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Fabulous forty + ttc and having success!

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TwinklyMusic · 26/02/2016 07:26

Old thread just about finished. Here is a new one... Fx for lots of well earned BFPs for those ttc over forty. We also welcome stories from those who have successfully had their babies over forty and we love hearing back from our graduates.

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MattsMamma · 03/04/2016 00:24

Ah FRIDGE really sorry to read it was a chemical. So bloody cruel - I can understand how your feeling -sending a massive hug. Even though we try and not build up our hopes it still is a
massive blow and one can't help but feel gutted by it all. I had 2 last year second one on my birthday also a couple in between my successful pregnancies. Your GP seems sympathetic which is good. Be gentle on yourself xx

Rugby01 · 03/04/2016 02:20

Fridge - so sorry to hear about the CP. I know all of us on here can feel your pain and I hope you are ok. Sending you a huge hug and lots of good wishes. As Mattsmama says, it's so cruel and you deserve better. so glad your GP has been helpful. We are all here to listen if you want to rant.

ChewyGiraffe · 03/04/2016 02:31

Fridge - whaat??? Oh no, I'm so sorry Flowers, of course you must be completely gutted, how cruel indeed Sad.

So many - just like MattsMamma - have this before going on to have a successful pregnancy though, so please try not to be too disheartened for the future. (Oh I know it's precious little consolation when you must have wanted so much for this pregnancy to work out though, of course.) It is good, at least, that you have your referral and can ready yourself with questions on testing and treatment (- progesterone, aspirin, steroids/Prednisolone???) which might help in future. Take care.

Rugby01 · 03/04/2016 07:31

Mattsmama, KK, chewy and hula - thanks for your supportive words. It really helps. Hula - good luck with dtd while it is 'smiley'. mattsmama - glad you found your distraction of choice.

Kkmuppet · 03/04/2016 09:36

Oh fridge I'm so sorry this one hasn't worked out. Also glad you are getting some medical advice. There's lots of things you can do in the 'can't hurt' category for next time e.g. Progesterone as chewy said and they can double check your bloods too. I'm sorry for talking about next time if your head's not there yet by the way!

Hula2 · 03/04/2016 15:34

Fridge - so sorry and so horrible to see a bfp fade away. Big hugs.

ababsurdum · 03/04/2016 21:17

Hello all, I've been away for the weekend.

MattsMamma I'm sorry you're feeling sad and that you missed out this month. It's awful when things seem to conspire against you. You can't change what's happened but you can get straight back on it next month after having indulged yourself for a couple of weeks. I hope you feel better soon.

Rugby I am beyond happy for you getting a bfp. It is a worrying time (can't help be when you want it so badly) but as others have said, do try to enjoy the fact that you are pregnant as it's such a magical time too. I wish you a very happy and healthy pregnancy. I completely agree with Chewy on playing your cards with your OH. I had to remind Dh all the time that I was allowed to be unreasonable as I was pg and then watch him roll his eyes...

Hula glad you got your smiley. Fx the spring clean does the trick for you.

Fridgedoor I'm so sorry this pregnancy didn't work out for you Flowers, so awful to have your hopes dashed. Please look after yourself, I hope you have lots of support. Gp sounds good which will hopefully help.

Cd6 or 7 here. I dropped my phone in the loo so have lost the data in my period tracker should have backed it up. I will have to check the thread to see when my period started Grin. I've had quite a stressful day toddler-wise. Very glad to be home!

joeywife · 04/04/2016 10:41

So sorry Fridge that this one didn't stick for you. It's definitely worth talking to your GP to see if you can get some progesterone pessaries in advance, and then next time you get a bfp, you can start taking them straight away.
Congratulations Rugby. Keeping everything crossed for you that this works out for you. Did you do anything different this month?
I've been hopeless this month. It's CD15 for me but we haven't dtd since CD11 and I'm pretty sure I ovulated over the weekend as I had loads of EWCM on Saturday night. Trouble is it's been DS' 4th birthday this weekend and it's been so busy I've been absolutely shattered every night and just not up for it. I was beating myself up about it, and then I thought - well, even when my body was handed 3 beautifully fertilised embryos on a plate, it still didn't get me pregnant, so I'm not going to stress about potentially missing the window this month as it probably wouldn't have done anything anyway!! So I'm pretty sure this is a missed month for me.

Rugby01 · 04/04/2016 11:19

Oh Ababs- what a nightmare with your phone and data! Sounds like you've had a stressful few days! I saw GP and feel both better and more worried about my bfp! But I am going to try and enjoy it - whatever happens! Thanks for all your support and encouragment!

You gearing up for a positive opk in a few days?

Hope everyone else is ok? Hula - how's that smiley opk? And Fridge, really hope you are ok.

Rugby01 · 04/04/2016 11:25

Joey - sorry crossed messages. I am sorry you feel a bit down about missing your window but as you say, you can't do everything sometimes and maybe you'll do better getting that sleep you needed rather than dtd and getting stressed and more tired. You sound quite philosophical about it though. Though I don't have a little one I do understand the pressures from other areas that interfere with ttc. Good luck for next month.
You asked if I did anything different, well j think I had loads more dtd than previous months. Like almost the FFC! Plus I gave up sugar almost completely (apart from the odd treat) for the last six week or so and used some fertility gel things when dtd. And trued raspberry leaf tea in luteal phase. Who knows if ANY of that made any difference!

ababsurdum · 04/04/2016 13:38

Joey hopefully you were still housing strong swimmers from cd11 - all is not lost yet! Still it means you can be more relaxed during the 2ww and that's got to be a good thing. My fingers are still crossed for you.

