Thread 4: Ttc without ease, loopy length cycles, post pill poas and everything in between!

[BoBo90]

Welcome to thread 4 Ladies!

Hello to all our old members and welcome to any new

Here is our previous thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2618917-Ttc-after-stopping-the-pill-thread-3-Join-us-for-Super-long-cycles-living-in-limbo-obscene-amounts-of-poas-and-trying-anything-and-everything-to-get-that-bun-in-the-oven

and here is our current list of lovelies :

Ladies-in-waiting
Cookie22 - ttc #1 - Cycle 9
Bobo90 - ttc #1 - Cycle 6
Helpmeconceive - ttc #1 - Cycle 4
Tinyemmy - ttc #2 - Cycle 4
Mummy2squish - ?
Sparkle789 - ttc #? - Cycle 3
CatMum87 - ttc #1 - Cycle 2
May07 - ttc#1 - Cycle 4
Iwillbemrsminty - ttc #1 - Cycle 4
Loulabelle1990 - ttc #1 - Cycle 6
Johno85 - ttc #1 - Cycle 7
ClaireSunflower -ttc #? - Cycle 3
Sophronia - ttc #1 - Cycle 2
SusieBu16 -ttc #2 - Cycle ?
Purpleviola14 - ttc #1 - Cycle 3
Chloe2413 - ttc #1 - Cycle ?
Marmitetoast1 - ttc#1 - Cycle 3
Happybus28 - ttc #? - Cycle ?
Pyjamas81 - ttc #1 - Cycle 1
MishyBakes - ttc #1 - Cycle 2
Artynic - ttc #1 - Cycle 2
Sarahhh1984 - ttc #1 - Cycle 1
peskyfeelings - ttc #1 - Cycle 3
AnnaKateNZ - ttc #1 - Cycle 2
HighHopes16 - ttc #1 - Cycle 1
Niks2029 - ttc #3 - Cycle 1
user1468336922 - ttc #2 - Cycle ?
SummerHopin - ttc #1 - Cycle 4
Staronthewall - ttc #1 - Cycle 1
Jjspoon - ttc #1 - Cycle 1

Resident Preggos
Firstgo1984
LemonShizzleCake
Sunnydays321
cnchapmanxx
Thisisbloodyridiculous
Lawyeredout82

Looby I've def been there with the symptom spotting - the month before last I convinced myself I was pg - sore boobs, mild pains, nausea for a good 4 days - to the point that I went off alcohol whilst away with friends. Then 2 days later AF shows up. Never had symptoms like that before pill or since!

Fx Shoney!
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Marmite* hope you get some answers soon. Thanks for updating - it's useful to get info on what might happen next when you're stuck at the first stage.

So after a pretty dark opk yesterday (and dtd!) today's opk was pale again! So if that was it hoping we caught it, will keep testing a few more days. Going on holiday next week though so will have to be super careful drinking etc. Terrible timing as will be away with friends

Any tips on how to avoid drinking without it being obvious?!

Marmite I would call the hospital again and hopefully you will get a nicer person on the phone!

Fx shoney!

Sound like you had your surge overnight Grow 😄 as long as you dtd in the days before and today/tomorrow you have done all you can 😊 Just bare in mind that you only have a 20% chance each cycle so if it doesn't happen it's not because you did anything wrong!
You don't need to worry about alcohol yet if you don't want to. Nothing you eat/drink will be passed on to little eggy this early on 😊 It's about week 6 onwards that starts happening

No idea what's happening with me this cycle 🤔 I've had watery cm, white cm, pains at random times throughout the last week, low cervix, high cervix... You name it - I've had it! So I might have ov'd a few days ago or I might be about to ?? It's a mystery 😩 All I can do is carry on with dtd every other day and wait for af in 10+ days

grow I had a night out when I was about 6 weeks pregnant and managed to get away with not drinking at all. I just ordered either orange juice/ lemonade/ Diet Coke and pretended they had vodka in. By the end of the night people were buying shots so my husband had to sneakily drink mine.

grow, as Bobo said, unless you want to give up drink at this point there's no need to.

During my 2ww I had a few drinks here and there - nothing excessive but I still had them. Also have two friends who are currently pg and both drank all the way through the tww and into the early stage as they didn't know since neither was actually ttc! In both cases their midwives/GPs told them it was fine. In fact one was told that their GP believed stressing out about doing the "right" thing when ttc might cause more harm than good. So what I'm long-windedly trying to say is that if you have one or two cheeky drinkies at this stage, you'll be fine!

Bobo, sorry you don't have a clue what's happening this cycle. But as long as you're dtd every other day then the chances are still good. Fx really tight for you!

That's good to know. I definitely won't be able to get away with not drinking at all as we're all staying in a house together. Once the others have started on the good French red I doubt they'll even notice what I'm doing! Last year we got through 40+ bottles in a week .

Have a good day everyone!

There were 7 of us btw!

Haha, grow, that sounds like my kind of party! If you want to moderate what you're drinking, just drink slowly so you go through less and then once everyone is too drunk to care just switch to a soft drink.

