TTC - First time!

[mrsjkerry]

Hello there

Is there anyone else on here trying for their first baby around the same age as me? 25/26? Would love to talk to someone about it as I am currently driving my husband mad with all the TTC chat!

Hello everyone.
Moving house tomorrow and suddenly become wracked with anxiety. About money, family agreements, 'what-if' questions etc. Does anyone else go through these spells or is it just me? My husband maintains it's unusual and I should see someone.

This month has been a worry month, and they say that can interfere with TTC? So although we DTD all at the right time and everything, I'm sure stress may play a part if we are unsuccessful this month.

Any other news this morning? @mistyb it's so hard not to think...'could this be a sign...' I do the same. Last month I was convinced I was pregnant I wanted to download other pregnancy apps 😄 hope all is well with everyone xx

Oh MrsKerry it's horrible when you get anxiety like that. Before the wedding, I was getting almost panic attacks, random heart palpitations and an urge to scream or cry and just feeling overwhelming distress for a few seconds... I'd wake up in the middle of the night heart pounding and sweaty as if I'd had a nightmare that I couldn't remember. My job is really stressy though, and we have a counsellor we can book to chat to, so I did that. It helped a lot, I thought it was the wedding I was stressing about but when we got down to it, turns out it went a bit deeper than that (nothing too serious) so I'd defo suggest having a chat with someone, you may think you're stressing about something in particular which may turn out to be a cover for what really getting to you. It can defo be detrimental to ttc also, coz when we are stressed, when your anxieties are high, your hypothalamus releases signals to your pituitary gland to prepare your body for a fight/flight situation which is a chemical reaction and literally messes everything up, so if you don't catch this month, don't blame yourself, you haven't done anything wrong, it's science and chemicals, but obviously all the more reason to seek a bit of guidance on how you're feeling chick coz you want to look after yourself. Big hugs to you xx
In my news, no more symptoms but boobies still very sore, nips look the same though, no colour change! Due af either Thursday, Saturday or Sunday next week. As I say, my boobies hurt bad for about 9 whole days before af arrived last month too so I'm not expecting anything. And no more substances down below lol xx

Hi mrsjkerry
I don't think you should worry, anxiety affects a lot more people than I ever realised when I was younger. I get troubled with it from time to time. I've been recommended the Headspace app for mindfulness thinking, although haven't had chance to use it properly yet but it might be something you wanted to look into. Remember we are all here for a chat if you need to vent. Thinking positive thoughts for you. x

Bluebell headspace is amazing, I was recommended that by my work's counsellor. It is good if you can get into it, but from there, I began looking into meditation and positive thinking a lot more and came across hundreds of fab things on YouTube which I now listen to every night with headphones as I fall asleep, search relaxation music, anti-stress, binaural beats and isochronic tones and frequencies, I definitely think it helps. You can even have 5-10 minute morning meditations on there to listen to before you get out of bed to set you up for the day :) xx

Omg I just took a test! Bfn of course 😩🙈 I'm so stupid lol I was just on another thread saying I'm going to hold off testing til next Fri (af not due til either Thursday, Saturday or Sunday next week...) then all of a sudden I needed the loo and before I knew it, I was peeing on a stick! God I'm so impatient!
And it was negative. I feel really down now which is silly coz I know I confused my opk and didn't dtd on all the right days this cycle, so chances were slim but you know when you just hope?!?
And I know it could be too early, I may not have enough hcg yet and I should wait til af is due but now I've tested, I just can't see it suddenly changing in a week 😂 I ovulated 10 days ago (at most - could be 7 or 8 days ago) but in my mind bfn is bfn. I'm just so annoyed with myself, I wish I could have kept going in my lil what if bubble a little longer! As if Sunday nights aren't depressing enough 🙈xx

@mistybxx try not to think about it that way! You're not out yet. And even if it is a bfn this month, you know you can try again! I am still waiting definitely until period due. Too much going on with the house etc to worry about it right now! Do it with me on Saturday or something!?

Well I was going to do Friday originally coz I wasn't sure I could wait til Saturday lol but if you're doing it sat morning, I've got no interest in testing again now haha so i can easy wait til then!! I'm just annoyed coz I'm literally so impulsive, I don't know why I did it, i had no reason to, I know I'm early but I do feel out now. But I will defo give it a week, would be good to be 100% sure I guess. Thanks chick x

I started TTC with my DP (age 32) September on holiday, turned 27 in November and conceived in December! Now I'm one month pregnant

Like Claire I also had a positive early on once, and then what followed was an extremely heavy period six days later, so I figure it was a pregnancy that didn't catch on. I always remind myself: testing early can result in false negatives, making you feel shit. But also, they can show false positives too as it's early. Apparently many women get 'pregnant' and don't even realise it because by the time they test or their period comes, they've lost it already. Moral of the story - test from the day AF is due!! I'll be eagerly waiting your news on Saturday

Yeah I will defo wait til sat morning. I honestly don't know what made me do it, totally impulse!! I regretted it straight away! But I'm gonna forget about it all now and wait until Saturday morning defo!xx

I'm with you on that one mrsjkerry, I have had some chemical pregnancies which were basically like the worst periods ever but I had a positive test so that's why I know they weren't normal periods. It's not worth testing early although I'm guilty of it myself so often!!!

