TTC after miscarriage thread #6

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New thread for all navigating the bewildering world of trying to conceive after a miscarriage. Whether you have dc or are ttc your first, all are welcome here. We share the positive, the negative and the down right confusing.

Here's link to previous thread...www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2657346-TTC-after-miscarriage-thread-5?noti=1#62460035

As for apps I have and only half use Ovia Fertility. Mainly at the mo to log cycle length cos was thrown with the longer ones. You can record all kinds of info within it, so don't know if it's one of these the more you feed into it the better it is at giving you a better idea of when you ovulate?!

No I suppose not. I'm feeling very emotional and unsure today, yesterday was very light flow and now I'm really heavy again. Just so confused as to what is going on with my body. Guess I just have to wait and see if things even out.

I'll keep using Glow for now I think. It's annoying though as the 100 odd day gap between conceiving and when my period rerurned after the loss has thrown out all my averages.
I feel like I'm flying blind and have no idea what's going on.

Want to sit and have a good cry but am stuck in work til 4pm today .

Generally I've coped much better with this mc than the last one but feeling pretty low right now.

Ovia is not very accurate at telling you when you ovulate. It's good if you just want a rough idea of when to shag and some fun/friendly nuggets of info (I liked that about it). But not very good if you want more accurate measurements. Fertility Friend is the best one in my opinion, especially with their free charting course. Apparently Kindara is also very good.

DoomSong - can you not tell it to disregard that cycle somehow? It should mark any out as "miscarriage" not to be included in averages. There might be another way to mark a cycle as not to be included manually. Try their website, sometimes it has more options than the app.

Thanks for that bertie never done any kind of monitoring before. I'll see what comes of this month then look for something else

Bertie you would think there would be an option to disregard it but there doesn't seem to be. I recorded when I got pregnant and when the loss happened but that is just by changing your status and then I had to delete the predicted periods. I'll see if there's a website that has more options and have a look into Fertility Friend.

Spoke to the Dr yesterday and she said I should give it at least 3 cycles for things to settle down. Also thw dizziness and breathlessness I have been experiencing is due to anaemia, so at least I can get some iron tablets now to sort that out.

Hi guys, just wondered on here from the recurrent mc thread. Firstly, it's great to read how positively you are all doing and looking forward after such a shit time. I've just had my 3rd mc in 18months. The last two only had one cycle between them. I'm off to get some tests done privately and was wondering what questions I should be asking? Some very helpful ladies on the other thread but wanted to check here and see if anyone else has been through the tests and what I should be specifically asking for and expect. Any thoughts?

Hi Murphy,

Sorry to hear about your miscarriages, I've had two in the past 4 months, it's really shit isn't it. How far along we're you each time? Mine were both at 6 weeks.

I managed to get some blood tests done by my GP, which tested clotting, thyroid, 21 day progesterone, fsh, lh and estradiol. I would expect those to be your starting place if you haven't had those already?

I have been lurking on the other thread you mention and see that you have contacted Dr Sheheta, I have also been referred to him by my acupuncturist but seems to be a bit of a wait to see him, can I ask how quickly you managed to get an appointment?

My results show I have low progesterone so have self referred to another consultant who I have managed to get an appointment with this week whilst I wait for an appointment with Dr Sheheta to at least get some more tests done under someone more specialist than a GP with the idea I can transfer to him later if I need too. I think my main questions will be around understanding what the results all mean and what can be done to help with maintaining my pregnancies.

