TTC - First time!

[mrsjkerry]

Hello there

Is there anyone else on here trying for their first baby around the same age as me? 25/26? Would love to talk to someone about it as I am currently driving my husband mad with all the TTC chat!

Very almost positive? What do you think ladies? These lighter control lines are playing mind games with me!

You have to be careful though coz even a line doesn't mean it's positive or even near positive coz we have LH in our systems every day of our cycle. If I don't have a bfp this cycle, I'm going to do some stick tests every day for a week straight after af just for an experiment to see what the lines look like when I KNOW I defo shouldn't be ovulating (or I could do it next week which is the week before af is due) because this is what has thrown me this month, I've been seeing what I thought are positive or nearly positive lines around the time my apps say I'm ovulating but only one day last week both the lines were very dark and identical in colour which is a definite positive! So although I'm in the 2ww now, I don't know if I actually dtd near the right time or not 😳

Thanks Misty. I'm in the same position I just don't know when it's gonna happen so testing every day! My cycles were awful before the MC so I'm very much in the dark!

Hi ladies, I hope you don't mind but my post is a little different from the usual. I'm 29 and got married in July 2016. Up until that point I'd been on the Depo injection for a couple of years perfectly happy with no intentions for babies. Since being married, creeping closer to 30 and my best friend expecting, my body clock has started going mental and TTC is all I can think about!
My last depo ran out two weeks ago and I've now switched to the mini pill, however having babies wasn't really on our agenda yet. We rent a small 2 bed terrace with no storage and we're planning to save our deposit to buy this year. Also in September I started a job as a lecturer and I am expected to complete my masters as part of this (which will take 1 year). I know that saving for the house and getting more established in my job is the sensible thing to do but my body says otherwise! What do I do and how did you make the decision that it was the right time to start trying?
Thanks xx

Afternoon ladies! Hope all the opk and poasing is going well for all! I need your thoughts and opinions please!!!

Ok so I'm trying not to symptom spot so I think I'm being paranoid but this past week or so I've been having the most bizarre dreams. I can remember one completely not so much the other 2, however do remember them being equally weird. I've always dreamed a lot and my dreams are always a bit strange but I can usually control them to a certain extent and change it if I don't like what's happening the last 3 know have been exceptionally weird, even for me... do I sound crazy yet? Please someone tell me it's my overactive imagination! AF is due some time in the next few days I think x

Hi Taylor! I got married sept 16 and thought the same as you, not so much about work (I'm pretty stable and 9-5 so no issues there) but we live in rented and would have liked a house first but are nowhere near that stage and won't be for 5+ years.
I'm 32 and have lots of pg friends, and friends on their 2nd or 3rd baby!
I also watched my sister go through 3 Mc (she was 37-38, went on to have healthy ds naturally but 3 weeks early aged 39) and have seen 2 friends aged 35 go through ivf resulting in babies, and one of my best friends now just being referred for ivf age 32.
Also lots of other friends struggling for so long to conceive. But then I have a friend now who's pg with no boyfriend/hubby (one night stand) and she's 32 in rented flat working part time lol and lots of friends who try for one cycle and literally have decided when to have babies and it's happened immediately!
For me personally, I don't want to wait another second, regardless of my rubbish housing situation and we are by no means well off, we struggle enough with just 2 of us. But we will manage because we have to :) moral of the story, it's entirely your decision, you may start trying now hoping it will take a while and catch immediately. Or you may give it a year and then struggle and wish you'd tried earlier. Or you may start now ttc, buy your house, pass your degree and fall pg like clockwork lol.
Whichever way you decide to go, let it be your decision and don't take judgement or negativity off anyone, it's your life chick.
But I'd speak to the docs anyway to at least get an idea about perhaps how long your system would need to clear from your contraception (but again, I know people who have come off injection/pill and caught immediately!)
lol sorry if this has confused you 🙈xxx

Thanks Misty I'll have to give the cream a go. I did try it years ago but found it too time consuming - I guess it's worth it to avoid the pain of another ingrown hair incident though!

