TTC #1 Thread 14. Shroedingering Like Champions! (It's an art form and a skill!)

[StarkyTheDirewolf]

Hugh enjoys ISW and his love affair with Doreen. He watches out for skittle tits and weepyitis. Mrs Arseholey Fucknut (Af) shows up when you least want her but brings wine and soft cheese as a consolation prize.

We don't have rules as such but expect to be talked down from the ledge with kind and well meaning but firm words if you get too hysterical. But most importantly don't convince yourself you're pregnant in the tww That is paramount! It messes with your head and makes you crazy crazier

We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts. We want a fanny full of determined Doreen, not unicorn farts and gnome tears with extra sparkle. We've been going a while now so the novelty has somewhat worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area.

Post your stats and add your dates. A more lovely, supportive group of ladies you couldn't wish to meet. We've got a few grads sticking around I won't leave and no question is too daft. We have opk experts, cervical mucus management teams and symptom spotters extraudinaire!

WE SHALL WIN IN THE GAME OF SPERM MEETS EGG! IT WILL HAPPEN!

Jem we match! I'm feeling similar, I was really hopeful this cycle and now I'm sad and disappointed. For me it's partly the fearbif cycle 6+ I know TTC for 6 months isn't terrible in the slightest, it's just scary. "What if it never happens"? is on my mind a lot today. I know it's pointless worrying however.
Cycle 5 is going to be our cycle mate. PMA.

Theorchard we had a spate at about the ad 9/10 of people coming in, demanding a lot of attention/info and then getting a bfp within a week or so and it got quite wearing. Besides, we know you now! It was posters barging in, no introduction and not bothering to engage, so when they got a bfp, it didn't mean much, whereas I genuinely celebrate with a woohoo and a fist pump when one of yous gets upduffed!

Massive hug alice the exact same things have been buzzing around my head today. Cycle four was my big positive It's going to Happen cycle - and it fucking hasn't. Just struggling to summon it all back up for another sodding month.

I've hit the wine anyway, and pencilled my dates back in the diary for another go.

Massive fingers crossed 5 is the lucky number for both of us xxx

I love hearing from all of you and feel bad I only pop in and out a couple of times a week. It's tough with the time difference and business of immigrating! All is good here though. It's about 25 degrees and sunny, gorgeousness ☀️☺️ I'm 8dpo and nothing going on. No cramps. No boobache. Nada. Feel like I probably didn't even release a decrepit egg this month! I'm sure af is going to rock up as per. I'm sorry she's already got a few of you. 😖💐😖

Thanks Starky I can see that would be wearing!
Well opk was only a faint line, but have ov pains and ewcm, so I think dtd anyway and see what happens. Will keep doing opks over the next few days as well to see if anything shows up.
kwick hope you are bearing up and you got the information you needed at the clinic today.
Bon chance cycle 5ers!

I really struggle to get online during the week so I do feel like a bit of a rubbish contributor a lot of the time. But there are people that I am genuinely rooting for and check in to check up on even if I dont post!

This does feel as if this has been a shot month for us. When was our last BFP?

I'm not holding out much hope for this month. Ovia is saying I'm now due a 22 day cycle and FF is saying 24 based on my early OPK peak. So God knows what is going on with my body!

I'm testing in 4 days, but I really don't think it's my month. I feel the least pregnant than I have in the past few TWWs.

In other news, I seem to have put on a stone while TTC. Goodness knows how I'd fare if I were actually pregnant!

Sorry AF found you, Jem and Alice. On a positive note, you're just in time for the weekend
...although there was a time not that long ago AF arriving at the weekend would have ruined my week

Sorry that AF got you Jem and Alice. Lots of wine, soft cheese and pate!
Hoping that cycle 6 is your lucky cycle!

Cycle 6 is looming for me too, whenever this long cycle will end! Currently cd35.

mayago I've also put on about 2 stone whilst ttc. Some of that I think is due to comfort eating after my Dad's death in December. I have tried several times to get back to Slimming world, but my head just hasnt been in the right place. As of tomorrow I am starting the Hairy Bikers diet! It's some thing different and I know the food will be nice as I've got all 3 of their dieter books and the recipes are gorgeous.
I've got to get my weight down, one, because my pcos symptoms worsen and two, I don't feel attractive at the moment and this is effecting my euthasism for dtd. Also all my clothes are feeling rather tight or don't fit at all and I refuse to buy bigger size clothes! I chucked all my 'big' clothes out after I first lost weight.

