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40+ ttc: the one where we all get knocked up!

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ababsurdum · 30/08/2016 19:44

Shiny new thread. Here's the link to the previous one.

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Greenglassteacup · 18/09/2016 18:29

Actually all I've just done is repeat the info in my previous posts no not sure it's of much use

Alibaba2 · 18/09/2016 18:39

Thanks greenglass, I've only been following the thread recently so all new info to me Smile

Thanks for posting and congratulations!

furryminkymoo · 19/09/2016 14:15

Congratulations Greenglass!

I had a random bleed, for 3 x days on day 18 of cycle, if I took that as a blip then I am 11 days late, 3 x PBN's. No idea where to go from here.

Previous 2 cycles were several days late. Was day 18 Bleed the start of my periods returning to a 28 day cycle and an early AF? or am I peri menopausal? age 41, could be possible? Bloods I had done earlier this year showed excellent hormone peak around ovulation.

Greenglassteacup · 20/09/2016 09:25

Hello All Brew

How're you all doing?

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ababsurdum · 20/09/2016 15:31

furryminkymoo I imagine things are still settling down for you. I think it's your first few cycles post birth control?

Welcome Alibaba2.

Hi Green. I am 2 dpo today, and so it begins again... How are you feeling?

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Greenglassteacup · 20/09/2016 20:33

I was feeling a bit crampy this morning at work but seem ok now. It's impossible to relax, keep expecting it to all go wrong. If I make it to 6 weeks I'll pay for a scan to see if there's a heartbeat. Then if I make it to 10 weeks I'll pay for NIPT.

Greenglassteacup · 20/09/2016 20:35

Wishing you all those two lines

Greenglassteacup · 20/09/2016 20:38

Oh and I keep doing pregnancy tests to make sure.....

I'm going to hold off from seeing the GP for now, will see if I get to 6 weeks

Alibaba2 · 20/09/2016 20:44

Crampy is totalling normal Green, it's your uterus growing. Very similar to AF cramps though so easy to feel worried. Good luck for the next few weeks!

Thanks Abab Smile

MrFuzzyGreen · 20/09/2016 21:03

Good luck Greenglass. I always cramp. When it stops it's been a bad sign, so take it as a good thing Smile

Good luck everyone else too! Here's hoping for some more BFPs!

CD11 today - OPKs still negative. Hoping for a positive soon. I normally ov around CD13 so if it's still negative over the next few days it might be a dud month. Off to Care Fertility next week, so not too worried either way.

Letsdothis41 · 21/09/2016 00:40

Congrat Greenglass That's brilliant news, I am due AF in the next day or two Cycle 1 TTC 1 and age 41 so not holding out much hope that she won't arrive as I've been having the normal AF arrival signs and especially as I had no OPk's this month and just went by the Ovia app and CM. I've already just about managed to convince myself that I won't be pregnant after trying for one month that I won't be disappointed. (well ok just a little!)

I have just watched the Alex Jones Documentary on BBC about Fertility that i'm not sure if its scared me or reassured me a little!

Greenglassteacup · 21/09/2016 06:09

Morning everyone, thank you for your kind words, I am keeping everything crossed for all of you. Well I've just tried to eat a breakfast that I'd usually enjoy eating. I took one bite & it tasted absolutely vile. I don't feel crampy at the moment
( hope that isn't a bad sign as siggested) & I slept well.

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ababsurdum · 21/09/2016 08:25

Letsdothis41 don't get despondent after one cycle, all is not lost yet. Fwiw when I conceived last year I was convinced AF was coming until I was late.

Greenglassteacup cramping will come and go so try not to worry about it.

MrFuzzyGreen hope you get a +ve opk soon.

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MrFuzzyGreen · 21/09/2016 08:28

Greenglass cramping comes and goes. As long as your symptoms don't drop off altogether it's ok. I've known with my 3 miscarriages & ectopic that something wasn't right because I just completely stopped 'feeling' pregnant.

Letsdothis good luck to you. I'm going to watch the documentary on catch-up. Not sure it's a good idea but hey ho.

I'm on CD12 today. Would normally ovulate any time over the next day or 2. I've always had lovely positive OPKs with the CB-digitals but due to our dire budget I'm back to the cheapies. So far, all weedy negatives with no sign whatsoever of darkening up. I've used them before and never had a really dark positive, but they've gotten darker as ov approaches and then lightened up again. My first chemical pregnancy was conceived on one of those months, so I think the progression was a good sign. Don't know what the hell my body is playing at now! Stupid thing!

Itsmeovahere · 21/09/2016 14:05

Hi
Am new to this forum/post.
I was not ttc and we used the pull out method, for 3 years now as medically safer than pill, etc. I'm 42, partner 48. Both have children (I 3 he 3) from previous relationship age ranging 20-12.

I am currently 13 days late. on Saturday at 9 days late I took a CB digi and it said not pregnant, this was around tea time. I have no reason to disbelieve this as with my 3 children they all showed up positive immediately I tested, although the youngest being 12 it was some time ago. I don't remember what time of day it was.

