Ttc#1 Lucky no.13. The one where Doreen and Hugh ride the honeymoon gondola down the fallopian canal.

[StarkyTheDirewolf]

Hugh enjoys ISW and his love affair with Doreen. He watches out for skittle tits and weepyitis. Mrs Arseholey Fucknut (Af) shows up when you least want her but brings wine and soft cheese as a consolation prize.

We don't have rules as such but expect to be talked down from the ledge with kind and well meaning but firm words if you get too hysterical. But most importantly don't convince yourself you're pregnant in the tww That is paramount!

We don't get a lot of baby dust in these here parts. We want a fanny full of determined Doreen, not unicorn farts and gnome tears with extra sparkle. We've been going a while now so the novelty has somewhat worn off and we're slightly battle scarred and bruised in the cervix area.

Post your stats and add your dates. We have a register thanks to kats stats I am resident piss stick queen and if you don't test, you get a Starky's Star

When you post stats, add your predicted test/af date. We are currently running at about 49% pregnant with the grads thread over in ante-natal which we all hope to join soon.

Link to thread 12.
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2580240-Thread-12-TTC-1Trying-is-the-fun-part-said-by-nobody-ever-whos-actually-trying?pg=1&order=

Elle that pic will get me through the day

Hahaha jam I don't know who Adrian Turner is either but your dream cracked me up is he a fitty??

Kat lol, sounds like you are a belibier, or at least your subconscious is!

Just noticed I wrote that I was 5 days upduffed. I meant 5 weeks! Bejesus this pg stuff is just as head messy as ttc! Kat that is a good idea re scan, I hadn't thought of that for some reason! I think even just hearing the heartbeat would be enough and at the same time give me a heart attack at the confirmation of there being another tiny human in there
In the meantime the POAS continues ..

Love Aidan Turner! He was gorgeous in being human :)

Welcome lucky, poor you waiting 12 cycles :( That's positive you're getting some help though, when do you get your test results?

Hug ever it's incredibly difficult to feel they are not on board. We had a few difficult conversations before DH got on board. In terms of enjoying DTD I have found that a sexy playlist of songs helps, and also not waiting until we go to bed to sleep. I like a get back in from work shag or a Saturday afternoon.

irregular how are you getting on, you must be getting excited for your 10 week scan now?

Age 36, (Though 37 is scarily approaching )
TTC 1,
cycle 5, cd23
dpo12

opk for the first time this month where i have learnt that i ovulated much earlier than expected. Managed one well timed dtd. but that is it.
on the bus for march 15th (based on average 29 day)

Am trying to enjoy my SP (Scrodinger Pregnancy) and am hoping i don't enter the dreaded limboland.
(ipatches how are you doing there?)

Hi everyone,

I checked into the previous thread but didn't get very involved as things were pretty stressful at home and it was still a while until I could test.

Inspector
Age: 35
TTC #1
Cycle #1
AF due next Monday 14th March - assuming I go straight to 28 day cycles after coming off the pill last month. Very big assumption to make!

My partner and I have only been together for a year but we're both very excited to TTC. For the last week or so I have been off booze, struggled to feel hungry and had mild cramps. Yesterday going into work I was feeling nauseous and light headed and got a bit over excited; obviously it turned out to be a virus and I am now in bed feeling achey, tired, sweaty and sorry for myself!

So AF is due on Monday and I'm not holding out much hope for a BFP as I've been pretty stressed this month with my dad being very ill in hospital. I haven't started OPK or anything else so while we've managed to continue to DTD I don't know if it was at the right time, or even if I've ovulated yet. 17 years on the pill has probably messed me up significantly.

to those of you who have had a hard time lately, whether pregnancy or relationship related. I think TTC can really get into your head and make situations that would be manageable at any other time much more difficult.

Evergreen how is your relationship otherwise? Is it just DTD that is an issue or do you feel it's struggling in other areas too? It sounds like you both need a really honest heart to heart about things. Your OH could well be feeling insecure and lacking in confidence in the bedroom and that could affect him in other aspects of your relationship.
I know it's really difficult to pause TTC once you've started but it sounds like you both need a bit of time to establish what you want and to work on being open, honest and supportive of each other. Having a baby puts a huge strain on even the strongest relationships so investing some time now into your partnership rather than focusing only on TTC could be what you need.

Ni
Cycle #6 bloody hell!! I blame my increasingly decaying body...33 OH 34
CD4/28-33
1 week holiday from OH well timed...hope the absence kick starts some love length appreciation!

Plan of action this month: EPO, popping some iron tablets I just found, will temp and opk just around expected O time. Must have sex like we're horny teens this month. That's the main plan! (holding off taking 20 million supplements as advised by you lovely rational, sensible women!)

