TTC after miscarriage thread #6

[jodiebee664]

New thread for all navigating the bewildering world of trying to conceive after a miscarriage. Whether you have dc or are ttc your first, all are welcome here. We share the positive, the negative and the down right confusing.

Here's link to previous thread...www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2657346-TTC-after-miscarriage-thread-5?noti=1#62460035

So sorry you are here too Julia you not alone in those feelings, I also am anxious about getting pregnant because of the fear of it going wrong again but like you I desperately want to be pregnant again before my due date.

Alb could you persuade your GP to do a repeat blood test or alternatively have them done privately to put your mind at rest?

Emily I started acupuncture in August after my first mc. I'm finding it really helpful, not only is it relaxing but just having someone to talk to about how I am feeling, she is very reassuring in reminding me it is nothing I have done and very proactive in suggesting steps forward to help, for example she has suggested when I next get a positive I get progesterone supplements from the GP and has also given me the name of a local miscarriage specialist if the GP isn't helpful. It's the only time of the week I lay for half an hour and do or think of nothing so it must be great for stress too. I'd definitely recommend it

Well AF is due today but no sign yet. I will wait to see if she turns up tomorrow and if not I'll buy a test. I've really got behind with this TTC thing and I don't have anything in the house

I'm taking my driving test tomorrow too so that seems to be taking up all the space in my brain, I didn't think I'd get to the point where I felt "meh" about potential pregnancy but - I just feel like I need to wait and see and I won't get excited about anything until I've passed the six week hurdle anyway! So it almost doesn't seem to matter if I know or not.

Oh. Best of luck for your driving test Bertie.

bertie fingers crossed AF stays away and good luck on your driving test

julia so sorry about your loss, I understand that feeling too, I had it after my first MC and even more so after my baby was stillborn earlier this year, even though we have a healthy son I've been so worried that I just wouldn't be able to get pregnant again for some reason, I think it's just taken a bit of time for my body to get back to normal though. Hopefully it will happen for you soon

It is a year ago today since our first miscarriage. Sleep tight Rowan. We miss you every day.

Thinking of you Brenna

Good luck in your driving test today Bertie

Thinking of you Brenna x

Good luck Bertie x

Thinking of you today brenna

Thinking of you Brenna. My dd is called Rowan...

Good luck Bertie and I hope AF stays away!

How are things going Alb? Hoping it's all still positive following your BFP.

No news here. Think we're in the 2ww. Dtd every other day in the last week so done as much as we can. Think DH would expire if it was demanded every day, plus would feel like a chore!

Dr confirmed that my slightly elevated hCG was likely a second (early) loss. Just hoping it means we'll get our BFP quickly. 2 losses in 2 months is quite enough. She said they'll happily see me early next time and do extra things for reassurance.

Thank you but I didn't pass the test. Too nervous and I got too many minors. But no majors which is good! I hope I can try again in a few weeks.

I have no idea about AF! I had some pink discharge this morning so put in my cup but my temps are still high, chart looks almost triphasic and my boobs are huge. So there is that. Maybe one good piece of news today, that is if I can get to a chemist!

Sorry about your test Bertie - I hated driving tests (passed on 4th!) as it all comes down to those 30 mins when you're very nervous, good luck for next time!

I hope it's not AF that's got you.

So sorry about the test Bertie. I passed on my third attempt. Nerves kept getting me too. Fingers crossed for you next time. Also fingers crossed that your temps remaining high is a good thing.

Great name SayIt.

Still very light bleeding but not much else to report. Will probably pick up a test tomorrow unless it gets heavier. I am having a beer though - it's only a 2.5% one I think I'll be okay!

Hi everyone. I've not been on here for so long I don't know who's had bfp's.
The last time I posted was to check out and say goodbye as me and my husband had split up. Think that was about 8 weeks ago but I'm not sure everything has been such a whirl wind my mind can't keep up.

In the last couple of weeks me and my husband have decided to give it another go. We can't keep away from each other and have been sleeping together since we broke up anyway. I found out 2 weeks ago that I'm pregnant despite having two periods! Didn't think I was pregnant as the periods were normal, heavy in fact as they always are just ended with in a couple of days. I've had a scan and I'm 8 weeks now. Everything looks good, there was a part of my womb that had a clot which said could have caused the bleeding. Kind of ignoring the pregnancy at the min as I'm convinced it's going to end in disaster. Only myself and my husband know about the pregnancy, we haven't told anyone not even my mum. I'm bloated spotty and irritable.
I probably won't post again now at all but I thought I'd come and relieve my mind slightly of the pressure of not being able to tell anyone! It's not that anyone would be upset I just can't bring myself to open my mouth and say 'I'm pregnant' to anyone. I should really inform my employers for health and safety reasons but I just can't as the last time they announced it then I miscarrried.

Good luck to everyone, pregnancy happens when you least expect it.

That is fantastic news Amy everything crossed for you. Please come back and let us know how things are progressing. I am really excited and I hope that this little rainbow glues your family back together, a lot to put on a baby normally but given the ruptures were from all the losses and stress I hope this is what you need to heal.

The beer won't make a difference Bertie. I hope today brought some good news.

7dpo here. Impatiently waiting.

Negative test so am in limbo ATM! I hope it won't be days and days of squinters like my first mc. I want to go to a pub on Friday where they allow smoking and I won't go if I'm pregnant because they really get horrible in there. So I need an answer one way or the other by then!

Wow Amy! What a rollercoaster. Really hope this one sticks for you. Fingers crossed.

Wow Amy - that's brilliant news! I actually thought about you the other day and wondered how you were doing so this is really good to hear, congratulations!!

Good luck Bertie, hope you get answers soon.

I'm late, AF was due yesterday (potentially earlier as last cycle was 3 days early) currently 16 dpo...don't want to test yet as don't want the disappointment but will keep you posted!

Hello all

amy what a story! Congratulations. Really hope this one works out for you!!

Hope you are out of limbo soon bertie - limbo is the worst, I'd always rather just know I think, even if it's the dreaded AF.

fingers crossed jbee! How long will you wait before testing? I'm impressed you haven't caved!

Oh I should add - I'm about 3 dpo. Not much hope here as I think we DtD too early. I've also been poorly with a bad virus and now a cold so don't think I'm the most welcoming of people for a bean! But as always I will live in hope!

Wow Amy congratulations, I really hope everything works out for you.

Fingers crossed for you Bertie that AF stays away. When are you planning on testing again?

Jbee have you tested yet? Fingers crossed for you too.

My final bloods post mc came back on Monday at 1 so feels like a clean slate and we have decided we are going to try again straight away, now just waiting for ov, CD14 so hopefully i don't have too much longer to wait.

Is it ok if I join?

I have an 8mo DD. We have always dreamt of having a really small age gap and were over the moon when I found out I was expecting when she was 4MO. However it turned out to be a partial molar pregnancy- I am so devastated still.
My hormone levels are now back to normal and this month was our first tmonth of trying post- diagnosis (we did try for a bit before the moalr pregnancy results came in).
AF is due Saturday and thought I had a few symptoms and today I stupidly did a FR HPT. It was negative and it has hit me like a tonne of bricks. Every set back I have it brings all the emotions of the MC back again I know it sounds like we are being very impatient but I jsut cant get over that we had everything we wanted and it has been taken from us forever. We will never get our close age gap back and every month we get further from it.
Why oh why did I do the stupid test.
So sorry for the rant. I don't know where else to turn to as although DH is great he just wouldnt understand about the test.