TTC - First time!

[mrsjkerry]

Hello there

Is there anyone else on here trying for their first baby around the same age as me? 25/26? Would love to talk to someone about it as I am currently driving my husband mad with all the TTC chat!

Sorry you're having such a rubbish time Claire it seems like you're having to deal with one thing after the other at the moment doesn't it. Please feel free to rant away at us anytime you need to!

Misty you still never know so keep positive! It's annoying that early pregnancy symptoms are just like pre-AF symptoms isn't it! Fx for you still.

Mrsj it's tough feeling happy for someone close when they announce versus the pang of jealousy isn't it. Or is that just me

My quick update is just that I'm now 8DPO and woke up feeling very nauseous. Really trying not to pin any hopes on it as I did have some nausea in my first cycle of trying, but this is so intense it's making me think maybe... Staying positive anyway but not too positive so I don't get disheartened again! I can't help but feel that this month seems different though arghhhh!

Hi Willow welcome it's amazing how much it can take over your life isn't it! You're in the right place anyway as it's definitely all us lot think about!

I am at parent's evening tonight anyway. Though I do have a clear blue in the bathroom cupboard...

TTC - I am massively envious and angry even that I've failed where she's succeeded!

Thanks Misty and TTC

We did the deed last night and there has been no bleeding during after or this morning so hoping that's a good sign!

TTC I hope this is your month... Signs sound good to me! I was nauseous pretty much as soon as I conceived... Im still nauseous now but putting it down to the vitamins I'm taking... You never know though!

Misty.. Thankyou! I know lots of people who just looked at a man and fell pregnant! Frustrating isn't it!

MrsJ you have NOT FAILED at all chick, please don't feel like that, failing is implying you're doing something wrong which you're not, there's absolutely nothing else you can do except dtd with your partner on/around ovulation, that's all any of us can do lol and the only thing we can control. Everything else is up to fate and nature, so don't feel like a failure and she's a success, it was just her body's time and is going to be your time too soon!!🙌🏼

I honesty think I'm out girls, there's a difference between cramps that could be something else and af cramps I think, my cramps are literally like the af is just there, about to pop out any second haaa I've been to the loo about 5 times this morning just for a wipe coz it feels so close!! But I'm accepting of it now... messed up my opks this month anyway so shouldn't have been so hopeful! But it's not a failure, our bodies are amazing and this af is just letting me know I'm still working properly 😜 x

Beginning to feel it'll never be my time!! No point in even testing this month as AF is definitely on its way tonight 😔

Ah mrsj sorry you're feeling down don't worry it will happen for you! Misty is right all we can do is try our best and the rest is just sheer luck I think! You're not out yet remember xxx

I'm not symptom spotting much but I've been having the strangest sharp pains today quite low down. It feels as though there's lots of little needles inside my lower abdomen just pricking away at me every now and again! No idea if that's even a thing in pregnancy but I'm going to add it to my "maybe" list for now I reckon.

Misty, TTC - I am feeling so down. Huge arguments tonight with my husband. I think because I'm so angry and fed up about my period coming and being in our new house only two days is so stressful as everything is in boxes and it's chaos everywhere.

I yelled at him tonight because he put the stuff from the washing machine onto the kitchen floor before putting it in the tumble dryer. Why would you do that? The kitchen floor is DIRTY! So I had to wash it all again. AIBU??

Oh bless you mrsj... that's men for you though. They just don't get it, I don't think they own common sense, my hubs does stupid shit every day that I could bollock him for 🙈 my pet hate is when he makes toast/sandwich and just leaves the bread on the counter. Just leaves it. Open. Sometimes I don't see it til the next day. Whole loaf dried out and stiff! He does the dishes (to be fair to him) and then leaves the sponge sat floating in a bowl of dirty water... just squeeze out the sponge and pull the plug! Arghhh drives me wild 🙈😡 I could go on! Don't let it get to you, you're legit allowed to have a go, don't worry. But do remember that your hormones and disappointment may be adding to your rage!
I'm feeling pretty down tonight myself chick, af has totally hit me hard 😔 but we have to stay positive! I know it's hard. I was just saying now, I'm gonna give a month a miss now. I don't want a December baby lol and I think I need to give myself a break coz babymaking is supposed to be fun but I'm getting obsessed which isn't cool!!😳xx

I'm out, the witch is here 😡

Don't worry mrsj my DH is exactly the same, the way their brains work baffles me on a daily basis! Mine will take rubbish out to the kitchen, walk past the bin, and put it down on the worktop just what kind of thought process do you have to have to do that?

Sorry about AF for you both twisted and Misty

Misty- you're right about a December baby, but I can't bear to stop trying for a month! Especially with my friend being pregnant it would be great to be at the same time!