Try not to be down about the BFN Misty - even if you're 10DPO it could still be too early to show up. What type of test did you use as they all have different sensitivities too!

Something strange happened to me yesterday - I had some mild(ish) cramping so was convinced I was going to wake up with AF a whole week early. Nothing so far though and no further pains/any other symptoms. I'm only 5DPO so I can't figure it out, I never get any cramps any other time apart from the day before AF. Surely it must be a bad sign though?

Thanks ttc, I only used a cheapy stick one but I read the back and it picks up the hormone in

Good luck Misty - hope it was just too early for you! You're not out until AF arrives remember. I did think about implantation cramping but it'd be too early, everything I've read has said it doesn't start happening until 6DPO at the earliest. So quite confused about it really!

Itching to test...

Don't do it!!! Just wait til Saturday you'll feel much better 😂x

How many DPO are you now mrsj? Got to admit I considered testing this morning and I'm only 7DPO

I am about 10-11 DPO. Boobs massive but a usual AF symptom. Due on Saturday according to Ovia...

If you've got a FRER I'd go for it in the morning then! Saying that, I've just picked up a pack of Asda's own brand tests (two for only £3.50) and they even say you can test up to 4 days before AF which is quite good really.

Hi all. Fx for all testing in next few days.

I myself am due AF tomorrow according to Ovia & have the usual sore boobs & some cramps but not as bad as usual. Last few cycles I've been a day earlier than Ovia but nothing yet. Also mid way through tww I had the weirdest cramps & also have serious wind issues (sorry). It's unusual for me so here's hoping. BUT we only dtd once during fw so my sensible side is saying don't get your hopes but I suppose it does only take once.....

I'm currently away & no tests to hand. Could buy one in shop but DH says not until I'm officially late. He's right of course but grrrrr.

Hello ladies.

I'm Feeling a bit fed up. Still bleeding on and off three weeks post miscarriage which has stopped regular BD with my OH. Frustrating as the OPKs haven't changed from an almost positive in ages (I think almost positive is normal for me). I did get a positive 10 days post miscarriage and assumed I couldn't ovulate that soon.

Went to the GP today who wants the early pregnancy unit to rescan me but I can't bring myself to go back there. Last time as I was waiting to hear the results of bloods to confirm the miscarriage this lady came out flaunting her scan around yelling how amazing everything was. I burst into tears and one of the nurses had to ask her to be a bit more aware of others. I've decided as the bleeding has slowed I will go if it starts again.

Blood tests show a low phosphate which I think is to do with vitamin D so need that rechecking too and my mum has just been diagnosed with osteoporosis.

Mucus doesn't make any sense i had some EWCM but mixed in with white thick clumpy stuff (sorry TMI) so I can't chart that and my temperatures are all over the place so that's no good either!

I'm feeling really sicky in the evenings and have no idea what that means.

So feeling generally crappy and haven't got the faintest idea where I am in a cycle now. I'm praying it settles down after my first period.

Sorry for the rant. I'm sure things will settle! I'm just a bit of a control freak and not knowing anything is getting to me a bit!

How is everyone else doing?

Oh Claire chick you sound down in the dumps and who can blame you, you've had a shitty time. So glad these boards exist so you can rant away, don't apologise! Really hope things settle with you soon xx
News with me is I tested bfn last Sunday, I know it was early but I don't feel it was wrong. I've also just discovered tonight that when you come off the pill, you get af symptoms pretty much from ov onwards 🙈 literally been thinking I'm pg last couple of cycles (this one included) based purely on how "early" and long-lasting af-like symptoms have been! Didn't realise til tonight that the pill was making my af symptoms appear like the day before and first day of af... and that was it. so of course these days, pill-free, boobies are aching a solid week before af is due, tummy bloats, cramping starts a good 5 days before af-day and I'm like wft?! I'm pg, defo!
But nope! It was just the pill making my symptoms so short lived before, by most accounts, af does actually start rearing its ugly head like 5dpo onwards! I'm gutted but at least now I can stop symptom spotting and thinking it's something other than af because it's too soon for af... note to self... it's not too soon, it's normal lol 😂
Af is due to arrive tomorrow or Sunday (2 different apps lol) and it feels like it's nearly here and based on last Sunday's bfn also, I think I'm out of the game this month.
Hopefully your cycle will settle asap and you can take a deep breath and start again xx

Hi, I am 25 and hubby and I are trying for our first. I've browsed many a forum but this is my first post as, like you MrsJKerry, I'm at risk of driving the husband mad. I think it's maybe different for men but ever since we decided to come off the pill in Nov I've felt somehow different and it's always at the back of my mind. Excited to be chatting with people in the same boat!

Best friend just told me she is pregnant - without even trying! Very happy for her obviously but now the urge to test myself is even stronger. Trying to outweigh how crappy I feel now versus how crappy I'll feel with a BFN...

Don't test! Rather nature show her ugly head than that damn line 😔 I know how u feel though, one of my besties is pg after a 1 night stand 😳 after these last few months I really don't know how anyone can get pg by accident lol 😂 obv I know if happens but like wow... i do wonder why I ever went on the pill haha (jokes... kind of)
Welcome to the rollercoaster willow!
Well my cramps are pretty intense today, af due any time today-Sunday!x