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TTC after miscarriage thread #6

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jodiebee664 · 21/07/2016 17:27

New thread for all navigating the bewildering world of trying to conceive after a miscarriage. Whether you have dc or are ttc your first, all are welcome here. We share the positive, the negative and the down right confusing.

Here's link to previous thread...www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2657346-TTC-after-miscarriage-thread-5?noti=1#62460035

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Hazandduck · 08/08/2016 11:00

Thanks brenna I am still in touch with my midwife too so can ask her as well. I will definitely give her a call.
Well done for getting on the fitness train, I was so good up until I found out I was pregnant! Three times a week without fail of hard exercise! And I now feel like a horrible slug for stopping. I'm going to do the thirty day shred again this week, I love it and it's just short enough that I hopefully won't die whilst doing it lol. Even if you don't lose weight you are improving your health and fitness! xx

Cookiemonster19 · 08/08/2016 11:04

Thank you alb, Brenna and jpeg :) fingers crossed for you both two who are testing. it's the hardest wait ever! I'm trying not to get tempted into testing today....

Hazandduck · 08/08/2016 12:49

jpeg that's what is worrying me. It came up really strong really fast! I did one last week and it was the same so it doesn't seem to be dropping. I spoke to the ward and a doctor is going to call me back, they also confirmed the letter I got was a mid pregnancy appointment with a consultant ;( they weren't even apologetic or anything they just said we weren't told so we didn't know, I said I suspected it was an error but she just said they weren't told. Can't be bothered to pursue it really but if I did raise some sort of complaint maybe it would prevent any other ladies going through the same thing receiving letters and appointments for a lost pregnancy in future. It's just cruel to still send them, even if they didn't know, it's heartbreaking xx

jbee664 · 08/08/2016 13:10

Haz is there any chance you've conceived again from post mc cycle or is it to soon for that?
That is rubbish about the letters. The whole post mc follow up side of things seems lacking to me (but I do fully appreciate the NHS is overstretched)

Good luck to all those testing.

And good luck for today Mrs - it was today you were seeing the doctor wasn't it? Hope all still okay.

I'm now in the 2ww - I've rarely bothered with OPK's ( as it all stresses me out) but I did one yesterday and it was very strong so got dtd in! Maybe the acupuncture helped it be so strong!

jpeg28 · 08/08/2016 13:50

haz maybe it's a new pg? I had another scan 3 weeks after my MC just because I was still getting positives so they wanted to be sure everything was gone.
That's rubbish about the letter too, when I went for my extra scan after MC, the nurse asked me how far gone I was in this really excited voice... I very calmly said "I've had a MC" and she was so embarrassed and hadn't checked the notes. I think the care in the NHS needs to be more joined up, seems communication doesn't happen!

mrs good luck today, been thinking of you.

Hazandduck · 08/08/2016 14:01

jbee fingers crossed the acupuncture worked and you fall now! Well we have only been having unprotected for about 12 days so I think it would be way too soon to have a positive. I would love to think that but I'm fairly certain I haven't ovulated! I just don't feel like I could have possibly fallen at the moment hence why we've been a bit...relaxed about protection! I want to get pregnant again desperately but I also want my body to be normal before!

I have friends in the NHS and totally appreciate it is so overstretched and I know these things happen. It just sucks a bit :( reminds you of what would have been happening at that time...oh well. Maybe I'll burn the letter when I get home! Bit of catharticism! (Not sure if that's a word but I'm using it!) Smile

The doctor called me back on the ward and said I am welcome to come in for more tests but if I don't feel feverish or have signs of infection I can wait another 10 days and do another HPT, if that is positive I have to go in for scans and tests. I am happy to wait, the less tests the better I'm fed up of being prodded and poked!

Does anyone else feel like if they fall pregnant again they almost don't want to know, so they won't be worrying the whole time about miscarrying again? Xx

jbee664 · 08/08/2016 15:23

That's great they have followed up with you Haz and have offered more tests - as much as it's horrible being prodded and poked, I'd take them up on it so the can rule out things wherever possible. I do understand it's not nice though - it's always difficult for them to get blood out of me for blood tests and last time they had to get it out of my hand and it's all swelled up and bruised afterwards!

Yes, I feel like that! When I did know with my second pregnancy, I just couldn't let myself get happy which is such a shame.

