Fabulous forty + ttc and having success!

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Old thread just about finished. Here is a new one... Fx for lots of well earned BFPs for those ttc over forty. We also welcome stories from those who have successfully had their babies over forty and we love hearing back from our graduates.

Quick hello to say good luck to all of those at dtd and testing times. Anyone testing?

ababs special good luck this month! I think your due date is coming up?

Thanks ABABS Don't know what has happened this month?! Been doing clearblue advanced opk since day 9 and now on cd18. Had the flashing smiley for 8 days. I do think I have missed the surge but don't know had the usual signs but do was away so only managed to dtd once the day after - so it's a wait and see again but not holding much hope. Boobs little tender again and had lot of cramps but I do tend to get that I've noticed during 2ww especially since ttc. Sometimes boobs are agony and others just mild like this month so haven't really got a clue what is going on anymore. Aargh!!!!!

Good luck everyone - here's hoping for a lovely uplifting BFP from one of us very soon.

CHEWY. Hope your ok x

Good luck Matts, I hope you caught a good one!

Any advice anyone on where to get low dose aspirin without getting the third degree? How can they refuse to sell me 75mg for recurrent miscarriage (unless I lie and say it's for my heart...) but I can pick up 300mg no problem and no questions asked...

Thanks Twinkly, it's this weekend. It's also the cycle (give or take a week), three years ago, that I conceived ds so I'm stupidly hoping but not really expecting anything to happen. Sorry I said anniversary referring to your due date, not sure what happened there. I hope you're ok.

I got my aspirin (25mg) from the Tesco chemist when I was told to take it during my pregnancy. I think they asked who it was for but I don't remember the third degree. Just say the midwife has recommended it? They aren't likely to ask for proof.

MattsMamma I think it's possible to miss your surge occasionally. Do you test more than once a day when you think it's coming? Fingers crossed you caught it anyway.

I'm on cd13 which is the day I ovulated last month (no opk's this month). We dtd cd's 9 & 11 and will tonight too. I'm getting some twinges today so hopefully something's going on down there!

Good luck everyone!

Can I join? I am not 40 until the end of July but just got AF after 6 month of TTC. This would be a first baby for DH and I but my and his 3rd (we each have 2 kids already). Panicking that it's never going to happen as DH is 46. We have both had fertility checks and all results were normal. Just wondering whether we should try IVF straight away or keep trying naturally for longer.

Same here, £3000 would go along way towards baby things though. I know you don't need them but .... I will definitely need a bigger car

Matts - Clearblue reckon that 25% of women (albeit from a pretty small sample) will have between 5 - 9 days of flashing smileys - link. I know they've driven me nuts some cycles, so I went back to the ordinary Clearblue Digital tests (the pink ones).

Ababs - I'll be thinking of you this weekend . BUT maybe, as regards conceiving your DS, it's a good time of year for you for another healthy conception? I must admit - no idea why - I'd thought your DS was older than 27 months. So that's good that your #2 will still be pretty close in age then!

Twinkly - Aspirin - from experience, careful what you say in Boots! I thought I'd try it once and yes, got the third degree and yes, was dumb enough to mention 'trying' to get pregnant, at which the mention of the word 'pregnant' was enough to get me forcibly evicted from the store. OK, an exaggeration, but no way were they selling it to me. DM, now in her 80's, had at one time been advised by her GP to take it for slightly high blood pressure - although she's been prescribed something else now. So I suppose I might try muttering something about high blood pressure, or having been advised to take it as a precaution against DVT perhaps? I'd love to see anyone else's (more sensible) answers on this!

CandyCrush - yes of course join in - everyone more than welcome!
Great news that your fertility tests were normal. So given that your DH has normal sperm parameters, the fact that he is 46 is no disadvantage at all - there aren't any relevant 'quality' issues for male partner age. Perhaps you may have heard of a few (controversial) studies suggesting an increased risk for autism and neuropsychiatric disorders in offspring of fathers aged over 40 at conception, but the risk is still minute (

Chewy I love the optimism of 'your #2 will be close in age'... We'll see, I'm getting more and more convinced that it won't happen. Defeatist I know but there you go. Thanks for the support.

Candy I agree that 6 months feels like ages but really isn't that long when ttc. Personally I would give it a year then re-assess. Ivf is costly and, of course, not guaranteed to work so best to feel like you've done what you can before embarking on it. Definitely use opk's and temp if you can be bothered. Are you taking any supplements? I know people who conceived first go with IVF though it didn't work for me at just turned 41. I was lucky enough to conceive my ds the following month but that's a different story... Best of luck to you, you need to do what you feel is right for you.

Welcome Pisssssedofff, best of luck to you too.

Too much to catch up on here!
twinkly I've bought low dose aspirin lots of times from various places - I basically never tell them why just that my dr said it would be a good idea. Never had issues - and in most places don't even get questions.
candy welcome. You might just want to investigate your local health authority policy for Ivf. I managed to get two nhs cycles just for unexplained infertility - but had to fit them in before I was 40. I shamelessly lied to GP and said we'd been trying for a year (it had been 6 months) then got referred. Not saying we should all go around lying to our GP but....

