It'll never happen, and even if it does, something will go wrong. Hut of Doom part deux

[duchesse]

There wasn't any more room for moaning with all those grinny smilies's eyes following me around the room.

Suspected (my own self-diagnosis) perimenopause, anyone?

oh cbm, it might help if dh goes in ahead of you to make sure evryones up to date. its awful isnt it?

sorry, just keep popping on to see how everyone is. thanks

I think I'll be okay, I think the dreams allowed me to be mentally prepared for it, and it affected dh just as much, he was so excited that I was pg, basically he always wanted me to have a baby, but he had made it clear that it was my choice and her would accept (for years I was very unsure about whether I wanted a baby). So when I told him that I wwanted ttc, he was so happy, and so excited about the prospect of being a daddy again, he missed out a bit of the early stuff with his ds, with him and his ex splitting up before they knew she was pg, and he didn't meet his ds until he was 3 weeks old.

Oooh I hope Duchesse doesn't wrist slap us for trying to solve a problem!
Duchesse, we're quite miserable really, I have 3 bottles of Vodka and have taken to stealing hubcaps to pay for my coke habit!!

pmsl

But, CatBaby, there are plenty of bottles of Coke in the Hut.

Your gathering will be all right. I feel it in my bones. Expect one of the more child-free ones to say something mildly insensitive, but the rest will be gentle with you.

Actually they are all child free, only one couple apart from us ttc... damn them they have no idea od the pressure!

I know I should go and say hello on the March thread, but I can't face it. Can I just skulk in here for a bit instead?

You sure can. Am feeling miserable atm, back ache feels like period about to start...
I think I'll open the Vodka, d'you fancy a shot or 3?

Don't mind if I do

God I really do feel miserable. I've convinced myself that I will never be pg again and I will never have a baby. Doesn't help dh has been snapping. Was feeling really happy this morning now in the black pit of dispair. Was actually contemplating doing a test but know I'm just setting myself up for disappointment. Anyone else feel the same?

I know what you mean. I think I have gone into some sort of denial. We go through the motions of ttc each month, but each month it doesn't happen. I feel almost surprised when anyone on the monthly ttc threads gets a BFP as it feels like a very long way from what we are doing. I don't feel too depressed, just resigned to it all at the moment.

I bounce from trying to be positive to being really down. If I resign myself to it never happening I'm not sure if I can pick myself back up. However I have waives of doubt that we will ever have another baby. Then on other occasions I can convince myself to be positive... however I am a Gemini...and they have split personalities! So maybe I'm just confused!

I've got to have a moan about the threads about wanting a particular sex child.. It gets my goat! I feel like answering you should be blood lucky with any child... They are little miracles! It makes me bloody steaming how its so blood easy for some people and all they have to worry about is what sex they might have this time... ...very

IKWYM... can I confess that I get a teeny bit cheesed off about people who already have a child moaning that they can't seemed to have no. 2. I mean I don't have any kids! What's to guarantee that I will have a successful pg? None whatsoever!

BTW ladies, don't get all uptight with what I said last night, it's just bump envy
Being totally stupid and am mad at myself. Did a pg test, and to no-one's surprise got a BFN.
Good job there's an offer on at Boots, going to stock up....

Catbaby- you can get pg tests from ebay. Don't know how effective they are, but they are a LOT cheaper (small stick ones are about 10 pounds for 12-15 tests) Plus no-one is going to get uptight about anything you say in here... Everything's allowed. That's the purpose of the Hut.

Catababy - don't worry, as duchesse says, this is the place where you get to say it. Ttc is sh*te, and it's hard and often painful and frankly this is by far the best thread in the whole damn section!!!

ahem FTC, not ttc, Beansprout.

Sorry, missed that one! Is the "F" for "failure" though? Not sure about that negative vibe man....

I could cheerfully walk this morning. Anyone want to join me on a Thelma and Lousie type adventure? We can pick up men if you want. I might put Colin Firth in the boot in case I feel like him later, but in the meantime I'm off for a two hour massage, with essential oils, THE LOT.

I'd fight you for Colin Firth. Although I'm recently being converted to the aging charms of Bill Nighy. Dunno why- he must be 60 if he's a day.

And I'd join you on your T&L adventure. We could drive to...Wolverhampton.

Impatience coined the FTC thing- "failing to conceive".

I knew you had good taste duchesse. I'm feeling generous, so we can share him.

Ahem, I've met Bill Nighy and he is utterly charming, and known in my group of friends as "pseudo dad sex god".

Wolverhampton you say? Crazy-zeee, I'd have to leave the M25 and everything!! Come on!!!!!

Ok, if I set off from Devon now I can meet you at the Watford Gap. It'll take you that time to leave That London.

Can you meet me at junction 2 of the M1? I make not make it all the way to Watford without stocking up on Kendal mint cake and general country supplies.