First time TTC - thread 2

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Thought I would create a fresh thread as the original had been going since Feb. This is for anyone TTC #1, a bit of moral support as we all attempt to embark on the scary journey that is parenthood! Join us if you are a mix of terrified and excited, don't really know what you're doing yet and hadn't heard of CM before you started reading Mumsnet!!

Hi all, looks like a lovely group of similarly-bewildered first-timers...I'd love to join!

I'm 32, TTC #1, cycle 5, CD 34 (AF en route).

Really interested to see all the comments re how OHs are feeling about this emotional time. My DH is 36 and has been waiting for years for me to be 'ready'. TBH I'm not even sure I'm ready now, but I'm well aware that time isn't on my side, and I feel I've lost all my friends who've had babies. I feel like it's a group I need to be part of, but am reluctant to join. Having said that, I've been surprisingly upset by the fact it's not as quick/easy as I expected, and I just wish it would happen! The symptom-spotting and am I/aren't I madness is driving me absolutely insane!

I have that book! About halfway through! I have to keep putting it down as hubby getting jealous I'm not talking to him lol.

I know I just wish I knew wtf was going on. I expected and enjoyed radio silence whilst I had sticky. Now it's gone I feel like screaming at my stomach. "Well come on! Do something!"

I have managed to dtd pretty frequently maybe too frequently so I've heard, I've never been one to be that regular but doing it without contraception does excite me so that has helped me to get in the mood more, but before that I used to fall asleep before my head hit the pillow!!

Welsome sky I feel very much like you! Time is not on my side I had a feeling it would be hard to conceive just not this bloody hard! We followed smep over the bank holiday and it felt like a military operation, kinda removes the romance a bit lol!

Such a great book Busy! Refreshingly honest
Although I read mine on my kindle so no one at work would jump to conclusions ha ha

I know right - the three years I had of the implant and no AF were great! I then went on pill as it was playing up at the end and I didn't want to risk AF paying a visit on my wedding day or honeymoon. Am hoping the pill might have helped regulate things a bit - we'll see...

Welcome skylucy yeah I know what you mean - I'm ready to join the mum club! Cd20 for me and I'm eager to test but I know that's insane!! I got on holiday next weds so I hope to know either way then - it'll either be a celebratory relaxing hol or a cocktail drinking relaxing hol

I keep testing I know I shouldn't because its such a disappointment every time! I went a a bit mad and bought a more expensive ovulation kit and a thermometer late last night whilst feeling thoroughly depressed 😕 im starting to feel like we're never going to get pregnant.. DH thinks this is af coming I think he's right 😠

Ooh eva I hope you have a nice holiday, with lots of MOCKTAILS!

pj I'm like that at the minute I can't read my books at work and having to wear cardigans in this blistering bloody heat to cover up the telltale butterfly stitches on my arm so no one at work sees!

Hi skylucy - I'm exactly the same! As in, I'm 35, so it's now or never. But I must admit I've put it off for as long as I can! I do want a family, but I think the massive responsibility and the fact that I will never again only have myself to think about gave me the heebies. Alone time is very important to me and I'm suddenly hyper aware that I may not have that anymore soon. DH is much more chilled about it than I am (although clueless about how conceiving works, as I was until a couple of weeks ago), but he's 41, so the now or never force is stronger in him!

Thanks busynothings
I had a temp dip today which I was gutted about as thought it was supposed to stay high if fertilised. But then did a lot of reading and apparently there's such a thing called "implantation dip" around dpo6-9 and I am praying that's what mine is

Quite upset as af has come back today after 3 days off. It cd7 so I was planning on dtd tonight as think I'll ovulate around cd10 so that's a bit of a spanner in the works. Wish my body would just settle down already! I knew it would take a while, possibly even several months, but I'm so impatient to get going!

Oh no Jjspoon! How annoying! Hope things settle down for you soon.

I'm nervously awaiting Friday when first real AF is due - hoping I'm regular soon or tracking things will be difficult!

So I did my first OPK test (couldn't resist even though I knew it would be negative - wanted to figure it out!)

Now I know the pic below shows it's negative, but what confuses me is that Ovia asks for results that show positive, peak, high, low etc - how on earth do you know?! It also asks for putting in ovulation date - how do you know the actual date it happened?! The test instructions basically say that if it's the same as the control line it's positive, if not, it's negative. Nothing about peaks, highs and lows! If anyone can help me through this confusion, that would be great

I just usually put if it's positive or negative. I think the high/low part is for the surge colours. So for example you can have a positive just then a dark positive etc. I might be wrong? With ovulation, I just got my first positive OPK on cd17/18 so I'm thinking I ovulated cd18/19 as the OPKs have now gone back to negative. I think you ovulate between 24 36 hours or so after your first positive OPK so that's how you can begin to pinpoint ovulation. You might also feel a bit crampy/bloated etc. Hope this helps

Ah that makes sense - thank you poppy!

See your stick makes sense. My just sort of does in the general area. No use.

I'm sulking and not doing an OPK today. Also dh seems to have a reason not DTD every night since the one and only time. Ugh. Not much going on over here besides frustration.

So you get no line busy? Maybe a weird batch of tests?

Yeah - my DH will probably be the same about dtd, pressure does not a romantic evening make! I'm worried about it becoming a chore (for both of us).

I'm also grumpy today - had a right face on at work all day, skin has gone a bit crap and feel fat even though I'm not But, I'm hoping it's a sign of AF about to put in an appearance, so I can get Cycle 1 well and truly on the road!

What day are you testing, Eve? Keeping my fingers crossed for you!

I've just descended into the hell that is the tww. Had three days of very strong positive OPKs which I read might indicate the release of two eggs - when I told OH I couldn't keep him off me! His ultimate dream is to have twins haha!

I've really given it my all this cycle, and I'm already dreading the disappointment if I get another BFN...

Hey fuzz I think I'm going to test on Sunday or Monday. FF says I'm 7dpo today. My temp went back up again this morning. I feel absolutely exhausted but that could be due to long days at work.
I know what you mean - I feel I did everything I could this month and not sure how many months I could do that for if keep getting BFNs! Fx crossed for you

sparks how are you getting on, how many dpo are you?

Hi Eva im 12 dpo and I think af is definitely on its way, I can just feel it. The dull ache and the bad mood Im not bothering to test anymore. I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you though it's looking good! X

Aw rubbish sparks, onwards and upwards though.
Thank you, so lovely

Hi ladies how are you all doing?

Cd 20, 5 DPO today for me. I've had really sore boobs from 1 DPO, which isn't usual for me, but too early to be a pregnancy symptom. I think post ovulation hormone shift can cause this so reckon it must be that. Having to wear a soft wireless bra in bed they are so painful

So frustrating when the chaps don't cooperate busy, I hope he gets on board soon. One upside of going into cycle 6 for me is that my DH finally seems to get it and is much more obliging with fw. Previous months I have felt your pain, it's not nice in many ways.

3 days of positive opks fuzz? I haven't seen that before. Happy TWW-ing to you

Fx eva and sparks - you're not out until you're out.

It doesn't help that it's hot and muggy and I'm stroppy and emotional. At least something is changing. Still waiting on AF for first cycle to properly begin. At least then I know where up to. Just trying to stay calm and not get too wound up as know it's a long journey ahead!

I am getting a line on my OPKs but they aren't clear if in the middle and invalid or to the side and negative.

Fingers crossed for all those waiting to test!

Oh I know Busy - hating this weather, esp wearing full office get up Hope you start feeling better soon - and hopefully your symptoms are a sign that AF limbo is ending soon.

Keeping all my fingers crossed for those testing over the next couple of days!