First time TTC - thread 3

[Pyjamas81]

A place for all those trying for their first who didn't know their OPKs from their BBTs, their EWCM from their FRERs and everything in between before discovering Mumsnet!

If you're that glorious mix between excited about getting that elusive BFP and terrified - this is the place for you

Thanks Busy yes I started temping this morning in order to better understand everything. Thought that would be a less stressful than opks at this stage. I'm just really waiting for that first AF after stopping the pill so I can get going properly. I haven't had AF for 1 year as I was on a mini pill and before that 11 yrs on a combi pill, so fake bleeds each month during the 7 day break.

And there it is - flashing smiley face on CD6. Looks like I'm in for another month of ovulation fun and games!

Thank you - will let you know how it goes - I feel a bit nervous, how silly

pjs and so it begins! Good luck for this cycle, hope that flashing face turns into a static sooner rather than later.

5dpo and Don't know what the hell is going on with my temps, and a lot lower than previous two months Green line is this month, other two are previous two months.

Isn't it incredible how a flashing or static smilie face can thrill you or make you want to throw something against a wall. Never thought it would be so frustrating. How did the women of the world cope before opks? First world problems eh!

eva still looks good even though lower? Lol mabel I've not a clue I talk to my mum about this stuff and she's totally confused not an idea at all!

Welcome back busy and welcome newbies.

So one of my besties told me she's pg today. Feel like I've been winded.

Utterly happy for her, I really am but also jealous and irritated for no particular reason.

So that's 3 people close to me now all growing humans and I'm just here eating carbs and and getting a different kind of fat.

Hope everyone else is having a better time of it than me.

Sorry to hear that Blissful

Hope so busy
Sorry blissful that sounds tough our time will come, that's what I keep telling myself, for my own sanity mainly.

Oh Blissful so sorry. Today I'm having a bit of an emotional one too today.

A friend of mine recently told me he was having a baby with his new girlfriend. They've been together 5 mins. He really rubbed it in my face with "guessing" text messages. He knows we've wanted this for years. I feel like I've been 'trying' for 6 years but something has always ruined our plans. Now, I just feel like "what if it never happens?" - does anyone else have those moments of utter despair?

Yes Mouse. I quite often feel like it'll just never ever happen. I've got no basis for this - we are only on month 3 but that is how my brain seems to operate. And I keep moaning and crying about it to hubby too - and that's not really like me - yes I can be a bit of a jealous bitch about things but the despair and hopelessness is more unusual - lol. TTC is so hard - you just need to focus and have confidence of the fact that you will get there - however long it takes and that you are doing everything humanly possible to get there. Support like here is pretty good too - always helpful to hear that you're not in fact batshit mental and there are others in the same boat. So just keep talking and rant away!
And your friend sounds pretty immature to me!
Sorry blissful - it does take your breath away.

blissful you are definitely not alone. I swear there is a new pregnancy announcement on my fun every day. One day there were four!!! And all from people I know really well. It's insane. So hard to try and keep the logical side of your brain in check. Just got to remind yourself you'll get there. Also mouse you're friend sounds like a bit of a knob - sorry

You've got the textbook tri-phasic thing down though eva and that's a good sign!

Thanks girls

Mouse I certainly feel like that a lot. Hubby is good he always tries to make me feel better when I get down or frustrated even if sometimes it doesn't work.

I hate today, and I hate myself more that I can't just be happy about the whole thing. What's worse is that this was there first attempt.
I feel like I've been trying 2 years when I'm on cycle 3. Anyway AF has left the building so we will be dtd as much as poss for the next few weeks. That's if I can shake this bad mood. Bake off tonight should help.

Thanks girls

Mouse I certainly feel like that a lot. Hubby is good he always tries to make me feel better when I get down or frustrated even if sometimes it doesn't work.

I hate today, and I hate myself more that I can't just be happy about the whole thing. What's worse is that this was there first attempt.
I feel like I've been trying 2 years when I'm on cycle 3. Anyway AF has left the building so we will be dtd as much as poss for the next few weeks. That's if I can shake this bad mood. Bake off tonight should help.

Oh and yes... my friend is a nob. Lol. In fact I don't speak with him anymore lol

blissful don't worry I've definitely been there and felt exactly how you feel. It does pass and you will get there

Well I went to GP appointment and it was a complete waste of time. She spoke to me very patronisingly and asked me ridiculous questions like "are you having regular intercourse". She said on average it takes 18months and they will start doing tests after a year. Asked some more lifestyle questions and asked about my cycles and sent me on my way. Completely pointless.

Yeah true busy, my charts would be top in the chart gallery on fertility friend haha!

blissful I'm also awaiting bake off to cheer me up - love that programme. I might even have a little treat out of the cupboard with a cuppa tea even though I'm trying this healthy eating malarkey.

My DH went to work today and his friend announced they are expecting, and then told DH they had been trying for 2 years and never thought it was going to happen - that brought a smile to my face. Meanwhile my friend announced she's pg by accident, with a guy she met on Tinder 2 months ago - I could feel the rage burning inside me!!!!

5dpo on Cycle 6 and slowly going insane...

Sorry to hear the GP was a waste of time Eva. They could be a bit more sympathetic to the tortures of TTC even if they don't do anything about it. Did she actually use the word intercourse too? Gross...
Bake off actually does work as a distraction! Dealing with someone's else's stress instead of ones own seems to be the ticket!

Sorry you were also baby-bombed... I do think I'll be honest with people if/when it happens for us in terms of it not happening straight away as it does help to hear those stories other than the - "we weren't even thing, hahaha"

Sorry about your GP Eva :( clearly having problems with TTC is a common issue but I think GPs are very poorly trained to deal with sensitive issues. It's the worst thing when they are patronising.

Thanks flora god i know who even uses that word!! I'd rather she'd have said DTD haha! All this cake on bake off and all I've had tonight is 3 fox's jam ring biscuits, I'm proud of myself
Yes I definitely will be too, I've found comfort in hearing other people taking longer than they thought too.
Lots of people have been asking me when we're having children recently and I can't wait until it happens so that I can tell them all those times they were asking we were trying and hopefully people will be more cautious when thinking of asking the next person in a room full of people!!

Thanks mrsG - exactly, she was just so blasé and I felt stupid for going and couldn't wait to leave!

Eva - when people say that to me I look at them and say we are working on it. But then again I'm not concerned that people may think I'm a massive creep...

I've been with DH for almost 12 years and I've had the constant "when are you having babies" questions for a loooooong time. It's quite tiresome. I think people now think we either don't like children or we can't have them.

But Eva, I know the Doc was an arsehole but take their advice for face value. A year isn't a long time to try and she's given you a clear ok to go back after that time frame which is great news. I know some ladies on here who can't get treatment started unless they've been trying for 2 years.

How are your cycles? Are you tracking them somehow? What cycle are you on? Be positive hunny and take the next step if it comes. I'm sure you will get your BFP soon!! X

Eva that sounds awful, what an awful way to treat a patient. I work in in healthcare and rule number one is to make sure your patients feel like they are heard.

I feel better after bake off and I'm happy with who went. Wasn't their biggest fan .

Same here blissful I'm glad they went. I came home tonight and hubby had bought cake in preparation haha

Thanks ladies
mrsG jealous of your cake!
mouse cycle 6 and quite regular cycles between 28 and 32 days long. Tracking on FF and doing OPKs and Temps, have been since April. I'm trying to look at the positive that she wasn't at all concerned for me and thinks it will happen naturally. She told me not to stress or worry about it, at which point I wondered if we are on the same wavelength