TTC after miscarriage - lucky thread number 3

[Brenna24]

Still hopeing for 3x3 BFPs for this month. Hopefully thread 3 will do that.

Jo, please don't worry use Frer or clearblue, IC's are not that great. They are cheap for a reason.

Insufficiently I only just saw your post, yes that is where fraternal twins come from and I have a history of that with dd1 so it could well be what's caused all the pain. Hoping the cm is a good sign as well.

Just got home from a hard evening at work, feel fed up and tired as well. Don't even know why I'm fed up.

Will do the clear blue tomorrow then as I think that's when I was due. Thank you, just can't relax with it.

Amy, definitely sounds like you've ovulated twice with two peaks and pain on each side. Hope you can put your feet up now.

Can anyone advise me on opks? I've been temp charting since July, had reasonably regular cycles until about September, although a very short luteal phase, and then my cycles started getting about 45-55 days long (not sure why, makes me feel like one of my ovaries is on the blink?). Was going to embark on fertility testing etc when I fell pregnant with this mc, and still want to go ahead with that, but in the mean time, I'm thinking of getting on board the opk boat - which are good? where do you order them? are they worth it if my temps are reasonably easy to interpret?

Nitnat I get my opk's from eBay, they're the one step ones and are about £9 for 100 tests. I temp as well but that only indicates when you've ov'd but the opk's predict in 12-36 hours in advance of ov so you can get extra bd in before.

I like them when I don't have these odd 4 day surges because now my temp has risen after the first positive I really can't predict when I actually ov'd or when to expect af.

Do you ov every cycle going by your temp? And if you don't mind me asking, how old are you? Don't answer that if you don't want to. My friend had a similar problem, she had regular cycles then suddenly they changed for no reason. She was ttc with no luck. Went for a scan with the nhs to see what was happening. They found a massive cyst, removed it her cycles returned to normal and she fell pregnant. I think you're wise to have some tests done especially if your cycles changed suddenly.

Thanks for the reply Amy, I'm 35 and am wondering if I have a cyst or something (in fact, at the scan on Monday that showed I had a blighted ovum, the nurse mentioned there was a small cyst on my ovary which might be why it was feeling uncomfortable (read hurt like ^&*$!). Going for scan on Monday to make sure mc is complete, going to ask them to take a closer look if poss.
I do normally seem to ov, just always very late in cycle (7 day LP), so that has me slightly worried (but on the other hand, conceived DD1 on a weird long cycle, after having had regular cycles for 7 months after stopping the pill, and got preg in Feb, so perhaps the LP thing not making things overly impossible.)
Just don't know if I want to add any fuel to my TTC preoccupation by embarking on opks as well...

Maybe give the opk's a go nitnat if you don't get on with them they aren't expensive if you get the cheapy ones.
Definitely ask them to check the cyst again at the scan. I had one picked up at my scan which confirmed mc. Mine was 6cm but was functional (corpse luteum which forms to support pregnancy). Ask them how big it is. Mines gone already by itself, caused a bit of pain and pressure for a few weeks. It can delay periods though as it produces progesterone in high amounts.
Not sure on short lp, there is another thread for ladies with short lps on the conception board though.

Morning ladies- hope you're all ok. My opk has gone negative today and fertility friend confirmed ov for cd18 but is a bit confused because of the positive opk's after my temp rise.
The pain has almost completely gone now, just keep getting a dull ache down low.
The tww begins! Not going to symptom spot because I don't get any symptoms in pregnancy until 8 weeks normally but with mc my boobs were killing me that was the only symptom I had but put it down to hoisting people at work.

Enjoy your Sunday everyone and it's the first day of Spring today, doesn't feel like it here though!

It is lovely and spring like up here. We have had 2 days of sunshine. We were at the allotment yesterday digging over the beds. There were quite a few baby dandylions which I dug up and we had a dandylion and bacon salad for started yesterday evening too.

That's good Amy glad the OPKs went negative eventually!

