TTC after miscarriage thread #6

[jodiebee664]

New thread for all navigating the bewildering world of trying to conceive after a miscarriage. Whether you have dc or are ttc your first, all are welcome here. We share the positive, the negative and the down right confusing.

Here's link to previous thread...www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2657346-TTC-after-miscarriage-thread-5?noti=1#62460035

Hi Going, sorry you're feeling so anxious, I think a lot of us here can relate to that. How are you feeling today?

Thanks for the birthday wishes everyone. Trip is nice, done so much walking though - 20,000 steps already today!

I have had a bit more pink/brown discharge today. None yesterday. Feeling very like AF is about to show, not cramps as such but heavy, bloated achy feeling. And quite a backache, but I don't normally get that with AF. Trying to keep positive as nothing we can do but see if it sticks, 3 days late today.

Anyone else had pink discharge in v.early pregnancy and had it be ok? I didn't with either of my other pregnancies, wondering if my body is not quite recovered from the MC? I keep saying to DH that there are so many things that can be 'normal' in pregnancy until they're not, you just never know.

Say I've been having some pinky brown discharge today too along with backache. Fingers crossed it's nothing more than them getting nice and comfy in there for both of us. I had a little spotting around the same time with my DD so know it can be fine.

Thanks Say It. I'm feeling better today thank you. Trying to be positive and trying not to stress. I read online that some discharge is normal but I'm afraid I don't have personal experience. Hope someone can help and have my fingers crossed for you x

Here's hoping MrsY. I just need to make it to my GP appointment on Monday and can figure more out from there.

Glad you're feeling better Going. It is really tough in the early weeks anyway without what we've all been through. Hopefully we can all keep each other going on the dark days

Just checking back in, have been lurking. Still no AF for me, 12 weeks this Sunday since I miscarried, and 9 weeks since I stopped bleeding. I have a docs appt on the 11th (saw her last week and she was quite tough and unsympathetic didn't take bloods or anything and said wait a few more weeks then come back if still no AF.) I just burst or crying as I asked if she could do any tests to see if there is something wrong with me and I will just miscarry again and again and she said you have to have 3 in a row quite bluntly. It scares me so much the thought of going through it two more times.

In other news, congratulations to the BFPs and good luck to everyone else, hope you all have lovely weekends xx

Hello ladies. Just returned from a much needed holiday. Last time I dropped by I mentioned that I had finally plucked up the courage to see the dr. She referred me for some tests. Results will be back on Monday then I have to arrange another appointment to discuss them. Was given thyroid test (have had underactive thyroid all my life) and also Progesterone, FSH, and something else I can't remember! Periods have become irregular again & now having bleeding around ovulation time. 9 months post-miscarriage now and a year since I first conceived.

Haz 12 weeks is a long time to go without AF. Could you see another dr?

Say I think increased hormones in early pregnancy can cause spotting which, if light, will manifest as pink cm.

Glad to see some BFPs from scrolling back through the thread a bit. They always give me a glimmer of hope!

Off to a family party tomorrow where I'll have to face my family's fecundity and many, many babies. Not looking forward to all the inevitable questions about why I don't have any

Hello all
Not been on here for ages but been reading posts now and again - Brenna was really hoping I'd come back to this thread and you'd have got BFP so sorry to hear AF got you.
Welcome to all the new ladies here but sorry you find yourself here - it's tough but we'll get there!
Newshoes and all other BFP's - big congrats.
Haz you have my utmost sympathy at the with how you were treated by the GP, happened to me a month or so ago and still shocked by how he was telling me I'd 'only had two' and shrugging his shoulders and asking me where i wanted him to write to for the referral!
I hope you get the help you need - are you sure you're not pregnant? sorry if I've missed a post saying that's not the case.

I'm in the DTD phase, had a +ve OPK yesterday following acupuncture, def think it helps if any of you are experiencing ovulation issues.

Good luck all - we will get there soon, I know it's hard to say positive and hard to deal with all the pregnancies around us (still struggling a little with my sis being pregnant but trying not to). Many ladies have left this thread as they've now conceived and there was a poster a couple of months ago who came back to say she'd now had 2 DC's following 2 MC's and could understand all the emotions we were feeling but we'll get there.

Hello,

Hope everyone is having a lovely weekend and that the recent BFPs are sticking. Some lovely positive words jbee, I can completely understand why you're struggling a bit with your sisters pregnancy.

