10+ months TTC

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I've just reached cycle 10 and I'm despairing. I've tried to stay focused and positive all this time but it's all gotten a bit much. Each month I've tried something new but nothing seems to be working. (This month is acupuncture month, last month was fertilitea month)!

I guess I just needed to vent I don't want to sound like a total debbie downer but today's been tough!

Hey all! I stopped getting email notifications so I assumed it had all gone quiet here but when I checked in today I see I've been missing out!

blackcherries how exciting that ivf is happening and ready to go, best of luck and sending you lots of good wishes - hope you catch right away. Big step closer to baby xxx

chlo you poor thing, the worry during pregnancy is shite! Hopefully nothing to be concerned about and you get all clear on the early scan. Do keep chatting us, lovely to hear from you xxx

trying I was nervous about hubby bailing on SA but once we got it booked he did his part of the bargain. That said I did all admin and organising so as much help as you can give with that side will speed it all up!

sunshine good luck with tests xxx

bertie welcome & best of luck. So sorry to hear about the mc's, we all got fatigue on the buses of feeling like the ones always left so totally understand that. We will get there, just with a few detours along the way!

I'm trying to really just let myself relax and focus on letting go of stress at this point. Exercising more & trying some yoga and accupuncture out so having fun doing new things. I'll report back xxx

Hey all,

So I did my first yoga one to one and accupuncture on weekend. Both felt good to do, like I was doing something positive so chuffed about that because it felt like I was a teeny tiny bit in control of that much at least.

The yoga was challenging as I'd gone hard at the gym this week and was very sore and muscles were very tight. The breathing was great. I learned some new techniques. I think it will be tougher than I expected!

The accupuncture was very interesting. It was way more like a counselling session, we talked for almost an hour and went through a very detailed set of questions about me. I was nearly hoarse from talking. It was good to be able to just talk. Then the accupuncture itself was interesting - I would say quite different to what I expected. It didn't hurt or feel clinical. After needles went in, I felt a bit of a heaviness or more aware of that part of my body. It wasn't pleasant or unpleasant. Afterwards, I felt a little light headed and dreamy, then extremely tired. It felt like my body just gave a big sigh and let go of something. I was sceptical going in, and I couldn't tell you what it did or how exactly but I feel quite a bit less tension since it. Especially in my stomach. I kind of feel like I'm always holding my stomach in and it's hard not to do that, but I've let it out and it's stayed that way ha! Dunno if it's the yoga, accupuncture or something coincidental!

Chlo good luck with scan, it's today right? Xxx

Hi everyone just thought I would check in!

Chlo - hope the scan was all ok and it's all going well x

Cola - I am thinking of trying acupuncture in a few months once we've had the tests and i know if there are any particular issues. I've heard lots of good things about it so figure it would be worth a try!

Trying - glad you have got the ball rolling with tests

Bertie - welcome! We have been trying for a similar amount of time to you and I know just what you mean about being past the carefree stage! It's so exciting to start with and then it just gets depressing! I am very envious of people who conceive within a few months!

I am having a really odd cycle, my ovulation has been getting gradually later the last few months and then this cycle it seemed like my body was preparing to ovulate for about 2 weeks, and I finally did on CD26?! So now AF is late but only because of late ovulation so not really getting my hopes up. It's annoying as I had my day 3 blood test booked for Friday, so I've had to move it to next week but the only day they could offer was Thursday so hoping the timings work out! I thought my cycles were fairly predictable but it seems my body likes to keep me guessing!

Yes mine is completely out. I'm on CD23 and no sign of ovulation, I had loads of EWCM for two weeks but nothing since then. Perhaps I'll get mine on CD26 too?? Never had it later than CD19 before.

It's such a cliche but we're looking at dogs. To be fair, we have wanted a dog for ages, we were going to do babies then dog once littlest was 3 or 4, but since it doesn't seem to be happening we're just kind of going fuck it, let's throw energy into everything, something's got to stick! We are looking at adult rescue dogs so no puppy issues to worry about and even if I got pregnant this month that still gives us 9 months to get used to having the dog around so, yep. We saw a lovely scruffy brown girl at the rescue centre last weekend and we're going to take her for a walk on Saturday.

Hi all, nothing new to report, just saying I'm thinking of you all!

Bertie & sunshine, I'm having this too. I got so impatient awaiting ov last month I was super stressed, - and I too don't know when to do my progesterone bloods cos dont want to do opks as it's quite a bit less stressful without them. It's annoying when having two wwwk wait not knowing whether to test or not cos never sure I'm really late.

So I'm feeling bit more chilled, and also like I would like to do a fertility scan of my ovaries tubes etc but could be a while waiting on nhs, has anyone gone private and if so, how did you find your clinic to do it? Internet is awash, all seem linked to ivf centres and I don't want to feel I'm getting ivf pushed on me cos Just not in that place mentally yet if we need to.

