TTC after miscarriage thread #4

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Hello ladies. I noticed the last thread filled up, seemed to happen all of a sudden! Hoping you find your way here (prepares for tumbleweed)

For reference here's thread 3 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2593041-TTC-after-miscarriage-lucky-thread-number-3

All those we are trying to conceive a child after miscarriage are welcome here, whether it's your first or you already have DC

Good luck ladies. Let's have some BFPs, we've earned it

I think I'd be feeling suicidal if it was y for this thread so your not along Mrs unsure. As lucky says, it's good to grieve rather than brave facing it all the time.

Good luck Cheeky and Kate. I'll be thinking of you.

Welcome Jingle. So sorry you are here. Hopefully you will get as much support out of this place as I have.

THat is so exciting Whats. Everything crossed for you.

I went to see my godson tonight and gave him his birthday presents, had a good old party with him and some balloons and read his bedtime story. we had a great laugh.

Good luck today Kate and cheeky, thinking of you both

I feel like AF is coming this morning so I might not make it to Wednesday to test

Good luck cheeky & Kate with your tests and scan today.

Mrs I hope you feel better today, I keep feeling down too. I keep thinking though that every cycle is a new chance.

Af got me this morning with no warning! I'm guessing sore boobs is a new af symptom for me now. This mc has really changed everything. Looking at my chart, I had 3 possible ov days this month as I had 3 temp rises. I could have a 14, 12 or 9 day lp although FF was sure I o'd on cd13 giving me a 12 day lp. On to cycle 4 posts mc for us!

Morning girls.

Amy I am so sorry AF has got you. I didn't realise this until I saw my consultant but my body didn't actually recover until cycle 4 after my MMC and he says it takes bodies a while to build up the lining, get rid of clots etc. So please don't lose hope. Every single cycle your body repairs and gets stronger until BOOM!

Mrs hope you are feeling better.

IC and Lucky are you testing today?

Lovely Cheeky how are you? Hope you have had a restful evening.

I am in a strange state. Last night I got my progesterone level from the hospital which is at an encouraging 82 and this morning I got a 2-3 on a CB, which means my levels have gone up. HOWEVER, all of this can still be because it is ectopic or non-viable, and the slow rising HCG levels remains a problem. I am absolutely dreading dreading dreading the few second delay when the scanner goes on and then the sonographer speaks. I have been here twice before and it ended badly and I cannot face that again.

I have to go to work tomorrow as we have a huge presentation this week but if it's bad news, I don't know how I will do that. It is also highly probable that they won't be able to see anything as it is so early and I will have to go to work expecting to miscarry at any moment. Cheeky I admire you so much for having the strength to go. I am not sure how I will do that.

ARGH!! I so wish this wasn't happening. But I cannot say how much I appreciate all your support and kindness. I wish nothing but luck, happiness and magic for us all. I know we'll get there.xxxxx

I wish I could meet all you lovely ladies in real life and have a big hug. Really hope it's good news for you hopeful. I've heard HCG can increase slower in some ladies initially and it's not necessarily an issue. Obviously can understand your concern though. The waiting game is the hardest. The fear of the Unknown. And omg the few seconds between machine being switched on and placed on your tummy and the sonographer speaking really does feel like a lifetime. Scans for me will never be the same again.

I just want to get to the other end of the miscarriage now so I can look forward again.

Totally agree with what your saying re each cycle being a chance for the body to recover that bit more.

Just at work - I start at 8. I don't know how I would pass the time at home by myself hopeful. I've not been sleeping last few days - I'm in this heightened state of anxiety where I'm just not able to switch off which is so silly as I know the outcome. It's like I'm bracing myself. I've been drinking loads of coke and not eating much.

Hello all, it's been a while since I posted but I'm now in the 2ww. I only managed to DTD the day before my positive OPK and the day after it.

I'm going to go back and catch up now.....

Oh cheeky my poor love, can you get some sleeping pills? You must take time off if it gets too much. You need your body to get through this quickly so you can start trying again and capitalise on all the post-MC boost in hormones etc. When will the EPU call you? Sending you lots of love you brave brilliant lady xxx

I forgot to say last night. Lucky is right Mrs. You do need to grieve and acknowledge that it is a very sad thing. We are all sad with you.

So sorry Amy.

Best of luck today Cheeky and Kate. Everything crossed for you. Kate, that does sound positive. Cautious optimism for you from here.

It only takes once writer and yours were at the right time.

I have yet another really chesty cough and a low grade fever. Right after implantation could have happened and before AF is due. That is the 3rd month in a row. How am I supposed to be able to keep a baby alive when it is being cooked out of my body every month? I am so upset about this.

