TTC after miscarriage thread #6

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New thread for all navigating the bewildering world of trying to conceive after a miscarriage. Whether you have dc or are ttc your first, all are welcome here. We share the positive, the negative and the down right confusing.

Here's link to previous thread...www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2657346-TTC-after-miscarriage-thread-5?noti=1#62460035

I'm sure they must get it all the time Bertie, we all know the feeling of wanting to try again straightaway and women are so fertile straight after miscarriage it's tempting to just go for it! Are they going to do a scan? X

Hi bertie that is exactly what happened to me, I didn't wait and they did post mc bloods and found low hcg at 7dpo they just told me to do a test in 2 weeks as they assume it's from the old pregnancy. I did that got a positive and they said just test again in another two weeks. I don't think they like it because of dating but we all know that urge to just need to be pregnant again.

Haz I was on microgynon which is a different pill I was on before I had DD who we conceived first try with no issues and now I'm 6 months down the line ttc #2 with potentially 2 mc. I'm a similar weight, still under 30 and haven't changed my lifestyle particularly since DD which makes me think something has changed hormonally for me so perhaps it is to do with the pill as that seems to be the only difference. Or perhaps it's just bad luck I'm having acupuncture too so I might mention it to her, I love it, it's so relaxing!

Well I mc 6 weeks ago, this will be the second post mc one, because the first was still low levels. They don't seem to trust hpts as much here. I always seem to have to go in for bloods to get an exact figure. I have no idea why they left it so long.

Got another super faint line today on a superdrug early test and a sainsburys test, only 10 dpo so not going to be getting excited at all until I've missed a period, but it's a good start! Don't think I'm even going to mention it to DH yet, our daughter was only stillborn 5 months ago so I don't want to get his hopes up until I'm sure, that's if I can keep my mouth shut!

Alb I am so sorry to hear of your loss. You are so brave to try again. A line is a line. Tentative congratulations x

Hi there,

Unfortunately (no offence) hoping to join you soon. Miscarried a month ago (9 weeks, but measuring just under 6w) with a SMM a fortnight ago today as it hadn't cleared.

I just wanted to see if anyone experienced something similar:

I bled a quite a bit after the SMM but for the past week I haven't bled much at all. But over the past 2 days or so the bleeding has got much heavier into something resembling a period. My moods have also gone crazy. I am crying all the time. I was obviously upset by the miscarriage but it really wasn't much more to me than a major physical effort and a huge disappointment: it wasn't a late stage and, for me, even at 9 weeks this pregnancy was still largely theoretical if you know what I mean.

So I'm a bit taken aback by the mood swings, the tiredness and everything else that's hit when I haven't been expecting it. They told me to expect my period 4-6 weeks after the SMM, so I"m wondering whether it can be a period in that case. I was also told things would gradually improve in terms of hormonal stuff - this doesn't seem to be the case: I'm feeling much worse than I did last week and I think I'm going to have to take another week off work because I can barely function.

Argh. Feel. Like. Crap.

Hi Best. Sorry you're here too. Not sure if it's similar but for the first few weeks after I think I was in shock, I felt hugely sad but like it was manageable in the first few weeks and then the hormones (or lack of) kicked in. I couldn't keep a lid on it and felt very upset and low or angry and snappy. I'm about 8 weeks post MMC and feel like I'm coming out the other side.

Alb I hope this is a successful pregnancy for you. The same to you Haz.

How are you today Mrs?

I'm ticking along ok. Hoping next week is FW and we can try again. Had bloods done today to check there's no leftover hCG so fingers crossed for an all clear on Monday.

Hi best sorry to see you here too.

Alb tentative congratulations, fingers crossed for you for this pregnancy. I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter, you are so strong for trying again x

Spent the afternoon at the epu, couldn't see anything on the scan other than some free fluid which can be a symptom of an eptopic that has ruptured so am being monitored for that particularly as I've had on off pain in my shoulder and am tender on one side, have to go back for bloods on Sunday. Essentially it's over for me again either way, 2 mc in 6 weeks

asked about tests to see if there was an underlying reason and basically got told try again and see what happens....Trying to stay positive in that I know I can conceive and stay pregnant as I have a DD already but it's hard not to think that I may as well just get on and get pg again so I get that third mc and they will look into it. Have booked myself a gp app for next week, has anyone managed to get their gp to do some tests before 3 mc?

