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Fabulous forty + ttc and having success!

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TwinklyMusic · 26/02/2016 07:26

Old thread just about finished. Here is a new one... Fx for lots of well earned BFPs for those ttc over forty. We also welcome stories from those who have successfully had their babies over forty and we love hearing back from our graduates.

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IAteSomeofthePies · 12/07/2016 10:39

I've been thinking about my post since yesterday. I really should be doing all of that again! I'll see if I can manage the will to do all of that with an almost two year old in tow.

Beegee welcome back. Apologies if you've already addressed this, but my thyroid doesn't work properly, and it really is the easiest thing in the world to sort, if you go to your gp. Hope the progesterone cream works, too.

Joey I'm almost there with the moving on, too.

Bondy good luck for your appt today.

kk I hope your little frostie is settling in and getting comfortable.

ababs 10dpo is really, really early. I hope you're wrong about feeling not pregnant!

Happy Tuesday, everyone!

Bloopbleep · 12/07/2016 14:31

Happy Tuesday pies :)

Well while my temp is still up my mood has dropped, I cried at the muppets theme ffs! And I have pink spotting. I'm only 10dpo and it feels like af could arrive at any time. My boobs hurt and I'm covered in spots like a teenager. I think my body is trying to get to the stage where it has no luteal phase at all. If af starts proper today that will be it down to 9days, it was regularly 14days up until My last cycle. I've no idea what to do as doctors aren't interested

Bondy41 · 12/07/2016 15:18

Hi bloopbleep, have you thought of changing your GP? Hopefully they won't all be like that x

I've been to the fertility clinic today and I'll definitely need ivf, need to lose another 3st to get ivf on nhs, don't have the dosh to go private and I've only got until I'm 43 to have it on nhs, pressure much?? So I'm going to concentrate on what I can do something about, my weight and focus on that x feeling a bit more positive now. Will have to let specialist know what I want to do when he calls with my amh results in a fortnight x

Bloopbleep · 12/07/2016 17:07

bondy that's a doable weightloss. I joined slimming world and while it didn't really work for me plenty of people lost a lot of weight quite fast. I wish you the best of luck! It's good having a goal and focus. Definitely motivating! Best of luck!

I can't change GP due to location. I'm hoping the vacancy they're filling is with someone open minded. I've also seen two different gynaecologists on a different but not entirely unrelated issue who have also been unhelpful on ttc front.

Bondy41 · 12/07/2016 17:25

I'm on a low carb diet which is how I lost the first 3st, so fingers crossed. I've tried slimming world and weightwatchers and neither worked for me so I'll still with what's working x

Fingers crossed your new GP is more understanding Bloop xx

Bloopbleep · 12/07/2016 17:46

bondy I'm quietly relieved I'm not the only one who didn't get on with "clubs" - I felt like an alien

Bondy41 · 12/07/2016 18:03

Bloop- I know exactly what you mean, I know friends of mine have don't really well with those clubs but they're not for me at all 😬

Bondy41 · 12/07/2016 18:05

Oops, typo! Meant to say they've done really well, flippin autocorrect x

Bloopbleep · 14/07/2016 16:51

Well I'm on day 28 of my cycle which is in itself increasingly uncommon - no sign of af and clearly bfn - not even so much as a dirty fingerprint on the test, Altho a kindly traveling line did raise the heartbeat for a few seconds. Had some very light spotting 10&11dpo which usually signals af due next day but nothing not even my usual debilitating cramps. I don't think im so lucky as to have a slow starter hiding away so it looks like I've entered the era of truly erratic cycles. I blame the Agnus Castus I took this month or my age or the universe. At least for the first time since I started my periods as a kid, with the exception of being pregnant with Dd, I had a birthday with no bleeding. I made the most of this event. Silver linings n all :)

Kkmuppet · 14/07/2016 18:44

Well today is not a good day. I'm 6 days on from my transfer (11dpo equivalent) and bfn. That I can handle. What I am struggling with is my husband just said to me that I'm too old to have babies and we don't need to talk about more options as he has the option of finding a younger woman. I know he's upset but this is going too far. This ttc hell combined with our stillbirth has just destroyed him and it's obviously destroying us

Beegee3 · 14/07/2016 19:05

kk oh my goodness! That is just awful for you! So very sorry! ShockFlowers. I know we say hurtful things when we are stressed and upset, but that is wrong! Try to stay strong xx

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ababsurdum · 14/07/2016 20:10

Kkmuppet what an awful, painful thing to say! Have there been any simmering issues (apart from Ruby Rose) or is this out of the blue? I'm so sorry for you, it's the last thing you need on top of everything else Sad

I'm sorry too for your bfn, hopefully there's still time for a positive outcome.