Hi T4taylor welcome! I'm probably not much help as we followed the so-called "sensible" route of starting our careers, buying a house, getting married, and only then started to TTC. But do you know what, life's too short! I'm a strong believer in if you're ready for something then you'll make it work somehow. And what better motivation to make things work than a gorgeous squishy newborn . Best of luck whatever you do decide!

Morning claire how's your OPK looking today? Yesterday's pic does look almost there doesn't it.

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Good morning! It's Friday! I think it's definitely darker today.. What do you think? Very very very almost there I think?!

We did the deed last night anyway and I'm sure we will tonight as we're gonna have a nice meal out.. So covering all bases!

How are you? Any updates?!

Thank you Misty and ttcnovice. I think one delay will be the depo could stay in my system for up to a year so that could be a deciding factor for me. I may manage my broodiness by watching the rest of your progress with eagerness and like you say, if it happens it happens!

I'd say that's definitely positive claire! Yay! Happy DTD for you tonight after your meal, are you going anywhere nice?

Only update from me is that I woke up feeling sick this morning. Had the cursory fleeting thought of "maybe?" but then got a hold of myself seen as though I'm only 2DPO . I'm off shopping after work with a close friend who's 30 weeks pregnant as she wants to make a start on her hospital bag. While I'm looking forward to catching up with her, I know I'm going to be a bit jealous while she's buying lots of lovely baby things!

Thanks TTC

We haven't decided yet but there's a really nice Italian round the corner which we might give a go.

Fortunately I don't have any pregnant friends and the only one who has children had 4 miscarriages (but two healthy children)... So she was a real support when I had mine. That's good of you supporting your friend, I'm sure she appreciates it. Does she know you are trying?

I'm wary of OPK'S as last cycle they seemed positive for ages. Might splurge on clearblue next cycle!

Tfortaylor - I am in a similar position, only got married in July 2016 and we agreed we would wait a few years before babies. (I'm 27, he's 30) But I have wanted to have a baby for years, and after we got married the urge got even stronger! I decided recently I was sick of waiting for the "perfect" time. Life is too short. So I asked my husband and he has agreed to start trying now which has made me so happy! Even he is excited now, I think men need prompting sometimes you need to listen to your instincts. There will never be a "perfect time" because there will always be something else you think you should do first.

So I just caved and ordered 20 clearblue ovulation sticks from amazon. Due to arrive tomorrow.

I will use the cheapies and then clearblue to back them up!

That's the plan anyways....

Hope everyone is having a good day :)

It must have been good to have the support of someone who's been through similar claire. I bet it was easier talking to your friend than others who hadn't experienced it themselves.

We haven't told anyone we're TTC - I just don't want the pressure of people asking if we're pregnant yet. Although saying that everyone already does anyway (especially our DMs!) - it seems as soon as you get married people are counting down the days until you announce a pregnancy! I don't really mind at the moment, but I think if it takes much longer to conceive I may start to resent it 😬.

Same ttc 🙌🏼😠
I tell people I miss wedding planning and miss my busy florist, fittings, venue meetings etc, and all I get is "well it's been 5 months now, you should be keeping busy making babies!!" And I'm like oh really?! Thanks I hadn't thought of that! 🤓 please Deborah, keep telling me I should be sh**ging like a rabbit, I love hearing that of someone I barely consider a colleague 😂😂😂
lol that's a little harsh, they do mean well, but when all you want is to have a baby, it gets a little too much! Like how would they feel if you said "well actually, we are having sex every other night and I'm trying to lie there and leave the sperm up there for as long as possible and do you know what Susan, it's just not happening, do you have any more amazing advice??" They'd be mortified! It's really quite personal to ask although I know people just love baby news, but don't let it get to you.
All the girls in my office know I'm off the pill but they just think I'm seeing what happens, they don't know I'm flat out ttc or doing tests and everything haaa xx

So apparently I stopped receiving email notifications for this...