Blackcherries - hey, that was a sweet check in post how are you

Xxx

Hello ladies!!! I just wanted to pop back to tell you all I got my BFP!!!!! I had to take myself off this app as I was going a bit crazy I hope you all understand! Don't give up my lovely ladies it'll happen!!!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Congrats keepingfaith! Nice to hear good news! How many cycles did it take for you? Hope everything goes really brilliantly for you

My only news is that my DP went for his initial GP appt and has his pot for an SA next week, so a positive step. Though even looking at the referral slip thing with "fertility test" written on it and both our names feels a little bit eek tbh. I know it's the right thing to do but it's still a bit kinda.... real I spose. Have to just remember one step at a time and we don't actually have to do anything unless we want to I guess.

Sunshine I hope your weird cycle ends in a bfp for you. I'm having weirdly short cycles at the moment, have ovulated cd12 the last two months whereas the last 6 months or so have been cd16-19ish. Bodies are blimmin weird!

Bertie I'm with you on the dog idea, I'm seriously thinking of it too. Apart from anything else it might be a great relaxation aid! Hope you can find a lovely rescue dog and him/her a wonderful life

Everyone else - sorry I don't have more time just now but I hope you're all doing ok and have fun plans for the weekend

Thank you trying :) this was my 14th cycle after a MMC! I was ready to give up! Wishing all the luck

Faith this is amazing news - congratulations!! So lovely to hear from you and know you got the BFP. And when I get mine I plan on doing the same and taking a tonne of tests to celebrate

Faith this is amazing news - congratulations!! So lovely to hear from you and know you got the BFP. And when I get mine I plan on doing the same and taking a tonne of tests to celebrate

Congrats Faith! Love hearing these good news stories.

Hi everyone. Feeling sad today as I had some spotting this morning which is always a sign that AF is on her way. Had really got my hopes up as I'd got to 8dpo with no signs of impending AF, which is unusual for me, along with this weirdly long cycle and really sore boobs I had started to let myself think this could be the one... just feels so unfair to keep getting so hopeful and then realising it hasn't worked, again. It's just neverending isn't it?! At least we have tests booked in now so might have some answers in a few months' time as to why this isn't happening for us.

Bertie - getting a dog sounds like a good idea, will give you something positive to focus on and think about! We have a cat who we adopted as a rescue kitten a couple of years ago and we love him to bits.

Keepingfaith - congrats, I remember seeing your posts on these boards, I'm really pleased it's worked out for you after a long journey! Nice to hear success stories

Cola - I have a scan booked in for March, it was about 6 weeks from when the GP referred me so not too long to wait but I guess it depends where you are in the country.

Congrats Faith! :)

We went to walk the dog yesterday and she was lovely. Just perfect for us so fingers crossed they approve us to take her. I've put a thread up in the doghouse which has some pics in. It's definitely given me something else to research and obsess over!

Still no ovulation, at CD27 now.

This is the first cycle in ages where we're not "ttc" in the normal way (not allowed as about to begin IVF) and it feels very strange! Definitely a massive weight off (temporarily at least) to not bother with opks and timing. dtd can actually be fun! I'm really aware of my cycle still though.

good luck bertie and fingers crossed sunshine, having been pregnant before, every month I was torturing myself as last time I had a bit of spotting around the time AF was due. So constantly second-guessing.

Hi all! Can I join?? Been ttc properly since April 16 but had my copper coil out November '15. Not been in a good place for the past few cycles, but feeling ok at the start of cycle 10. I have longish cycles which are now a regular 33 days...

Just starting a new job at the end of Feb so maternity leave wise it would mean more money if I fall after July, but super desperate every freak in day. I suppose desperation describes it all. Waiting til June/July to go to the gp...

Oh and I had one chemical last July... which I'm still pretty upset about, but havent told dh because he really would freak out and/or not understand what that actually means...

Sorry for the rant, guess I've just got a lot on my mind with this.

Oh and SIL announced an unplanned and totally accidental pregnancy in September that I'm still really struggling with even though I don't often see her...

Hey physicskate, course you can join. We have plenty experience of friends / neighbours/ seemingly everyone in world falling pg while we soldier on and it's a uniquely shit mix of feeling the unfairness of it & guilt over feeling that way. Sorry to hear it has taken you a while too, good news is we are starting to see some good stories here now about babies on the way so hopefully plenty more to come soon

Sorry about AF sunshine xx

Hey everyone,
Just checking back in. Thank you so much for remembering and asking about the scan. I had it and then went on holiday the next day and took the time away to chill out and stop googling and looking everything up on line! It all went ok but going back this Thursday for another one as was too early to get a heartbeat. I've had really bad sickness for the past week or so and boobs are extremely sensitive so seems like everything is progressing all ok.

Congrats faith - so pleased that our group is now getting some of the BFP's that we have been waiting for!

This board is such a supportive group of people who really understand what this whole thing is like. It's so shit and seems never ending but it will happen xx

have you tried vitex/chaste berry? I'm not an expert by any stretch but i started taking it for another reason and wham within 1 month i was accidentally pregnant. baby due in 10 weeks.

jcne I just started taking Chaste Berry (Agnus Castus) but am unsure of the correct dosage and whether to stop after ovulation (which would be tough anyway as i'm usless at tracking that!). Any tips?

I took it in a pretty hit and miss fashion and qty (mixed messages from online!) around breakfast time and around lunchtime, when i remembered.

no i didn't stop after ovulation. i don't think 🤔 of did I? i took it because i noticed depression much worse after ovulation and wanted to even things out. this was not what i bargained for!!!