I started bleeding yesterday for a few hours and it's continued today. Guess the BFP wasn't to be. I was only 5 days late and first proper cycle since MC 7/8 weeks ago so perhaps my body just wasn't ready. Trying to feel positive that it happened and it was maybe a warm up for a proper BFP but I fell apart yesterday

GPs in the morning. Then follow up with the consultant in the afternoon to find out if the tests post MC identified any reason why it happened, although I highly doubt there will be any explanation.

Consoling myself with birthday and letting DD watch Bob the builder .

Oh say I'm so sorry you are going through this again. Hopefully the Consultant appointment tomorrow will be helpful. Take care of yourself

Good luck with your GP and consultant Say

Thanks Mrs and Insufficiently.

GP did everything I asked of her. Got my referral and hCG bloods booked in.

Consultant said they found it was a chromosomal problem with baby as there was an extra 1. It could have been born normal (although infertile), or skeletal issues, or in our case spontaneous abortion. It was a boy.

As expected it was totally random and shouldn't occur again. She said the MC and CP should have been in no way related. Just more bad luck...

I'm hoping we can close the door a bit on what has happened and feel positive our time will come again. I might need to go quiet for a bit now and step away from the Internet for a few days while.

I hope your little bean is sticking Mrs. And that everyone else gets their BFP soon.

Hazanduck, I was in a similar position and had a session of acupuncture - got AF the following day...

I'm just coming on to say hello, early days post-first miscarriage for me. Going to lurk mainly if that's okay, and hope to see good news coming through!
I don't even know how I feel about a next pregnancy - we were so naively happy and now there is just a sadness. I assume the sadness lessens but will always be there somewhere. It was to be our third so we are lucky in that sense, but I also think that some folk in particular think that lessens the blow. You guys will know, I'm sure that it doesn't.

Have most of you waited for your first period before TTC? The doctors said the main reason for that was to help with dating any future pregnancy. I can totally see the benefits in that as I am an anxious type anyway. And I was thinking of acupuncture too. I also think waiting for at least one cycle will give us more processing time, I was on total autopilot until after my surgery.

struay welcome and sorry you've had to come here, we didn't wait, but didn't get pregnant again straight away either, I'd say just do what you feel comfortable with.

sayit I'm glad your GP was helpful, take care of yourself

littlepooch did you test or get AF?

6 or 7 dpo if in ovulated here. Didn't get any ewcm at ovulation but am doing now, my body is stupid

Welcome Struay. It does get easier but that sadness does linger, albeit in different forms. Sometimes I barely think about it at all (I'm 9 months post mc). I walk past where I buried the foetus regularly and my thoughts go towards it but not in a painful way anymore, just an acknowledgment of the fact that it existed and of the experience. But in the early days I find that you just have to let yourself feel whatever you feel. I can't comment on whether having children makes it easier or not but ignore what others think, it's a painful experience all the same. As for waiting for AF, I got cracking as soon as I felt physically and emotionally ready. I planned to wait but then I felt ready to dtd with DP before and didn't want to use contraception. I wish you a speedy recovery.

I got my results back today and nowt wrong on the hormone front. Then they said no further action required and I somehow managed to be polite in pushing for more investigation because if it isn't a hormone problem that's causing my cycle to be all over the place and not being able to conceive again then it must be something else! So I have to call again in the morning to get an appointment with my GP.

Has anybody else experienced spotting during ovulation? Last month and this month I've had a lot of ewcm but it has been tinged with pink and some tiny flecks of blood.

Had a family party yesterday and was asked constantly why I don't have children.

Insufficiently if this whole experience has taught me anything it is to NEVER ever pry in to why someone else doesn't have children or hasn't tried for another because you never know what someone is going through and those questions hurt so much, I'm so sorry you are getting asked those shitty things!
Say I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, big hugs.
Thanks everyone for your replies. Washing I have been having acupuncture and weirdly enough my first session (4 weeks post miscarriage) I had clear mucus with a spot of blood when before I'd had nothing! So it definitely does something.
I have had BFPs since the end of August but I am just not excited about them because I feel like it isn't a real baby in there and I am just waiting to come on, I never got a negative test at all so it could just be leftover tissue from before! I'm having constant backache and cramps and I feel like I am going crazy checking my pants and holding up loo paper to the light every time I wipe. I have to go back to my GP next week which is the earliest she will do any tests or anything (when according to her I will be about 8-9 weeks if I even am pregnant.) The stakes just feel so much higher now. I don't want to leave this board I feel safe here sorry to linger xx

haz I so hope it's a new pregnancy for you, can't believe they've made you wait that long though and not even done blood tests, its so mean of them.

insufficient that must be hard with the questions, people just don't think do they?

