TTC after miscarriage thread #4

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Hello ladies. I noticed the last thread filled up, seemed to happen all of a sudden! Hoping you find your way here (prepares for tumbleweed)

For reference here's thread 3 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2593041-TTC-after-miscarriage-lucky-thread-number-3

All those we are trying to conceive a child after miscarriage are welcome here, whether it's your first or you already have DC

Good luck ladies. Let's have some BFPs, we've earned it

When I think of everything I've been through then it totally overwhelms me but I try to not to look at it like one big mess but rather in chunks. The cancer was separate and the miscarriages are separate.

The scan will be in three weeks when im 8 weeks. I'm very grateful. I'm lucky because most of my dealings with NHS services have been amazing. My miscarriage was the worst experience of my life though. I don't blame the NHS as a whole or the staff I saw because they were kind. But I was left to get on with it and scans were delayed because it happened at Christmas. I blame the government - the department was so understaffed at that time. I'm still grateful we have an NHS though. I just need to get through the next 21 days.

Hi all, so sorry for your losses. I've only read back a few pages but can see some are on going, really feel for you. I hope it's okay to join - I'm 13 days post medical miscarriage at 11 weeks and we have just started ttc again. No idea if/when I'll ovulate which is making me feel a bit lost with it all, but it feels right to get going with it ASAP.

whatshername that's so great you get a scan at 8 weeks... So pleased you're doing well!

cheeky I'm so sorry you are going through this... Sounds like you have had a tough time before the MC too. Make sure you are kind to yourself and don't go to work if you feel you need to be at home.

jinglebelmel I'm really sorry for your loss and welcome... Lots of good luck TTC again.

The fall down the stairs wasn't too bad... I'm bruised but aside from that I'll live! Had an awful meeting with the head teacher today. Things are still ongoing from when they advertised part of my job. But hopefully I'll get a new job for September and I'm asking for more money I'm not normally like that but they have treated me so badly since the MC that I think I deserve it!

Praying my temps go up tomorrow... insufficiently keep us posted on Wednesdays test!!!

Welcome jinglebel and sorry for your loss. I have found this thread very helpful and supportive since my mmc last month

After spotting, spotting and more spotting it's finally looking like the red tide might be coming at last

That's great 5tar at least you know where you're at. Hope it is over before you know it!

I'm still 'spotting' but it's more like an early light period (3 days early). Still hoping its implantation bleeding, but got a BFN this morning and I think it's too heavy.

Anyone got any experience with implantation bleeding? Can it be like a light period, and is it possible to get a BFN during implantation bleeding but a BFP a few days later? Wishful thinking I know!

In both of my pregnancies, I got light spotting around 3-4 days before a positive pregnancy test. After it starts implanting (which gives the bleed I think) it takes a few days for the HCG to rise for a pg test to pick up... There is no way you could get IB and a positive so soon from what I understand...

GOOD LUCK.. and to everyone else who is testing soon

What time is your scan tomorrow hopeful? Thinking and praying for you. I'll be going for bloods at 11. Not sure I'll get the results tomorrow. Need some definitive answers about how to manage this miscarriage. If I get offered ERPC I might take it. Although I think with HCG of 129 they won't be willing...

Came home to the booking and scan appt letters. Bitter sweet! Had a couple of cries this evening. Feeling fed up with life.

cheeky you have been utterly remarkable so far so I am not surprising that you had a few cries. But you sound so strong and brave, and really hope you find comfort in life v soon. Are you still spotting? I had an ERPC at 10 weeks and I wished I'd hadn't had that, but I think at 5/6 weeks it will be a different story. You'll return to normal physically quicker than you expect I am sure....

My scan is 10.30am so we'll be in our respective hospitals at the same time.! I am absolutely sh*tting it. I can't seem to stop googling and trying to find out what has happened, but it is just wrapping me up in circles. I am going to watch Eastenders, MiC and then go to bed. Comfort television. PRAYING FOR A MIRACLE TOMORROW, know it is unlikely but I am dream.

xxxx

I can dream.... is what I meant. My fingers are tired from ALL this googling!
xx

Yeah I hope your right. A quick recovery will be best for me mentally as well. It's difficult to compare with the 12 week miscarriage as that felt like a labour.

I'm still spotting, just when wiping (but not every time either) and it's old blood. Wearing my big nighttime always lol but hardly a stain. Apologies for tmi !

Keep us posted tomorrow, will be praying you get your miracle.

I think I'll settle into bed too, away from my phone, and watch tv or read a book.

Praying for a miracle for both of you. You deserve it. We all do.

good luck for tomorrow cheeky and kate will be thinking of you!

whats I agree...so tough...but at least that gives hope of pregnancy post mc.

Thanks girls. Really appreciate your kindness.

Mrs that is v tough. But it will be you soon I promise.

xx

Good luck tomorrow cheeky and kate... I'll be praying for a miracle for both of you.

Thanks girls. I just feel it's over for me and the quicker it's confirmed the better. Started cramping again and had a bit of bleeding.

Hi ladies
Very busy day so just catching up on posts. Good luck to cheeky and Kate tomorrow. Such daunting days in front of you but hopefully there will be good news.
All the best.
Mrs that is very tough. But it will be you soon, stay strong and believe it.

Sorry mrsunsure. The due date of my first mmc is fast approaching July 19th. My best friend is due on 4 July and then the other one 30 July. When I found out I was pregnant this time I felt happy that at least I'll be preg when they gave birth. Now this dream is shattered too.

Oh cheeky I really feel for you in that situation. It feels really unfair that everyone else seems to have blissful, easy pregnancies. But I promise it does just feel like that. They will probably be nervous wrecks still about it. And at least when you have yours they will have been through it and will be able to support you.

Sorry my response before was to Mrs not whats re it being tough....i think through all those scenarios in my head too...my mc was in August and kept thinking how we'd have a baby by next Christmas anyway but then some days just feels like it will never happen!

cheeky and kate hope tomorrow's appointments bring you some answers and some peace of mind.

insufficiently Wednesday is test day for me too assuming AF isn't here by then.

I've been in a happy energetic mood all day, which doesn't really fit with either pregnancy or PMT in my experience. I've learned symptom spotting is full of red herrings but still watch myself falling into the trap every time.

mrs sometimes I find I need to allow myself to feel sadness and grief, rather than try to be positive all the time. Sometimes I find trying to be positive makes it worse. The other thing that helps me is to remind myself that however painful something is, it always passes and fades. And that I will feel happy again and have good times around again soon. Hope you can be gentle with yourself tonight xx