Starky Please don't go, you aren't annoying any of us!

Agreed starky you can't go. I've been watching these threads for months (only just started posting as mumsnet wouldn't let me validate my account via email for ages!) and your posts always seem to make me chuckle.

I hope you're doing ok kwick, remember we're all here if you need to talk.

Sorry about AF jem and alice once AF finally turns up for me I'll be joining you in the cycle 5 club too.

End of CD39 here so officially late and still nothing AF-wise. Only symptom I have to report is a nasty hot, sharp achy pain near my belly button which comes and goes. Might test again at the weekend but not holding out much hope and don't want to waste another pricey test.

We do need some more good news! CD16 here (O usually CD18-20) and have ov pain yesterday and today and got peak opk today woohoo! OH had some nerve issues Sunday and Tuesday which he never has had before so we haven't got swimmers in place. Bloody pain! Hoping we can dtd tonight to stand some chance!

Sorry for those that AF has got. I've been in and out over the last few months but it definitely feels like we're due some good news soon. In the absolute nicest possible way, I am so glad that there are some other people who are have been trying for 4 cycles plus. So many people I know seem to get pregnant if their DH so much as sneezes on them when they're ovulating - without you all, I think I'd be even more of a basket case. That's not to say, of course, that I'm not keeping everything crossed for some BFPs for you this month!

Sending you lots of love too kwick. Hope you're doing okay.

I think we have mentioned on here before how we assume people in real life get pregnant at the drop of a hat. I did until this month when I found out two people who I had thought got pregnant really easily took about 6 months!
It really put my mind at ease to know that people in RL were going through the same things that we are going through on here!

Okay we haven't had any BFPs for a little while have we... I think it's about time ladies! Who's next- where's that list jem?
(I actually am going by "whatever is on that list" rather than on what ovia tells me for when I'm expecting my period. Which seems to be in about a week.)
Hope everyone has a good Friday X

Morning all, happy Friday!

Sorry about AF Jem and Alice. I can see how disappointed you are so sending you lots of positive thoughts and luck for cycle 5. I know it's hard but it really isn't that long to be TTC. I appreciate that is scant consolation right now though so use as much wine, chocolate and cuddling of OH as you need.

Ninja I hope you get something happening soon to get you out of limbo. You never know... CD 39... Could be our next BFP!

Ni Hope you get to enjoy some rampant action over the next few days to flood that egg with swimmers!

Kwik Thinking of you

Smack bang in the middle of the TWW here so trying to put it all to the back of my mind for now. Having some nights out with friends (no abstaining from alcohol until I get a BFP!) and getting some exercise to distract me.

Wishing you all a lovely day x

And Stark please hang around. I know you'll post less often as you move to the Grads thread and obviously need to discuss pregnancy more, but your posts are fab and we'd all miss you.

Hello snow good to see you, the weather there sounds a treat

I love the hairy bikers recipes too pug, good luck with their diet

neon ooh hope AF stays away and you are the bfp to break the spell!

kat I'll post the list but it's probably a bit out of date. Would you like to take charge of it again?

inspector you are so sweet, and you are right, 5 months is not that long. I'll emerge from my funk in a day or too.

APRIL
Neonninja - 16th
Pug - 18th
Crazycatlady - 24th
Mayago - 25th
Snowdog - 26th
Moose - 28th
Kav - 29th
InspectorPenguin - 30th
Kat - 30th

MAY
Bluebird - 2nd
Ctulhoo - 4th
Hankpeach - 5th
Theorchard - 5th
Twinky - 5th
Kathrino - 5th
ni - 7th
Fxskip - 7th
Island - 13th
Ever - 15th
Celizabe - 16th
Hep - 16th
Lovelyfishy - 18th
Jem - 20th
Alice - 20th

Not sure / on a break
Miw
Vix
Confused
Laurenowls
Zazzles
ipatches

Hi all, just checking in . sorry to the those with recent AFs i've missed.
AF has buggered off and I'll start opk-ing again soon. luckily or unluckily I have a lot of distractions with work and home so not thinking about ttc too much at the moment. not sure how this cycle will fit in with OH's availability yet.

