Relaxed TTC April/May/June/July 2016

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Original relaxed thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2537105-relaxed-ttc-feb-march-april-2016

Hi all, thought I would start a new thread before we capped the earlier one. Here's hoping for more laid back BFPs and a bit of OT chat.

Everyone welcome, waiting to try, TTC, not preventing, being hopeful, and trying not to flip the fck out squinting at lines on sticks.

Kitty if implantation happened about a week ago that would still put you ovulating straight away because implantation takes a good few days to happen after ovulation. I don't think it's that common to feel implantation either. It's amazing what we are sensitive of when we are TTC! If I were you I would just keep DTD regularly throughout the month and just see what happens. It is hard when you've no base line to go from. Have you noticed any other fertile signs like EWCM?

I know it's not the same, but when we were TTC DS I retrospectively wish we'd have waited for AF to settle down so I knew what was going on, so many months we were trying and there was no chance of me getting pregnant because I didn't even have a period. My period came back to normal and then I got pregnant the month later. I could have made life so much easier for myself!

As far as i am aware you do still OV whilst the coils in, and nurse said if id dtd in the few days prior to removal, there was a chance i could catch straight away! Lol. I started using the Ovia app and from my symptoms it has been saying i am in fertile period. So who knows! i suppose we will find out in the fullness of time.

I fell pregnant with my second dd literally about five days after coming off the pill mid pack. Sometimes your body just goes a little crazy with hormones lol.

I don't even know if I've had a real cycle yet but pretty sure I did ovulate, just much earlier than expected meami g we missed our window. Won't be letting that happen thus time. Gonna make sure we DTD at least three times a week every week when AF finishes. That way it doesn't matter when I ovulate, at least I will know we've done what we can haha x

AF is here, 5 days late. Booooooooooooooooooooooooooo I thought egg white CM is the good stuff but even we DTD at that window didn't translate into a BFP, very disappointed.

At least I get to enjoy some wine this weekend.

Fingers crossed to those of you waiting for a BFP this cycle.

Good plan Theresa that's what we are hoping to do as well. Should take the stress off a bit.

Sorry AF is here fingers. Even if you did absolutely everything right you still only have a 25% chance of conceiving every month apparently so don't beat yourself up too much. Enjoy some wine and crack on with the next cycle!

Yeah, I don't want to become too obsessed. I have used OPK before and they worked a treat. If i do get AF i will just take it from there and start testing on day 10, as I haven't got a clue what my cycle length will be. Not had AF for 10 years, had zero bleeding with mirena!

So even though it's our first month properly trying I already think we are out. I'm CD3 and having tracked the last few cycles my O is predicted to be Thursday after next and unless a miracle happens my H is due to be in Paris Tuesday to Thursday that week. Even if we manage Monday and Thursday I won't hold out much hope. FX for everyone else this cycle.

Could you get a DTD done Tuesday morning before he goes or will you not have time wispa?

Sunny, he leaves before 7am to get to the Eurostar, and I am so not a morning person

Sorry people who got their visit from af.

Yay another bfp. Lovely congratulations x

fingers enjoy the wine. Me and dh went out last night and drank too much, had a really nice time. It was nice to just enjoy and remind myself to live snd not spend the entire month obsessing about cd fertile window etc. So excited to get pregnant but need to enjoy the times we have together now.

saying that I'm in the fertile window now so still trying to dtd as much as possible. o. So probably will return to pyscho symptom spotter in tww.

Congrats to Chelle and Rosie
I am on CD 8

I'm sorry if this is tmi, but I am getting a bit nervous about having sex! Me and DH haven't had sex in at least a year, for a variety of reasons really and isn't a reflection on out relationship at all! But we both want another baby and it seems to be a good excuse to get back on the horse (so to speak)
Has anyone else been through this? I love him so much. I've got a bikini wax booked for Wednesday (first in over 4 years) to hopefully help me feel a bit more confident.

Also with the Ovia app, is your peak fertility when they reckon your egg is released?

Loupee, that IS a long time, but try not to dwell on it. You say 'another child,' so I assume you have at least one already - any chance of having someone babysit so you can have a romantic date night or something? I know that DH and I have had sex really infrequently since we had our DD and I know what you mean about it not being a reflection on the relationship, sometimes life just gets in the way! If all else fails, there's always wine (or gin!) for courage

Hey loupee,

I'm sure it will be one of those things that you worry about but once you've done it you won't know why you were worrying. Good idea on the wax and yesh if you're reslly nervous a shot of sometjong always helps lol

I think that the day before the last green day on ovia is meamt yo be the day you ovulate.

Hi,

Congrats to Chelle and Rosie and sorry for those that got AF. It's been a bit of a stressful fertile week for me and DP, he's really stressing about the whole thing and that seems to be impacting on his ability to perform (we never had a problem before I had my coil taken out) . I've tried telling him I have no idea when I ovulate but he just knows. He's now resorted to some form of Viagra, despite me telling him not to stress and warning him of the side effects. I don't know if they're a blessing or a curse .

