It'll never happen, and even if it does, something will go wrong. Hut of Doom part deux

[duchesse]

There wasn't any more room for moaning with all those grinny smilies's eyes following me around the room.

Suspected (my own self-diagnosis) perimenopause, anyone?

I totally, totally understand what you are saying. Have been with dh for 7 years and know that those first, giddy days are not coming back. That said, as much as we all thoroughly deserve a pick me up, this sort of thing can get really tricky, just emotionally, if nothing else, and in the middle of ttc, it can be a real recipie for a head f*ck. Look after yourself. We are here if you need us but I'm sure that the last thing you need at the moment is guilt or regret.

Here endeth the lecture (for god only knows, I really don't have a place on the moral high ground).

You're right Beansprout. I really don't need anything more to f*ck with my head at the moment - I am screwed up enough as it is.

I just know from bitter experience that we can always feel worse, even when we think that's unlikely. Very bitter experience. Not nice. If only the tv was better on Fridays!

I nice bottle of wine and a fun night with Mr Crypto is much more in order I think. Thanks for the nudge in the right direction

Good on you Crypto - hope you have a lovely cosy evening

I feel all fuzzy now, but being as this is the hut, I'll take it elsewhere.....

Yes, sorry for derailing the thread everybody

Don't be, I think this is part of the stress we are all feeling. You don't find this level of honesty on those chirpy chirpy cheep cheep other threads.

That's very true. It is such a relief to be able to pour stuff out here. Three cheers for Duchesse for starting the thread.

That sucks Londonlottie. I do appreciate that people can't really understand what you're going through if they have no experience but a little bit of empathy and sensitivity goes a long way FFS.

(Debbsy runs in throws a wrap of babydust in a tournithingymebob and a syringe also a bottle of gin,vodka,red and white wine,and boxes of pringles) Enjoy !!
then quickly runs out again!!

original ive got those today

try them in a blender lol x

beansprout - so sorry to hear about your niece. Thanks for the advise, I wish my family could be as understanding as you... Can you adopt me please!

I have just spoken to my mum and said I was going to speak to my brother at the weekend and she has again said please do not speak to him this week, as his car has just broken down and it will cost him a $1000. she says the whole thing is going to cause a massive argument and she just does not need it! I swear I might as well bang my head against a wall!!
I did say some of the things that you guys said, but she said he really wants to show her off..again I'm banging my head, this time on a sharp object!

londonlottie - sorry to hear about your wedding, but glad you and your partner are sorting things out...Why o why are families the worst? You feel like i do, If I'm made to stand in that church I will have a breakdown... it will be like torture..but yes your right you are made to feel like a selfish, jealous, spiteful person....Hope the pressure does not get too much!

lol at Debsy - thanks for the goodies!

rahrah - how can you think of speaking to your brother when his car has just broken down . Can your mother really be that insensitive as to compare your experience with a car? Not surprised you are despairing.

Lottie - sorry about your wedding plans. Can see why your mother's wedding may not be the highlight of your social calendar.

Some people are really SO insensitive

Debsy - thanks for the package!!

Londonlottie - so sorry to hear about that. Sounds v rough. I wish your mum could have delayed things by a few months just to make things a bit easier for you.

Rahrah - consider yourself adopted!

sideways - yes my mother can be that insensitive .. One classic was when we went to the church for a christdingle service and we got an orange with a candle..me and dh took it to Bertie's grave and my mother says "have you two just put that on the grave" we said yes and she said "I would not of done that you will attract all the vermin" - the sensitivity of a sledgehammer!! I cried for hours!

londonlottie - I know its horrible having these feelings. It is so upsetting knowing that such a special experience has been destroyed. It's far 2 early to be going to a weeding if that is how you are feeling... I agree, a little over the top! Gift lists... what do they need at their age!

That will be the next thing a list of things we can buy for the christening, knowing our luck it will be a tradition to have a gift list for christening in USA. (They tend to take the best tradition from each country!)

Oh brilliant! Snacks!

allows saintly air to crumble slightly in order to cram a few Pringles in

Rahrah - that comment about the orange is just unbefeckinglievable. So sorry.

Your mother sounds like mine used to be before she realised I was actually an adult (say 5 years ago...) Still trying to be in charge all the time; her needs came first; her health problems always worse; she was always right, just because; age over reason; her children's opinions automatically inferior to her own. I also noticed many of these traits in my mother-in-law, so I am rather worried that it may be a feature of mothers as they age.