TTC after miscarriage - lucky thread number 3

[Brenna24]

Still hopeing for 3x3 BFPs for this month. Hopefully thread 3 will do that.

Ooh i love poas pics. I cant tell from pic. Can kinda see a line but the dye does seem to run frm the control line.

Asda do great tests two for about £3.something. with lucas my first bfp was on one of those and it looked like a shadow where the line should have been fingers crossed.

Thats a tough one to call! My first bfp was as faint as that but yes, the dye does seem to run through. Inconclusive! Good luck for your next test!

Good luck to all of the testers. ic your monthly cycle is exactly the same as mine. I stopped dtd as the frequency was getting too much and making me hate my dh. Going to have a break I think. It is wearing me down too much.

Thanks gingerbreadmanm I'm off to asda now! I think it is dye run... My CM suggest af is imminent but as it's the first one since MC I have no idea! I'm hopeful that in a few days I'll get my BFP... Now that I've tested thought I can't stop thinking about it! I have this hen do too and don't want to drink if I could potentially be pregnant...we shall see... Good luck everyone else!!

Fingers crossed for Hopeful and Jpeg

Sounds like everyone's having a pretty shit time at the moment! Heading away for a long weekend tomorrow, hopefully it can take my mind off everything, seems to be one thing after another in the crap stakes at the moment!

Hopefully see some nice news on here on my return.

Hi everyone. I had an early miscarriage in January and have had a couple of months off, but am back now. I hope you're all okay despite how hard this all is!

We've just been on holiday, and fiancé and I have said that'd we'd start trying again when we got back. I'm desperate to get on with it but trying not to freak him out - he's okay about trying again but the first time happened very quickly and shocked him I think! He doesn't like sex to be all about conception as it puts him off, but is happy if it happens if that makes sense.

TMI warning...but often when we DTD we don't always "finish" through intercourse. This week is my fertile week (he doesn't know this) and yesterday we were intimate but it was clear he was going to finish without intercourse and I got all grumpy and asked if I could jump on him!! Cue him in a grump all day because he feels like a "sperm donor". Don't get me wrong, he's not selfish in the bedroom, but in terms of enjoyment it's never been solely about intercoruse for us... But now I want it to be!

I feel like it's all so wasteful but don't want to put him off by demanding intercourse all the time as I know then he just won't enjoy it enough to provide the goods!

Rant over

That sounds annoying missclarke. Hope its not a patronising question but does he fully understand how conception takes place and how narrow the window really is? Surely he must understand that if he keeps not playing the game then it's just going to drag the shit ttc process out even further? It's only 1 week in 4!

It's not patronising at all, and i think you're right! I've avoided talking about the technicalities too much with him as I thought it'd stress him out more if he knew it was "the week" as any sex would then make him think I was doing it just for that. Which I would be of course lol But if it turns him off it negates the point.

He'd be happy if we conceived, but is in no rush and wants it all to happen in its own time. I don't, I want it to happen now!

JPEG, that looks like a line to me.

I know exactly how you feel!! Luckily (i think) DH is very on board following our mc and he is as keen to get trying as much as i am. We watched The Great Sperm Race together when we first started ttc and i think that helped him to understand it more. I guess we're all brought up to think that all unprotected sex leads to pregnancy- it's a bit of a comedown when we learn the harsh truth

I wish my boyfriend would understand the fertile window more!!! He keeps sighing if I initiate sex because he knows I must be ovulating! In the past he always did all the work (shame on me!)

Yesterday I posted the possible line dye.... Today I feel like I have gone mad. I dreamt I got a positive last night and now I've done two tests this morning. I would normally wait but I have this hen do and I know I won't be able to get away with not drinking, unless I know I'm pregnant I just will. So what do you think of these... Honest opinions!! I have lost the plot I think!

Sorry this one is better...

Hi jpeg, jury's out for me on the pics, I think I can see a very faint line but I'm not sure I'm looking in the right place and imagining it. Could you do a FRER? How many dpo are you? Wishing you lots of luck!!

I have no idea as haven't had af since my MC. I tweaked the first response test and can see something, but I wonder if my mind is playing tricks on me! Thanks for looking x

Ah sorry didn't realise the first pic was a FRER!

How many dpo are you? There is still a chance

There is a faint something on the frer but the other is BFN. How many dpo are you? In my experience I've always had a good line at 13 dpo with frer. Not dark but undeniable iyswim? I'd go and enjoy the hen do. If you get your bfp after you shouldn't worry because baby doesn't take anything from you until 10 weeks. Just don't go mad.

Ok thanks... That's good advice... I won't go mad! Wish I knew how many days dpo I am. I bled for pretty much 3 weeks after MC and we have dtd about 8 6 times since then all quite close to each other. At the time I remember some left sided pain which made me think I could be ovulating. I'll retest Monday and see what happens. Thanks again x

Hi and welcome MissClark. We kind of have the opposite problem to you, a lot of the time DH just can't finish at all. He is very up for TTC but it really dents his confidence when he can't and then he gets shirty and upset. It is frustrating but we just have to try and live with it.

I normally can't see a thing on the POAS pictures unless it is very obvious but I have a feeling that there is something faint on the FRER and also that IC looks like it has something going on. Exciting times JPEG.

I forgot to say last might I had some weird dream about going to a Japanese IVF clinic and having to start off with an appointment with a psychologist to determine our suitability. They sat me at a table with several half done pieces of something I was knitting, but all in the wrong wool, so I got on the table and unscrewed all the fancy painted lightbulbs from the ceiling.

Good luck jpeg! My bfp was the faintest of squinters at 11dpo so it could be a little too early yet.

Hi Jpeg - I can see a line on the FRER! Not sure about the Clearblue one. I agree with Loki - you can have a few drinks at the hen, just don't lose control and you'll be fine. Good luck! Keep us posted!

I don't have any pregnancy tests this morning so I used an OPK and it was peak. I don't trust those anymore but I thought that was wierd. I will get some FRERs later on. My boobs this morning are MASSIVE and I have cramps, but I can't get my hopes up just to be dashed again. This waiting is driving me mad!

I had a few drinks last night too Mrsunsure! Naughty I know.

Don't feel guilty mrs, it won't have the slightest effect apart from making you feel a bit more like a human being! You deserve a social life!

Good luck kate!

Thanks everyone... Mrs I have had no symptoms at all the first time until I was about 5 weeks... You never know it's still possible.

Thanks 5stardusty. The cramps are getting worse so reckon it's AF.

Jpeg - sorry if tmi, but what's your CM like? Do you know what it's supposed to be like if you have conceived? Sounds like you might be a good guide!!