Relaxed TTC April/May/June/July 2016

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Original relaxed thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2537105-relaxed-ttc-feb-march-april-2016

Hi all, thought I would start a new thread before we capped the earlier one. Here's hoping for more laid back BFPs and a bit of OT chat.

Everyone welcome, waiting to try, TTC, not preventing, being hopeful, and trying not to flip the fck out squinting at lines on sticks.

Hi ladies, how is everyone? I am back in the TTC club. Despite being a week late, sore boo s and sore back for the first time AF appeared with a vengeance!
Has anyone used the clear blue fertility monitor? I've been kindly leant one to use after friends had success. Fingers crossed!! X

Argh messages didn't update before my last. Sorry sooz to hear you too are staying in the club a little longer. Nothing worse than when you want it so bad and everyone else has it where ever you look. I always think week after AF is my most positive. There's hope at this time. Waiting for AF is the worst! Starting my fertility monitor tomorrow...

Awww I know what you mean about it being hard hearing about other people's good news sometimes, especially if it seems to have come easily. At the other end of that scale though I have a friend who had an ectopic pregnancy that almost killed her so lost one ovary through that and then after recovering she was then diagnosed with breast cancer. She had treatment and was given the all clear but now her only chance of carrying a child would be through IVF but that brings risks in terms of cancer recurrence and so she doesn't know what to do and is in her late thirties so doesn't have heaps of time. Any time I feel a bit rubbish I think of her and remember how incredibly lucky I am. And try to at least pretend to be half as cheerful as she seems to manage to be through everything. That's not to say I don't have a meltdown now and again, of course! Especially with flippin hormones around AF time!

NJ Sorry AF got you. I'm using the clearblue advance dual hormone thing at the moment and have had 8 flashy smiley days, so am really hoping tomorrow will be a solid one as I can't really handle much more of this BD action! Am temping and CM checking and all indications are I should be ovulating any minute now so fx it will actually occur. Hope you get on OK with it. It is easy to use and I like the digital thing rather than squinting at lines and willing them to be darker!

Oh Rational, your poor friend. Thats horrendous to go through! I'm scared after one mc, can't imagine what it must be like after an ectopic then a cancer journey!
It's a clear blue digital test I have, you pee on sticks that go into a reader. Tells you low high and peak fertility. Friend tried for over 2 years, had IVF appointment booked then feel pregnant in 2 months using this. They're bloomin expensive though (around £100) so I feel very lucky to have been given one to use!!! Not temping or anything, just trying this. Fingers crossed for us all. A lucky mo the HAS to come at some point

A lucky month HAS to come! Autocorrect!!!

Hi everyone. I'm just popping in to say I'm still here and looking out for any bfps! I'm about five days into the 2ww. I'm feeling pretty good about it but only coz I'm pretty sure I'm not pregnant. We didn't DTD as much as we would have liked due to other stuff going on at home (everything OK with us but some other stresses) and my body just doesn't 'feel' quite right. I think I'm still not 100% with my cycles as its only been a few weeks since coming off the pill.

Hoping to see some bfps on here soon and baby dust to all x

3 days until AF is due and I'm symptom spotting like crazy. I ate a whole ball of mozarella cheese yesterday and of course I'm thinking IT'S A SIGN!

Huge respect to people who have been doing this a while. It's exhausting.

Wow NJ that sounds interesting, hope it does the trick for you. If this cycle doesn't work I might look on eBay for something like that as the disposable ones aren't cheap anyway so might be worth a look.

Hi TheresaMarie good for you for staying calm so far in the tww. I'll be joining you soon I hope! Also looking forward to seeing some BFPs and happy faces

Hi all,

Sorry Sooz and NJ about AF showing up. I was gutted when it come right on time last month and it seemed to be more heavy and painful than usual. Better luck for next cycle.

Gummy, I'm on to cycle 2, 1st cycle was a nightmare for symptom spotting. I convinced myself I was pregnant. I'm definitely going to try and avoid it this cycle, it only resulted in more disappointment when AF turned up.

Theresa, good luck to you, You never know. Well done for being so calm, hope that will be the case for me this cycle.

CD6 for me and Eagerley awaiting fertile week. Think I ovulate CD16 or 17. Not planning on using OPK's this month just DTD as much as possible around that time. Still quite worried about the lack of opportunities with me going on nights but we'll see.

Best of luck to everyone!!

Thanks Sienna. fi gets crossed you get to dtd as much as poss. We did the every other day method last mo the but no look. I too symptom spot a little and had them all, even a week late, but AF came along to say hi. Will report back if I have any joy with the clear blue tracker!

nj, I haven't used the monitor, but I did the advanced OPKs, which work in the same way I think, in terms of tracked both oestrogen and lh. I was skeptical, but it actually worked for me where normal OPKs never gave me a positive and drove me batty!

