hard.
I work with someone who's heavily pregnant and she conceived the first month they tried. I find it hard making conversation with her about her pregnancy (when everyone else seems really interested). She will be starting mat leave soon so I guess it'll be out of my face then.
I think they give you a break from clomid if you haven't been successful within 6 months and then maybe they'd restart it if they need to later on?! I'm currently taking metformin to help me to conceive for pcos. Never had any symptoms for pcos, just that my bloods showed i have it.
Slimming world is great isn't it. I love the plan and it's so easy to follow.
Sorry to read about your ectopic Rick, but at least they caught it early and you didn't need surgery. Good luck to you and I hope that you have a lucky 2017 xxx

I'm another one with empty family house. We bought our 3 bedroom house last February and my husband worked really hard on renovating it into a beautiful home. I found out I was pregnant a week before we moved in and we had visions of a bit being a busy family home.

I'm also back on the slimming world wagon after my loss. It's helping me keep my mind focused.

We bought our house 3 and a half years ago and the small bedroom is still not decorated as I have been waiting to decorate it is a nursery. I am finally giving in and going to decorate it with a study in mind the last weekend of January. I think I will probably have some watery eye moments as I do it.

I love my house but sadly it has not become the family home we thought it would when we bought it and we'll probably move on in the next year or so.

Emily don't give up, you sound so down, I just want to give you a hug. You are welcome to get mad at me if you wish, but ok, so it might be a much harder road for you (and i really wish it wasn't), but you are getting pregnant (believe me I know how that sounds and I want to swiftly kick everyone who says that to me) but something fucked up is happening in those early weeks and it fails, but the wonders of modern medicine means that if there is an identifiable reason they will find it. I really hope that is the case for you. Something lovely and fixable. If not, there are all the other options, donor eggs, donor sperm, adoption, fostering, surrogacy (although is that actually legal??).
If you want to be a mom, there are loads of ways doing it now. It's just not an easy road and I really hope that you don't have to go there. I imagine the uncertainty of where you are physically at the moment is very difficult. My heart goes out to you.
I have probably said this to some of you before but my boss and his wife had six back to back miscarriages before they went on to have two lovely healthy boys. I take heart from that. They had nothing wrong with them, everything that could be checked was checked and they were unexplained. So hopefully somebody finds that helpful.
We purchased our 3 bed house in August after the first miscarriage. I refuse to even contemplate the upstairs 3 bedrooms at all at the moment. So much so that it kind of feels like we are camping in our room (we have a bed, not much else). I am concentrating on the kitchen as no matter what happens we need a good kitchen.

Thanks for the virtual hug and pep talk Miami. I think I am just quite fed up at the moment. Hopefully after the scan tomorrow when I'm out of this limbo things will pick up.

You are right, there are many ways to have a family these days and there is lots to think about. Right now we haven't given up on having our own family but I have begun tentatively exploring adoption.

As for the decorating, we've decorated all the other rooms in our house so it needs doing if we're going to want to sell up and move on ever, so I may as well bite the bullet. Also, in its present state it is a bit of a dumping ground so it would be good to make it a bit nicer.

Hello ladies. Can I join?

I got my first BFP on new years day this year and miscarried on Friday. Absolutely devastated but me and my partner have decided we will try again next cycle which has helped me hugely.

I'm feeling quite lonely as work have signed me off for a week (I work with babies and it would be incredibly hard going back) and I don't know anyone who has experienced a miscarriage before.

Thinking of you all. Miscarriage is such an emotional roller coaster!

Of course you can join 88claire, welcome! Sorry that you've had to post on this thread 😕
I took 3 weeks off work when I had a mmc so don't rush back and go back when you're ready. A week for me definitely wouldn't have been long enough xx

Hi all,

Earlier this evening I posted here: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage/2830963-Staying-positive-after-a-miscarriage

emily86 replied and she was kind enough to tell me about this thread. I'm not actively TTC as it's been just over a week from my 10w natural miscarriage and it will take a while until I start again. But it would be great to see some friendly faces emojis around here as I feel quite hopeless at the moment.

First of all, so sorry for everyone's losses, I just wish nobody had to go through this ever. I wish I could give all of you a huge hug!

A bit about myself: I'm 31 (DP is 38) and this was my first pregnancy. A few years ago, during a routine pelvic scan, I was told I might have PCOS but it hasn't been confirmed via blood tests (long story!). I've always had irregular periods but in recent years I've tried to change my diet (although my BMI is absolutely normal) and do a bit more exercise (who am I kidding, I still hate exercising...). Back in October we decided to start TTC and I got pregnant during the first cycle, which was a huge surprise taking into consideration my background. We're back to square one now, though a bit less hopeful.

I'll stop here as I'm famous for my epic posts rants... Just wanted to say 'hi', hope you'll let me join your little community. Have a good evening!

Hi looking and welcome, we are all a lovely and understanding bunch on here. I've just read your post and it brought a tear to my eye! I think mainly because my mmc was over a month ago now and the last couple of weeks I've began to feel as though I imagined the whole pregnancy I had, and reading your story was so similar to mine and it's reminded me of it again (in a good way). Seeing the heart beating away on a 7 week scan and picturing my life with our new born...and then it was all taken away, like it had never even happened!
I try and take comfort from thinking that something obviously wasn't quite right and it's better to have happened now rather now later on.
Sending you lots of gentle hugs xxx