TTC after miscarriage - lucky thread number 3

[Brenna24]

Still hopeing for 3x3 BFPs for this month. Hopefully thread 3 will do that.

Jo & lucky hope you're both ok, you're both probably having implantation bleeds. It can be red or brown as long as it's light and only last for a couple of days.
In both of my healthy pregnancies I have cervical erosion from very early on. With dd1 I lost her twin but the bleeding continued until 16 weeks lightly due to the erosion. Even walking caused bleeding. With dd2 I had cervical erosion from before I even took a test, thought it was a period and when I went for my 12 week scan thinking I was 11 weeks it turned out I was 15 weeks almost.
I know it's easier said than done but try to stay calm.

I've included a pic of my toilet cat to cheer everyone up. She's still following me and keeps giving me a little buzz when I talk to her. Weird thing she is today!

Amy my dog was obsessive about sniffing me when I was last pregnant. Maybe the cat knows something you don't? She looks very sweet.

It is scary Paco but I refuse to let the fear win.

Mrs I believe that it does take 3 months for your nutritional state to come out in the eggs.

Mrs I'm just watching one born on catch up, DH cries at every baby born bless him.

Brenna maybe but not getting my hopes up only 5dpo! Keep feeling a bit sick and eating everything in sight but I always get like this after ov.

Keep getting some sharp stabbing pains in my womb area, like pinching again. Don't remember ever having this sort of feeling before and heavy on my left side like when I had that cyst. Bugging me a bit thinking the cyst is still there.

I am a scientist Nitnat. What do you do?

Lucky and Jo, I am thinking of you. I am to scared to test again. I have the clear blue with weeks indicator but I won't cope if it shows low hcg levels. I will saint a week.

Brenna thank you for the EPAC info. I will call them

Morning all- I don't know what is happening with my temps, they are through the roof! Keep going up and up everyday. Waking up sweating like mad.
Don't feel ill just a bit sick and headachy but not sure that would put my temp up. I'm 6dpo today and feeling a bit depressed if I'm honest. I hate waiting for things and stew over tiny little insignificant issues. Me and DH had an argument as soon as I woke up which doesn't help either.
Think he's feeling a bit pressured financially at the minute. I don't know why though to be honest we have enough money.

Flourishing those clear blue weeks indicator tests scare me as well. I think if I were you I'd steer clear of it altogether just because it can cause so much anxiety. Hcg levels vary widely from woman to woman. When I was having my mc and having hcg bloods done I found some charts for levels on the internet which I shouldn't have done either! But from the charts you can see how much they vary week to week and really the level aren't accurate to say how many weeks you are even with blood tests.

Hi Amy, I hope you feel better soon, 6 DPO maybe early for early for implatation
Unless you ovulated earlier than you think. The high temparatures are a very good sign though. Try to not think about for the next 3 days then user a FRER or if you have the IC use them, they will certainly come up negative at this stage but if it helps you stop obsessing then worth a try. You can then convince yourself you are not pregnant. All the symptoms will suddenly disappear too.

I found when I was actually pregnant I felt less symptoms than we I put myself in a pre pregnant state. Like you I don't do limbo very well but miscarriage taught me that I cannot control everything, sometimes life just needs to happen as it pleases and it does not really care how I feel.

Thank you for the advice will stay away from the digital test. I will hope to get to week 7 and ask for a scan .

Mrs hope you feel better soon, sound like a horrible bug you've got. I thought I was coming down with something but that's now gone just feel sick.

Flourishing I'm planning on not testing at all, I'm worrying that an ovarian cyst I had hasn't gone away. The symptoms I'm having are all related to cysts as well as pregnancy but I don't think I'm pregnant. My left side is really tender where is was/is which is really worrying me.

Cat is still following me around today but I can escape the little stalker when I go to work later.

Mrs what dose have they put you on? It may be this cycle the clomid wasn't strong enough and you'll need a higher dose. 50 works for some but not for others. I said a while ago my friend was in just your situation, she was on 50 clomid and it didn't work but when they upped it to 100 she ov'd and conceived that cycle. As well the brown cm may be nothing at the minute I know you do get a lot more cm during the luteal phase when you're on clomid too. Take each day as it comes hun, I'm sure everything will turn out right for you xx

On of the side effects of clomid is abnormal bleeding Mrs, it can also cause high temps, sickness and stomach upsets and blurred vision. It could be you're spotting because of the clomid or something completely unrelated. Best to talk to you gynae about it.