Theresa I'm with you - 5dpo - had some odd things in the last few days (dizziness, sore boobs and, ahem, some gassiness) by today I feel normal if a bit tired.

Fingers crossed for us both!

Sorry to hear AF made an appearance NJ and sooz
If I don't get a BFP this month I don't think I'm going to bother with opks next month as I've not managed to get a proper positive with one yet and they just really stressed me out

AF is due in 6 days and I've had some odd cramping, dizziness and insomnia for the last few days. I'm trying really hard not to symptom spot but it's just so hard not to!
Fingers crossed for you Theresa and Button

Rosie I haven't managed a positive opk either so think I will ditch them too. I think I trust temping and CM more so am going to carry on with those. Fortunately I have regular cycles and have ovulated according to my temps the same time the last two cycles so think I'll just aim for that and not stress over opks

Big hugs to all in the tww, I'm starting mine so will prob lose the plot in about a week!

CD29, AF due in 3 days & I'm certain I'm out this month as I feel so angry it has to be PMS! So frustrating

Hi all, hope you don't mind me sneaking in here. I am CD22 and 7dpo, AF due next Saturday so will hopefully test on Sunday if it hasn't arrived by then. I've been trying so hard to put it out of my mind and not symptom spot obsessively but I'm failing miserably so I thought I may as well come and obsess with like minded individuals haha. I have been dog tired the past 2 days, horrid headaches, feeling rough and the gas has been ridiculous!! It's so hard not to read too much into it, I just can't wait for the time to pass!

Starmist, I'm with you, extreme irritability is one of my PMS symptoms. They do say PMS symptoms and pregnancy symptoms are very similar so don't count yourself out yet. Good luck

Trying, I never got a + OPK when ttc my first and they drove me insane! I found the flashing and solid smiley face ones much simpler to understand, but agree re just going with cm and temps!

Welcome buffalo! The solution to your symptom spotting woes is to know that there are absolutely NO symptoms of pregnancy before a missed period that aren't caused by the same hormones in your system as you would have in any other lute all phase. It's the progesterone that gives all of these symptoms, not hcg at these microscopic levels- eggs don't even implant until 6-12DPO, and even if they do the symptoms of pregnancy won't start until hcg levels are high enough to register on a test. Symptom spotting is just a sure fire way to drive yourself nuts second guessing every tiny thing - many of which you may have experienced several times before and not even noticed because you weren't ttc. When we ttc we become hyper aware of everything going on in our bodies. We end up our own worst enemies.

Sorry, I went off on a bit of a symptom spotting rant, but mainly because last time I was crazy with the symptom spotting and it made AF's arrival so much worse than it otherwise would have been.

Starmist, you're not out until AF arrives, still have FX

Wispa, I completely agree! Symptom spotting made the arrival of AF so much worse

Cheers wispa, good to know. I like the ease of the monitor as truth be told I would get far too stressed out with temping and charts. Monitor tells me when to pee on a stick, when I'm high fertility and when I'm peak. Without it I'd probably test every day and stress.

wispa I'm with you on symptom spotting. You can talk yourself into being lucky as the signs are so similar and it's the worst feeling when you're wrong. I had the most unusual AF this month, 1 wk late, sore boobs and gas which I've never had and the so called butterfly's in your uterus. Was so excited and then boom, AF turns up. Next plan is to just ignore everything until I'm a week late otherwise that 2 weeks of waiting is horrendous. Obviously I say that but will still no doubt be thinking about and having everything crossed!

Sorry af got you sooz and nj.

Completely agree with the symptom spotting as well. Even after getting bfn I was still thinking ' the symptoms are there maybe I just tested early'. I'm with you nj trying not to think about it this month until at least a week late. Dh is driving me crazy though atm so don't know if we'll be dtd much anyway!

for everyone who got their visit from AF.
I'm still in the midst of cycle 1. CD23 but still have 13 days till AF as I have a colosal cycle of 35 days .
Already feeling impatient but I'm determined not to waste any money on pregnancy tests until at least 2 weeks have passed. Xxx

I say I'm being chilled, which I am on the outside, on the inside though I'm really wishing AF doesn't turn up and that I don't have to do this for months on end. I think we all feel like that though. I'm having a few symptoms but its nothing that couldnt happen when not pregnant anyway. I'm actually quite glad I think we missed our window coz it makes me much more.chilled knowing that yes, its highly likely I'll come on in just over a week. If u get a bfp it would be a huge and happy surprise. X

I think we all do, Theresa! Definitely better to expect AF and let a bro be a happy surprise, though.

I say all these things now, but just watch in 4 weeks you'll be having to talk me down for the early testing and squinting looking for lines