Aged 35 or over TTC #2?

[RememberToSmile1980]

Hi ladies
I'm trying to conceive no. 2. My aim was to ttc from January of this year - however due to one thing or another (very stressful time at work!) I have not been giving it my all. I have now decided I need to focus on ttc no.2 as I am very conscious of the growing age gap! Please join for a friendly chat and to hopefully support each other!

Stats
Age - 35
Ttc - #2
CD - 21
DS - 3 years 10months!

Don't want to obsess about it! However I think it's inevitable!

Oliver I didn't mean for you to feel like you caused offence. I just read your post at the wrong time and reacted without thinking. I often speak before thinking . Don't feel like you can't share things on here because you are right, it is the only place where you can tell all. And don't worry about midwives judging you either, that really won't happen.
I'm glad we are all as crazy as each other regarding baby name lists, twins and prams!
Best don't read to much into craving alcohol, I often craved it when I was pregnant, plus lots of weddings to attend whilst pregnant, was not much fun.

Don't leave, oliver!

I tested when I got back from work.

There's a shadow of a line. It's really really hard to see. But DP saw it.

Cross fingers for me. Wish I hadn't done it now. Winding myself up. It's probably nothing.

And - cmon Oliver - we need all the old eyes we can get here for squinters.

Have hope best,that's bloody fantastic! All my fingers crossed for you.

Hi, can I join the gang?

Age: 35
TTC #2
DS: 18m

So we've been trying to conceive for around 4 months now.. But no luck. My cycles are really irregular - so basically we've been having sex everyday between day 10-20 of my cycle ... I could do with a break!!!

I conceived straight away with my first, so I really though it would be as easy and it's becoming increasingly hard not to obsess over it. I glad though to find this forum - it doesn't make me feel I'm the only one in this boat!

Best arghhh!!! a faint line is still a Line, Come on, do another one this morning! I demand it bet it will be fully there!!!

Oliver don't go, it's starting to get lonely here now!

Hi L00p yeah i was the same with ds, conceived on month 1 with ds who is now 4. How foolish of me to think it would be like that again!! - going into month 5 of trying!

Hi L00p, it's frustrating isn't it. I can't help thinking I am overacting as some people have been TTC for so much longer but you can't help the way you feel.
Best hope you are going to do another test today, don't leave us hanging!

Hey L00p ! Welcome welcome welcome. I was another one hit wonder with DS over 4 years ago now. This is our 8th cycle (in 6 months), so we haven't been trying long really but all the uncertainty over my changing cycle (and various medical advice on it) certainly upped my anxiety or - more accurately - my impatience.

Thanks for the support rara and buddah.

I did test!

Tested on FRER - pregnant, with an absolutely visible (if fainter than the control line) second line. Then I realised that this was the twin packet that I'd bought when I tested for DS and it expired in 2013. Bugger, I thought.

So I got out the Clearblue digital - thinking, this is stupid (because it's less sensitive)...But sure enough: Pregnant 1-2 weeks.

Cautiously excited and a little bit flabbergasted seeing my recent experiences. But I know a fair bit can go wrong at this stage so I am absolutely not going to refer myself to maternity, google expected due dates and calendar out our lives with two so I am going to try to take it a day at a time.

If all goes well with it I have now committed myself to writing a book before April 2017. . Nothing like a deadline.

Can I stick around to cheer you guys on and for a hand hold if anything does go wrong?

Congratulations best!

Thanks Jenny - finding it impossible to concentrate!

Yeah Best! fantastic news! It really spurs me on hearing about all these BFP. A book, intriguing, fiction or non-fiction. Sorry if you have already said I must have missed the post.
And definitely stick around, I like to her how all the upduffed peeps are getting on.

Thanks rara!

Non fiction - early career academic. But I had thought about taking a year....Rather than 9 months, as I've got a fair bit of research to do. But what will be...

Congratulations, Best!

Congratulations BestBeastie!!!

Thanks rara I could do with a group of like minded ladies to obsess with...

Congratulations best that's wonderful news - you think you're bad? I have already calendared out my due dates for the first 3 months after we start TTCing - including when I will start and stop maternity leave and what holiday I can take from work...haven't told my OH quite that much as I think it would call the men in white coats!!

Also considering stopping taking my pill the day my last period starts before our wedding (which should be mid-September) as thinking that a due date will be calculated from then anyway...I. am. such. a. nightmare!

