TTC after miscarriage thread #6

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New thread for all navigating the bewildering world of trying to conceive after a miscarriage. Whether you have dc or are ttc your first, all are welcome here. We share the positive, the negative and the down right confusing.

Here's link to previous thread...www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2657346-TTC-after-miscarriage-thread-5?noti=1#62460035

Hi, wondering if I can join, had miscarriage earlier this week, should have been 11 weeks pregnant, had some light pink spotting and went for private scan which showed no heartbeat, had a normal scan at 8 weeks, so had an evening of very heavy bleeding earlier this week when I hopefully passed everything. Now just light spotting/bleeding.
Would like to try again as soon as possible. Do most people wait until after next period to start?
Could you use opks after a miscarriage like this before next period?
This is my first mc, have a three yr old dd

Mrs I really hope everything turns out happily for you i've got everything crossed!

Capet I'm so sorry for your loss how are you doing? I guess we started ttc straight away, but my first AF since my mmc came at the beginning of the week, so we'll start properly this month.

I'm having a tough day, i'm not really sure why, but flashes of the scan and the mc kept jolting me and popping up in my head and I feel a bit down. And then on top of that, I just logged into facebook and there was the 6th person in the last 3 weeks announcing their pregnancy. I'm happy for everyone, but I should be doing the same and it's crushing that I'm not. It feels like everyone I grew up with is getting pregnant around me and I feel kind of alone. I need to snap out of it sharpish!!

Mrs how are you today? Very good sign you have had no pain - with my recent mc there was pain just prior to the blood - at first i just thought this was stomach cramps due to a dodgy tummy but looking back, this must have been the start of the mc.

Jpeg I hope you're feeling better and it doesn't affect your chances, good luck!!

Capet so sorry for your loss and welcome to the thread. Re trying again, I'm not too sure about timings as it's never clear when next AF will arrive but I know it is possible to get pregnant straight after, a lady (Kate) from this thread has very recently, good luck.

25 sorry you're having a bad time, I totally understand, so hard when it's all around you, I saw a friend and her new baby last night, am so happy for her but so hard when I don't know when I'll hold my own baby :(

For me, I had my second acupuncture today, she believes I'm close to ov and said to dtd as much as we can around now, just talking to her and taking action has made me feel better. She said I don't need another session and to see what happens but to start again if AF comes, fingers crossed!

Hi and welcome Capet. So sorry you have joined our club.

25 it is hard dealing with the announcements. What I find even worse are the complainers. People complaining about really trivial stuff to do with their pregnancy. I get that it is not all a pink, rosy, fluffy cloud of wonderful but things could be so much worse.

I am really hoping for you Mrs. Everything crossed here. Youa re allowed to feel sad.

Sounding positive Mrs!

Totally with you on that Brenna - my best mate actually moaned to me about how quickly she'd got pregnant!

Hi all,
I've been reading through a few posts and some of you have had me in tears. I was a regular user of this forum back in 2013, I had 2 horrendous mc's, one at 11+5 in March 2013, and one at 12+3 in the October. The second was particularly painful and I got rushed into A&E via ambulance, a lesson learned from the first one where I had to spend 5 hours bleeding in an A&E waiting room with all the Saturday night drunkards watching before I was seen by a doctor.
2013 was undoubtedly the most horrific year of my life because of those, at one point I knew 18 people who were pregnant and every time I learned of a new one I just cried. I became obsessed with ttc and this forum became a great support to me.

I was lucky enough to get pg in 2014 and had a beautiful little boy in the Nov, a pregnancy that was riddled with anxiety, more tears and fears and about 10 scans just to settle my nerves a bit. I guess the reason I'm writing now is because I've just had a 12 week scan on my second pg, so far so good but again, the mc's from 2012 have left me with awful anxiety that even having a successful pg didn't quell. I just wanted to say to you all, keep going, keep trying. If it helps at all, I had success both times with taking a baby-aspirin whilst ttc (and the first few weeks of pg) and a Tescos own cough medicine (guaifenesin) at ov time. Neither may have actually worked but it helped to think I was doing something different and trying. Of the 15 or so regular writers on the forum when I was on it, 12 of us had successful pg within that year. Keeping my fingers crossed and sending good luck vibes to all of you.

Thank you sundance that's so lovely of you to come on here with those words. That's definitely made me feel more positive! I'm happy for you that everything worked out.

Thank you for the messages of support. It's good to talk to other people who have been through/are going through the same thing. Still bleeding and occasional cramp. Looking forward to it being over so can just move on. Back at work yesterday for first time since and glad it's the weekend now!

Thank you sundance that's such a lovely message!! i am so sorry to hear what happened to you. It must have been such a terrible time. I had a similar experience to you, my first mc was at 11.5 weeks, incredibly gruesome. I was passing out with heavy blood loss and had a 4 hr wait in packed a&e waiting room, where I was bleeding out onto a towel I'd brought from home to sit on and intermittently shuffled off to the toilet with DH trying to cover me up from behind as well trying to keep me standing. I was admitted finally and the tale goes on, but the whole experience was horrific. I will never forget the looks on people's faces as they watched me go through that. I had two further mc's, thankfully earlier on and easier to manage. It must have been terrible for you to go through another traumatic miscarriage. I am so glad that things have worked out for you and your little boy and things are going well for this pregnancy. I wish you a smooth and happy one.

