TTC through Donor IUI or Donor IVF or just undecided - all welcome! #makeithappen #loadsofBFPs!!!!

[kwick]

This thread is for anyone trying to conceive... or thinking about doing so through donor IUI or donor IVF. Nothing TMI - feel free to join, we are a lovely group here to support and help keep the cray-cray away!
Here is the link to the previous thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2688511-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome-makeithappen

Here is the link to the thread before that: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2587046-TTC-through-Donor-IUI-or-Donor-IVF-or-just-undecided-all-welcome

Ah ah no worries hoping

I have done both and got positives both ways- I've only tested twice at work before so far as not ttc at mo but having been tracking surges- lunchtime seems to be my best time for positives rather than fmu and I think I've had positive in evening (like 6ish)
I do prefer the pot method (on holiday over Xmas I used a glass from the cupboard and then thoroughly rinsed and dishwasher-ed at the end so we(e) didn't accidentally use that glass lol!) mainly because some of the lh surges I had I almost wanted to test again to make sure but if I'd pee'd straight on the stick I'd try again but obviously I'd pee'd it out already and as I say when I'm not at work I usually have to go regularly (hence why I'm awake now 🙄) So I then find I never get a positive again and then think did I imagine that.....I don't restrict how much I drink as hate to feel thirsty so just have to try and distract myself for a few hours (or go out shopping if non working day!)
So may well invest in a mini pot that I can use at work discretely,we have big fleeces when not with patient so can hide things just more difficult as to where you keep the sticks so flat etc without freaking people out that you have a wee wee stick lying around.ultimately when I'm waiting for "the tcc surge" I'll do everything I need too to get a little mini me :)

Eek it's all so exciting for everyone at the mo xx

Yikes that was looooonnnnnnng-sorry :/

I had a strange dream.. again. Part if which I was at the front of a train going very fast and I started to feel sick in my sleep
I do so desperately want to have symptoms and am getting quite stressed about scan on Tuesday. Last time at 7 week scan I think then it was already becoming clear all was not well... anyway what will be will be. Not much I can do about it except try and keep as chilled as possible. I think about the taramasalata now and think "what was I thinking" will not dwell as thought making me retch...

Kwick - you're bound to be a bit anxious at this stage Its a bit early for symptoms. My nausea didn't properly kick in until 7–8 weeks and I've never had the tender boobs thing that people talk about. The only remotely noticeable thing early on for me was that some days tea tasted weird.

I've found the following thread very useful. There are ladies at all stages of pregnancy who are very supportive, positive, and welcoming to all newcomers (even those of us who are on a slightly less conventional journey ). There's lots of general pregnancy chat (pram-buying, bump photoing, weeing when you sneeze, congratulating those whose pregnancy has just resulted in a gorgeous squishy baby etc.) so its not all bleak talk of MC but there is a lot of support for those in the early weeks because we all understand how torturous it is. Hope you come and join us!

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/2790232-Staying-posifrickentive-Thread-13-for-ladies-pg-after-mc?

Pickle - a long story perhaps, but a valid one . I'll never be convinced by the negative results of a test where I've only peed on the stick. Dipping is so much more convincing!

hi all!

very snowy here last night - so I mooched around with the team and saw what there was to see.

Pickle dog luck tomorrow honey!

Kwick good luck!

Good news, I got a positive opk this morning, went for the scan at lunchtime and I'm booked for the IUI tomorrow at 2pm whoop whoop!!
Follicle is now 20,7mm so grown quite a lot since Monday, lining 8,6

Now let's just hope I don't get snowed in!

pickle I'll be thinking about you tomorrow

Brilliant news Pez So exciting!!

Yayyyyyy pez I'm so so so excited for you!
I know that snow better keep away!!!! I'll be getting there by hell or high water (or snow!)

Pez that's great news! Good luck for your IUI tomorrow, will be thinking of you!

Will be thinking of you, too, Pickle; you've waited so patiently for your first consult, nows your time!

Kwick I know it's a stressful time right now but try not to stress too much; it can't be good for your tiny baby sorry to hear you're having strange dreams. Not getting enough rest is awful.

Looks like my baby plans are on hold yet again. Nan has asked me to go back to Australia (I went with them when I was 8) to visit family, and I really want to go... But they're going March 2018. I'm really battling with myself because I really wanted this year to be "my year", but if I go to Aus, I can't start trying til mid next year. I'm so close with my cousin out there (she came in June 2015 for a month and we hit it off and have talked every day since!) so can't possibly tell her I'm not coming because she's so excited to see me... Help! What do I do 😩

Thanks all, I'm so excited this is finally happening!

caution, nice to hear from you. When was the earliest you could start trying? Was it April? If you get pregnant around spring time you could travel with a couple of months old baby to Australia I guess and introduce him/her to the family. If I were you I would look at the latest this could work and interrupt treatment if it hasn't worked by then. And then try again when returning from Australia.

Or you could get some semi flexible tickets and change them to a later date but still go

kwick your bound to be nervous love especially with what you've been through to get to this point! But stay positive, agree with shoes tho it's early to get any symptoms.....how many weeks/days are you now? Totally lost track!!!
Seriously since coming off the pill I have sore boobs for 3/4 of the month! So I wouldn't have a scooby do for me whether that's a symptom for me.

caution you've got to do what feels best for you but I would be inclined to save save save, get tests done, check out loads of different clinics. You've got a good 10years on most of us here but since getting my amh I do wish I'd done this earlier so if any problems I'd just gone on with it but no regrets and all....onwards and upwards.
Only you know what feels right but sounds like you've already made up your mind
X

Caution - I personally would go ahead with making a start according to the schedule as planned. When were you planning to start TTC? You can probably work it around the Australia trip.

