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It'll never happen, and even if it does, something will go wrong. Hut of Doom part deux

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duchesse · 19/01/2007 19:43

There wasn't any more room for moaning with all those grinny smilies's eyes following me around the room.

Suspected (my own self-diagnosis) perimenopause, anyone?

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Littlefish · 25/01/2007 19:07

I am being a very good friend tomorrow.

I'm looking after a friend's little boy because she had her second baby tomorrow. I'm pleased for her, of course, but I don't think I can visit her for a while. I will show her I care by helping with the practical things. I'm just not ready to see her with a tiny baby.

rahrah1 · 25/01/2007 19:25

Littlefish, you are indeed being a good friend!

duchesse · 25/01/2007 19:52

My battery of tests has shown up some mild hypothyroidism. As I'm so old already (39) and it could be contributing to my inability to get pregnant, my GP is referring me to an endocrinologist to try to get to thee bottom of it. Which I suppose is progress of sorts. Just a shame my arse of a named GP couldn't do this two years ago when I went to him, only to be advised to take anti-depressants...

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Littlefish · 25/01/2007 22:33

Duchesse is that an underactive one? Just to give you some hope, a friend of mine suffered for years without diagnosis. Once her medication was balanced, she got pregnant very quickly and had a little girl. Two years later, she has just given birth to non-identical twins (she's 40).

I know this is the hut of doom and we're not supposed to be jollying anyone along, but I just thought you'd like to know. I promise not to tell anymore cheerful stories and I will stand in the corner with an old potato sack on my head for penance if you want.

duchesse · 26/01/2007 08:52

Thanks, Littlefish. Yes my thyroid is slightly underactive ("subclinically"), but not enough to medicate although I feel like shite most of the time. I'm glad I'm being referred, to be honest. The endocrine system is so complicated that I don't think GPs understand it fully.

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Woooozle100 · 26/01/2007 13:27

waves back and necks the cocktails Nice to meet you all. Sorry reply is delayed - posting from work. As if that isn't taking the pss enough (wasting the few paltry hours I actually do work) - now I've turned to virtual drink! Hic

Nah Seaside - didn't have a clue about BT first time round. Blissfully unaware. There were signs towards the end of pg that something was 'wrong' but still didn't suspect anything major. My mom has same translocation - she had SB and MC @ 17 wks and 2 healthy children. She only found out about it after my DD was born. All in all don't think having a BT is that bad. There's worse stuff. Reckon the whole pg / baby thing is a lottery anyway. For anyone. I just know half my tickets are duds to start off with.

Rahrah1 - we could for IVF with PGD. Not considering at the mo - DH a bit iffy about it (is iffy about ov sticks tho - prefers to leave it all to nature / chance. Bit of an old hippy)

Ta for blog ref Duchesse. Will look. Hope endo can shed a bit more light for you re thyroid probs.

Soreheart · 26/01/2007 14:29

I'm losing my marbles this week. I am SO sensitive over every blumin' thing and making silly mistakes. Argh, argh, argh. DP has returned from working away and I can't seem to have a straight conversation with him. It's all too complicated. I feel so sorry for myself. After a total up this morning, I went for a coffee in the work canteen, to be greeted by a lovely lady who threw her arms round me and said, 'I'm pregnant, went for the scan yesterday, wanted to wait to tell people until after we'd made sure all was OK'.

But I am not OK. At all.

And I'm sending my commiserations (sp?) to all as it really does seem to be a tricky week.

There's a cue for a song with the words 'no-one said it was easy' - it is Sadplay? Nearly made a joke there.

Next week will be better. It will.

Impatience · 26/01/2007 18:21

Oh poor old everyone. I've been very very busy the last couple of weeks so have just been eavesdropping on all the chat whenever I can, but it's usually such a big catchup that by the time I reach the end I've forgotten the specifics of who said what! Must be all this spliff fog. AAaaah I love it, I remember when it used to be real...

Littlestar (am I remembering right?): well done on being a v good friend.

Newbie with translocation genetic poor luck: poor you, what a shame.

Rahrah: still so sorry Bertie isn't here.

Duchesse: bloody hell, antidepressants are NOT magic! I think we'd all be a lot better off if they got banned and everyone was forced to find the actual root of problems. Blimey, you know I roll a good spliff (actual RL ones as well) and could medicate you all you like to take your mind off things! Are antidepressants any different...? Pleased you are now making some headway.

Greedy: I am being a stubborn arse this month. Refusing to pay attention to what my body is doing. Saw a bit of cm, texted my wonderful saint, sent dp off to get it, doing the deed at home rather than some dodgy alley, so that's good. Not temping, not poking around to see what my cervix is doing. Not feeling positive. Just putting sperm in me at the appropriate time. I have a stroppy head on, almost challenging my body to not get pg, just to show it how p'ed off I am at how crap it is. How terribly sane...

Gotta dash out again. Again leaving a little pyramid of spliffs: Help yourselves. Ooh, made some trippy muffins too, if you really want to pretend this all aint happening.

