TTC #1 Thread 15. Don't. Trust. The. Boobs. ( . )( . )

[StarkyTheDirewolf]

Hugh enjoys ISW and his love affair with Doreen. He watches out for skittle tits and weepyitis. Mrs Arseholey Fucknut (Af) shows up when you least want her but brings wine and soft cheese as a consolation prize.

We don't have rules as such but expect to be talked down from the ledge with kind and well meaning but firm words if you get too hysterical. But most importantly don't convince yourself you're pregnant in the tww That is paramount! It messes with your head and makes you crazy crazier

We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts. We want a fanny full of determined Doreen, not unicorn farts and gnome tears with extra sparkle. We've been going a while now so the novelty has somewhat worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area.

Post your stats and add your dates. A more lovely, supportive group of ladies you couldn't wish to meet. We've got a few grads sticking around I won't leave and no question is too daft. We have opk experts, cervical mucus management teams and symptom spotters extraudinaire!

Haha winging, the thought did cross my mind!

I can see why they say a year, but i don't personally want to waste a whole year of trying only to find there was a problem all along and that it was never going to happen without intervention.

Exactly winging, especially if there's something that I could / should be doing. Gah, why can't our bodies just co-operate?!

winging I was utterly convinced I had was going to struggle/wasn't ovulating properly/didn't have a womb/was actually a man. When I think about it now if I take out the months where I got it completely wrong and mistimed then we had a practice cycle and then I caught! I decided to give myself 6 months before enquiring at the doctors and 9 months before I started mithering.

I'm not going to say "relax, be patient and enjoy it" because that's patronising as fuck, and when it was me I'd have been smiling and nodding but inside saying "fuck you, fuck you and your uterus you fertile spunk receptacle" If there's no record at your gp of your contraception (ie, you only stopped getting a repeat prescription of the pill 2 months ago or whatever) then there's no barriers to going and saying "we've been trying, it's not happening, we are interested in exploring our options to see if there's something out of kilter which is preventing it". It feels like ages when it's not you, but blow me, all that waiting was just practice for the first trimester cause I swear to God the tww is a breeze compared to the three month stretch of eternal time! It will happen, bodies are dicks, they don't do what they're supposed to and it's frustrating as balls!

Starky do you mind sharing how long you were trying in the end and if you think you did anything different in your final cycle that was successful? It's such a newbie question and I know everyone is different but I just wondered.

starky pmsl!!
I do agree, although on cycle 3, I now know from opking that our timing was completely off in 1&2 so I'm trying not to count those in my head.
I imagine the first trimester must be torture!

Bluebird personally there's no way I'd stop trying for that. Why put your life on hold for someone else's? Surely you could find a way to work around it.

Sky it's occurred to me to speak to my GP but fairly sure she'd say keep going, relax etc. I did wonder about getting DH's swimmers checked privately though. No real reason but my cycle is like clockwork and always have been, opks show I ovulate normally and we have been timing DTD well. So can't but wonder if his swimmers aren't getting to where they should be?

Don't want to upset or stress out DH though.

been away . Have i missed anything?

Sat at the clinic waiting for the IUI. Dh succeeded in providing some goods lol but we have to wait an hour for them to wash it and make it ready for the IUI. So nervous. 😖😝😜

ooOOhh good luck snow !!

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Good luck snow!

The bun making ingredients are all in the oven! It was uncomfy but not painful. Just have to wait two weeks now (and not go crazy). Dh did awesomely: 37 million motile sperm after the wash!!!!! How can this not work?!?

Oh man.... All you ladies telling me to pop home. I'd better get my blusher on
I suppose I could do. It might be worth it.

Snow... Well done you! Fingers crossed!

I was wondering when to go to Gp ... Started trying in August. I'm only just 29 so a bit early for them to be alarmed. Can't even believe it's got this far.

Has anyone slightly gone off the idea of having a baby/wondered if they should just carry on and enjoy life for now without children? Or is that just me feeling like that sometimes?

Kat I'm with you, the first two weeks of the cycle I'm not bothered, and think it doesn't matter if it never happens. Then once ovulation time comes around I'm back to being baby crazy!!

Good luck if you do go home, hopefully it's a rewarding shag!

snow 37 million?? It only takes one lucky one! Fingers crossed!

Kath I'm with you on the why is it not happening front. Also tempted to go to gp and not lie as such, but say that I've not been using any contraception for 5 years but only really actively trying for 7 months and see what they say. But I know they will take one look at me and trot out the 'lose weight first' line so I just don't see the point of wasting an appt at the moment.
Once I get my bmi down to below 30, if it still hasn't happened then I will.

Speaking of which I have my first weigh in tonight at slimming world. I have been super good this week, so I'm hoping I've had a good loss.

Lol I'm on the way home . DH is most amused

Go mr snow! Keeping everything crossed for you. Hope kwicks Guide To The TWW helps keep you sane!