Starky, you're not allowed to leave. Having a few upduffed ladies in here helps give the rest of us hope.

Anybody got any suggestions on how to make a week go faster? This TWW is crawling and I'm only halfway through it. My body seems determined to make me nutso ... I have sort-of-cramps that I'm not convinced actually ARE cramps, they might just be me wishing for signs. I've had tender boobs and I could have sworn the other day my nipples were darker, but then I'd just been exercising pretty vigorously and they were probably sore from rubbing against my sports bra.

And then this morning. Temp has gone WAY higher than I've ever seen it before. If it weren't for the fact that FF decided my ov date was 2 days later and moved it, I would be 7 DPO right now (I personally think I am, and am not 5 DPO like it seems to think). Chart is looking like it might go tri-phasic for the first time ever and I am trying not to get too excited.

A big part of me knows pretty much all of this is probably in my head. I want to be realistic but at the same time I want to be positive mentally as well - I don't feel as ancient as the number my birth date spits back to me and I'm pretty sure I'm physically capable of making a baby. I've never been good with delayed gratification though and I hate not being in control of things ... hence temping, vitamins, changing diet, reading a ton of books ... I guess I should be grateful it at least keeps me occupied.

This post brought to you by TWW crazy lady syndrome - think I might go on a tidying spree this afternoon to take my mind off stuffs.

Hello again all, I've been awol lately as been horribly busy with work so just been catching up on all I've missed since we moved to the new thread.

kwick i'm gutted for you, you've been on my mind this last week so I'm really sorry to hear your sad news. Hope you're looking after yourself and getting all the help, information & support you need from the EPU, i've always found them to be great so i hope you're finding the same. Big hugs to you

starky I've said it before and i'll say it again - please don't leave us! It really wouldn't be the same without you.

orchard / kav no idea what program you're talking about but i'm loving this biologically 27 stuff, i think i might take that as my new mantra!

Anyway, stats below. Was back at the hospital this morning for an ultrasound to check my lady parts and was told again that everything is normal. I know i should be pleased by that but i just keep thinking if everything's normal why am i not upduffed yet???! Was pretty cool though cos during the scan she was checking my ovaries and was pointing out the follicles all hanging around in my left ovary then went on to the right ovary and we could see a nice big fat egg - maybe this will be the one! We're off on hols to Greece tomorrow, all inclusive so there will be lots of wine and food, and with any luck i'll maybe be coming back with more than just a sun tan....

Age 38 (but it doesn't matter now that i'm biologically only 27 )
Cycle 9 (sigh)
TTC #1
CD 11 i think

Inspector did you miss that little tip? Genius! poas on the go

Damn! Sorry alice!
Snow! What's up?!
May I am gaining more weight during this TTC business than Ever

Kat can I be next please??!
Well some people really get pregnant super easily and I just wonder how on earth do we have an overpopulated planet??!!! It is so hard for us lot!

I've also gained half a stone, Gr.

Good luck IslandGirl, will you be on an island? Maybe that's fate.

Kavana I just try and keep as busy as possible in the 2ww. I just notice I'm thinking about it and direct my attention everywhere because the window of opportunity is over for that cycle and I'm not in control of anything embryo related.... That's what I tell myself, it doesn't always work though.

I have friends comment that I have lost weight. I have to make excuses.... I lost the weight I put on when I went on the pill. Clearly I don't want to advertise the reason for the weight loss.

In my past I was borderline/unhealthily underweight so I am slightly sensitive about the issue.

We just all have to stay healthy... both mentally and physically. It all feeds in ....

kav I'm also crazy symptom spotting. I thought I was passed this. I usually get sore boobs about 8-9 dpo. They've gone sore yesterday which is only 4-5dpo. Not certain as I didn't opk this month. Also had some cramping yesterday that was a little weird, sort of a pulling sensation. It's not a lot, but enough to get my hopes up a little. I don't like to do that anymore as its been 13 cycles of disappointment.

Ttc is just so boring after awhile. Sometimes it's hard to post because there isn't really anything to say. It's still heartbreaking when af comes but I'm so tired of the cycles of af, dtd, tww repeat. Maybe some of you who've been trying a few months are feeling that as well.

Looking forward to the next thread bfp. We need some good news!