McBaby · 08/08/2016 16:27

Haz I am in a similar situation I had a natural miscarrige 5 weeks ago and had positive tests last week and a blood test confirming I have hgc of 9. I need another test this week to check the level.

BertieBotts · 08/08/2016 16:35

I somehow fell off the last thread and missed you all. Oops!

I have a good feeling about this month. We are taking it easy but I just have a feeling. Probably it's nothing. I am 5dpo now so waiting for early next week to test.

Hazandduck · 08/08/2016 16:55

jpeg that is heartbreaking, and so awkward for that nurse. I do feel like if they just read the notes sometimes it would save a lot of anguish, needless questioning and time for everyone.
it is awful isn't it mcbaby :( just waiting for your body to catch up with what has happened so you can move forward! I'm sorry you've gone through this for so long! The doc actually said that on the phone to me, he was one of the good ones.

jbee you are right I should be grateful they want to do more tests! I just hate them! I'm a head in the sand type person and if I can avoid having to go to hospital I try my best! Xx

Hazandduck · 08/08/2016 16:56

bertie FX for a positive! X

jbee664 · 08/08/2016 21:46

Good luck Bertie...hope so!

My sister came round tonight and told me she was pregnant! Wish I could have been as happy for her as I want to but it just hurts :(

Brenna24 · 08/08/2016 22:08

Hugs jodie. I got babybombed this evening too by DH's best friend and his wife. To be fair I know as the husband has told DH that they have been trying for a while and had started having tests. But i find the wife a bit difficult and very condescending and I would rather have had a baby before her not after as I think I may have to field a lot of "Are you SURE you want to do it that way?" comments if we ever do have one of our own.

I was good and went to the gym instead of falling face first into cake like I felt like doing.

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jpeg28 · 08/08/2016 22:15

jodie that must have been so so hard! I hope as she is your sister she understand how difficult this must be for you.

Good luck bertie!

So I just went to the toilet and had the tiniest bit of light brown spotting, I'm 10dpo... Is this af?? Also I'm having really weird cramps. Im keep convincing myself I'm out... The next minute I convince myself I'm pg! I hate this waiting!

jpeg28 · 08/08/2016 22:17

Also... mrs hope you're ok Flowers

jbee664 · 08/08/2016 22:44

Thanks all. She does know my situation and was great for me after both mc's. She felt bad about telling me earlier....which is a shame really as she shouldn't have to. I just really dreaded this happening and feel gutted and hate this horrible jealous feeling because I just want to be happy for her! Thanks for your understanding ladies, I knew I could talk to you!

Well done on the gym Brenna!

Mrs I do remember how you were feeling at the time and totally empathised, just so tough isn't it, glad it's worked out well for you though.m

Jpeg, could it be implantation? I do hope so!

BertieBotts · 09/08/2016 09:04

I have spotting at 6dpo! That's a good sign :)

jbee664 · 09/08/2016 09:22

good sign bertie! fingers crossed!

jpeg28 · 09/08/2016 11:15

Good luck bertie!!! I had another super duper faint line today that could be in my imagination! No more spotting. I'm going to use a FRER tomorrow morning... Starting to get excited. If af arrives I will be devastated!

Alb1 · 09/08/2016 13:23

Good luck Bertie and jpeg!

AF has arrived here, but this last month I had a scam that suggested I was ovulating and everything looked normal, a clear smear test and a few other basic health tests so I feel positive for next month, hopefully the moving house stress won't mess things up but I'm still feeling positive!

jbee664 · 09/08/2016 13:39

hope so jpeg!! what date is af due?

sorry af got you alb but glad all the tests have shown nothing wrong and you can try again very soon.

Brenna24 · 09/08/2016 13:41

Everything crossed for you bertie.

So sorry the witch got you Alb. Good you have a full MOT though Grin

I am off for my smear test this afternoon. Wish me luck.

jpeg28 · 09/08/2016 14:08

Good luck brenna and sorry alb that af got you but all of that sounds positive.

Last 2 cycles I have had a 12 day LP so af due Thursday. Really I should hold off testing until then.

Brenna24 · 09/08/2016 17:12

I am back. It was over very quickly and I am now at the stage where I am completely blase about people staring up my cervix. I was not in the least bit ruffled, chatting away.

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