TTC after miscarriage - lucky thread number 3

[Brenna24]

Still hopeing for 3x3 BFPs for this month. Hopefully thread 3 will do that.

I mcd at 13 weeks naturally, after discovering all was lost at 11 weeks. I mc'd on the 9th of January. Got a negative test by the end of January. I had my first af in the first week of Feb. Didn't ovulate before. I ovulated next cycle though. Don't rush it, wait for your first af. It can take a long time to start to feel normal.

Banana welcome and sorry for your loss. In total for me from the start of mc to my first af was 50 days and I ovulated 15 days prior to my af. This cycle I ov'd around cd18 which is a lot later than previous cycles.

Lucky hope you're ok. Some bleeding in early pregnancy is quite common, try not to worry although I know that's easier said than done.

Hope everyone else is ok too...

I'm absolutely shattered after my shift at work, been feeling quite off colour too sick and dizzy and like my ears are all bunged up. Definitely think I'm conning down with something now which would explain my high temps.

Sorry to hear of the new miscarriages and big hugs to everyone. It's such a roller coaster emotionally each day is different. Just entered the fertile window yesterday and we dtd last night.

I mc'd on 5th Jan with medial management, had bleeding which stopped after 2-3 weeks and first period arrived 10 Feb (exactly 5 weeks 1 day after). They said anything between 4-6 weeks was normal.

banana that positive test after a mc is such a stab in the heart, I'm so sorry for your loss.

lucky I'm glad you got to speak to someone. My GP refused bloods and EPU said they don't do anything before 7 weeks. Still cramping but not spotting any more (although with my mmc I had less symptoms than this). I ended up phoning the local private hospital and spoke to pathology, I'm paying for blood tests tomorrow morning then again Tuesday. Ridiculous cost, but we are abroad 1st week of April so I NEED to know if things are going well before and I think this is the only way. I miss wine, coffee and lemsip (flu here too since Friday) and I will happily sacrifice them but I know my body doesn't let go or give birth (judging by my previous 3 pregnancies) so I doubt I will just mc, just an empty scan

Stay positive Jo, it's not over until it's over

Keeping everything crossed for you, Jo

Good luck Jo. Thinking of you xx

Good luck jo have everything crossed for you

Going for a coffee with my friend this morning... Seriously feel like af is going to make an early appearance, having quite bad cramps at the minute

Everything crossed for you jo and lucky.

Banana I got my af back exactly 4 weeks after my mc. I also did opk just to make sure I had ovulated.

Thanks ladies. ERPC was last Mon and I'm still bleeding and getting blazing BFPs, so guess I'll try in a week to see if hCG has dropped enough to get a BFN, and then start testing with OPKs to see if I do actually go on to ovulate. Presume I'm not likely to ovulate until my body finally realises it's not pregnant any more?

Seeing Dr for follow up 4 weeks post ERPC - he said I might have a period by then, or I might not, but not to worry. I'm not sure how long he'll make me wait before we can do our next IVF cycle, hoping we can get back on the proverbial horse asap.

Good luck Jo

Sorry should have said I had a natural mc. I was told to take a pregnancy test after two weeks to make sure hcg was no longer in my system.

Thanks ladies. That's what I assumed. Not gonna start doing OPKs until I actually get a BFN and body catches up to the fact I am not in fact still pregnant

I guess maybe the later the miscarriage the higher the levels of hCG maybe? Dunno - hope body works it out at some point

Although it may be that first cycle is anovulatory so may do OPKs and get nothing, but a surprise AF anyway. See what surprises my body has in store for me

IVF wise I'd like to do another fresh cycle so we can do genetic testing, as the risk of another mc would go down dramatically if we know we're only putting back a chromosomally normal embryo. The tissue testing will hopefully give us some answers - if the baby was chromosomally normal then it's my own body that rejected it, which becomes a bit trickier to manage. We will probably treat with immunes treatment anyway in case it's NK cell related like many recurrent miscarriages (although this was my first I don't much relish having to have 3 before we treat with steroids etc for immunes issues)

I also don't want to put anything back until we've done a hysteroscopy to check out the uterine environment. Obvs can't guarantee I won't miscarry again but if we treat for both the seed and the soil, as it were, hopefully increase the chances of actually becoming a Mummy one day

Thank you everyone, hopefully will get the results later.

Lucky, any news?

Hi everyone. I've been lurking on this thread for a little while since having a very early miscarriage in January, and have been really sorry to hear about all your losses.

