Aged 35 or over TTC #2?

[RememberToSmile1980]

Hi ladies
I'm trying to conceive no. 2. My aim was to ttc from January of this year - however due to one thing or another (very stressful time at work!) I have not been giving it my all. I have now decided I need to focus on ttc no.2 as I am very conscious of the growing age gap! Please join for a friendly chat and to hopefully support each other!

Stats
Age - 35
Ttc - #2
CD - 21
DS - 3 years 10months!

Don't want to obsess about it! However I think it's inevitable!

Thanks!

Buddah, DH has the job of holding the peed-on stick in this house! CB digital, so no waiting for a line to appear and squinting - when the result is there, it's there. (It said 1-2 weeks, which is a bit low, but it was in the evening so that's to be expected.)

Send I have major cake envy.

Spin congratulations :-)

Feeling quite quite sorry myself, I was very lucky to make a lovely group of friends when i had my son. I'm now the last not to have number 2 or be pregnant.

Over the last few weeks I've noticed I'm being increasingly left out. Everyone is busy but evil facebook is full of photos of days out. Being the odd one out sucks :-(

Feline same here! I have cousins who are sisters, they each have 2 children and facebook the last few weeks has been full of there days out.

I've not even had a text to see if ds would like to come let alone me. I can't go on fb at the moment cos it just gets to me so I know where your coming from. Completely on our own here too!

Spin... I'm sure it may be more in the morning. Do you have another 1 to use?

No, this was the one left over from last time. I'm not worried about the weeks not being 'right' - it was what I expected. The instructions very explicitly say that the weeks indicator is only valid for FMU.

Congratulations spin!

Feline & Buddha - I feel the same way. Trying to stay positive but it's getting increasingly more difficult when you are the odd one out. Fingers crossed we all get our bfps soon xx

Oh Buddha sorry to hear your experiencing something similar. I'm starting to resent being the person to ask for a favour ( as I'm not pregnant and just have one child) but getting left out and no offers of help in return.

In last month Ive been really poorly with an infection, miscarried and got a tendon injury which is so painful it's making me physically sick. I could really do with some friendly support.

I was quite lonely for a few years as we moved to the area for my husband work and it was lovely to feel like I had friends. Sadly it seems it was for a stage rather longer term. Oh well time to don my big girl pants. There is no way I'm missing out on summer fun with my little boy. Lots of family adventures instead x

Hi all. Just popping back to see how you all are (for those who don't know me I'm a recent thread graduate) Congratulations Spin fab news! (if you are still looking at the thread)

Excited for you trying out your lucky Ov sticks Buddha! Sorry you're feeling down though, it must be hard to be in that situation.

Had an early private scan this week (7 weeks) . Was meant to be at 8 weeks but we moved it forward as the clinic cancelled our original appointment. All looked fine and we saw our little blob and saw/heard the heartbeat

Keeping my fingers crossed for you all and hoping your BFPs arrive soon x

Fab news penguin so pleased for you, hopefully you can relax a bit more now you've had your scan.

Feline...I'm doing the same here, planning lots of things for us to keep busy rather than waiting for invites. Think it hurts more cos it's family.

And to be honest the friends I made when ds was little have mostly faded away, the only thing we had in common was that we'd had a child at the same time, I think that happens a lot, or maybe your friends are so self absorbed in there own pregnancies there just in their own little world and not meaning to be rude. Either way getting out yourself will cheer you up and take your mind of things.

Congratulations Rara and Spin, I love all the BFP news! And good to hear that all is going well Penguin.

If Best is still around, I hope all is going well.

I think I am entering my FW. I decided not to do OV this month, not sure why, as they normally work well for me, but this month I didn't do them. So not exactly sure when O is.. I just need to get down to business now

I've still got my pom-poms here!

Penguin was your early scan purely for reassurance? I've been googling providers near me...

Hello, I'd like to join you, I have a DC who is 30 months and have been ttc no 2 for approx 18 months with 1 mc and 1 cp along the way, probably off to the docs soon to get some investigations under way. Currently CD17 and cycles around 28-30 days long. Congrats to all those who have gotten pregnant and fingers crossed for the rest of us!