We are about to start TTC again and I'm petrified. I'm trying to be positive, we have a treatment plan in place from Coventry (progesterone and prednisolone) and we will hope for the best. I will keep you (and the other 12!) in mind as a positive thought to hang on to when I have a wobble....thank you xx

sundance your message made me tear up too! So happy for you and thank you for sending that. I have felt really hopeless at points since I miscarried despite everyone telling me to just try again and it will happen. I think once you've gone through it you don't ever look at pregnancy in quite the same way, well I won't at least. It takes a little of the innocent magic out of it all. But if you get a baby at the end of it all that is all that matters. X

Really confused can anyone help? I mc'd at 6 weeks 15 days ago and only bled for a week. We started TTC again last Friday and been actively dtd pretty much every day. All the opk show two lines but aren't positive, hcg tests are already negative. So I'm assuming I haven't ovulated yet especially as my cycles are quite long (33-35 days). However I've had several symptoms the past couple of days, increased libido, stretchy cm, and a stitch on one side of my uterus (on and off). Also had a rumbling uterus a few days ago. Is it possible I ovulated or even conceived already? Also does anyone know how long sperm can live in the vagina for? Thank you hope everyone is enjoying the sunshine

sundance thank you

sundance thanks for your amazing message! I haven't been on here for a few days and it was so lovely to read. I'm really sorry for your losses, that must have been so awful especially having 18 people pg! I don't think I could cope!

Yesterday was the wedding and I took a hpt... 8dpo so obviously negative! I had three (very large) glasses of red and my OH was not happy with me for drinking! Today my nipples are quite tender... And also I've noticed I have pretty much no CM... I think af will be here soon!

Sorry if I have missed anyone... Hope all ok

Hi all, I'd like to join please! Had a wee read through all the recent messages and found all your stories really touching. I miscarried at 9 weeks on Thursday, but it wasn't bad - about 7 hours of bleeding. Now wondering when I'm going to ovulate again and if I can handle the stress of doing this again!

lizzie sounds like ov but really best to just dtd every other day or whenever you feel like it and trust that your body will right itself in it's own time. Crap advice, I know, but best I can offer.

Thanks for the lovely message sundance

It is hard to tell LIzzie. Do you temp? If you do then you will know if you have when your temperature goes up.

I hope you enjoyed your wedding jpeg. Even if you were pregnant now the wine would have no effect. It is easy for DH's to be preachy but they are not the ones constantly living as if pregnant while ending up not being, which is very, very wearing and makes the whole thing impossible to escape.

Hi and welcome skip. So sorry you are here. You will ovulate again - you have done this once, you can do it again. It is a horrible wait for it all to settle though.

I am utterly exhausted at the moment. I have done loads of exercise and been busy at work and home too.

Hi all :-)

I'm currently on cd 28, AF was due today according to my app. My periods have been very irregular since I miscarried in April & have been early ever since so this is a first. I've had some light cramping over the last 4 days but AF hasn't showed. I've got some pregnancy symptoms but they only showed up about a week or so ago so they could be to do with AF. I'm gonna wait a few more days and see what happens, I'm so scared of getting my hopes up thinking I might be pregnant and then dashed when AF shows up :( any advice?

Hi cookie, no advice but I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you, sounds exciting!

Welcome fx and sorry about your loss

12dpo and bfn today so I assume I'm out now, but as we're now moving house in a week or so that's probably a good thing this month. Hope everyone's ok

Just try and keep yourself busy Cookie. Then at least the few days won't seem as long.

12 dpo is still quite early alb. You aren't out until the Red Lady arrives.

Welcome skip and sorry for your loss. Like brenna said you will ovulate again and temping can help spot when. It sounds like your body has got on with things quickly... I bled for 5 weeks!

brenna good work on the exercise! I need to start a new regime I think! (Been saying that all year!)

cookie and alb keeping my fingers x for both of you. I tested this morning too and BFN... I think. Well I saw a possible ridiculously faint line that could have been my imagination! I am only 10dpo so I'll wait a few days.

Fingers crossed for you too jpeg
13dpo today and had bfn on a sensitive Internet cheapie and a tiny squinter on a super cheap non sensitive test, taking it all as a bfn due to my strange talent with the false positive frers. Just looking forward to AF arriving tomorrow so we can get on with the next cycle

Hi all, hope everyone is doing ok today. Still thinking of mrs let us know how your scan goes!
I am feeling a little upset today. The hospital told me to take a HPT 3 weeks after the miscarriage and by then it should be negative. My miscarriage and D and C was 3 weeks ago yesterday, so this morning I did a test and it came up strong positive immediately. I just want to move on but feel like I can't. I only actually stopped spotting a couple of days ago so could it be I count the 3 weeks from when the bleeding finally stopped? Or should I be worried? I've had an internal scan 2 weeks ago that showed I only had a little tissue left to pass which surely would have gone by now.

1. can you ovulate when you are still having pregnancy hormones?
2. shall we just keep having unprotected or stop to avoid risk of infection?
3. has anyone else experienced this? I also got a letter from the same ward I was in for D and C..confirming an appointment on the 1st of September and I have no info what it is for. I have a horrible feeling..I would have been 20 weeks that week...surely they wouldn't still send me a 20 week scan letter?? It's so insensitive an error if they have sent me that. X

Haz I would get in touch and get them to check it out in case there is still something left. I am afraid they sent me a change to my 12 week scan appoinment after I had had the bad news at 10 weeks, so it is possible to get lost in the system and something not updated. I would call and check up on that too. The woman I spoke to was so apologetic but they hadn't had hte info passed on from the EPAC. Not their fault.

Everything crossed that the quinter turns out to be real JPEG.

I have neither lost nor gained weight this week. I could cry. At least I can give myself a pat on the back for getting fitter.

haz was it a really strong positive?? I still got positive tests for 6 weeks after the MC but eventually they were just faint lines. Maybe see your GP for a blood test if they will give you one?