TTC after miscarriage thread #6

[jodiebee664]

New thread for all navigating the bewildering world of trying to conceive after a miscarriage. Whether you have dc or are ttc your first, all are welcome here. We share the positive, the negative and the down right confusing.

Here's link to previous thread...www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2657346-TTC-after-miscarriage-thread-5?noti=1#62460035

That is correct yes - what CD are you now?

You can have a LH surge - causing positive OPK - and not ovulate. Usually you'll have another LH surge and ovulate after that.

Cycle day 29
I have the worst rage n felt tippy all day (not like me. Not had ms in any of my other pregnancies)
Poas
Bfn

On CD10 and still testing for another LH surge so fingers crossed I get one. No flashing smiley yet though either.

Sorry for the bfn ecky when is your AF due?

Hi, I posted earlier and was recommended to this thread! I had a mmc in August, and after two normal cycles we began ttc again in October. Now AF is two days late (I've always been so regular prior to this) but tests giving a BFN. Not a hint of a line. I don't feel pregnant either really but just want AF to come as I was quite relaxed about my cycle just used and app last time, I don't want to start charting etc really as I think I'd become obsessed. Anyone else have funny cycles (after regular ones?)

Due yesterday mrsY87 serves me right for pas early
Another bfn this morning
Hate limbo. Going to work in white pants 😅

sureitsgrand me!
I can't work out my periods yet, doing ovulation sticks every two days and have a predicted ov day but never have any positive sticks. Period lasted three days longer than normal, so I'm not sure what's going on x

What's keeping my sanity is deciding that this is by design...that the universe has decided I've got to have that third period before the arrow hits the target.

Trusting the universe makes me sound like Noel Edmonds; of this I'm aware 🙈

ecky if you ovulated later then AF will be later too. It's annoying, isn't it?!

I am feeling crap today because of other work stuff. Wondering why we are doing this now and generally crapping myself about the future. I will wait until later this week to test, I don't think I could even be excited about it if I did get a BFP :(

Well, not that I'll be getting my hopes up until we get to 6 weeks anyway, in any case.

Hello.

Not posted for a while although I have been reading. Hello to the newcomers.

No news here. Think we've been through our FW. Managed to dtd 3 days in a row, so if it doesn't happen this month then I am trying to convince myself it's by design!

I think the counselling has started to help. But the test will be how I react to AF turning up in 11 days time. I have realised how much pressure I was/am putting on myself by thinking only getting pregnant again can solve the pain of a loss.

Really hope you get some good news Bertie!

Say I know what you mean. I keep imagining that, say next July I'll be getting ready to give birth, and I need to stop. The chances are slim, and the sooner I actually get my head around that the easier AF will be when it shows. The only thing is I just know AF is going to be delayed, maybe I'll have another 45 day cycle, and I'll spend that whole time convincing myself I'm pg. I'd rather AF just came now to be honest, then at least I'd know. I don't want to know 'next time' I get pregnant, especially not at 4 weeks, because then I'll just agonise over whether its going to stick or not.

Cycle day 31
Bfn
Really f**ked off. Loosing hope and this is my last chance as well

How long are your cycles usually ecky?

I am determined to not test early this month after all the heartache of CPs (or leftover hCG) the last two cycles. Not holding out much hope but feel better about that than the last two months.

27-29 days only had a 30 day plus one but that was after my methotrexate treatment
Unless sainsburys tests are naff cos these are the ones I've used although not had a problem with them in the past but that was a good week and then some after AF was due

AF due today, have spotting, not sure whether it's going to be a full blown thing or not.

Will pick up test tomorrow when I go into town I think.

Eckt, try asda or superdrug tests.they are supposed to be best.

Morning all. How's everyone getting on? Had a month of acupuncture and no spotting, for the first time in 5 months! I'm going to rave about it to anyone who will listen.

Having said that 4 dpo I had one bright pink bleed, and this morning I felt really nauseous and even though we've hardly dtd (because I'm scared to cause any spotting, stupid I know) and are using condoms, I was desperately hoping maybe I was pregnant, even though I've convinced myself I'm not ready to try again and I know I can't possibly be pregnant. Argh! Am I going insane?

Sorry for rambling.

Flash not stupid at all, I know what you mean - I felt like every time the bleeding stopped, we dtd and then the next day the bleeding would start again. I also had 3 acupuncture sessions before my bleeding stopped (after 12 weeks!) and then had one day of spotting on CD 10, but then appeared to ov on CD 18. I am really hoping I am pg this cycle, but deep down know I'm not, and am equal parts terrified and relieved of both!!! so ridiculous how our minds work.

Hi Skip. It's reassuring that I'm not alone in feeling like this (although it makes me sad that anyone has to go through it).

I also feel robbed of the opportunity to experience a pregnancy without the knowledge of what it's like when it goes wrong. I think that's one of the reasons why I am afraid to try again, because I can't imagine feeling anything but permanently terrified!

Hey all, well I finally have a positive on the OPK's. Looks like (probably temping fate saying this but) may be getting back to normal as guess I'll be on for 24 day cycle, was always 26 or there abouts before Mmc.

This has coincided with being given the all clear after months of complications and with DH being home all week, he works away three times a month so timing has always been difficult. So we've been trying, every day this week. I'm terrified and hopefully in equal measure.

Say I absolutely get how you feel, I've been seeing a counselling too and it's helping to work through everything. I am starting to feel more positive about things but dreading the next TWW and what that will bring either way I think

Bertie I have my fingers crossed for you, really hope AF stays away.

flash and fx, I'm just the same, I hadn't let DH within a mile of me whilst all the spotting and tests were going on, couldn't even contemplate it. I was so worried it'd all start again this week but, touch wood, no spotting so far. Hasn't stopped me reading into every little twinge or random symptom, if the OPK'S are right and I've ov'ed today and we only started DTD a few days ago it's nothing but my v ery over active imagination, still can't turn it off through. Bonkers.

Also amazing, that in terms of bleeding/acupuncture other people have had similar experiences, as when I went to the GP he just dismissed the idea that it had anything to do with my ectopic or seem bothered that things were so out of whack for so long after.

How long after your mmc did you have spotting and stuff for Monkey? I tried googling when it didn't seem to be improving but so little comes up about what happens to your body and your cycle after a miscarriage/pregnancy loss.

Flash I know, I mean maybe the bleeding would have stopped on its own without the acu, but I know I felt more positive doing something than not. She also recommended for me to take magnesium, chromium and DHA which I think has also helped me to feel better, and is making me feel pro-active.

I guess with the generic term 'miscarriage', and the various stages and ways we deal with them its impossible to know whats going on with our bodies. I had an an-embryonic pregnancy: a perfectly healthy sac, firmly planted in my uterus, just without a foetus. I took misprostol at 11+1 weeks, and then bled solidly for just under 12 weeks, then after a 2 day break had a 'normal' period. I started acupuncture at 9 weeks bleeding. If I hadn't taken the pills and waited it might have been very different. If I'd had the D&V it also might have been very different. Who knows.