I came off the pill at the end of October and we conceived the first cycle we started trying in earnest. No luck in the three cycles since the m/c but I know it's still early days. AF just came (in full force, no spotting here) 4 days early, which is just adding insult to injury I reckon! Has anyone else experienced this? I'm temping and ovulated normally but I've been sick this week and it seems to have brought af on early...

Hi orange jumper, sorry to hear but welcome. we started TTC in October too and fell preg first cycle. I was 3 months exactly when a scan for my kidneys showed I had a missed miscarriage. Only just getting back on the TTC wagon this cycle - last two cycles we didn't prevent but didn't actively try either (didn't dtd that much)

Hi everyone!

I hope it's okay to step into this thread. I'm 37, got a 29 day cycle I had an early MC in January - my first pregnancy, argh - and after my first period came we got down to TTC again. It's been quite an odd year so far I gotta say, but I came on Mumsnet initially to report the bleeding and found it really helpful so I'm back to be here and also support if I can.

I am in the middle of my TWW and driving myself a-slightly kerazy. I think my periods have changed since the MC, certainly last month I was getting nausea which never happeend before.

So I used an opk this month, I'm on a small dose of Clomid, and got a happy smiley face on the 15th. I've had metallic tastes since a coupla days after that, along with sensitive boobs, some white cm and the tiniest bit of reddish stuff, like a grain, today. It is too early to test, (I know cos I tested this morning, AHEM) and I have honestly sworn to myself that if I'm not pregnant this month I'm just going to be ruled by Aunt Flo and not think of symptoms.

Anyway, I'm wishing you all fx and hope to be helpful as well as helped! :-)

Hi Mrs! I have taken Clomid before - I was on my 3rd round of it when I fell pregnant at the end of December. Very small dose though 25mg. I reckon it's understandable that the pms symptoms have maxed so.

That is so frustrating re: bank holiday. I know that GPs are very keen to monitor clomid use, so maybe stick to your same dose this next cycle? Very stressful! Sending you good vibes!

Jo that's rubbish that in your area EPU won't do anything before 7 weeks. The postcode lottery aspect of miscarriage care just seems so unfair to me. It's horrible that you need to pay for blood tests I can get for free on the NHS, hope they shed light on what's happening for you though. Any news yet?

My update is I've kept bleeding today but not in any pain, and feeling better emotionally than yesterday. Weirdly, feeling better emotionally tells me I've probably lost the pregnancy as that happened during my first miscarriage, the relief I think of feeling clearer about which direction it's going in. I ended up going to work today, but wouldn't have if I'd been in pain or bleeding more - I just have too much on just now to stay off, and it was the easier choice in the longer run to go in today and then spend the bank holiday weekend dealing properly with the loss. Going into work also allowed me to feel useful and have a sense of purpose, if I'd stayed at home dwelling I'd have been emotionally worse I think, and worrying about what I wasn't doing at work. This way I have an unexpected sense of peace with it, as I can't change what's happening and just need to accept and cope with what it is. My plan is to do another pregnancy test once my bleeding stops and if it's positive I'll ask the EPU about blood tests. If it's negative, I'll assume it's over this time and get back to TTC. I'm almost sure it's over, much as I'd love to be wrong.

Evening all...

Jo it's terrible you've had to pay for your blood tests privately, sometime the nhs really bug me! I hope everything's good.

Lucky so sorry you're going through this and I really hope everything turns out for the best.

Penelope welcome and sorry for your loss.

Mrs how are you feeling now? Shame you can't get your blood results, bank holidays are a pain in the bum!

I'm still feeling off colour, have a mega sore throat, nose is stuffy on and off and ears feel like they need to pop. Still have cramps too and still feeling sick. This afternoon the exhaustion really hit me and I basically autopiloted through my shift at work. A colleague asked if I had been crying as soon as I walked in, I hadn't but my eyes are all bloodshot and puffy from being so tired.

Also a friend who had a miscarriage in November announced she is 10 weeks pregnant again, it's given me a bit of hope that not all is lost. She chose to keep it a secret for a while and then tell close friends. She's had two scans so far and both have been really positive, I'm happy for her. I don't feel even the tiniest bit sad for myself, is that weird? She miscarried her first baby two days before her 12 weeks dating scan after seeing a heartbeat at 6+4 at the epau after having quite a large bleed. They think she had a clot on the placenta which caused the miscarriage. She's only 20 and I just wanted to squeeze her after she posted a scan picture at 6+4 on Facebook, I even said to my mum she's jinxed it then felt really bad when the worst did happen. This time she's not been so hasty.