Kat I find the longer it takes the more I want it I don't think it's a bad thing at all to question it though. Some might even say the time to really consider it rather than rushing into it getting knocked up first go might be a better way to go about it.

That said hurry the f up please baby! Enough thinking has been done over here!

Thanks all! I'm already going nuts. Dh has retreated to the back garden to cut the grass and potter around away from my paranoid rants lol.

Yeh kat go get him

Lovely scan feefs glad your well.

Go team snow fx for you both.

I'm always amazed, and by amazed I mean pissed off, when someone tells me oh I pregnant but it was a complete shock. OK, I know people have accidents eg a condom has burst, but not to the extent people make out. I've spoken to people who have been like oh I had no idea, then they tell you they were having unprotected sex often but thinking it wasnt at a certain time in the month or they did it a good few times and nothing happened so didn't think it would ever happen very few of the I did it once and here I am pregnant stories actually add up. But then, when you do try it feels like forever for you. But if your unhappy I say speak to your gp reguardless. Even if they say give it another couple of months then come back you know you have started the ball rolling. And on the second visit you have the right to say, I've waited, I want help now thanks.

pug in my reading I came across a leading fertility expert who says that a women's weight is not a priority when he evaluates her. He would rather see a women sooner than later especially if they are 30+. (Forget what your age is sorry) but what he was trying to get across is that while waiting on referral and tests you can be loosing weight while he is eliminating other issues and not wasting time. Gp's are quick to dismiss sometimes, I have a great gp and a waste of space gp and try and book appointmentshops accordingly haha.

Hurrah snow, congratulations!! Keeping everything crossed for the next two weeks!

Kat, absolutely re giving up. DH and I are spending more time talking about holidays we want to go on etc than we were a couple of months ago and stuff that we'd put on hold because we wanted to save money for a possible baby is now getting done (like a new bathroom hopefully!). Anyway, have fun tonight ;)

Good luck at your weigh in tonight pugmummy :)

Peaches, I find myself getting irrationally annoyed at people who have children. How did they manage it when I can't? Then I realise I'm being crazy and I have no idea how difficult it might have been for them.

No AF yet but definite cramps this afternoon/evening. Keeping everything crossed for next month because DH is going to be away the month after!

skylucy the no baths thing is to avoid infections. Once my pregnancy was confirmed I was advised on no bathing until week 10. I had a MC at week 8 but then could not have a bath for another 2 weeks due to MC... Now having a bath just reminds me of my loss. 😐

bluebird maybe use the 3 months rest to work on egg quality improvement to up your chances when you start back up?

For God's sake kat did you go home????? This has been like reading a Jackie Collins novel that you cannot put down. Anyway I hope you DTD and your magic potion is making its way to where it needs to

So still no sign of fricking AF - I have booked appointment with GP, earliest I could get was for 13 June!!!! I feel like I am in limbo land... I do not want to make any holiday plans in case luck is on my side and I can do IVF again thsi summer.
BTW found out that in France they get 4 IVF tries on their NHS equivalent... I did not even get one.

kwick that is so unfair...maybe I should look at moving to France. I'll get one go on the NHS when it comes to it. I really think it will as I'm on cycle 16 without a whiff of a bfp.

For ladies thinking of GP visits... When I went at a year (I'm 30) the GP said try 6 more months and we'll then do some tests. I then slightly exaggerated (well we've been trying for a year but off bcp for a year and a half...) and she the ordered a blood test. I never thought it would get to the point where I needed medical intervention and if I had it my way I wouldn't need it. It's horrible feeling like a pin cushion and that this will be your life now for the next few months or years and there's no guarantee of a baby at the end of it. I don't want to discourage anyone but if you haven't been trying for a year there really is no reason to worry yet and they probably won't do anything on the NHS anyway. And you really don't want this to become medicalised. I would take a deep breath, remind yourself up to a year is very normal and try to relax until that time. Then, if no luck go see your GP and start the process.

I do see your point bluebird .
I'm also not entitled to any nhs ivf treatment as DH already has a child, I couldn't afford to go private, all they would probably give me is clomid. So that's why I'm feeling more and more anxious about it. But as I said I'm going to wait until BMI is below 30 (which will probably be nearly a year anyway to be honest).

Peaches that's interesting about the weight. GP is already aware I have pcos anyway so I know they will say that losing weight will help (and I'm hoping it will!)

Also had another baby bomb this evening. FiL's sister has just announced she is pregnant with twins! Getting slightly bitter about having to put on the grin and bear it face every time I get told about another pregnancy announcement.

On the bright side I did lose 4lbs tonight at slimming world ☺

I see your point too bluebird. I guess my main concern is that I have an auto immune condition for which I take regular medication. My rheumatologist didn't seem to think it would be an issue when I mentioned TTC with him last year but I think I might do some research and have another conversation with him about it and then maybe tackle the GP depending on the outcome. Urgh.

Kwick, I hate limboland with a passion. Maybe making a GP appointment will prompt some action!

Well done on the weight loss pugmummy! 4 lbs is amazing!