Hope you are doing ok say, it's so shit isn't it. Are you using opks this cycle?

I've just poured myself a glass of wine, happy weekend all

Hi Alb, I'm sorry for your loss xx

I'm really sorry Mrs.

Hi best it is difficult isn't it. I've been off work for 4 weeks now. My Mmc was 4 weeks today. Sorry you're here.

AF arrived for me this evening. 4 weeks to the day... The only thing that has gotten me through these 4 weeks is the hope id be pregnant now. Very naive of me again!

So now I have my period, what about these ovulation tests? Do you test every single day? I don't know where to begin.

Sorry I am the dunce!

Hey all,

Coming out of lurking to say a tentative fingers crossed for all the recent bfps.

Welcome best, sorry you have to find yourself here.

As for me, have started the tell tale spotting so expecting AF in the next few days. That's cycle 10 after my 2nd MC and nearly 2 years TTC. Feeling fed up!

Josie sorry to hear AF turned up. I've only use the CB dual hormone opks, they've worked for me the past two cycles so I'd recommend but they are on the pricey side....I like the fact it's very clear with the smiley faces rather than having to work out colours on sticks and work with fmu. Sounds like your cycle has become pretty regular again quickly after your mc which is positive.

Hi Emily sorry you are here too, it sounds like you have had a tough journey so far

Hi everyone, I'm also new here. I had a MMC in late August with my first pregnancy at 12 weeks - the baby had stopped growing 7.5. It was utterly heartbreaking and has hit both my husband and me harder than we expected.

Since having the MC I've not been able to stop googling, reading, researching everything I can find! So I now feel it's time to connect with others going through the same experience

It's been 4 weeks since my EPRC and I've just got my period. We planned to start TTC again at this point but I'm not sure either of us is emotionally ready yet - how do you know? I'm scared of another loss and what that would mean.

Sending positive thoughts to all

Thanks Mrs. They are a bit pricey aren't they, but I may give them a go this month if they're easy to use, we go on holiday next week so I can't really be faffing with things. I suppose the silver lining is that I have gone back to my usual cycle quickly, and now I will definitely know my cycle.

Sorry, another question. Would I use the CB test every day from the end of AF? Or kind of guess when ovulation would start and use them then?

Hi belle. Sorry for your loss I am also scared to mc again, but I've decided to try again right away, in a way the hope of another pregnancy kept me going. I think if you left it a year that fear would still be there, if you see what I mean.

I was told after my mc that there was a small amount of blood left. So last night I was hoping that AF was that small amount of blood, totally clutching at straws. No, it's still the time of the month, so that little hope is out the window.

Hello best and bella and sorry for your losses

I think it's going to be a chemical here, yesterday's test was a superdrug early test and had a faint but obvious line, today's was a pound shop cheapie but line was barely there at all and then faded to a shadow after an hour

josie I used the fuel hormone ones for the first time this month and I found them quite good, never had a positive on a cheap opk, there was a little chart in it telling you what CD to start using it on based on your cycle length so I think I started using it on CD9

Oops that should say duel not fuel, autocorrect always thinks it knows best!

Haha! Good job you noticed. I'd have been looking for fuel tests! Thanks Alb. I will be keeping my fingers crossed for you.

I had a bit of a shock last night, my period is horrendous. It was as bad as my mc Again this morning it's been pretty harsh. Been having a search on this forum, and from what I've found it seems to be what others have had.

We go on holiday on Wednesday. We were supposed to be going to the Caribbean for our friends wedding, but changed after finding out about my pregnancy, whiVh makes me feel sad, I'm ok about the destination change, but just sad were missing the wedding.. Just feel like every time I feel to be getting back on my feet something else happens, like this awful period.