Yes I'm hopeful we will get our babies at some point!

The bloods will be taken at 11 and I hope they will be able to call me before closing tonight. Then hopefully we can decide how to manage this.

This amount of cramping, albeit not much bleeding, cannot be anything but a miscarriage. It comes and goes in waves.

The cramps have started and they really bloody hurt! Have loads to do today, cleaning etc! Hoping today will be the worst of the cramping as I have an early shift at work tomorrow morning and my manager is observing me with my patients I really don't want to be in a bad mood for that. Can't wait to dtd again, it's only been two days but I always feel really frisky when af is here af is too heavy to attempt it though.

Kate I'm hopeful my body has recovered with this last cycle. Physically this last cycle was the best. I had no lp cramping hence being unaware of af's coming until having a wee first thing. I didn't have that sluggish feeling during my lp either which I have had since mc. Good luck with your scan Hun, I really hope they can give you some good news.

Brenna I always seem to get a are throat 4dpo and start to feel I have a cold coming on. Maybe worth you mentioning your cough to your consultant when you go.

Amy my sex drive goes through the roof right at the heaviest point of af too which I think is just a cruel trick of nature!

So I saved up my fmu and got a test this am because what's the point in being self-employed if you can't spend your time nipping to the shops and peeing on sticks? BFN obviously, that'll teach me, should have waited until tomorrow like I planned! af is one day late but feel mildly crampy, a bit down emotionally and very spotty, all clear signs that af is due imminently. 15dpo, cd 29. Having ewcm on and off throughout the month means that it's very possibly I ovulated later than I thought but we managed to dtd so much this month that there's no way we could have missed an egg whenever it appeared!

Decided if this month isn't the one I'm going to get a copy of it starts with the egg and really look in to what could be physically wrong with me to be causing problems. Could of course be dp and I'll get him on board but given my thyroid problems I'd imagine it's most likely me. Also going to see gp again if this month isn't the one for me. A whole year of trying, I never imagined it'd be so hard. My little sister has two and is about to hear if she's approved for fostering another, I just want one

Keeping positive by focussing on wedding stuff. Decided to go straight away on honeymoon day after the ceremony and have a family meal arranged for when we get back to tell everybody we just got married

Just going to Hosp. Thinking of you hopeful you'll be in your scan...

Brenna I would raise your cold like symptoms to the doctor and also make sure you are taking a good vitamin C.

Insufficiently it's nice you have made plans for eloping. A meal with the family afterwards sounds like a lovely way to announce!

I think I'll read that book as well. Has anyone read any books on miscarriage?

Just got to the Hosp and almost burst into tears when a bus driver smiled at me. The I got all frustrated in the car park as people have parked in two spaces and there was no spaces left. Anyway I'm here now and waiting to be seen.

Really hope the nurse /midwife will discuss the miscarriage options. I'm cramping in a way that I feel like it's all going to pour out.

Good luck Cheeky. I found PullUps for 8-15 year old boys at the big out of town Boots. I wore those for the worst days of bleeding when I miscarried the first time as it was too much even for a night time or maternity pad. It was a bit weird walking around wearing a nappy but it meant i could get off the loo and get on with life.

Thanks for the tip Brenna. The lady who took my bloods was nice. She will phone me in a few hours. She explained how medical or surgery won't really be suited to this type of early miscarriage so it'll be au natural. Next time they will offer an early scan if I get to that stage.

Not heard from hopeful yet - really hoping it's good news for her.

Mine last month ended up lighter than a period. Just with far worse cramps. I hope yours isn't bad too.

Today I've had a lovely long chat with one of my best friends who I have been avoiding a bit as she has a very very cute 14 week old. Managed to talk about the birth which was quite difficult for her and they both had serious infections afterwards too. It was good to catch up and we talked about the MC as well and she was lovely and supportive. We are going to arrange to meet up at new years which seems crazy in advance but that is what we are doing these days apparently! I will try to get back to UK at some point this summer I think as well.

Hi everyone

How did you get on cheeky? Sending you so many thoughts.

The scan was inconclusive - they couldn't see anything in my fallopian tubes and there were three or four small flecks in my uterus, one which measured about 6mm but at this stage, because my HCG levels are still so low, they don't know whether that is the start of a sac or just random flecks. There could also still be something in my tubes but they simply can't see it because its too early...

They took some more bloods so will call with my results later on. Fingers crossed they have gone up again. I am seeing my consultant tomorrow to go through the results and see what is next. Next scan is in 10 days at which stage they hope to see something...

So basically far from out the wood but it is better than them having seen an ectopic. That still could be the case, but today there is a big of hope.

Thanks for all your support. xxx