Good luck to everyone in or entering the tww, hopefully we can all stay relatively calm.

Thank you!
Yes we have DS who is 3 and I guess since he was born sex just went right down the priority list for both of us. Also DH is in the army and has been away a lot. A drink or 2 sounds like a good plan, will have a think about a date night.
I know what you mean, once it's over I'll have no idea why it concerned me at all!

Loupee can you talk to him about it or is that just too weird? Surely he must feel a bit the same? Also sorry if this is TMI but I find using some lube can be helpful if it's maybe a bit stressful for whatever reason (like "I'm ovulating soon and we have half an hour before I have to go out, argh!") so maybe worth a go? I've been using one from Boots that is ttc-friendly. I'm sure you'll be absolutely fine though!

We're relaxed ttc after a mc. Just seeing what happens really. Almost hope I'm not this month as I had quite a few wines at the weekend…

Sizeofalentil, sorry for the loss Wine has absolutely no effect on an egg during the TWW I wouldn't worry at all. FX for you to get a sticky bean soon!

Hey guys! I just wanted to share an experience as a TTC newbie and hope this might help others who want to truly have a "relaxed" approach

So it's my TTC #1 for baby1 and i am feeling hopeful and excited about it - obviously although wanting to be relaxed I have been reading on mumnset/online and researching about ovulation etc. I then got it stuck in my brain that we had to DTD this weekend as I was due to possibly ovulate today (my cycle varies from 30-35 days but last 3 months has been 30 days) poor OH wasn't well (sinusitis, and quitting smoking cold turkey this weekend) but I was like a woman posessed it was awful. I "announced" my ovulation on Friday which was the worst thing I could have done - talk about performance anxiety ¡¡¡. I got really upset with him for being ill and avoiding DTD and he got really upset with me for basically treating him like a sperm donor ! I became a little (a lot) obsessed with TTC it was all I could think about and every night we didn't DTD I just thought it was a "wasted opportunity" and how the cycle is over now for another. Month.

I had to travel for work today and came to see my parents which has given us a bit of a breather. I cannot believe how obsessive and awful I was this weekend - we had a long chat about it on the phone and we both realised we want to be more relaxed about it, no ovulation announcements and no "planning" of DTD - I know there will be an element of planning and of course I will always be aware of my EWDC and ovulation time - but I think we are just going to at least try for a few months a truly relaxed approached with more regular fun spontaneous DTD throughout the month and if it happens it happens - I've read articles and spoken to friends that work in Obstetrics whom tell women to forget about ovulation cycles and just have sex every 3 ish days throughout the month and to not worry about trying too hard - our sex life hasn't been great for a while, so for us i think we got a get our rhythm back now (especially before a baby enters the picture1) I'm going to try my hardest to stop reading mumnset articles (sorry guys!) and obsessing about ovulation calendars and advice. I'm going to focus on my weight loss journey (got 10 lbs to go to lose a total of 50 lb so far) and just enjoy myself and not obsess basically ! If it doesn't happen in the next 4-6 months after regular DTD I will try a more focuses method but I'm not in any particular rush !

I hope this helps anyone who wanted to be relaxed too but found themselves becoming the opposite !

Hi posh piggy, totally understand where you're coming from. I've also been googling a little to much and am gonna actually relax about it more now. I'm definitely still gonna be a part of this thread but taking a step back. I'm gonna make Sunday my day I pop on here to have a catch up and a chat, otherwise I'm gonna stay away as I'm finding I'm on my phone way to much which I don't want. Good luck to everyone in the tww and I'll chat on Sunday! X

posh, oh no, nightmare! I remember getting obsessed like that first time around. I think my version of relaxed is a bit different because we have a toddler in the house, so DTD is never entirely 'spontaneous' I've told my husband when the fertile time will be, and we will try to hit it within that window, but I'm not going to stress about making sure it happens, and then will just assume we didn't catch until AF is due and not think about things like implantation dips in temp or symptom spotting, etc.

I do love coming on here to hear about BFPs, though, so I keep checking in!

A slightly more optimistic update here, after a few months of stress, we've finally managed to DTD. Managed day 13, 16, and 17 and now on CD18. Fertility friend suggests ovulation on day 18 and I felt a brief stabbing pain in my right side (just inside of my hip) so who knows...

Just happy to have made some progress, I think we were both getting a bit down about the whole thing.

CD33 here and not yet out. Did a test in CD27 which was BFN so it's put me off trying again too early incase I actually ovulated later than I thought. Hoping to wait until the weekend to test again, providing AF doesn't turn up beforehand, but if DH comes home tonight with a test I can't promise that I won't do it right away and not even wait until the morning, haha.

Quiet congrats Pixie, how many weeks are you based on last period? Is it too early for them to scan now? It seems cruel to leave you waiting until the 16th otherwise. Really hoping this is the one for you.

Cd 22 I think the accidental tww is going to be negative. One of my first symptoms last time was zero spots before my period and I'm getting some baddens so I think I'm on plan to start ttc properly later this month