TTC after miscarriage thread #6

[jodiebee664]

New thread for all navigating the bewildering world of trying to conceive after a miscarriage. Whether you have dc or are ttc your first, all are welcome here. We share the positive, the negative and the down right confusing.

Here's link to previous thread...www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2657346-TTC-after-miscarriage-thread-5?noti=1#62460035

That is great advice, thank you.

What newshoes said. It depends from place to place but up here they test after our second if you are 38 or over or after your 3rd if you are under that age. Most of the causes thy know about are rare conditions so most people end up unexplained anyway, we are just about at that diagnosis now. A couple more tests to go. It is really, really hard but you just have to remind yourself that it is common and there is a good chance that there is nothing underlying. I would say let yourself recover from this one and grieve for it, then think about TTC again. There is no need or benefit to trying immediately (although in my case I feel better for it and having something positive to do).

I think I will wait until after I've had a period to TTC again (if my partner still wants to try!), we are traumatised!

Hi everyone, hope you are all well. Welcome new shoes.

I haven't posted in awhile - it was my due date on Tuesday and I've since been poorly with an infection. Am ok though and just wanted to mark my place on the new thread! CD28 and af due on Tuesday. It's not my month this month I just know it. Only dtd once during the fertile window and I've been so poorly I'm sure my body really struggled. Am ok about it though. Need to get my body strong again!

Sorry I mean lizziedoll

Just checking into new thread....

Welcome lizzie and so sorry for your loss. I was about as far along as you, think I was 7 weeks, make sure you get lots of rest and the best thing I did was take a week off work. I hope you recover quickly

Not a lot to report from me. Been on an amazing glamping hen do all weekend. When I started organising it with the other bridesmaids I was pregnant and would have been 6 months, had a tiny sad moment but then was happy I could drink and have a lovely time. Lots of people asked me about children and I was totally honest about the MC even if they were new people... People need to talk more about MC I think... Anyway, cd15 here, thinking I may ovulate in a week. Blood tests on the 3rd August.

Sorry if I have missed anything, I hope you've all had a good weekend

Feeling much more positive today pregnancy test nearly negative :) and I have ewcm. Maybe my body is starting to get back to normal.

That's good news McBaby . The EWCM is a good sign!

I have to say, on a positive note, that since the miscarriage my cycle has been more normal than it had been for a few years. Prior to the MC I'd had about a year of periods only lasting for two days of proper flow, which is really on the short side and I was ovulating slightly later in the cycle than seems to be the norm for most people. Since the MC my periods are back to 3–4 days and I'm ovulating on CD13. Maybe having a MC kind of presses the reset button?

Ineednewshoes I do think your cycle gets reset by some things before I had my daughter my period was all over the place with cycles of 5-7 weeks. I have had 12 cycles since dd2 and they gave all been 28 or 29 days with very abundant ewcm.

I think my partner and I will TTC again once I stop bleeding, I don't think we'll even wait for me to have my first post-mc cycle. We are so sad I think this could save us. Does anyone know how likely it is for this to happen again (twice in a row)?

Help guys ... I've just done a test and it's positive. A FRER. I am terrified after two miscarriages. 12 weeks and 6 weeks (at the 6 weeks miscarriage my HCG never rose and the weeks indicator went from 2-3 to 1-2). I am petrified. I'm being treated for a strep A infection at the moment. With so much going on should I tell DH? I think I'll sit on it. I don't know what to do. My head is everywhere. I want to take it with a pinch of salt. My boobs aren't sore. I've been feeling terrible with the strep infection. Sick and backache etc. I'm not going to get excited. I'll phone the urologist tomorrow who referred for me to be put under an obstetrician. The appt did come through but for September. She said to phone if any news beforehand.

Purpleviolet a very hesitant for your BFP. I understand the mix of emotions.

I would have thought it would be best to tell DH. You're in this together after all and his support whatever the outcome is surely valuable. I'd also have thought he might notice that you're not quite yourself anyway.

Not everyone gets sore boobs early on in pregnancy so I wouldn't read much into that.

For now you've got a BFP. I completely understand the not getting excited, but please allow yourself some level of positive reaction to this good news

Thank you new shoes. It's just because I've been really poorly this week with this horrible infection. Im on antibiotics and the consultant who saw me said they are safe. It's just not a good start is it!

Congratulations purple. Great news. Understand that of course it is worrying, but you have to believe that it is your time. I think sometimes the positive vibes help a small bit. All the best.

A very tentative yay for you Purple. After all you have been through no wonder you feel run down and ill. I understand how you feel about another round of it, I know when I see my next double line my primary feeling will be "Oh Fuck, not again" but I really hope this is the one for you. For what it is worth, there is very little you can do to do any damage at this stage and if they say the AB are safe, then it should be fine from that point of view. If it is going to work out it will, illness and antibiotics or not. I understand though how terrifying it is getting a BFP even when you are healthy and at your best, let alone when you are feeling crap. I have everything crossed for you here. And it just shows you, it only takes the once. Hugs

Thank you girls. For your support. I'll stay on this thread if that's ok with you all though.

Of course it is. I am looking forward to lots of positive updates.

Congrats purpleviolet that's amazing news... I understand the nervous feeling... I'll be thinking of you and please keep us updated! X

Thanks jpeg although we know BFP does not = baby. Given it was a urine infection which caused me to miscarry before, it's worrying that I've got this strep infection just now. So not holding out any hope.

Fingers x for you.
Yesterday my best friend told me her and her DH have started TTC... All of a sudden I'm
Jealous and competitive... I want to get pg first which is so ridiculous, I should be happy for her!

That way madness lies jpeg but you already know that.

We have to find a way to detach our ttc from all the babies/pregnancies around us. I know it's hard. My good friend is due in September. I was so excited about our babies being only two months apart but then I miscarried. I've had to let go of that notion and next time I get pregnant am not going to plan anything ahead linked to timing or anyone else! Too much pressure.

Congrats Purple...everything crossed for you that this is your time...totally understand the mix of emotions.

Totally understand what you mean too jpeg...not fair it makes us feel this way, I hate the jealous feelings it makes me have!

Gentle congratulations, Purple. I know how terrified you must be and nothing is going to help that. However, I had zero symptoms this time - totally different to my previous pregnancies. I didn't even get sore boobs until 9 weeks. Id tell your doctor asap so you can reassure yourself. I really hope this is it for you xx

Thank you. I had bloods taken this morning and will be repeated next Tuesday to see the HCG levels.