I have been feeling really dizzy of late, headaches, and now have cramping. TMI coming up sorry...
I believed AF was starting last night so put a pad on for bed as was getting pink when wiped. When I woke up this morning I thought oh my I have leaked all over the bed etc, went toilet and hardly anything on the pad. There is light red blood when I wipe but that's it, hardly anything on the pad but cramping period pains.

My partner is very disciplined about "pulling out" and I know there wasn't a time when he stayed. We also know this isn't 100% effective.

Does anyone have any experience of this, could it be pregnancy (even tho I have 3 older ones and never tested negative with them), or do you think it's premenopausal - my mum had a hysterectomy around 52, she had me at 40.

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ababsurdum · 21/09/2016 18:04

Hi Itsmeovahere. I think you've said it yourself - the method is not 100% effective. I would test again in a day or two using first morning urine. It's not unheard of for tests to not show a positive result for some time after AF is late but it's not the norm either. It could just be a weird cycle. Best of luck to you whatever the outcome.

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Itsmeovahere · 21/09/2016 20:43

Thank you for your reply.

I will see what happens in the next couple of days. Am so worried as to what is happening to me. I am and have always been 28 days cycle, no interim bleed/spotting etc. So this is so strange and worrying for me, worrying there is something seriously wrong. If I was to be pregnant then as much as it was unplanned, it would be very much wanted. It is something that we had never spoken about, although we have over the last week and we are still talking things through but would both very much love to have a baby together.

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ababsurdum · 21/09/2016 21:24

You should definitely check out anything worrying with your GP.

Average age of menopause is 51 with the usual range 45-55. I think it's inevitable that we would get some change in our cycle as we approach it though I am no expert.

Fingers crossed for you.

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Letsdothis41 · 22/09/2016 00:05

Thanks Ababsurdum and MrFuzzy fertility stories seem to be everywhere just now a bit like TTC do you just notice it because you are in this bubble of trying! AF never arrived today and if she doesn't arrive in the morning I may just may be brave enough to do a HPT !!

Hope everyone is doing ok today!

Bloopbleep · 22/09/2016 08:50

Morning everyone! I had some good signs early on in the 2ww but my uterus feels as empty as a really empty thing by 9dpo. I think I'm probably out this month again. I had such hopes and let myself believe this would be my month but it's not meant to be. I don't think it's ever going to happen. I just can't visualise myself holding a newborn against my skin in my future. I know that's relying on a bit of woo and everyone will say I can't tell what the future will bring but it's the same feeling as I know i'll never be an astronaut... Maybe that's my body's way of letting me know it can't be done :(

MrFuzzyGreen · 22/09/2016 14:03

Bloop, sending you a virtual hug. So sorry you're feeling so despondent. I don't know if it helps, but my last pregnancy I had some good signs, and then they disappeared and I felt really gutted and hopeless. I even said to DH 'I'm definitely out this month - I'm feeling completely empty'. Suddenly on 10dpo I felt all sorts, and DH bought a hpt after I sent him to the shop due to an insatiable craving for tinned tomatoes! So, I guess what I'm saying is, it's not necessarily over yet. But even if this isn't your month, I hope you get your mojo back and don't lose hope. There are so many options - if it's what you desperately want and need, it's not over yet FlowersChocolateBrew

MrFuzzyGreen · 22/09/2016 14:05

Ps - he came home with finely chopped tinned tomatoes, and I cried because they were the 'wrong kind of tinned tomatoes'. I'm lucky to have a man who actually WANTS 9 months of that kind of nonsense! Blush

Bloopbleep · 22/09/2016 17:10

Thanks mrfuzzy! I've been trying for 18+months now and aside from a very early mc 9+months ago nothing. Hardly even an ovulation. I can't afford IVF and the likes and by the time I'm eligible for NHS i'll be almost 42

MrFuzzyGreen · 22/09/2016 18:55

Nowt wrong with being 42, Bloop! Wink That horse bolted for me last month! Just think of the lovely ladies here who are 44 or more and getting their BFPs. Have you looked at options like clomid? If you're not regularly ovulating, surely your GP will do something soon....? Especially as it's been so long since your mc...? We're not getting any help from the NHS so we're begging & borrowing from family. The cut-off in our area is 40.

Bloopbleep · 22/09/2016 22:42

I have to wait a year from the mc before I can get help. Gp won't prescribe it only consultants can here. If I dumped my oh and got a new boyfriend I would be eligible for IVF after a recent rule change but as we're both natural parents to our daughter we're not allowed. Daft rule really. If I had 5 kids by 5 dads in theory I could.

The age thing is more about my getting old, I look stupidly young for my age but I feel ridiculously old (and arthritic) and it seems to get worse every year. I'll change my mind when I get to new year for sure but I just don't want to waste my early-mid 40s ttc and failing all the time. There has to come a point where I say enough. Not quite yet tho. I just hate having "young" ovaries but old hormones that don't ripen eggs and pop them out.

Anyway I'm probably moaning due to pmt. I have my hot water bottle on the tummy tonight as I'm cramping. Booooooooo

How is everyone else doing? Someone please stop me talking about myself ;)