Hello lovely ladies!

Could I possibly join? You have made my day! I am still in bed, not washed and read the whole thread! I have laughed and cried at your honesty and real experiences.

So here it is a bit about me, without trying to bore you; divorced in Jan 17 3 years ago - after 16 years, no children. Thought and accepted at the age of 40 that is it for me. Met a young man who has wanted sinc the start of our dating to have a baby with me. I was like "yeah mate whatever, just jog on will you?" but little you know 2 years have gone and we are officially together, happy as Larry !

I now just turned 43 and we have been ttc for 5 months. I have turned to a total stress head ! I don't drink, alcohol never have, don't drink coffee, don't spoke, veggie, meditate, yoga and all - but ah I am overweight well I never said I was perfect and flipping love my food ha!!

Since we decided to ttc I have started to stress considerably for obvious reasons but I am like f*k that if Eva Mendes can do it I can too! My cycle used to be pretty much 28 days for years but cause of the pressure I put on myself I does vary a bit - had 26/29/31. I know I could meditate as I know it helps but I feel my hormones are taking over and saying "f**k meditation I want a baby" so I eat and eat and eat more.

I would like to join if you accept me as it is my first month using CB dual thingy and learned from all of you today - so thank you so much!! My young man doesn't need pushing to tdt, he is always on the go like Captain America. I am knackered though ! Fixed smile last Sat, CD12 which coincided with my ov forecasted day on day 14 last Monday - thanks to my app.

Now - flipping everything is or isn't a symptom ! Boobs hurting, never had this before, but since ttc it has happened!

I KNOW stress was not on my side until now and age of course, but I am going to do this ladies even at this advanced age. Never tried and feel privileged to have read all of your beautiful and most challenging stories. We are defo super strong us women !

All of you who are already pregnant - congrats and keep positive! As for the rest, me included, it is a matter of time and we know it !

Hope you will accept me!

Sorry for the lengthy message, hope I did not bore you too much!!

Lots of love to all!

OMG my young man is waking up from his nap...he is going to want a go at it again I am sure...oh gosh I won't be able to walk on Monday...😳😳😳😳

Sorry to be so moany the other day. It's silly I'm 36 but still felt just as hurt as I did at infant school when friendship got tricky. So much for older and wiser, hey!

Also Buddah sorry if I was insensitive it must much harder if it's family.

Pegiun lovely lovely news re your scan x

Welcome Fanny and Star.

Still waiting for my post miscarriage period to show up. DH is away next month and I fear if things take to long there is be no chance till October

Still I suppose it gives me time to undo all the f**k it cake ive eaten! Need to cheer up before I have a junk food bump!

Ideas for fun heathy fertility boosting habits please!

Thanks Feline 😀

I understand, emotions are running high Feline, but soon enough you will get a BFP yourself and join your friends !!! Also you can make new ones!!

A friend of mine swore that Reflexology and Yoga helped her get pregnant at 42 after trying for years. She says it is very relaxing...

Good luck ladies and can't wait for more news from all of you! 🌹

Feline, I'm about 10kg heavier than when I got BFP in Feb. That's partly eating to stave off sickness in that pregnancy, but also a lot of fuck it cake, as you so rightly call it. I'm just over the healthy weight range now, so hoping to find other ways of staving off sickness.

Hey spin - congratulations! Good news indeed.

Great to hear all is well Penguin! Thinking of an early scan myself. But on settling in week with DS for reception so that might be tricky - will probably be more like week 9...it's either that or 7weeks whilst I'm away on work by myself (the only appt I could get) and I've heard that 7 weeks isn't a good time to scan... Any feedback gratefully received!

I'm good thanks rara - I've got zero symptoms apart from a touch of insomnia and that's no way as bad as it was last time. Trying not to be concerned. How are you doing?