Congrats Best (ignoring the fact i come here before you, and am still here ) Seriously pleased though and yes do stick around too.

Olivers ok, well not to try and outdo you but I have a suitcase in the loft of baby girls clothes incase I ever have a girl. I have kept the best of ds's over the year so am actually prepared for either sex.

Its als dp's 40th next year and Im planning on booking a holiday for us to go away for it in august. Im deliberating whether to mention the "baby" when booking, as if i get pregnant soon baby will be approx 3-4 months when we go. I do realise there is no sign or little line hinting at a baby just yet, but you know, good to be prepared hey! (I haven't told anyone else these thoughts in rl, id be carted away!!!

Wow buddah I'm impressed! I have genuinely been trying to think of somewhere I could hide girl clothes...or potentially pass them off as gifts for friends who are expecting girls soon..

I have also been looking into ways of helping the sex selection to lean towards a girl... lol...obviously a boy would also be perfect and I have tonnes of old boy clothes - I threw out the vests, socks and pants I had been holding on to when we moved house last year though dont' know what I was thinking keeping them, when they're pennies in the supermarkets!

Wow Buddah and Oliver, I am rubbish at keeping clothes, I get irritated with the mess and end up giving them to friends or chucking them...although, bizzarly, I have kept a few baby boys clothes somebody gave me, I was going to pass them on but kept a few. Does that make me crazy?!?
Oliver if it was me I would come off the pill a little bit earlier, give you more chance of maybe having a honeymoon baby.
Best, I have no idea what that book material actually is but sounds very impressive, good luck with it.

Our stash of DS's clothes are in storage. I'm sure I wouldn't want to use most of them again (particularly the poo stained ones), but I just couldn't bear to throw them out. Either that - or I was just too tired to expend mental energy on deciding which I wanted to keep. No idea what state they are in....don't really want to look !

Thanks rara - fingers crossed. Have spent the day absolutely shattered and not managed to be very productive.

We've got most of DDs clothes in boxes in a cupboard, neatly sorted into girls and unisex by age. Waiting for the excuse to get them out!

I'm definitely working on the presumption that I'm pg at the moment - from things like planning workload and annual leave to not taking ibuprofen for the horrible flu-like illness that I've got at the moment. Paracetamol every six hours is just not quite enough.

I had eight weeks of actually being pregnant earlier this year, so I did a lot of planning then too. If we were to have another, we'd need to move DDs bedroom, which we were planning to do for her birthday two weeks ago. Hopefully we'll be doing it for her fifth. Buddah, we booked our holiday just after I found out I was pg, planned so I'd have been 18 weeks. Sorting out the travel insurance in my lunch break out of earshot of my colleagues was an interesting challenge. As it turned out, I got to drink on holiday instead :)

Best, rather you than me with the book! I was a postdoc when DD was born, but never really got into it. My strengths lie elsewhere.

Well glad to know its not just me whose weid. I think this is the only place where we can be admired for admitting we keep baby clothes hidden away, anyone in rl Id get strange looks and ignored for life as the weirdo of the street - I don't keep baby grows or anything like that, just the nicer bits.

I'm certainly out the race this month then, all i've done is guzzle ibuprofen as I fractured my hand at the weekend, I was worried taking it but then reminded myself how there was a slim to none chance of being pregnant and the ain was too much to go on for what ifs!

spin Im sorry, I must have skipped over the bit where you mentioned you'd already been pregnant this year (was having bad few weeks and not concentrating properly), sorry though

Sorry to hear that Spin most of you ladies have been through a very tough time. Fingers crossed for a BFN soon.
Buddah, ouch about the hand!

Ouch, buddah! Is there an exciting adventurous tale to tell?!

I haven't thrown out or passed on any of DS's clothes, strangely superstitious about ut and part of me dreads the day I have to get rid of them all because we've finally given up.

Yes, HELLP was scary, but I recovered very well and had no long term effects.

I still have most of dd's clothes, mainly the nice things, but also stuff that I haven't got around to getting rid of, shoved in the big blue IKEA bags in our little box room. Plus a big box of cloth nappies.

I'm currently in my fertile window, according to Ovia. Getting 'high' readings on my CB ov test for the past few days, no peak as yet though. OH unfortunately is suffering as he had a tooth removed on Monday morning and has also got a bad cough/cold/fever. We managed a succesful fumble on Tuesday night, and I'm hoping I can talk him into it tonight as well!

Mega congrats to best, fabulous news! Fingers crossed it stays sticky for you!