35+ TTC #1

[elisev]

Hi all,

Just wanted to start a thread for all of us over 35 just starting out.

I am: 36 (37 in Nov)
Cycle #1 CD 22

I've been 'prepping' my body for this for a year, lost weight, increased my fitness levels and been taking vitamins etc so I feel like I've been mentally preparing for this for AGES, as a result I'm finding the waiting game torturous! I've been tracking my cycles, 27 days average, and using OPK's - just started that this month. We dtd the day before getting a smiley face and then twice on the day we got one.

Are there others who feel impatient/worried like me because you feel time is not on our sides? So bloody stressful!

Congratulations petiteange28! That's great news! Try to relax and enjoy it!

I've actually had a massive about turn and now don't want it to happen too soon! I'm so enjoying the gym at the moment and I'm panicked about how a pregnancy would effect my training! Haha! I'll keep trying though, of course!

Congratulation petiteange soooo happy for you

@petiteange - fab news : ) : ) : ) super pleased for you! Only downside is NO MORE WINE, which I think we can all agree is a price worth paying : )

@eliseV - I was feeling a bit like you when I thought I might be PG 5 weeks before running a marathon as training was going really well and I KNEW I was on target for a decent time (and I was; 4:10 shows off ).

We're moving house next week (cross fingers, touch wood), so perhaps the new home will have a magic effect on our TTC? I can but hope....

Thanks ladies!!

4:10 in a Marathon is awesome work Blueberry. I did one a few years ago and managed 4:42 or something. Would never brave another one!! I completely understand the not wanting to give up things. I totally wasn't expecting this and with a holiday to South Africa in September the thought of going to the vineyards and not drinking is a little tough....but obviously worth it. Just means I'll have to go back

Also had a work leaving do tonight and found it so damn difficult to decline drinks and run to the bar separately to get lime and soda. I eventually told the bar lady so she made the glass look just like a gin and tonic.

Enjoy your weekends if I don't speak to you before!

Congratulations petite!!! Amazing news and glad you managed to get the bar staff to help you!

I decided to do a cheapie OPK on a whim when I got home from work and got the result below! Clearly I had to test several times as I was so confused. And I'm only on CD10! My cycles are driving me batshit crazy - the last one I had a peak on CD19!

Dh and I rushed home so we could dtd before his dad gets back - he's staying with us for the next few days, of course... And now we have to change our plans tomorrow!

pyjamas wohoo a positive, the month is moving on

petiteange well done in the drinks do. It must be a great feeling

Have a good day everyone

It certainly is moving iCoCo! Just pissed off that I've missed the bulk of my FW again because of my random ovulation days! Ah well, we've caught the business end of FW, and it only takes one. This does mean I'll be in the dreaded 2WW again much sooner than expected!

Hope everyone has a good Friday

It only takes once pyjamas you can join me in the TWW.

How is everyone's weekends going? I'm all DTD'd out - DH and I need a break! Although, looking at my fertility friend chart, it could have all been for nothing as it's saying I may have ovulated on CD9 before I even got my positive OPK results, which makes no sense to me! So am going to ignore the chart and assume I'm now 2dpo as opposed to the 4dpo it's saying I am. I don't get any ovulation symptoms so it's hard to go by what my body tells me!

Going to give today a miss for dtd!

Hi all!

Pyjamas, I'm in my fertile window but haven't been DTD that much, just a couple of times. I don't deal with pressure that well and last month wore me out emotionally! So I'm looking after myself now, with food & exercise, keeping aware of my cycle and seeing what happens.

Totally understand that elise - last month definitely took its toll on me! Decided yesterday that for each TWW I will try something new to try and take my mind off it. For this one I think I'm going to get back on a healthy eating plan I was doing in the run up to my wedding - I felt amazing then health wise but predictably let it slip after our honeymoon! I used to be really into meditating as well which I'm going to give a go this time around.