Sorry to hear AF came for you. Mine came too this morning. And with a vengeance.

Sorry to hear MrsJ & Misty.

I don't know if it's all in my head but AF & symptoms seem to be increasing each month & it's totally confusing!!

To distract myself this month I am focusing on my own health. Order a fit watch thing & downloaded My Fitness Pal. It only helps right? (And gives me something else to obsess over).

I'm sorry to hear people are suffering mentally, it isn't nice at all but so many suffer in silence. Please rant away on here & know you'll get sympathy & support.

Here's to the next cycle.

Thanks twisted xx mrsJ I've worked it out and I'm actually gonna try again this month (Feb) it would be next month that would result in a December baby 😂 Christ, I can't even get dates right, how on earth am I gonna figure out my opks haha.
I'm defo gonna look after myself, gonna do a Clean 9 this month to give me a kick start and carry on eating well from that, and up my gym attendance from once to twice a week! Defo better for baby, and as you say something else to focus on lol x

Major breakdown today. A friend told me she was expecting (in her words it was a big shock) have cried constantly for about 2 hours 😢 why is it the folk who don't plan can fall so easily but when u plan it its so hard. Feeling absolutely gutted and DH doesn't help much

Hi wishful. I feel the same about my best friend. Every time I think about it I get so upset. It's not fair that others can have so easily what you want..

Its horrible mrsj I am happy for them but feel so crap for myself. Every time someone says 'I've got something to tell you' I'm keeping my fingers crossed it's no another pregnancy

Oh girlies I know what you mean. I felt so down last night but I can't let myself wallow too long, I'm one of those people who others never believe "get down" I'm so bubbly and positive all the time then when I'm sad, I don't want to show it and it is hard putting a face on all the time. As I mentioned before, one of my besties who's a year older than me, got pg from a 1-night stand! I'm gobsmacked like how does that happen? I can't believe it lol. Then there's the ones you speak to who are like "oh my hubby only has to look at me and boom I'm pregnant, we had just decided to try and along came baby, first month!" Again I'm like what? But what I notice about everyone (or most) is that they really don't think about it too much. I mean, I've been on MN now for less than a month and I love ranting lol and I love all the support and nice words that strangers share with eachother :) we women are special and caring creatures! But... I do think it can get obsessive. That's why I'm going to stick to the cycle and do one more month of opk and tracking and everything doing it all properly and if I don't catch this month, I'm definitely going to go on a break! I came off the pill end of Aug, married in sept, and until Nov, I hadn't even downloaded a cycle tracker! I had no idea you could only get pg on ovulation (or what ovulation was lol) I didn't know anything about fertile weeks, nothing! I just thought you need to have lots of unprotected sex so I did and it was FUN lol 😂 every time we did it, I thought oh is it this time?? It was exciting not knowing tbh. I mean, I'm not saying go in blind (especially if any of you are 30+ like me I'm 32) and obviously it didn't work or I'd be 4 months gone by now lol. But I do think our maternal instincts are driving us a little crazy and if we are getting down about it, that in itself is detrimental! It is wise to know when we are fertile and/or ovulating but I do think we need to step back now and again and take a deep breath. We are MADE to be mums we deserve to be happy while trying to become them 😊 so cheesy as it sounds, and I hope I'm not coming across condescending or patronising but give yourself some time to wallow and then open those legs again (the baby-making version of 'get back on the horse' lol) and enjoy it 😍xx

Nice post misty! My husband says to me "stop with all the kits and fertile week business and let's just have lots and lots of sex". Maybe he's right. I might bin the OPKs and Ovia next month and see what happens. Though I do like knowing what's going on and they've become a bit of a crutch. Hate doing things blind 😄

This is my last month of monitoring everything. It gets soooo stressful trying to think of everything. Think I've got to the stage where if it happens it happens if it doesn't do I really want to go to docs n see if everything is ok? I'm not sure I do tbh would rather not know xx

Same. Gonna go for it in Feb then ignore March coz I don't want a December baby anyway haha I know that sounds silly, like I can pick and choose, I don't appear to have that luxury 😂 but then in April I'm gonna go for it! I may do the odd opk about half way through the month to get an idea but I'm NOT going to obsess, it's getting me down lol. I agree with the docs though, I'm going to go in about May if nothing has happened and add a few months onto my trying time so they will take me seriously. Terrifying prospect but not as terrifying as having a problem and never knowing about it 😳x

After what feels like weeks of negative OPKs I got these this morning. Just convinced OH to do the deed and currently lying with my legs in the air 😂😂😂

OVIA had the dates spot on if this is ovulation even with a miscarriage.

Fingers crossed!

Those are unmistakably positive claire yay! Love that you're lying with your legs up in the air this thread makes me feel better about my own craziness!

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