Thanks for the love re verbal diarrhea mother. I think I shan't tell her we're ttc as the shock when I announce bean will be even more intense!! Haha! She also keeps lecturing me about how to manage spots on face "you used to have lovely clear skin". "Yes woman that was when I was on the awful artifical chemical hormones that is the pill you plonker!!"

Sorry about your dad penguin I hope he's alright, and that you get better soon too

Did anyone else watch Aidan Turner in Being Human ? I confess i never got into Poldark.

Ever I hate when we go through a patch when I feel I'm the one who has to initiate things all the time! OH likes night time bed sex if I've taken makeup off, brushed teeth and put on pjs my brain is only thinking sleep!, I like spontaneity... Just home from work, OH just out of shower, non bed....just something a bit more exciting. Apparently giving them lots of compliments about anything during the day helps boost macho confidence. Can you work on communicating to your OH the things that you like about him/that he's good at?

I totally agree though...it's so frustrating how much we put into ttc compared to them. But then again that's all my choice cos I'm overly anxious and obsessive! So I can't really blame him for that.

Linked headaches last two days to too much EPO intake at 3000mg so will reduce to 2000 today. See, you're damn right Starky I shouldn't be messing with the system too much!

Oh Harriet I'm so sorry. I had that happen last month after 5 happy days of walking around in a little bubble. It's awful. I've read a lot on line and the majority of the advice says you can start trying again straight away. I ov'd 4 days later than normal this cycle but I am prone to being a bit irregular. Hope you feel better soon.

I'm Cailler. 29 and TTC #1. currently 4dpo. Lost count of cycles as I can be a bit all over the place but we began March 2015. Trying to incorporate all the foods that Kwick has mentioned in to my diet along with OPKs and folic acid. Have also cut out alcohol. Apart from one little slip with a G&T or two!!

Hi ladies - been away a few days with family and no time to post. Had hoped to be able to eee here but it's looking like today is CD26 of a 26 day cycle :( AF is definitely on her way and my temps corroborate. I like Kat's theory from the last thread though, that I was actually pregnant for two weeks until proved otherwise!!

So, stats:

I'm Kav, in the final throes of cycle #2 so still early days really. 37 years old though and twitchy as I have way less EWCM these days than I used to! I expect to O on 22nd March and will be ready to test next on 3 April. Temping and using pre-seed.

Sorry to hear your news Harriet, that must royally suck. :(

Age 38 (gulp) (met dh late in life, got started TTC ASAP after that!)
TTC #1
Cycle 7 (this time, been trying since Jan 15 but had mc last July)
CD 26 of 30
9 dpo

Currently in 2ww and have committed cardinal sin of convincing myself I am upduffed we got preggo last time when on holiday during ISW of cycle 7 (but then mc at 6+2) and without realising when we planned it, we've just been on another holiday during ISW on cycle 7 again. AF due on Sunday though so moment of truth is fast approaching.

Been throwing pretty much everything at it - OPKs, grapefruit juice, loads of vits and supplements (now up to 8 tablets a day), reflexology....

Had all the initial tests done and everything came back normal, been referred to the fertility clinic but really hoping for some baby dust magic before we get our appt.

Tense few days ahead before the moment of truth but for now definitely in my schrodingers pregnancy phase lol (genius kat)

Morning all

I'm tiny
Age 29
TTC #1
Cycle 4
CD7 (of 30-34 days)
Next test day 2 April (though taking it easy this month and not getting my hopes up - this approach feels better already)

So sorry Harriet. That's dreadful. Sending hugs your way

Cailler I felt for you after your message yesterday (sorry, I can't keep up!) about being stranded in a new country. Where are you, if you don't mind saying? I am also living abroad at the moment (in Germany) and feel that this whole TTC process has a whole added level of unknown, due to the fact that I only partially understand how things work here, and I don't have anyone I can really talk to about it. I divide my time between feeling that having a baby abroad will be totes fine, and dreading my first appointment with a doctor/midwife, because my German is in no way good enough to handle intimate/detailed discussions re. health and pregnancy. Would you have your baby abroad if you succeed in TTC, or do you plan to go home for the birth?

Ever hugs for you, too. It's no good this being a one-sided process. He needs to be on side if you want to remain happy and sane during TTC, but also in your relationship in general. I imagine he might be feeling nervous or under-confident though? You should just have a very open and frank conversation about all of this together, both TTC and your sex life in general. It's never too late in a relationship to have a spring clean of your sex life! In my experience, talking is the crucial thing - if you can both open up and talk more about sex, in every way, it produces excellent results! You end up both being on the same page, you know what you both want and you get what you both want - BOOM!

Ooh Islandgirl what vits and supplements are you taking? Obsessed.com here!