I find I'm the opposite. A few people have said "you'll wait a few years to have kids won't you?" And I think 'what is wrong with you my husband is 40!!'

My boobs have started their monthly swell. In my mind I know it's period, but in my heart I think what if...not holding out much hope. From readings your posts it sounds like I need to keep it all in over night rather then running to the toilet!

Misty that's hilarious I know exactly what you mean though! I think people mean well like you said, but they don't stop and think first. At least you know that the mythical Deborah and Susan will be the first you'll tell when you get your BFP .

Keep positive mrsj early pregnancy symptoms are a lot like PMS!

Haaaa they will be 😂
Oh that's mad Mrsk! I get it all the time! I mentioned to my trainer the other day about exercising in ttc/pregnancy, just out of curiosity really and he was like yeah it's fine etc then he was like "oh so are you currently trying?" Like looking me dead in the eye asking if I'm totally AT IT with my husband, I went bright red, I was like oh! Ummm well umm I'm hoping ummm well yes, no, well see what happens! I have a real issue saying "yes we are trying" it just makes me cringe 😂👊🏼
My boobies are also slightly swollen and a bit tender but I'm due AF any time between next thurs to next sun (cycle totally buggered this month lol) so I'm not hopeful. Don't "FEEL" pg at all. Not that I know what pg feels like lol xx

Last cycle I got tender breasts nine days before period was due. My period is now due in seven days. So sounds about right.

I've seen my trainer with a pregnant woman before, and also checked his qualifications online the other day and it says he's a specialist in antenatal and postnatal, so no need to ask yet! I don't think anybody expects a baby from me for some reason. Other than a couple of my friends who I told I was TTC anyway!

Yeah last month mine went crazy over a week before my period, and for years on the pill I NEVER had sore boobies, and since I've been off it since August, last month was the first time I'd experienced soreness so was convinced I was pg!! Then af arrived like clockwork 😔
It seems I'm getting different symptoms every month since coming off pill, first cycle hit me like a truck, the cramps and heavy flow was NOTHING like I'd experienced while on it! Then next cycle I had headaches and dizziness, cycle after that nausea made an appearance and last cycle was the agonising boobs! Allllllll of which are pg symptoms hahaha. So I'm honestly not expecting anything, the boob-ache has arrived about the same time as it did last month so just waiting for af now. Not even tempted to test this cycle lol gonna wait til at least sat 4th Feb.
Ooooh it's good that nobody knows your private baby plans!! No pressure! And then you can just be like "surprise!!!"x x

@mrsjkerry I am 27 and have done my husbands head in talking about it. He has finally agreed to start trying, I've been pestering for years 😂

Haha! Slinkery he would've been happy if we'd had a baby in the first year! He's from one of those backgrounds where you have kids early (20) and never really get married or buy a house. He has kids from a previous relationship and he had those at 22. It was more me! I told him in no uncertain terms we were doing the marriage and the house first!!!

@mrsjkerry My husband was the sensible one, he wanted marriage and the house first and I'm glad we waited. It feels like the right time...but I still pestered mwaha! I am very excited.

Hey everyone, so I THOUGHT I had a smidge of implantation bleeding tonight... I nearly fainted lol I'm either 10/8/7dpo and I was like omg, could it be?? It was on the tissue when I went for a wee and was literally one tiny browny stripe when I wiped.
BUT (and this is a bit gross, sorry) I get slight piles lol 🙈 not the dangly grape type, but just very delicate up there and it bleeds a little if I don't drink enough water and go to the toilet (gosh I'm a delight aren't I) and I've noticed a bit of blood there today too so then I realised it must be from that when I saw it earlier.
Maaaaan I promised myself I wasn't going to symptom spot this month!!!xxx