I'm looking forward to shutting off with my family though. In our own bubble for 11 nights

Hi Best welcome to the thread and no offence taken, I don't think anybody wants to be here because of the reason for being here but it's a good and supportive place.
I've found that although the doctors can tell you what might happen everybody's miscarriage is different. I barely bled at all after the foetus passed and had to keep going back to be re-scanned while some people bleed for quite a while. It's possible that you're having an early period if your pregnancy hormones dropped quickly, or it could be some retained blood passing. If it lasts longer than a period or there is too much pain then go to see your dr.
Hormonally I was all over the place too.

Welcome to you too Belle. It might seem like a cop out to say this but when you're ready you will know. It took a couple of weeks before I was ready to do anything more than cuddle DP but eventually I just needed the closeness and intimacy of dtd again and didn't want to use contraception so we just very tentatively went for it.

Sorry to hear about your test Alb. Could it just be differences in the test? Maybe hold out for a couple of days and test again? Good luck

Emily cycle 10 after mc too. Only managed to dtd twice this cycle too and once before fertile period and one when it was definitely over so unless a miracle occurred or DP has super long life sperm then that's another unsuccessful cycle. Also fed up of it all! Seeing babies and pregnancy announcements everywhere

I tested again this morning with another cheapie and it was basically a negative, maybe a slight shadow, so bought another superdrug one and it had a faint line, but fainter than 2 days ago, and as hcg is suppose to double every 48 hours you'd think even not being fmu it would show on a cheapie by now and atleast be as dark on the superdrug one. Going to test again in the morning but I'm confident it will be a chemical pregnancy. So I'm having a sulk and some cake today!

josie sorry AF is rough this month, and I hope you have a lovely relaxing holiday

Alb, I'm still keeping my fingers crossed for you. And sulking with cake is totally allowed. My sulking this weekend has also involved the consumption of beer, wine and gin oops!

Welcome to the new people. I'm sorry you've had to join us.

Emily, that's my sulking too 😂

Thanks Alb.

Alb still keeping everything crossed for you.

Emily that sounds like my kind of sulking too!

CD9, cycle 2 here, first opk of the month today (-ve as expected). AF was heavier and longer this month after the CP. Was hoping it had acted as a reset for my body but am as confused as ever for the last 8 weeks anyway. Had spotting after dtd last night and have felt crampy on and off since. Anyone had anything similar??

Wishing there was some way for all of us to get more medical reassurance on tap while we try and figure out what is normal. My GP is going to be sick of me at this rate

belle sorry you're here. I think you just know when you are emotionally ready to try again, for me I was just desperate to be pregnant again, this time I feel the same however much more cautious and scared of mc again. I don't think that fear would ever go though however long I wait.

How did you get on this morning Alb? Fx for you

Josie sorry to hear AF is horrible, hope you have a lovely holiday, some sunshine and relaxation sounds perfect.

I agree sulking is totally allowed, I had a few glasses of wine over the weekend too.

My bleeding seems to have virtually stopped from this mc so has only lasted 5 days which I suppose is a good thing, just waiting to hear back on my bloods from yesterday to check the hormones are dropping to rule out an ectopic. I'm really in two minds whether to try again straight away again this time or leave it til I get one period, not sure I could cope with another mc in 6 weeks time but at the same time if it did happen it would be my third so would at least start some tests so I feel really stuck. Using contraception feels really wrong and like a step backwards so I Think we'll end up just see whether we feel like dtd and I'll try not to pay any attention to FW etc and if it happens it happens and if not then we'll start trying properly again next cycle.

I typed out a post reply but then my phone refreshed and deleted it

Superdrug test this morning was slightly darker than the one I did Friday morning, not as much as I'd expect for 3 days after though. I'm going to the GP today to ask for blood tests and I'm going to try and stop testing...

This month was the first month I got a positive opk since DD and it was also the first time if taken evening primrose oil! I took it every day until ovulation, and drank the recommended 8 glasses of water which I never normally do (I just drink decaff tea normally), and even if this is a chemical pregnancy it deff seemed to make a difference! Just mentioning it because I got the idea off here in the first place so thought I'd mention incase anyone else is interested.

Glad your bleeding has stopped mrs I no what you mean about going back to contraception feeling like a step backwards, you just have to do what feels right I guess, hopefully it's not long before you get a stick bfp

Mrs, that sounds like a plan.

Alb, still keeping my fingers crossed for you.