Hi everyone, sorry I went awol over the weekend, I was working and then had a pyjama day watching rubbish on the TV and you tube yesterday.

pyjamas I know the feeling about feeling DTD'd out. DH told me I only want him for one thing at the moment, he has a point. Good luck with the healthy eating, a distraction is what is needed on the TWW, nice to not know how many DPO.

elisev big hugs about the pressure, i cannot believe how consuming the TWW is. A relaxed approach and some TLC is probably the approach we should all take much easier said than done

I had to check fertility friend to work out where I was in my cycle, I'm 8DPO, normally I would be POAS from day 9 but have no desire to.

After a long chat yesterday, we have decided to do 2 more months TTC, after this, (taking out my "avoided TTC" months) that's 9 months of trying. Mainly it would mean I wouldn't be huge for my DBs wedding in August (if I was that lucky).

Best of all it means I can book a long haul holiday to the Caribbean in January and then start again in March. That cheered me up no end. We won't book until last minute, but i feel so much better. Thank you DB for making us make this decision.

Hope everyone is ok and the wait is not so awful.

Hi there iCoCo - I did all the crap telly today and plan to do more tomorrow! Took two days off just to spend time alone - need to do that on occasion. Good to hear the POAS urges are not overpowering! I'm going to try and hold out until 15 days after my peak OPK reading to be safe. Which means am testing on 2nd sept unless AF shows up. Caribbean trip sounds amazing!!

I love an odd day of crap too. 2 days of peace sounds amazing. I love my DH but also love time alone.

Fingers crossed for the 2nd. If I hadn't ov'd early I would be testing on the 1st Sept, I'm aiming for the 28th but may test on the 29th, it depends how I'm feeling. I have absolutely no symptoms and although my temp is higher than normal, I'm putting that down to the antibiotics I'm on.

Fingers crossed for us both.

I'm so excited for a holiday, this is the first time in 5 years I have nothing planned, not even a night away. you tube vids of holidays are adding more destinations to the list.

Hi! so... I'm 36 and TTC since more than 1 year now. I have my first appointment to the fertility clinic in a week. (that we got just 1 month after talking to our GP...) We've done all our first round of tests (day2, day21 for me and sperm count and testosterone level for DH). I know I have an abnormality on my uterus (septate uterus... lucky me) which isn't helping but I'm glad that we are now being pro-active and being "taking care of" if that make any sense?
It's very difficult to go through all that and keep being reminded of how easy it can be for others around us. I'm struggling a lot with this at the moment. The feeling of unfairness you know? I learned in less than a week that 2 of my friends were pregnant, and meanwhile I'm waiting for my fertility clinic appointment...
Today I'm CD26. I have regualar-ish cycle, around 25/28 days. So I'm in the waiting zone again... We DTD a day prior to ovulation but DH freak out the D-day.... I'm laughing about it now but I really wasn't on the moment! ha!
I have painful boobs since few days and feel a bit nauseous but I often feel like that before AF so I don't have a lot of hope...

Welcome street! Wow, sounds like you've had a rollercoaster over the last year. I've only just buckled up and I'm getting comfy in my seat for the long and bumpy ride ahead.

Luckily (despite being 35), my friends all still seem to be allergic to kids (as I was until a flick switched recently) so I haven't had to deal with anyone close to me being pregnant!

Sometimes I wish that I had got on with it earlier - but, I only met my DH 3 years ago, married this year and have only just got to a place in my career where I think I'd be happy to temporarily postpone progression for a while. I used to always say when I was a kid that I'd only have babies when baby tanks are invented to grow them in - have had to accept that's not happening any time soon ha ha!

Well if you find a "baby tank" somewhere, I'll be interested to purchase one too! hahaha!
I met my DH 4 years ago and never had any attraction to motherhood before... I agree with the "flick switch"! It took me a while but when it's the one, it's the one!
We took our time to travel and know each other, and I feel like even if some doctors /families are giving the "look", the "you can't wait too long-look", it was important for me to be sure, for my DH as well. And when I started to feel like having a child was in the card for us, I felt confident about my choice. Now that there is so many obstacles in front of us, I see even more the importance of a strong relationship!
As of my friends, it's not easy. Few month ago, I was taking this type of news better than now... But I guess I'll know more after my appointment and will be able to have more perspective on the situation.