Hi MrsY,
Yeah I called them last week and got one for 7th December. I've heard nothing from the NHS referral and just want to know something before the New Year. It seems he is easier to see him in Epsom than London. It's good your getting more done before you go though, will save you some ££! I've not been offered anything so far this end and the waiting had been a nightmare so I'm just going for it with him. I've only heard good things so hoping for a clear plan of action after the tests. That's all we can do really isn't it?
Yes, it is proper shit. My first was a mmc started bleeding at 10. I wasn't really told much and never found out how far they thought Baby had got. Second, had back ache and spotting at 9 weeks baby had only got to 6 weeks. This time we went for an early scan and it was where there was a sac but no baby, had second scan it had grown so waited, third more growth, fourth it had shrunk and no heartbeat. This was at that point about 9 weeks again. Opted for a medical that time as didn't wish to wait.
Let me know how you get on with your appointments and good luck x

Hey, hoping I can join in. I lost my baby 5 weeks ago now, at three months and was absolutely devastated. Now I'm obsessing over trying again, testing my ovulation every day (expensive..) reading up on things and recently I got my first period (I think) and beat myself up about not being pregnant even though we tried so hard and everyone is saying "oh don't worry you'll get pregnant straight away, you're more fertile and only 24" it's getting to the point where it's embarrassing that I'm keeping my obsessiveness a secret. Sorry to ramble, just literally have no one who understands x

Murphy I only managed to get one for January hence wanting to see someone else in the meantime. Saw another consultant last night, was helpful to talk to someone knowledgable and I feel somewhat reassured that the odds are still good for me to go on to have another successful pregnancy ( I have a 2 year old DD conceived first try and straight forward pregnancy). He did however agree to prescribe me progesterone even though the most recent study concluded that it doesn't prevent early miscarriage but it doesn't harm to take it and he has seen it help other women so maybe it will help me. Just need a BFP now! Hopefully you will get a lot of tests done quickly by dr Sheheta.

Welcome DrRB everyone here is very supportive so feel free to ramble as much as you need

On CD7 and got a static smiley on my BD opk this morning so no idea what is going on with my body, must be a bit all over the place from the mcs. Been spotting so haven't DTD yet but need to start pronto! I think it may also be possible to have more than one LH surge so am going to keep testing and dtd for a bit longer to be sure.

How is everyone else getting on? Happy Friday!

Welcome DrRB but very sorry to have another joiner. I know why you mean - my heavily pregnant bestie had the cheek to say 'it's a shame you didn't try again immediately after, you could be almost 12wks by now' as if I wasn't effing trying

Thanks for the warm welcome ladies!
fxskip my boss when I went back to work said, oh everyone gets pregnant the first month after.
Boyfriends dad said - so and sos daughter lost her baby at 18weeks, now that's a real baby and a reason to be sad (not saying it isn't at all BTW)
Partner wondering why I'm still sad, asking me not to symptom spot and so on.
I really am complaining now haha!
Hope you're all having a nice night.. I'm watching a movie and have the open fire on, really nice

Bloody hell drR I'd struggle to control myself with any comment like your bfs dad inconsiderate doesn't even come close

I'm having a shitty arse day. 4 days left of my 2ww. Not feeling hopeful and to add another blow chances are we're not going to be able to TTC after this month. DH has been quite poorly with Chrones again and first line of treatment didn't work, the second he had a bad reaction to and his consultant has suggested the next route would be Methotrexate. So pissed of cos this is a decision I have bugger all control over and everything's just been taken out of my hands. To help the anger/rage/sadness I am currently sat eating my body weight in pick and mix

You on pick a mix me on toasted marshmallows, got no willpower to lose weight even though I need to to conceive and get fitter.
So sorry to hear about your trouble, hope your dh feels better soon.
I really hope you get good news in the next couple of days x

Hello all, I'm finally allowed to come and join you all on my second TTC attempt after a Mmc at 10+3 back in August. I intially had an erpc then three weeks later another one due to 'retained products', I was then told I'd had a partial molar pregnancy and passed to Charring Cross for monitoring. After endless bleeding, countless scans, bloods tests, three lots of antibiotics, much worrying and very slowly falling HCG I have been told by Charring Cross I've not had a Partial Molar pregnancy after all. They say further genetic testing has confirmed this after the initial tests were inconclusive, my loss would have happened due to another issue but they can't tell me what.