Waving at newbies joining the thread!!! It's a good one. Hope the BFPs keep rolling out! Throwing some good luck over (if I actually have any, not quite convinced it's not all going to end very soon) - go go buddah!!!

I'm good best. I have zero symptoms but I never had any with DD, so not too concerned, it's a bit disconcerting when you hear others who have every symptom going, but I am just glad that I feel well and don't envy those who don't.

Hello to all the newbies.
I hope nobody minds if I lurk on here, I really am rooting for BFP for everyone.

Thanks everyone.

Yes Spin just for reassurance. My first ever pregnancy i had an mmc discovered at my first scan at 13 weeks. Next pregnancy I was naturally incredibly anxious but in my area they won't do early scans just for reassurance. When I cried all over the midwife as I was so scared the same thing was happening again she booked me in but when I arrived for the scan I started getting asked about the pain I had which put me in a very awkward position as I hadn't mentioned any and she had obviously lied to bypass the rules and get me the scan. It was kind of her I know as she has seen I was distressed but it made me look like I had lied to get the scan. As it happened everything was OK (that was my successful pregnancy with DD) and we had another private scan for reassurance between that 6 week scan and the 12 week one. This time my anxiety levels are much lower but I still wanted one scan for reassurance. Decided to go private from the off as there was no real reason from an NHS point of view to have the scan. We used the baby scan studio and no complaints apart from the length of time she spent talking about all the intestinal gas she could see . There isn't much to an early scan as there is so little to see. I would definitely recommend it though. I know there are still risks that something could happen even though we have seen a hb and would be tempted to wait until 8 weeks if you can as the risks are then even lower.

Welcome daggers, welcome star to the thread.
To those of you who have been of the thread longer, have you ever don't a stats list? I know some threads have them, and I find them quite useful as a reminder in a nutshell, as to who is who, and what our stories are....

My new obsession now is that I don't dtd enough... I certainly don't have the same frequency as before DS, when it was once every 2 days at the least... How does everyone else manage it?!?!? Half the time I am so knackered, I cannot muster up enough energy

feline don't apologise for moaning, I've done my fair share of it on here! Moan all you like!

Hi star & daggers (sorry im 36 and for some reason I snigger at having to type fanny, so I'll stick with daggers if that's ok ). sore boobs are gift from mother nature to mess with your head star!

Af turned up this morning, I know I wasn't officially trying but we had dtd right on my ovulation day as it happens (not out of trying just a drunk coincidence) so there was a little bit of hope but nope that's gone. Think i'm going to go to the doctors this week and ask them what they can look into, if anything?

Rara, best and penguin glad to have you stick around, cheering on the rest of us. I'm fully prepared to go to battle this month, ordered pre seed, been on de caf tea since last year, also started yoga this week, and as you said zaza the only thing I struggle with is having sex every other day, just too bloody shattered for it. I usually wait till i've got a positive stick and do it maybe 3 times over that week then give up till next month. Dp and I are on weird sleeping schedules though, he's a night owl and i'm an early bird so its are we actually go to bed together. 100% effort needed this month. Told him to prepare his soldiers, he's going into battle and wont stop till he's won he did this face

the stat things a good idea too: Mine would e too depressing to start so Ill wait for someone else to start it then join in

Buddah sorry about AF :-(
DTD is definitely the key, even if it is tiresome. This month I made the extra effort and DTD every other day for my two weeks, but it has paid off, hope it stays that way.
Sorry to hear about peeps problems with friends. I made a New Years resolution this year which was to stop being the first one to contact people and already two friends have gone off the radar. But I have other great friends so I can't be bothered to have people in my life who don't make the effort.

Thanks rara I'm inspired by your extra effort, I'm planing on following your example too every other day it is then .

And weirdly enough I had the same resolution was sick of being the only 1 making plans or texting back immediately and getting a reply a week later so I stopped a few months ago. Not heard a peep since

Pants. I'm back here, in a requiring pom-poms capacity. Will ring EPU in the morning, but I'm cramping and bleeding pretty heavily.

That was short-lived.

Oh spin I'm so sorry.

Spin - I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you xx