It does drive you mad I agree!!

Feeling a bit weird. Burst in to tears at work and had to go hide in the loo for a bit. All because my colleagues were debating whether another colleague was going to be having a boy or girl

Paco I hope you are feeling a bit better now. It's horrible how your emotions can just take over unexpectedly sometimes. Do your colleagues know about the mc?

MrsUnsure you are certain you've already O'd right? As lots of cm and positive OPKS sound like there's a chance you might not have?

Flourishing Im feeling the same way about being too scared to test again. I'm trying to hold out until next week to test again as I'm still not convinced it was a genuine BFP. Telling myself I just need to hold out until friday and them I'm staying with friends until Monday night so I'll hopefully be away from temptation.

Hi ladies, may I join?

Discovered last Monday at our 10w scan that I'd had a MMC: despite seeing and hearing a beautiful heartbeart at 7+1 and 8+5, the scan showed the baby had died at 9+3

Had an ERPC 8h later, still doesn't seem real

Seeing my Dr for a follow up consult in 3 weeks - this pregnancy was our miracle baby from our 2nd cycle of IVF, so guess it's back on the merry go round we go.

Obviously I am hoping that by some miracle my body kicks into gear and I ovulate, and that the ERPC and 2 months of HRT oestrogen tablets will have given my crap lining a boost, as previously there was no way I could have conceived naturally due to a thin endometrium. Love the idea that the 'you're at your most fertile after a miscarriage' legend could give us a natural BFP before we do our next IVF cycle...or pigs might fly?!!

The irony of feeling sadness at seeing a blazing BFP line, desperately hoping for a BFN soon, is not lost on me...

Hi all, Jo how are you today? My update is that the brown spotting from yesterday became red spotting that started at work this morning. I then had to duck out from work to buy pads, as I didn't have any on me having not expected it to happen today. I then spoke with my GP practice and negotiated a telephone consultation in which the GP said it sounded like it could be a second miscarriage like I thought, but that the EPU would be the best people to give me advice. He also said that when he trained, he remembered being told that after a MC women should wait 6 months before conceiving again (so because I didn't do that, implication being that's why I'm ?MC again now). I expressed surprise and said the EPU had said it was fine to get back trying straight away and he commented the guidelines change all the time. It worries me that there's a lack of clarity about guidelines on miscarrying and early pregnancy for GPs. Anyway, I then spoke with the EPU who have assured me I can just deal directly with them from now on. They advised that light red bleeding and cramping is pretty normal at this stage of pregnancy and I shouldn't assume I'm MCing already, and that this could just be implantation bleeding. As such, I don't need/get MC follow up yet but can ring back tomorrow if my bleeding is heavier/sorer by then and they'll give me HCG 48 hour blood tests again like last time. Which is reassuring. However, I'm finding it hard to cope with what could be a second MC without any pain relief (since it could harm a developing baby), no caffeine (hard since I'm knackered) and no reasonable reason not to be at work. Therefore I worked through today and have been putting a brave face on - if anyone bought that I should get an Oscar, but nobody said anything. The cramps have now pretty much stopped and the bleeding is really just spotting again now, after at it's peak this afternoon literally flowing out of me. I guess I do just have to wait and see how it works out. Sorry for the long post, thought I'd put more detail in in case someone else finds the info helpful later on looking through our thread - like I say, I'm aware of the lack of info out there and it gives me some comfort that we're potentially doing something about that to help other ladies as well as ourselves. I feel a bit better for writing that out, it's helped me process it.

Banana: so sorry for your loss. Good luck with your journey.
Lucky- in the kindest possible way - I'm going to say you are completely wrong about not having a reason to stay home from work. Hopefully, the bleeding is nothing serious and all will be right in a day or two. Still, you need to rest up. You need to take a day or two. Tell work it is d&v. Hope everything is OK
Thinking of you too Jo.

How long did it take for your cycles to come back after MC?

I'm guessing if I ovulate at all it won't be until hCG levels have fallen sufficiently, so not sure when to start OPKs (I'm temping which will confirm ov but I depend on OPKs to give me a heads up beforehand, as I don't get CM) as I could be POAS for weeks, esp if the first cycle ends up being anovulatory....!