Tiny your post just cheered me up no end to see someone in almost the exact same position as me. Same age and same cycles lengths too! We are in Switzerland (the German speaking part) and my German is pretty basic. The doctors here are amazing and all speak brilliant English and I was given a list of English speaking midwives and gynos when I moved here by my husband's work. However what scares me is the idea of being in a hospital where the staff may not speak English and if something goes wrong I won't understand and I'll be trying to read their faces. Whenever I am lucky enough to get upduffed I am going to do a crash course in all pregnancy related German words. I might get the word "epidural" tattooed somewhere just to make sure!! How long have you been in Germany? I've heard great things about the German way of handling pregnancy and women's health in general. Apparently they are big advocates of natural birth and you get tons of support, particularly with breast feeding.

Name feefs
Age 28
CD 8
TTC #1
Cycle 4

Kat I agree with SP! That's exactly how it feels.

Ever I had a similar situation last night (thankfully not ISW yet) I just could not get into it and DH picked up on that and couldn't really get into it either was all a bit of a failure. I was pretty annoyed afterwards. I think this all puts a lot of pressure on everything. I wonder if your OH is afraid of hurting you? If that's what holds him back?

Morning ladies, checking in. Again.
Skip
TTC #1
Cycle 3, CD 26

Not feeling pg, so keeping myself busy planning house renovations and holidays like its my job, waiting for AF to come and round off a shit month. Weepytits advance warning - My tiny little babycat went missing yesterday, and I have had to spend the morning at work in floods of tears phoning round to see if anyone has found a tiny little body that may have fallen off the roof. I am devastated.
Congratulations to star, holly and peaches and a huge hug to harriet.
Kwick I am thinking of you as you trudge through the TWW.

Hi kwick and Skip welcome to SP!

Ever trying to avoid TMI, but my OH and I find there are some positions that are a lot easier/less-painful to start with .......

Ever I just saw your post and it struck a chord with me. We take on so much of the responsibility, so much of the pressure and suffer the majority of the disappointment on our own. Its so hard not to become despondent - I myself tend to lose it with OH as I can't see why he isn't up for DTD all the time, blaming myself for being too fat, or not sexy enough, or I haven't showered him with affection enough even though I work 12 hour days and maintain the house singlehandedly, why can't I be bothered to give him a back rub with a tiny thong on after I've cooked him yet another meal and tidied up all his crap and paid for him to go on a nice holiday and organised his whole life for him and- happy fucking women's day, right?

Then I have to stop myself. Take deep breaths, and remind myself that if and when I am blessed with a baby, it will be because we both wanted it and we enjoyed the experience. I don't want to live knowing that I had to force/bribe/guilt trip my OH into upduffing me. In the meantime, I continue to work on my patience, and find ways to make our sex life more enjoyable for both of us, ISW or not. Thats not to say I always succeed, but I am working on it.

If you don't mind sharing, what have you tried to try and 'spice' things up?

xx

Ni I take:

• a pre-conception vitamin
• EPO up to ovulation, flaxseed oil after ovulation
• royal jelly (2 a day)
• cassava root with folic acid (2 a day)
• maca root
• ubiquinol (CoQ-10) which is an anti-oxidant that can increase egg quality, especially in old women over 35

I only added the royal jelly, cassava, maca & ubiquinol to my routine shortly before ISW this cycle, so I'm already telling myself that if it hasn't worked this month then maybe next month will be the one cos they'll be fully in my system by then.

Anyone know of anything I'm missing?! Or have any experiences to share, positive or negative, on any of the stuff I'm taking?

Welcome inspector and lucky

ever so sorry to hear about argument with DH.... I really hope you can sort things out.

fxskip sorry to hear about your kittycat.

Dh would make a crap woman. He is a male symptom spotter! Twice yesterday he came up near me and inhaled and went "you're not ovulating anymore, but you do smell different, PREGNANT!" Then, I was in the shower "your boobs are massive, you're probably pregnant" then whilst musing to himself out loud "I couldn't have shot more up there if I'd tried, you're definitely pregnant" a little while later I was having a warm moment (I sleep strip, so had managed to unbutton my PJ top, take it off, and put it back on, but back to front) I woke up sweating my bollocks off "if you're having g a hot flush, it's probably because you're pregnant! "

Needless to say, he still hasn't accepted that his balls are not in the right frame of mind to make quality sperm!

fxskip posted above but I find the following aid quality DTD

• sexy music playlist
• different times of day (before dinner is good, I hate sex on a full tummy)
• trying to up dirty talk - surprisingly effective!

I did buy some new bits of underwear too which have helped sporadically

IMAGINE if your DH could detect pregnancy stark. We'd all have to borrow him for our TWW!