TTC after miscarriage thread #6

[jodiebee664]

New thread for all navigating the bewildering world of trying to conceive after a miscarriage. Whether you have dc or are ttc your first, all are welcome here. We share the positive, the negative and the down right confusing.

Here's link to previous thread...www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2657346-TTC-after-miscarriage-thread-5?noti=1#62460035

haha Brenna...it does get like that doesn't it when you've been through all of this.
i remember when i had the medical management with my first mc and the sweet young nurse was giving me the medicine, I thought I was going to take it orally and then she said no open your legs and she inserted it...DP looked v confused!

The only thought going through my head was "I am jusst ab out to ovulate and someone has jusst ratched my cervix open, we should DTD tonight. Damn, she used KY jelly, wonder if I can scrape that out when I get home"

Get straight to the dtd brenna!
I am 6dpo and loosing my mind now. I keep wondering if we did it enough, if the fact that I am starving is a symptom (not just that I am a greedy guts). Temp dropped ish this morning not certain as was awake for a while before taking it and never manage to temp properly at the weekend anyway so maybe the weekend temps were duff.
Jodie sorry about announcement - you can't help how you feel about it with all you have been through. Just try to stay positive.

Hey all...

I'm cd 30 today and still no AF. Have still had light cramps & some thick discharge (sorry tmi!! ) shall I test or wait a few more days? AF was due on cd 28 and this is the longest cycle I've had since my mc. Still don't want to get my hopes up but I'm feeling positive!

Any advice would be much appreciated! X

cookie that sounds really positive! It's up to you... I am a test addict so I've been testing since 9dpo! Maybe test with FMU tomorrow? It sounds like af is late so that's the best time to test. Good luck and keep us posted!

So here we go again... I'm petrified but I'm trying to think what will be will be.... Hope you don't mind I think I'll lurk on this forum for a while... Not sure what I'll do without it!

Congratultions JPEG. Everything crossed this is the sticky one for you.

Instead of DTD the last night I developed a very nasty vomiting and diarrhoea bug and spent the evening on the loos chucking up into a bucket between my legs. DH got home and had the giggles at the particular shade of white I had gone - I've never looked more scottish in my life apparently. I feel fine today. Bloody typical.

Congratulations JPEG. Do you feel like you did anything in particular different this cycle? So so hope it's your wee sticky one. You have been on here since I joined I think and I seem to recall your cycles were all over the place after the mc? You have given me a great boost on 7dpo with absolutely no sleep.

Thanks brenna and miami... Yes my cycles have been crazy. This was the most normal one, I ovulated on cd20 and I knew to do an OPK because I had loads of ewcm. The only things I can think of are that I'm on school holidays (therefore more relaxed) and I had red wine on what I think was implantation day. Not sure that made any difference! I'm already worried as cannot get a docs app for over a week and I'm frightened something will go wrong... But I'll try to stay positive and be relaxed!

brenna that sounds like an awful night!!! I'm glad you feel better this morning.

JPEG do you need to see doc? In Scotland you can ring the midwives service and they organise your first appts for you and put the pregnancy on your notes. Not sure if that is uk wide though?!

Last time I saw a doctor as soon as I found out. I'm just so frightened I want them to take bloods to be 100% sure!

Congratulations Jpeg! I've woken up today and Im too scared to test.... If I see a negative I will be so disappointed
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I know it is terrifying but remember that nothing the Drs can do at this stage can actually affect the outcome. Sometimes the bloods can even just end up being more scary. It is so hard but we just have to wait out these first few weeks.

Big hugs.

Wow Jpeg, fantastic news, very happy for you! Really hope it's sticky!

Positive there's been lots of BFP's recently.

Congratulations jpeg

Congratulations jpeg! X

Hi everyone, I am tentatively posting on this thread- is it ok for me to join?

I found out I was pregnant in April and although we weren't officially trying we were actively not preventing and were both delighted when we found out I was pregnant. I just had a feeling that something might not quite be right, I'm not sure why.

To cut a long story short, we went for an early scan at 8 weeks and found that the baby was only showing as 6 weeks and had a slow heartbeat. A horrendous 4 week period followed where I had weekly scans and a few minor issues meant that the inevitable was delayed, even though they knew it was a MMC. I finally had an ERPC on 10th June.

I felt very low and angry at myself for not being able to carry a baby, I thought for a while I may never want to try again.

I'm now feeling a lot stronger and thinking about trying again. I checked my Ovia app this morning and it says that today is my most fertile day, however I've had no other symptoms of ovulation yet. I am tempted to get home from work and not 'actively prevent' this weekend!

The only problem is, my best friend is getting married in May 17, I am maid of honour, the wedding is on a Wednesday in Scotland and I live near London! Not sure whether to go for it anyway or just wait a few more months...

Congratulations to Jpeg and good luck to everyone else. Does anyone else feel that if/ when you do get pregnant again it will just be a horrible 9 months of worry and anxiety?

Hi Chocolate,

Welcome to the thread, sorry you find yourself here.

I think everybody on here understands that any new pregnancy following an mc will be worrying...sad but true. I had an mc in Aug 2015 and June 2016 and with the June pregnancy I was obviously very happy but just couldn't let myself get too excited, I think we put a protective barrier around ourselves!

Hi Chocolate

Sorry that you've been through a difficult miscarriage. I can't imagine the anxiety of it being dragged out for four weeks

There will often be reasons why it would be very inconvenient to get pregnant at a certain time (ie worrying about events that will be around the time of the due date) but I think the whole thing is so uncertain that there is little point planning around events. If you were going to do that you would have to also avoid the following couple of months in case your baby arrived early, and what happens if you have really bad SPD for example and are basically immobile for the last ten weeks of the pregnancy - there are too many unknowns/what ifs.

Hey all....

Quick update: AF arrived for me yesterday, very painful and horrible :(

Upset that I'm not pregnant but I'm glad that my cycles are now back to normal after my misscarriage.

That's a really good point newshoes, I'd never thought about it like that. I think we may as well just casually start trying now and see what happens. It could take ages, we were not preventing for over a year before I got pregnant.

I'm sorry to everyone who has to be on this thread

Hi chocolate and welcome, but also sorry you are here. Sounds like you took time to recover, so we'll done for getting your head on straight. Unfortunately there's never an ideal time to be pregnant, have mcs, have a baby, hyperemesis, or any of it. Just crack on with your life, hope for the best! It's basically all any of us can do

Hey All,

How is everyone?

chocolate I agree with the others, so difficult to plan these things so just go with it and see what happens and enjoy trying!!

Jpeg - how are first few days of knowing?

I'm now in 2ww and trying not to think about it!

Hi jbee I'm good thanks for asking... Still petrified and paranoid! No real symptoms yet... I would love some nausea! Hope you guys are all ok. Good luck with 2ww!

When are you testing jbee?

Glad to hear it's all going well jpeg

CD7 here not much to report, busy decorating the new house at the minute. As much as I'd love to get pregnant soon, if I get a bfp this or next cycle and it sticks the due date would clash horribly with (stillborn) DDs birthday anniversary and due date so it's probably easier if it doesn't happen for a couple of months, although we're still just going to keep trying anyway as we all no how long these things can take!