Once you have you're BFP you'll have plenty of time for fake migraines, UTIs, IBS attacks/indigestion and "busy day ahead tomorrow" excuses! I've had to lie to one friend on Tuesday, and then I have to lie to two more on Friday and next week. The difficult one is in a couple of weeks when I have to try to lie to my mum two Fridays in a row... That'll be tough! 12 week scan can't come soon enough! Xx

What's the longest cycle you guys have had?
I'm now on day 33 and still no sign of AF. Did tests on Monday and Tuesday, both -ve. Been having tummy ache the past few days but it isn't af type pain...it might just be nerves! Did have sore boobs over the weekend but that's gone now though I am noticing them more. Gone off wine which is very odd but again don't know if I'm just imagining it or not.

When do you think I should I test again? Got some ic on order and was thinking I'm gonna stick it out until weekend before testing again.

Haven't told DH what I'm feeling incase it's just all in my head! 😭😭😭

Sounds like very similar Ov pains to what I had shoney - hope you've been DILR

Thanks bobo and sarah I think I will ring again tomorrow. I'm coming up 6 weeks so I don't think it's that early? I'm just concerned I'm not 'on the system' and want to know how it works with getting the booking in appointment with midwife. It's funny we all know so much about ttc but then it's a whole new world after BFP ana back to having no information and feeling clueless all over again!

grow I also has a few drinks in 2ww (actually realised month I got BFP I'd consumed half a bottle of prosecco weekend before BFP ) so I wouldn't worry about cutting out drinking totally unless you want to. Excuses I've used to far since being preggo are UTI, think I'm coming down with cold/sore throat, trying not to drink in the week anymore. Have also sneakily ordered mocktails off cocktail menu!

Slash I think I O'vd around day 15 as I had spotting and pains but can't be sure as I didn't test or anything....

Seven, maybe wait until the weekend and test again?

Loving all the excuses, hope I get to use some of them soon!

I'm only on cycle 1 and I feel like I've been doing this forever lol x

Good work on the excuses marmite 😁

Seven if you think you ov'd around cd 15 and your cd 33 now then you are good to test!! You can test from 10dpo and you are at leat 15 😄

I've had pinky cm again today... Second day of it today. No idea what that means... Still had negative ov tests, will do one tonight when I get home from work.

Oh the joys of not having a clue what's going on, don't you just love it! 👌🏻

Luci when I ovulated for the first time post pill I had pink tinged cm so it's a good sign! What are your opks doing? Have you been having dark lines but not positive or absolutely nothing? Can you post a pic? Xx

Oh really... Opks have no line whatsoever now though, not even a faint one! Who knows!!

Hmm that is odd but hopefully your ovaries are getting ready and you will ov soon :) xx

Hopefully! I think I just need to be patient and wait for my first af. Then I can start tracking things properly I guess.

Evening, well today i have had a morning of very sore boobs, some mild cramps and more egg white mucus. I took a test at lunch time and although still negative I'm sure it is getting darker. Will hold off water/toilet visit for a couple of hours and do it again later see what comes up. Will be DTD later for sure. Ive attached the test to this post

Hey shoney opk looks like it's on it's way
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seven my longest cycle so far has been 47 days but there are poor girls on here who's cycles have been much longer. Agree with Bobo about testing if you think you're over 10 dpo.

I'm on cd28. Think I ov about day 23, but can't be sure with this cold turkey cycle. It's the latest I've had ov symptoms. No Preggo symptoms really, just a few boob aches and a few cramps.

Think I'm going to wait to test until cd40 just to be sure. That will be Aprox 17dpo. Although I'm going away for the bank holiday weekend so may cave and do one on the Friday so I know what to do about drink etc.

To be honest I've been drinking as I normally do. I've got 9 months + to not, and dry January was hard enough!!!

I had another no show ov test this evening. I'm not going to bother doing any more I'm just wasting them!

What if that faint line I had on Tuesday was the surge on its way down and I missed it! 😳

Literally can drive yourself in sane trying to guess everything!

Oooh tww time then Johno!! Fx for you my lover 😊 I should be testing around the same time if af doesn't arrive before 😄

Luci you might have tried to ov last Tuesday but not managed it in which case your body will probably try again in week or so! Probably best not to bother with the opks if you haven't had your first af yet. I hope you don't have a long first cycle but mine was 76days and my body tried to ov twice with pink cm on second try! After that things settled down so try not to street too much and wait it out xxx

Oh Bobo we've almost synced! I'm hoping I ov when I think I did. My longest LP is 15 so day 38 or thereafter should be good to test. I'm not down or feeing negative, but I don't know if I'll ever believe the BFP when it comes!

Hi everyone, can I jump in?

I'm 30 and TTC#1, still getting my head round things but would love somewhere to obsess about things with people who get it..!

Think if my DH knew the extent of my Googling he would be a touch worried

Haaaa! Mrs C I have spent the past 3 months on google and reading thread after thread. Only came off the pill 3 weeks ago tho! Lol. My obsession started way before we even decided to ttc!!

Welcome 😊

Ekkkk I think we have got our positive, thank god, thought I was going mad