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It'll never happen, and even if it does, something will go wrong. Hut of Doom part deux

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duchesse · 19/01/2007 19:43

There wasn't any more room for moaning with all those grinny smilies's eyes following me around the room.

Suspected (my own self-diagnosis) perimenopause, anyone?

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beansprout · 14/02/2007 08:24

Hi everyone. How are you today impatience?

MrsMcJnr · 14/02/2007 10:42

So sorry you are having a hard time of it Impatience. I think being pro-active makes you feel better and more in control so that sounds good that you are seeing the GP to get re-assessed. I think you are entitled to self-indulgent days hon. Sorry for not being around more to chat to you.

I was feeling great (well sick, headachy and tired but not complaining) until today when I started spotting again. MW has booked me in for an early scan next Friday to check it out but it is really scary and I feel so helpless. Just cannot bear the thought of losing this beanie. Trying to keep calm and keep perspective but it?s hard to think about anything else.

Hey Sideways, how are you doing? Long time no speak.

Fingerscrossed2007 · 14/02/2007 12:22

Thinking of you MrsmcJ
xx

Impatience · 14/02/2007 12:54

Oh MrsMc, I hope it's OK. Hopefully it's just having a wriggle to get comfy for the long stay. Keep us posted.

Thanks again for all the loveliness from everyone. I'm feeling a lot better today, although I'm in the office rather than shuffling around at home, so don't have much choice. We're having a get-together with our donor and his wife to talk about future possibilities at the weekend, which is very due given how long he's kept going so far for me. We need to know whether they'd be prepared to keep going, to try again with dp, whether they would get involved with IVF etc. So it really is crunch time. I think we're still set for this month though, and I think I'll give it a month of hardcore charting and OPKing (thanks for the several-times-a-day tip), and get the hormone checks sorted out. So, we'll just carry on for now, but with an eye on changes ahead.

sideways · 14/02/2007 12:57

Hi MrsMc - thanks for coming to check up on us. I hope your spotting is ok and there's nothing wrong. So many people seem to have spotting and go on to have normal pregnancies. Fingers crossed for you anyway, make sure you pop back into the Hut and update us.

I'm ok, at the "business" part of the month, which is a struggle as I feel like crap and have done for a few days now. I've got the cold/flu thing that seems to be going round. Only four more days then I can forget all about sex again and settle down for the torment of the 2ww.

Sorry for moaning, but this is the hut .

MrsMcJnr · 14/02/2007 12:59

Hope it goes well Impatience. I am sure you have considered this but is all ok with your donor? if he'd agree to get his sperm levels checked, that might let you tick one box?

MrsMcJnr · 14/02/2007 13:07

Crossed with you Sideways, I can empathise, it's horrible feeling you should when you don't feel like it. Thanks Fingerscrossed, I'll keep you all posted.

Impatience · 14/02/2007 13:09

Getting our donor checked is one of the things we need to discuss. However, given he accidentally got his wife pregnant and dp got pregnant with one shot it doesn't look like the problem lies with him!

beansprout · 14/02/2007 13:29

Sideways - just to say, I'm in the same boat as you! Roll on CD20!!

MrsMc - hope everything is ok with you.

sideways · 14/02/2007 13:33

beansprout - at least I only have to wait till CD 12 ish, then I'm done!

The one advantage of short cycles and early ov, I guess. But then I don't really get that many changes each month do I [hmmm]

sideways · 14/02/2007 13:34

Having thought about that with my non-bimbo head on, I expect I get the same number of chances as everyone else, just don't have to wait as long to find out I have ftc.

Impatience · 14/02/2007 13:49

Sideways, it means you get to spread the joy of FTC over more months per day of duty sex

sideways · 14/02/2007 13:57

Hmmm, more failures per year, lucky me

Fingerscrossed2007 · 14/02/2007 14:00

Impatience, just scanned though the last couple of days of the "gloom thread" ( am at home with flu) and just wanted to say am thinking of you tonight when you have your chat. You probably know this but have though about asking for a referral to fertility anyway. You would then be able to get things like your tubes checked - this would affect IUI and IVF options anyway.

Debbsyandson · 14/02/2007 14:11

Here you go ladies some pink champagne and a huuuge box of strawberries for you enjoy xx

Impatience · 14/02/2007 14:21

Hmm, Debs, thanks!

Fingerscrossed, thanks for thinking of me. We're having our big meeting at the weekend, so think of me Sunday! Yes, I'm going to ask to get put on the list for being checked out. It keeps the doors open for whatever we decide to do in the end. Hope you feel better soon.

beansprout · 14/02/2007 14:31

Thinking of you Impatience - let us know how you get on.

Duchesse - you ok? How is the 5th week going?!

Lol at "duty sex"!!

Thanks for champagne and strawberries Debs!

Have just met dh for half hour lunch in Pret at Kings Cross. In our world this is a deeply romantic date. Sad, but true.

Catbabymummy · 14/02/2007 15:33

Vday is like any other day in my house, buts that cause dh and I are so sickeningly sweet all the time
He's home tonight going to jump on him, cold or no cold. Get me knocked up you b***d!!

sideways · 14/02/2007 18:13

"Get me knocked up you b**d" - that's got to be one of the most romantic Valentine's quotes ever .

Might even use it myself!

lissielou · 14/02/2007 18:19

hi im back. any morphine and vodka going?

sideways · 14/02/2007 18:20

Hi lissie, good to see you back - iykwim - how are you feeling atm, if that isn't a stupid question.

Vodka and morphine combo coming right up.

lissielou · 14/02/2007 18:24

tbh, like shit. my knee jerk reaction was NEVER AGAIN!! but in a months time ill be obsessing about ewcm and temps again. im so badly bruised all over my side and my stitches and ironically my belly looks 6m pg. to top it off my remaining tube is fucked up too

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duchesse · 14/02/2007 18:32

Lissie- one Hut O'Gloom coming up, in its standard gallon size, with a Shitty Malarkey chaser. I promise you you won't feel anything after that little lot.

What options have you been presented with? And do they know why your tubes are so buggered?

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duchesse · 14/02/2007 18:37

Valentine's Day here never a big deal either. If I were a different kind of person, my husband would be rapidly losing his will to live by now- not only has he gone off to play quintets this evening, but he cheerfully took the little car this morning (due to his long drive to Dartmoor coming up this eve), leaving me the big car that he normally takes, omitting to tell me the damned thing only had enough petrol to get three quarters of the way to our daughter's school. Which was fun- stuck four miles from home on a country lane...

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lissielou · 14/02/2007 18:44

right- deep breath:

during my cs i got a v nasty uterine infection. after 18m id had 3 mc. my 5th pg was ectopic. after laproscopy to remove the left tube i started lots of internal bleeding. on fri they opened me up again properly and found that my right tube is covered in adhesions and blocked, during the cs they put my bladder back, too low down. the infection has damaged the opening between the tube and womb. and we arent eligable for any help conceiving coz we have 1 son.

im so angry at my shitty failing body and my baby for not moving that extra couple of inches to safety. and so sad and embarressed that ive failed again. bean was the size of a malteser this time and had got further than any of the mcs in terms of development.

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