I'll wade in later if I get a mo and see the damage x

seaside72 · 26/01/2007 23:58

OK OK so I know there has been loads of good news/BFP's today so not much call for the services of the Hut but I am going to bump it up cos it is still providing me with a great deal of solace!!

Despite all my grumblings about others being pg I am actually able to be genuinely happy for the MN BFPs, I think because you get to see all the trials and tribulations and thinking about others' BFP's takes my mind of my own 2ww and I can live vicariously through their BFP (actually cannot even imagine myself ever even testing at the moment!) - roll on AF I say at least you know where you are for the first week anyway!!

Anyone got a drink?

Impatience · 27/01/2007 08:16

If it's not too early, Seaside, here's one. I've made it a vodka, because you're sounding almost chirpy and need depressing a bit

lissielou · 27/01/2007 10:15

hi, im back. as most of you know im in my 4th mc in 18m. im so fucking angry with my body and with my beans. why dont they want to stay?? wtfs wrong with me. my oldest friend is pg as well and due round the same time i would have been. my 2nd mc would have been due in just over a week too.

duchesse · 27/01/2007 13:41

Lissie, frankly, to put it in an American way, it sucks. Have you been tested for clotting problems? Thryoid disease (which can cause repeat miscarriage)? Progesterone levels?

You should be able to motivate your GP to take some interest now, surely?

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lissielou · 27/01/2007 13:48

had provisional bloods and swabs but got BIG appt with mc consultant on thurs, was awful. when my gp confirmed i was pg i cried for an hour. on weds when i started bleeding she did a pg test and it was nowhere near as dark. and i cried and cried and cried. to make it worse my pg tests came today and ill have to use one when the bleeding stops and watch it come up neg

beansprout · 27/01/2007 13:50

Hello fellow doomsters. Sorry I have been away but have been trying not to think about it all too much. Am now on CD25 and coming into that miserable, optimistic, setting myself up period before the arrival of AF. Her timekeeping is crap so I never know when to expect her, so I get to really torment myself too!

Glad there are so many of us here (in that perverse sort of a way of course). ttc is pants. There, I've said it.

beansprout · 27/01/2007 13:51

Oh lissie, I didn't know you have to test again, that's just horrible. You poor thing

lissielou · 27/01/2007 13:54

the prob is (tmi sorry) ive passed so much crap, but they have to make sure. so before i go to see doc have to double check that im no longer pg

beansprout · 27/01/2007 14:03

Sorry that medical logic is so brutal, just when you need wrapping up in cotton wool for a bit.

lissielou · 27/01/2007 14:27

just feel v sad. normally im excited about testing, but this time im dreading it

rahrah1 · 27/01/2007 19:09

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Impatience · 27/01/2007 19:53

Oh poor you Lissie, that sounds really shitty. Here's a big duvet and the comfiest seat on the sofa.

I think I'm slowly giving up on ttc: I couldn't even be bothered to trek over for my insemination this afternoon. Hadn't seen any cm since yesterday morning, but should really have gone just to be sure. Just felt it wouldn't make any difference, so why bother. I'm steadily slipping lower and lower about this. Anyone else thinking of giving up?

beansprout · 27/01/2007 21:27

I feel a certain resignation, not sure if I want to give up, but not being preg seems to be becoming a way of life. Would really love to be able to just STOP THINKING ABOUT IT though!!

duchesse · 27/01/2007 22:00

Impatience- yes, me. Quite seriously wondering whether to stop "trying".

Rather worried about doing a Cherie Blair at 45 though. Which is only 6 years away. What am I thinking? I'm just too old to have another kid.

Maybe I should concentrate on the career from now.

Dunno.

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lissielou · 27/01/2007 22:07

tbh, i dont think anyone really understands the ache... bastards

duchesse · 28/01/2007 19:08

Whilst googling subclinical hypothyroidism, I came across this site .

I have about 60% of those symptoms listed. On Thursday, I went shopping for vitamins and siberian ginseng. Feeling loads more energetic already.

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rahrah1 · 28/01/2007 19:57

OMG - I know this sounds crazy but I have loads of these symptoms: (or am I a drama queen- I suffer from Anxiety/Panic attacks)

#Tendency to gain weight and unable to loose it, especially around the waist.

Tendency to tremble when under pressure.

Reduced sex drive.

Lightheaded when rising from a laying down position.

Unable to remember things.

Lack of energy in the mornings and also in the afternoon between 3 to 5 pm.

Feel better suddenly for a brief period after a meal.

Often feel tired betweeen 9 - 10 pm, but resist going to bed.

Crave for salty, fatty, and high protein food such as meat and cheese.

Increase symptoms of PMS for women; period are heavy and then stop, or almost stopped on the 4th day, only to start flow again on the 5th or 6th day.

Pain in the upper back or neck with no apparent reasons .

Feels better when stress is relieved, such as on a vacation.

Difficulties in getting up in the morning

Mild depression

Food and or inhalant allergies

Lethargy and lack of energy

Increased effort to perform daily tasks

Decreased ability to handle stress

Dry and thin skin

Low Body Temperature

Nervousness

Palpitation

#Alternating constipation and diarrhea