Hi Ladies, can I join?
I'm 36 and ttc #1. This is our third cycle and I am now 3dpo. I use opks and also temp.

I had a copper coil fitted, which was removed in May and ever since I have been having the strangest ovulation symptoms (which obvs made me think I was pregnant the first time as I have never had them before!) of bloating, gas, exhaustion, nausea and creamy cm, all the way from ovulation to AF. Given that the copper coil is non-hormonal and my cycle length has been 30 days for the last five years, I have been really surprised by these symptoms. Has anyone else experienced this?

Hi Lia7, I don't have any experience with the coil but someone in here may have done. Welcome to the group.

I didn't get a positive LH surge this month, which is a bit odd. Let's see how it goes anyway!!

I've never had the coil either am afraid Lia - hopefully someone with experience will be along soon!

What kind of opk tests are you using Elise? Could you have missed the surge? Or perhaps you're ovulating late? I didn't get a static smiley face until CD19 last month after 12 days of infuriating flashing faces!

All quite calm in Pyjama land - on 6/7 dpo and not even remotely symptom spotting. Big improvement in last month when I was convinced I was pregnant approx 10 mins after DTD!

Hi!
I turned 40 a couple of days ago, we have just started TTC last month. I feel like I'm in the same boat. I am worried we have waited too long and I am getting too old and it will take ages to get pregnant. I try not to panic.

I use the clearblue digital OPK's and I tested from day 10 so shouldn't have missed it.

I feel a lot more relaxed about it all this month, so it's all good.

Welcome Street, you sound to be on a long journey and I'm glad you are getting support from the professionals. I have a number of friends who have gone down intervention results and they have many success stories.

Hi lia I've never had a coil I'm afraid, contraception has a lot to answer for, it messes with our bodies so much, hopefully it's your body beginning to behave normally.

pyjamas I hope you are well, well done on no symptom spotting, it's much easier. Hope DH is looking after you.

mare welcome to the thread. I looked at the things I could do to improve egg quality such as coq10 etc. There is lots of research and worth a try if you are worried. I love the Zika west books. I got a 2nd copy off Amazon.

elisev hope you are well. woohoo don't miss the ov.

petit- hello hope you and bean are well .

I'm dpo13 I've so busy with work, so sorry for the absence, I haven't symptom spotted as normal etc. DH came up with an amazing idea yesterday, we wouldn't drink this bank holiday weekend as it will do us some good.

I have had no symptoms, and after having a calm drinking month, I was sod that, it's a bank holiday. So before he came home from work, I tested on a cheapie as a visual as to why I wanted a drink after another month of a bloody negative.

I only went and got a line. My first EVER line on a test. I was in shock, I kept looking at it and pacing. When DH came home he wasn't convinced. A trip to Asda and an Asda cheapie and he still was not convinced.

This morning though at 5.30am with FMU the words pregnant on a digi finally convinced him. I'm petrified, we might have actually gone and done it

The only thing we have done differently this month is conceive plus. We never use lube, but I read such good things about it, it was worth the £12. I would recommend it now, I will never know but in my head it worked now have no idea what the hell to do with myself, I am scared if it doesn't stick as I'm not due until Monday but really want to buy books, maternity clothes and chose a pram, DH thinks I'm

Sorry for the long post but other than DH you 6 and the Internet are the only ones I've told.

Aaaaaaaaaarrrrrrggghhhhhh iCoCo that's amazing news!!! Congratulations!!! How do you feel? I always find it hard to imagine what I'll feel like if I get a BFP!

I had a monster hangover yesterday so I feel reborn today ha ha. I'm 8/9 dpo today, no symptoms!

Pyjamas, no symptoms is good!

I don't know how I feel, I've added pregnancy books to my Amazon account, taken them out in case I jinx it, added them back in, repeat.

We smile, then try not to get excited.

When you do test, beware of the IC's as the lines are so faint, here's this morning tests pic