Dog luck? Good luck!!

Hey lovelies.

Pez, I did debate going to Australia with a baby a couple of months old; as I'm going with my Nan and Grandad (they're only in their 60s) and I'm really close with them (they live next door!) I know they'd help out. Me, Nan and Grandad are staying with my Nan's cousin - so we're staying in her home and not a hotel, so it's going to be practical in that way too. But because I haven't had my first consult yet and because I still need to have my laparoscopy to check for endometriosis (and I STILL need to lose half a stone for that by 2nd Feb 🙄) it looks like I could be pregnant by the time I go to Australia. If that makes sense? By the time my laparoscopy is done, and I've got my first consult out the way, and all the tests, it'll probably be June anyway, whichll mean by the time I go to Australia I'll be a couple of months pregnant. But I didn't know whether to just get this year out the way first, or just to carry on. I'm 26 this year and didn't want anything to hinder it any more. I've saved hard for two years already, and now I'm finally in a position to do it, I just want to do it. You know?!

Pickle, I think I'm going to get my AMH done before my first consult like you did, so that I know my ovarian reserve and things. My laparoscopy should tell me more; providing I lose the 7lb I still need to lose in two weeks 😩 I am younger than most ladies on here but I'm worried about early menopause too; my mum, Nan and auntie AND great grandma went through their menopause between 30-34. So my biological clock is also ticking!

Shoes, I was planning to TTC around mid this year. Maybe a bit earlier if I could. Which means I'd be due either around the time I'd go to Aus, or just after/a few months after. I'm debating on just doing it. I've wanted this long enough and being pregnant wouldn't hinder anything. In fact, it'd probably make it more magical!

Sorry this is so long ladies. X

Fanks shoes will give that thread a try.

!!!!!!! pez!!!!!! Are you injecting a trigger? So excited for you!!! Are you ready for the 2ww? 🍍and all that?!
Follicle is mahoosive!!!!

Sokay caution the dreams don't wake me up my weak bladder does that all on its own!!!
I completely agree with pez's advice - don't forget you will be invoking the Law of Sod - which always helps!!!

pickle I am just over 5 weeks

stork woof woof!!!!

Going a bit stir crazy in the office - not used to so much time there!!!

Tomorrow is a well exciting day - fx!!!!

caution if you know there are issues then get yourself checked and make a decision based on that....things take time anyway so after you've had any procedures you need u can get everything in place knowing all ur options and make ur decision about whether to go ahead or not but at least everything will be ready for when u come back from oz if u decide to go.

I'm like that kwick think how nice it'll be for everything to be calmer and have some time in the office and then within a couple of hours I'm bored!

Haha stork I did wonder what dog luck was-whether it was an upgrade from good luck 😉

Just over 18hours to go ekkkk ahhhh

Caution - go on, you know you want to get started

Kwick is quite right, the law of sod plays a part in this game and if you can make use of the law of sod in a badly timed trip to Australia, then why not!? I don't know if you recall but when I went for my last IUI the clinic had ordered in sperm from the 'wrong' donor. I almost actively didn't want that IUI to work because I'd got my heart set on a different donor (who had better hair colour - shallow, me? ) and just felt deep down that this donor wasn't the 'right' one for me. Now I'm five months' pregnant with the sperm of the 'wrong' donor. That's sod's law for you. I'm pretty sure I won't give a damn once my baby is here!

You will probably find once you get started that you become so determined to have a baby that you will be amazed that you ever had anything else as a priority in your life. You will work out the Australia thing somehow. But if you wait until the 'perfect' time to start your fertility treatment it will never arrive.

My situation is far from perfect. I have no savings. I will be living on approx. £600 a month for at least six months of maternity leave (just enough to pay my mortgage and utilities). But if I'd waited for my financial situation to be ideal I would probably never have embarked on this at all. I'll muddle through and the few difficult months to come will be insignificant in the grand scheme of things.

I will make my situation work, and you will make your situation work even if it means making it through a long-haul flight to Oz with an uncomfortable pregnancy bump or with a screaming little baby

Seriously shoes you have such a way with words!!! Please write a book!!! 💜

The child in me wants snow!!! But probably not the best for all the plans tomorrow!!!

Oh and I do get to thinking if Denise from Eastenders can have a healthy pregnancy at her age - why the hell can't I???? yep I do realise it is fiction

I was about to write exactly the same - always the right words shoes!!

kwick!!! I can't believe that for the past few months I've been eyeing the pinapples at Sainsbury's every single week and now I forgot to buy one!!!! I'll go tomorrow

Yeah my garden is now all covered in snow - I know I'll get to the clinic no matter how (shame we can't walk together pickle); I just hope the doctors will do the same!

Caution, go ahead with what your heart tells you, keep going with all the tests etc, it would be too hard to put this dream on hold for a whole year!!

Oh and shoes I didn't know about the donor mishap - that's crazy but an amazing silver lining

I actually asked the nurse today if I'll be able to check they're using the sperm I ordered tomorrow and she said yes

shoes wow thank you so much for my parcel! Packed full :)

Thanks xx