Um just read both my posts and I am not a scheming liar - honest!!

Kkmuppet your true self has been revealed!!

I like it!

I tried to buy from an online pharmacy and got the third degree. They refused to sell me a £1.50 pack of 75mg aspirin because, when asked what it was for, I said recurrent miscarriage. They cancelled the order. . I will try elsewhere... (But after Chewy's story, maybe not Boots...).

Thanks for checking in on me ababs - I'm ok. Not fantastic, but ok. I've been thinking about what could have been way too much and having silly daydreams of the baby I might have been cuddling right now if things had gone differently.

I'll be thinking of you this weekend and hope this time of the year is lucky for you!

Thank you, I'm still trying to get to grips with all the acronyms so forgive any blunders please. I'm on the 7 day count down now, feel like I'm getting my period which is normal either way isn't it. I'm almost ready to say stuff we go straight for Ivf but it is the money, it's so expensive

It is expensive. I think ours was nearly £5k with initial tests, 5 day blastocyst transfer etc. Fingers crossed you're lucky this month.

Twinkly I keep thinking that if things were different I'd have a newborn and a toddler now. I hope we both get lucky soon.

Cd14 today. Still a bit twingy today so might have to dtd tonight too though I am shattered. I've had too much coffee over the last two weeks. Not good, it's quite acidic in the body I think.

Did it work though ?

No it didn't. It went very well - 12 eggs collected, of which, 9 fertilised. 2 blastocysts transferred on day 5 (none left for freezing) but I started bleeding heavily 6 days later. We were so disappointed. Luckily for me I conceived my ds the very next cycle.

Oh gee that's rotten luck but glad you got your son

Hoping I can join too...?
Twinkly I have seen baby aspirin at pound shops. Staff there are not going to quiz you! I actually get mine from Wilkinsons. It's even cheaper (80p) and I have not been questioned there either.
I just got AF on my 27th cycle of ttc #2. DS is 4. Trying not to be sad as we have a wonderful son and I know how blessed we are. DH, DS & I are off to a dog show in a couple of weeks to start the research on getting a doggy sibling for my son instead of a human one.

Hello all, I'm just poking my nose in. I'm not over 40 but my DP is 47 and I've been worrying his age may affect us ttc. We've only been trying for 4 months, but I'm already worrying! Chewy, I have been somewhat reassured by your comments so will try not too worry too much! Baby dust to you all :)

I think lifestyle is very important at his age, my ex smoked, drank, took the odd pill - what a catch he sounds - and in three years not even a near miss he was 37.

SoozC a semen analysis is relatively inexpensive (and non-invasive) and would let you know early on if there is anything to be concerned about. Best of luck to you.

Welcome Iwasbrave. Wow, 27 months is a long time. I'm sorry it's been so hard for you. Have you spoken to a doctor about it/had any tests? Good luck at the dog show. I was thinking along those lines for my ds in the future if we're not able to conceive #2. Here's hoping we manage to get them a sibling too.

Dtd fail last night - I was so tired I fell asleep on the sofa. Pretty sure I ovulated yesterday too which is a pain. Still we dtd the day before and will do tonight. Hopefully the every-other-day approach will be good for his swimmers

Is anyone due to test? We need some good news here.

I'm 5 days from testing but my boobs are ridiculous .... Huge and sore, I'm 99% certain I'm pregnant but trying to stay away from testing as I had Ivf with DS and "knew" I was pregnant but still got a negative the day before. It's killing me though

Pissedoff, how old are you do you mind me asking and how many months have you been trying? I am trying to find a teeny bit of hope to cling to. DH says we need to look at other options straight away as he can't keep going through this every month. I should pull myself together but it's the most hideous crushing disappointment.

I tried for three years with my ex and nothing from 36/39. I'm now 40 with a different psrtner and trying for 4 months. The funs gone out of it already for me, I have everything crossed

Fingers crossed for you Pisssssedofff

CandyCrush what does he mean by 'other options'?

Welcome newbies! Wishing you oodles of luck 😀

Thanks Chewy for the info re clear blue - I used to be able to pinpoint ovulation without fail but it seems to be evading me of late!

ABABS. Re falling asleep on the sofa - sounds very much like me does that 😂 but you seem covered by dtd when you did so fingers crossed!

TWINKLY. Re; aspirin. I've never been asked ever about it wherever I have bought it from, even Boots. I buy the enteric coated ones from anywhere basically, but Bodycare is good. Maybe try them? Anyway if they did ask I would say they weren't for me ha!

Anyway CD 22 here and as for DPO well I haven't a bloody clue. Also my cycles lately have reverted to being longer, last month being 28 days so it's a wait and see but certainly not holding out much hope - even though I have already tested! I know, I know - totally frickin bonkers but in my defence I do need to know asap as I would have to start steroids Asap!

Good luck ladies!!!