AprilSkies44 I'm sorry for your loss, how awful. Please come and join us when you feel ready.

Kkmuppet · 14/07/2016 20:52

Thanks for listening and supporting. ababs he has a lot of rage still from Ruby Rose and has placed blame on me for her death (and for our miscarriages and for this not working) that blame and anger comes out every so often. It's not true and it's not fair and he really needs counselling but won't do it.

ababsurdum · 14/07/2016 20:58

Bondy41 I'm sorry that you will need IVF though It's great that you have until you are 43 as I though the cut off was earlier. In our region you only get one free round now which is dreadful, so much pressure. As far as weight loss goes, at least you have a great incentive and you've already lost so much.

I was a size 8-10 when I got pregnant in 2013 and gained more than 3 stones during my pregnancy. Until this year I was still carrying about 10 extra pounds that I was finding really tough to shift. This year I started listening to Paul McKenna's I can make you thin and trying to eat more healthily more of the time, smaller portions etc. There are so many healthy cook books now that have really delicious recipes. I've lost half a stone without much effort to be honest and can really recommend that approach.

ababsurdum · 14/07/2016 21:16

Kkmuppet I can understand his anger and frustration but that anger is misplaced, he should not be taking it out on you. I hope that you can work through it. Christ it's so unfair that we bear almost the sole responsibility for producing children. Even when others aren't placing blame on us we feel guilt ourselves.

Bloopbleep sorry that your cycle is erratic and that you are still bfn. I am cd28 too, AF due today but not started yet. I tested again this morning and bfn too. Last cycle was about 3 days longer so who knows what will happen this month!

ababsurdum · 14/07/2016 21:24

Beegee welcome back, I hope you are feeling better. I hope the kelp and progesterone help, let us know how you get in.

joeywife I'm glad you're feeling so chilled. I think/hope this is where I'll end up. I'm coming up to a year ttc #2 and just feeling like it's not going to happen and that I'm running out of time.

ababsurdum · 14/07/2016 21:26

Sorry for multiple posts...

Twinkly I hope you're doing ok.

Big waves to everyone else.

Bloopbleep · 15/07/2016 08:24

aprilskies I'm so sorry for your loss :(

kkmuppet you oh sounds like the muppet. Don't take that shit from anyone!

Anyway this was in guardian today about older mothers. Thought it might make us feel more positive (hoping it create an automatic link without coding ) www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2016/jul/15/meet-the-mums-in-their-40s-four-stories-of-having-a-baby-later-in-life?CMP=soc_3156 I

Bloopbleep · 15/07/2016 10:28

Ah well af turned up with a vengeance. At least it stayed away for my birthday. Looks like my LP is now only 11 days. Is a drop like this from 14 to 11 a problem?

MattsMamma · 15/07/2016 10:39

KKMUPPET - I agree with bloop - your husband is quite frankly being a selfish shit. Refuse to take that from him and he really does sound like he needs counselling. Sending you love - this is the last thing you need and from the very person who is supposed to support you Angry

APRIL - so very sorry for your loss Flowers xx. Join us when you feel ready x

Hello everyone else - I am now once again in the 2ww ..........

MattsMamma · 15/07/2016 13:20

BLOOP - thanks for the link to the article in The Guardian - interesting read and for the most part pretty positive 👍 I think there and negatives and positives for falling pregnant at any age. Also how encouraging to read there are so many of us out there! Yay for all the fortysomething Mummy's and Mummy's to be! x

Helbelle75 · 15/07/2016 15:14

It is good to know that there are a lot of us. Most of my friends had their babies in their late 30's, but it's not quite the same as early 40's.

IAteSomeofthePies · 15/07/2016 16:27

Oh, kk I am appalled! I know that grief makes us do crazy things, but surely there are limits. His blame is totally misplaced, obviously. Thinking of you. I hope you get a bfp from this FET.

April I am so sorry for your loss. That is really hard. I hope you feel up to joining us soon, even if it's just for a chat.

bloop sorry about the AF.

Ababs hope you get AF or a bfp soon. Limbo is the worst.

Matts good luck for the tww.

Good luck everyone.

IAteSomeofthePies · 15/07/2016 16:34

And thanks for the article bloop. I thought the line about being able to get pregnant at this age but it coming coming with heartache was very apt. Here's hoping for more pregnancy and less heartache in this thread.