TTC after miscarriage thread #6

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New thread for all navigating the bewildering world of trying to conceive after a miscarriage. Whether you have dc or are ttc your first, all are welcome here. We share the positive, the negative and the down right confusing.

Here's link to previous thread...www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2657346-TTC-after-miscarriage-thread-5?noti=1#62460035

Mrs I'm so sorry :( my thoughts are with you x

mrs I'm so so sorry, are you going to ask for blood tests or a scan to check or just wait and see what happens? I'm thinking of you and your OH

I'm so sorry Mrs

Thanks Brenna. I feel a renewed sense of positivity now that I've got through the due date. DP and I spent the weekend at the seaside indulging ourselves with chips and ice cream and I'm just glad it's no longer this big awful thing ahead of me that I can't avoid which is how it felt all last month

Oh no Mrs I am so sorry

That is exactly how I felt about mine IC.

Oh Mrs I am so sorry for you both. Very hard. Hoping it is just slow progesterone buildup or something for you.

Mrsunsure I am so sorry

It feels like a cruel game at times, doesn't it. I hope you're mistaken and it turns out to be ok but I know that feeling of knowing it's not right

I'm pretty sure I'm headed for a chemical. Nothing but the faintest shadowy lines for days now with no build up. But I've been to see my GP anyway as there were some concerns I wanted to discuss. At least this way it will be in my medical notes and might count towards a referral.

It's jodie with a name change (paranoid as i did another post on MN about a surprise present for somebody!)

Mrs I am so so sorry you're experiencing this and I really hope it isn't mc. When I had my mc in June, I read tons and tons of info about early bleeding and found that it was completely normal and happened to many who went on to have to have healthy pregnancies and babies. I hope in your case it all works out fine.

IC welcome back and well done for getting through the due date, hope your cuts and bruises heal!

Hi to everybody else, need to catch up as hadn't been on for a couple of days. Welcome to the new people and sorry you find yourself here. I was on the due in feb 2017 thread too :(

I have my second acupuncture session on Friday - feeling very positive about it.

jodie It is horrible, yes I was due 1st of Feb, one of my best friends is too and she is still pregnant which just makes it really hard and difficult not to think "why wasn't that me." I'm not one of those preachy people but she is still smoking a bit whereas I don't smoke/drink and I am the most cautious person in the world I even gave up jogging yet she got to keep her baby, and I didn't it just doesn't feel fair sometimes. But such is life. Just got to get on with what you're given I suppose. I'm sorry for your loss and fingers crossed for your future BFP!

Mrs I am so sorry to hear that, can you go to EPU? You never know because of your past bad experiences you may be just thinking it's the worst, bleeding doesn't always mean it's over. I will pray everything is ok for you. Your earlier posts prompted me to book an acupuncture session for next Saturday. Hoping for the best for you xxx

I'm so so sorry mrs.... Thinking of you I really really hope it's not a MC xx

Oh mrs I'm so glad there's been no more bleeding, but I'm sure these next two weeks will be the longest ever for you. It's a shame they can't atleast give you blood tests to see if it's progressing that way. Keep us updated if you can and take care of yourself

Hi Mrs, could you go for a private scan? I had one (and all though it wasn't good news for me) it was better than waiting. I paid £70 so not too expensive for putting your mind at rest x

Haz - yes I have a lot of that around me too...just feels so unfair doesn't it. wishing you get your sticky bean too. I'm sure the acupuncture will make you feel more positive too - I've only had one session and it did for me!

Mrs - when this happened to me, I went to the local walk in centre and told them the situation, they listened and called the nearest EPU (I'd already called EPU and they said they could only do a scan with a doctors referral) and i got booked in for a scan a couple of days later when I would have been around 6 weeks.
Unfortunately it was not good news for me but at least I knew rather than having to wait as that would have been torture and so unfair.
I took that action to push for a scan from the advice of you good ladies on here and I'm glad I did.
The scan didn't show anything and they did say that might be because it was too early but they took my bloods and then took them again a couple of days later and were then able to confirm the pregnancy was sadly failing.
As sad as it was, I was glad I had answers.

I do hope you get an answer soon and I do hope it's positive, lots of love

Ah okay, I didn't realise there was a lower time limit. Hope the wait isn't too stressful 😞

That's right that they might not be able to see heartbeat but they may be able to see sac at 6 weeks. Even so they should be able to do bloods and monitor increase or decrease. A decrease would be bad news but increase is obviously positive.

please try and be positive - i know that's not easy though. from what I read when it happened to me it may not be bad news - there were lots of positive stories on both mumsnet and the many other forums I looked at - some people bleed throughout and some even had clots.

have you had any pain?

That may not be bad news. Only one gush is fairly normal at that stage. Everything crossed for you here.

I agree with above. I knew mine was bad because I had cramps for days before. A bit of blood with no pain could be just a bit of breakthrough or anything like that. I understand your need to think the worst though as it kind of protects your feelings a bit more. Sending you lots of positive vibes mrs. what a horrible limbo to be in. If the bleeding has stopped I would certainly take a little comfort in that. Xxx

Hi Ladies ...
First, I'm really sorry for all of your losses and happy for those who have recently (or will recently) conceived. I feel your pain and hope for your joy!
I'm just about 38 yo, have an 18 month DD, but before her I had an MMC at 10 weeks (I'd luckily fallen pregnant four weeks after my D&C). This time around it's like a repeat situation, with less luck. I had an MMC at 12 weeks in May, D&C at end of May and only started TTC last week. It took a while for AF to return after the D&C and I haven't managed to actually get a positive read on ovulation. Maybe my hormone levels are still so low after the D&C? Frustrating ...
Anyway, hope you all don't mind me popping in occasionally ... I found great strength in these boards with my first MMC in 2014, so I'm back again seeking strength.
Big hugs and baby dust to all ...
x

mrs I have everything crossed for you. I have read so many stories of women who bleed at the beginning and then everything is fine, but I can completely understand you thinking it's over... I would be exactly the same. Try to stay positive, get some rest and keep us posted.

Welcome amelia I'm sorry for your losses and good luck TTC.

I'm now 6dpo (going slower than ever) and I have had a stinking cold since ovulation. Yesterday I was really shaky too like I needed to eat more (even though I've been stuffing my face) and today I just feel completely exhausted. It's my OH's 30th and I feel dreadful as I have no energy to do anything. I'm worried this will ruin my chances this month!