I'm so relieved to be clear to try again and so pleased I'll have no more monitoring but I'm an utter mess today. I thought I was feeling stronger but it's really hit me to have 'lost' the explanation as to why my pregnancy ended at 10 weeks. To add to this my lovely friend gave birth to a beautiful baby girl yesterday, I'm over the moon for her but, as you ladies probably understand, the pictures she sent me this morning have resulted in me have a huge melt down for most of the day. DH is away, I've talked to him but he just can't understand again, he's been pretty rubbish at emotional support throughout, save the first week after, he's totally over it all. It feels like I've spent the last couple of months concentrating on being physically better in myself but pushed out of my mind the loss of a baby, he thinks I should be happy to be signed off and excited about trying again. Consultant said it was most likely Downs Syndrome, apparently I have a 1 in 90 chance due to my age. He has said I just need to try again, and I will, but I'm so, so frightened of going through all of the above again.

Sorry, that turned into somewhat of a woe is me speech.......I've been reading through this thread and although it's utterly shit there are so many of us here facing the same worries it's a comfort to know I'm not alone. On ward and upward, oh yeah and my periods have returned with a vengeance so I'm guessing crazy hormones aren't helping me currently!

Wow monkey you've been through so much, it's horrible when you can't even ttc after a mc isn't it, I mc in sept and like you had/ having tonnes of complications, I'm still not allowed to ttc as having a hysteroscopy on Monday, not that I'd know when to ttc as I've just been permanently bleeding the last 3 weeks. Hoping (probably in vain) that I'll get the all clear Monday though i think it's unlikely.
Hope it's plain sailing for you now and you get your bfp soon, along with everyone else x

Thanks jaffa, sounds like you've been through the mill too, the endless bleeding is hideous isn't it, and the waiting and not being able to do anything to help that's really got to me. Also I think people just assume you'll be sad for a few weeks then over it all, certainly not the case when things drag on for so long. I really hope that at the very least you get some idea of time scales on Monday if not the all clear. Here's to quick bfp's all round

Very much so monkey! TBH I think I would have been fine if I could have just moved on quickly, nearly 2 months ago and I sort of thought I'd be pregnant again by now, my aim was a bfp by Xmas, that's looking unlikely now!! 2017 is hopefully our year!

Hello!! I'm so excited, I had a hysteroscopy today to remove some pregnancy material/ polyp or something, it's nearly 9 weeks since my miscarriage and I now have the all clear to ttc as soon as the bleeding has stopped

Excellent news jaffa

Witch is here. Trying to resist the urge to smash a chair though a window.

jaffa that's brilliant news.

Beans sending you virtual wine

My cyles have gone bonkers. Finally had a period 10ish weeks after MMC then got another 19 days later. No sign of Ov yet this month but have EWCM and sore boobs. Peeing on OPK's too much but keeping Amazon in business I guess.....

That's great news for you Jaffa!

Sorry to hear AF showed beans definitely indulge in a glass of wine

Monkey my cycles are all over the place too it seems, it's so frustrating, particularly when you just want to be pregnant so badly.

So many people at work have announced pregnancies in the past couple of weeks, all I can think is that it should have been me too. Fingers crossed our cycles settle down and we get our BFPs soon!

AF is due tomorrow and I'm symptom spotting like mad

Huge insatiable thirst
Unexplainable tiredness
Hunger feels a lot more...urgent than usual
Boobs being big girl's blouses and requiring all kinds of support
Coffee doing weird things to my bowels
And no spotting, which I normally get when AF is due. Hmmmm...

Oh and a nice dip on my chart right at 8dpo!

Fingers crossed for you Bertie!

Do you know much about temping? I got a positive opk on CD7 but temp hasn't risen so assuming it was a false positive opk as you must see a temp rise to confirm ovulation correct? I've only been doing it a couple of months and normally the opk and temp rise have happened a day apart!