Relaxed TTC April/May/June/July 2016

[wispaxmas]

Original relaxed thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2537105-relaxed-ttc-feb-march-april-2016

Hi all, thought I would start a new thread before we capped the earlier one. Here's hoping for more laid back BFPs and a bit of OT chat.

Everyone welcome, waiting to try, TTC, not preventing, being hopeful, and trying not to flip the fck out squinting at lines on sticks.

I'm only cd4 so thinking ahead but when should I test.
Last time I was ttc my cycles were between 28 and 48 days.

But the last time I wasn't on any birth control they were around 28 I think but it was quite a while ago.

I don't want to get my hopes up at day 28 but also in very impatient!

Ooo I hope I'm weird too!!!

cheese fingers crossed for next month. It's an emotional drain this ttc lark! I'm going to try and hold off testing til later in the week. Biggest worry is mc as already had one...

Nj Oh im sorry
Yeah I waa thinking there areplusses to finding out later- fewer time till they come. Fx for you. But being patient is so hard!!!!

Sparkle have no idea when you would test if you don't know your cycles. Sorry!

Sparkle, if you're cd4 then you could try using opks and bbt to figure out ovulation. That would give you a rough date to work from four figuring out a test date (e.g. 10dpo or 12dpo or whenever).

*for not four!

Being patient is really hard!! I was properly going out of my mind once I went past the 7 week point. But my advice is to keep your chin up and be positive! We tried for our first for four months got super stressed about it and in a the end we conceived on a druken weekend when we tried to relax about the whole thing. No AF is a good thing even if you are getting BFN at the moment!! Xx

Fluffy, I told my doctor/midwife a white lie when I booked in last time and just said the first day of last period was as if ovulation has been CD14, so it was off by a couple days, no big deal, they will likely adjust it Anyways based on your 12 wk scan!

Sparkle, it's tough to be relaxed about TTC if your cycles are irregular, so many what ifs floating around. Sooz might be right in suggesting tracking bbt or using OPKs. Personally I would do bbt as it's less frustrating for me than OPKs are. Though I did use the clear blue advanced ones this cycle for kicks even though we weren't trying and I would actually recommend. No questioning lines, just a blank circle, a flashing smiley face, or a static smiley face. Easy to interpret. But expensive if you have long irregular cycles, I'd imagine.

Thanks wispa, I hadn't thought about fibbing but I think it would make it easier! I'm happy now I've worked out my dates properly.

I'm going to keep checking in so I can see all of your BFPs popping up but think maybe I should head to a different thread, I don't want you lovelies to feel I'm being insensitive by talking about my sesame seed. I hope to see you all "on the other side" very soon! Thanks for all of your congrats and advice. I've got got everything crossed for you all

rausten did you not get a BFP until wk7? I haven't dare test again yet but no sign of AF and will be a wk late by Wednesday. Boobs not as sore as they were but googled like mad and apparently that can be normal from wk5... I'm over analysing but can't help it! Ive been waiting since December to be pregnant again...

fluffy congrats again! We all hope to see you on that other side soon

7 1/2!!! I was starting to think there was something the matter as I was approaching the 8week mark with no AF but then one eve I suddenly felt a bit off and was not feeling wine at all (I was at a party so very odd for me lol) and found some spotting the next morning and tested (more out of concern) and there it was BFP!! I seriously hope I don't have to wait that long this time, it was torture lol xxx

Thanks rausten that's reassuring. Did you have BFNs until then?

Yeah NJ81 you can imagine how many pregnancy tests I got through lol

Haha I'll hold off a little longer then. Last time I was 8 wk until I knew (obviously that relaxed I wasn't even tracking AF and noticed I'd missed one!). Sadly I mc so extra nervous this time as been waiting so long.

Stay calm and happy! A positive outlook can help your body do the job it needs to! Good luck NJ81 everything crossed for you xxx

Hi all 😊 ttc number 2 😊 am 24 and have ds who is 8 months, still bf but af has returned so seeing what happens! Baby dust to all xx

Hi Daisy,

Rausten definitely going to try the 'get drunk and have a shag' approach this month! Where are you in your cycle now? I'm day 2 with horrific period.
I live away from home but will be going back to England in the summer to visit family, one sister just gave birth and my sister-in-law and my other sister are both due in the summer, so that will be a hard (but lovely) trip if i'm still without a BFP.

They aren't very supportive of me getting pregnant though, as they don't think where i live is safe and the medical care isn't great. Which is always a knife in the back ' we cant all live the perfect life'!! So pretty on my own here!

NJ- so excited for the next BFN it's looking good! xx

Hi Daisy

cheese - the get drunk and forget about it may help. I forgot about trying this month and 2 days off being a week late... No guarantees but I'm trying to stay optimistic and hold off testing a little longer... Sorry you feel on your own, no idea where you are but people have babies all over the world and do just fine! Everyone says there is never the right time or situation for everything to be ideal. Appreciate you how you feel about young relatives though. I'm the same and up and down depending where I am in cycle! positive thoughts

Where do you live, cheese???

Cheese it's hard when you live away and doubly hard when they're not supportive. Only you and you alone know whether it is safe and if you feel comfortable then they should support you.
I am on CD17 and have ovulated I think so DH and I have been doing the horizontal boogie all week lol xxx

I know a little of how you feel, Cheese. I have a big family and they've all proved fertile like rabbits! Except me, yet! Plus we're not married, so I can imagine when I do get my BFP that my parents will be a little down about that. But just they try and show that in front of me! I'm 34, so I'm not married yet, it shouldn't matter! Like it shouldn't matter where you are; it's right for you and that should be enough!

We don't live in the 1950s anymore. I am married but it shouldn't matter!!!!!
Meant to say NL81 the time I waited 7 1/2 weeks for a BFP was the month after I miscarried. Just keep dtd as much as possible cause you never know when you're ovulating after that xx

Cheese, I'm also on CD2

Nj- thanks I'm definitely foing for that approach this month. Forget about it yeah right. I knoq it's never thw right time and me and dh are happy so...

wispa- I live in East Africa. So medical care isnt top notch!

Rausten- fingers crossed this is your month then!

Sooz- yesh big families are great a lot of love but also a lot of judgement flying around. Once a decision has been made just be supportive. I don't like some of their life choiced but that's none of my business really!

Sienna- ooooo we're in this together the ! How long is your cycle im 32 daya and it seema to be getting long every month which ia soooo annoying!