I had a meltdown last night. You may recall I told you dh's best friends wife is expecting and her due date was same time as mine, I'm quite close with her too and I told her about pregnancy/miscarriage when I went into Hosp with sepsis and miscarried. She didn't tell me she was expecting but when she got to about 4 months her hubby told mine. Apparently she wanted to tell me herself in person but I congratulated her anyway. I was really happy for her but a bit gutted for myself. I managed to get over that and then I've just found out my cousin who had been trying for 8 months is pregnant too now. I'm
glad she told me herself despite not announcing it to the rest of the family yet. Last night my mum told me , my best friend who I've grown up with like a sister, is expecting. Our mums are best friends too and we are more like family. She only told her own mum a couple of days ago and she is 25 weeks, due at the same time as I would've been. She didn't say anything because I miscarried and then my uncle passed away and I think she wants to tell me in person. I feel happy for her (she has 3 kids already - 6, 4.5 and 3 years) and I get the impression this was unplanned but gutted that she never told me. It did hit me hard last night and I had a good cry. I think she was trying to protect my feelings and she knew as soon as she told her own mum, my mum would know and it might get back to me. I'll just wait for her to mention it now. She came to my uncles funeral and she didn't have a bump , not a noticeable one anyway. Life just feels like it's standing still for me at the moment. I'm so mixed up. I want to TTC and fall pregnant quickly but what the masseuse said the other day about my body not being able to hold on to the baby got me all worried aswell. I think we will continue TTC but just take it a day at a time. Hopefully I will fall pregnant quickly and the time will be 'right' for me. My motherinlaw is still in hospital and it's been 10 weeks. Just don't know where things are going. She could continue as she is for another 5 years like this. DH finishes work and visits her every evening and by the time he is home, I'm shattered. Each day is just rolling into the next. My life has been like this for the last 5 years. I was diagnosed and then just recovered myself and now mil unwell and the miscarriage. I think it's hit me harder given all the circumstances. It was our first bit of happiness as a couple and it was taken away so quickly. Sorry for the rant and thanks so much for listening. I can't speak to anyone in real life. DH was really supportive yesterday so at least we are in a good place in our relationship.

Big un-mumsnetty hugs Cheeky. Life really has been rough for you. I find the people whose pregnancies our concurrent with ours are the hardest. I am trying to console myself with the fact that that is limited period of time. I think you need to spoil yourself as best you can. I hope your MIL starts to improve soon (if that is possible, sorry I have forgotten what is wrong with her).

Oh cheeky I am so so sorry. I hope you are feeling brighter today? That is so tough. I feel your pain on the pregnancy front. And I echo Brenna on your MIL. Sending you lots of thoughts. Life can be so cruel. xx

Oh Cheeky I'm so sorry and another unmumsnetty hug. What a rubbish time you're having. It sounds like you all need a break and some luck. I would like to say it gets easier, but even though I had a BFP this week, I still avoided the mum in the playground that's due about the same time as I was. It isn't her fault but I can't pretend, so easier to avoid.
It is shit, it sounds that you are v loved and people close to you are sympathetic to what you've been and are going through.

Thanks girls. Really appreciate your kind words. Went out with DH today, to visit his dads grave and then we went into town and had a lovely browse. Got myself a couple of Mac products and tried a new lipstick which I've decided I like so I'll order that. Going to visit mil now. She has suffered from respiratory failure twice which means her lungs aren't great and her kidneys too. She is on the mend now but the question is how long before a further episode? Just so many unknowns. It's so great to vent on here and read other people's stories though so thank you xxx

Cheeky sorry to hear you're having a tough time of it at the moment, but good to hear you're finding the time to treat yourself. I agree with Brenna about the concurrent pregnancies being the hardest too. A colleague of mine announced her pregnancy a couple of months after I miscarried and I had to listen to all the talk about babies, pushchairs and maternity leave whilst still grieving my LO, it's tough but we've got to just keep on putting one foot in front of the other. I'm sure your masseuse was well meaning but if you're worried about if your body is ready for pregnancy perhaps see your GP, I'm sure if there was a problem with it they might have mentioned it already. Hope your MIL is doing ok and is comfortable.

Still in my WTF cycle but think I finally OV'd on Thursday (CD33). We've managed to dtd a couple of times but think it's highly unlikely I'll get a BFP this cycle, guess I'll know in two weeks, meh!

My GP and consultant who performed the surgery said I was all good to go ahead. The sepsis infection I got was unlucky they said and more of a coincidence than the cause of my miscarriage. I'm sure the masseuse meant well too but she comes from an alternative therapy background. What she said makes sense in a way which is what is panicking me. But then I think I got pregnant first cycle so my body was ready to conceive.

I meant to say I did get pregnant first cycle so I think that means my body was ready to conceive

Hugs for you, Cheeky. Lots of people have advised me on what my body needs or is doing. I just nod and smile. None of them know, neither so I. All we can do is bd'd as often as possible and hope.

Thanks Loki. That's good advice. I'll bear that in mind :)

So today brought a still faint but unmistakable second line which DH can see too. Planning to give it a couple of days and test again in the hope of seeing a darker line. Feeling knackered, sick and lost interest in caffeine and booze (not like me!). Starting to stop fretting about whether I'm pregnant and moving on to worries about whether this bean will be sticky.

Hugs to ladies having a hard time

(Whispers) congratulations Lucky.

Just checking in with a minor name change as realised I mine might to recognisable if anyone knows me in RL, doh!

Congratulations Lucky. I have every confidence this one will get stronger. That takes us to 2x3 this cycle.

Congratulations lucky. Sending you sticky thoughts

Congratulations lucky! Also sending you sticky thoughts.

4dpo here according to FF, feeling calmish!

Hope everyone has a good Monday!

Congratulations can imagine your worry but just take it a day at a time xx