9dpo if I've ovulated, I think anyway, got the positive opk 10 days ago today, and I got a very faint squinter on a sainsburys own test today, was negative until I opened it up like a crazy person. There is deff colour on the super faint line, can't get it to come up in any pics tho and uv heard bad things about blue dye tests so I'm gona take it as a negative. I shouldn't have tested!

Alb I really hope it is a positive for you!! Do another tomorrow! I hate testers' remorse, experienced it a lot recently!
You are right I am so frustrated they won't do bloods or anything sooner. She said I could potentially have a transvaginal scan but I had a painful internal scan post miscarriage (I was so sore after the miscarriage as I had a sort of emergency procedure where they opened up and pulled out 'products' that were stuck) and I have developed a bit of a fear of having another one. I know it won't do harm but I have a niggle of doubt that if I'm pregnant again poking around in there will cause another miscarriage. Wish I could just go to sleep for 4 weeks wake up and know if everything is ok lol. Fingers crossed for a BFP for you xx

haz with my son I had a scan at 6 weeks and 1 day and it was transabdominal because some places have extra sensitive ones, my local private scan place does abdominal ones from 7 weeks too so it could be worth looking in to, also the private place near us does the hcg blood tests for £50 so that could be an option if your desperate. How long ago was your miscarriage now?

It was on the 17th of July. Can't believe the months have flown by so quickly. It still feels so fresh :( I didn't want to go back on the pill so we just started DTD pretty much 2-3 weeks later! Maybe I should look at a private scan! We are pretty skint at the moment, holiday at the end of the month (poorly timed!), getting married next August so booking stuff and paying deposits right now and last week I stupidly bumped a car in the car park and it's going to cost about £250 to repair! I'm an idiot lol. Thanks though Alb the blood test sounds doable I will speak to OH tonight about it! Xx

Say glad your GP was helpful.

Haz I completely agree, it has definitely taught me never to ask when someone is having kids or when they are having their second, you never know what people are going through and how much those questions hurt. Sorry you had to be asked those things Insufficiently

Spoke to the epu yesterday as got a 2-3 on a digi and they said it sounded like a new pregnancy as I'd had a negative test following the mc so was feeling quite positive however today I've had some brown cm/spotting only when I wipe and backache so just feel like it's not meant to be again. have been to the loo so many times today to see what is going on and then trying to keep smiling at work, can't wait to get home so I can just have a cry think I'm about 5+2 so don't think the epu will do anything anyway even if I call them to tell them about the spotting, feel right back in limbo again

Oh Mrs it is such a horrible, worrying time, after a BFP it is meant to be just happiness and excitement but instead all it does is fill you with worry. Really hope this one is a new pregnancy and it sticks for you. The awful thing after a miscarriage is that indescribable feeling of emptiness that you feel will only be filled by being pregnant again. You don't care what the doctors say or your friends or your family, it's just like an animal instinct that you must have something growing inside you again to feel normal again!
I have had constant backache and cramping and just keep waiting to come on! The longer on it goes the more I fill with dread. So many people have spotting it doesn't always mean bad news, fingers crossed it stops for you xxx

Haz It's exactly how I felt, the need to be pregnant again was so overwhelming and thought I'd been so lucky when it seemed to have happened straight away again. Spotting has turned into** dark red bleeding this evening so think it most probably is over

I've had really short cycles since I came off the pill in march and wondered if I have low progesterone, wondering this even more now with potentially two early mc. if this is another mc I think I might go see the gp and see if they will at least check my progesterone levels hopefully just to put my mind at rest that it is just bad luck rather than anything else.

Fingers crossed for you haz that this is a new pregnancy and hopefully you can get your gp to at least do some bloods soon to confirm.

Hi all, I haven't been on for ages. Just too many other things going on with work and driving.

I think I ovulated yesterday and looks like we caught the beginning of the fertile window. I'm supposed to have blood tests next week from post MC as not meant to be trying yet. I think it will be too early even if I have ovulated? I'll only be 6dpo. (I am a bit worried what they'd do if they found a very low level of HCG in my system from a new pregnancy!)

I'm so sorry to hear that Mrs. Definitely go to the GP and press for tests! I have the same doubts about progesterone issues, what pill were you on out of interest? I was on Cerezette which I think gives you a synthetic type of progesterone to stop periods and trick your body in to being 'pregnant' so an egg isn't released, and I have read theories that this can cause your body to be unable to produce its own natural progesterone. My doctors have pooh-poohed me when I said this but my acupuncturist said this wasn't the first time she had heard this. I was on this pill for 9 years and fell pregnant immediately after coming off it only to miscarry. X