Rugby who knows when I will ovulate this month. I'm on cd8 today (I checked!) so according to the smep we need to dtd tonight. I'm knackered but I do enjoy it when I make the effort Wink

I'm glad you're feeling a bit better, did the gp give you any noteworthy advice? Fwiw I worried terribly about mc etc when pg with ds and that pregnancy was absolutely trouble free. When I got pg last year I wasn't particularly worried, especially after the first scan, yet I mc so there's no correlation. My dh always tells me not to worry about things that you can't control. Easy to say, harder to do but it's so true. Do keep posting, it's lovely to have some good news on the thread, it gives us all hope.

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TwinklyMusic · 05/04/2016 00:13

I'm so sorry about your chemical fridge! That's really tough! Flowers hope you feel better soon... Maybe your body is warming up...?

Rugby - congratulations! Really happy for you! Such good news. We're all behind you for all those first trimester worries. I agree with all those who say milk it with your DH!! Time for a lot of TLC.

Matts - totally sympathise! And also Joey as it's similar. It is so tough to go through this month after month and have tiredness/ absence/ other circs get in the way of dtd. I'm also feeling frustrated this month because DH going away for ov time. He's booked in for dtd the morning before he goes (Wink), but time wise, that's stretching things a little.

Trying to be positive and healthy, but I just feel like wine and chocolate... Approaching what should have been due date this month...

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ababsurdum · 05/04/2016 07:10

Oh Twinkly, I'm sorry Flowers. Mine is coming up too - early next month.

calibee · 05/04/2016 13:49

Hello all...I'm not sure if anybody still remembers me but I was active on here about 3 years ago. The lovely ladies helped me through my miscarriage (don't know where I would have been without them as husband is military and was away at the time) .
Anyway just a quick update from me. I had b/g twins (using a donor) at the end of November. Every inch "mine" and the best thing I ever did. I'm 46 now and I won't be doing it again lol. The years of body watching., peeing on sticks and being generally completely obsessed with conception are thankfully over for me. I want to wish everyone on here every bit of luck I can and just remember to keep an open mind. I never thought I would use a donor but I swear my two have definitely picked up lots of my DNA. Xxx

ababsurdum · 05/04/2016 14:19

Calibee how fantastic, congratulations to you. Thank you for the good news update. Lovely to hear another pro for donor eggs.

calibee · 05/04/2016 15:10

Thank you Abasurdam

Donor eggs made my dream come true. If somebody had asked me three years ago if I would use them I would have definitely been against it. However month after month after year of disappointment made me think again. I m so glad I did. It makes no difference to me whatsoever. My babies feel every inch "mine".

MattsMamma · 05/04/2016 15:20

TWINKLY. Big hug x Can totally understand sadly xx

CALIBEE I remember you ! How totally wonderful - so happy for you and thank you for sharing your fabulous news. Congratulations!

Kkmuppet · 05/04/2016 21:54

calibee I am currently discussing the donor egg option with my dh. If our fet fails next month we need to decide whether to try mild Ivf or jump straight to donor eggs. I would appreciate any input from you on where you went, the costs, any complicating factors etc. It's so wonderful to hear such a lovely success story!

calibee · 05/04/2016 22:07

KkMuppet please feel free to message me I am really happy to answer any questions :)

Frecklesfrecklesfreckles4 · 05/04/2016 23:39

Congratulations Calibee ! Twins, wow!
I was on the thread with you years ago (I was" irish" !).
I had been wondering over the last few days about people on the original thread (Diege, gum, fireflies,greenlizard, JBrd..) and how they were doing now so thought I'd check out the board to see if there were any familiar faces about, I'm delighted to see your news.
For those of you who don't know me I had my DC4 nearly 2 years ago at the grand old age of 46 after a difficult ttc journey and multiple miscarriages over a couple of years. I too found the support from the ladies here through the dark times to be invaluable.
Good luck to everyone x

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TwinklyMusic · 06/04/2016 00:09

Thanks ababs and Matts! I know you are coming up on your date too ababs. I had really hoped we'd both be pregnant again by now!

I remember you Calibee! Congrats on your twins! Such a lovely story.

I remember you too Irish, although not the end of your story. Really thrilled to hear about dc4 at 46!!

I was on and off the thread back then, under a different name. I remember all the names you listed. I think some have been back under different names, and I think a couple have been successful too. Gum was, I think, 'Hopefulgum' back then, and then became 'Gumblossom*. She pops back every now and then, but sadly had a ms last year. It is still always lovely to hear from her.

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TwinklyMusic · 06/04/2016 00:10

Sorry, I meant mc last year! Blush

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ababsurdum · 06/04/2016 06:47

Twinkly I really hoped we would be too. It seems crazy that it's already been seven months since I found out I was pg.

Cd10 here and I forgot to poas this morning, will have to do it later. Had a dtd fail on cd8 but managed last night.

Inshock73 · 06/04/2016 07:01

I remember both of you Calibee and Irish Congratulations to you both that's wonderful news! I was on a couple of the 40+ threads 2/3 years ago. I posted on one of the current 40+ threads recently just to share a positive story but for anyone who didn't see it, I'm 43 now, had my daughter in April 2015 at the age of 42 (conceived naturally after 1 mmc and 18 months of ttc if you include the mmc). I'm now 14 weeks pregnant with a 'surprise' baby :) conceived on a diet of coffee, chocolate and stress :) and after literally dtd once that month! We're both still in shock.

Good luck everyone! x

Rugby01 · 06/04/2016 08:21

inshock, irish and calibee - I don't remember you as I wasn't around at the time but I just wanted to say thanks for sharing your positive stories! It is great to hear of your successes and gives me hope! It is a great thread and it saw you through it is proof of how supportive it is. inshock - hope you are doing well at 14 weeks... What a surprise! Just shows how much of this ttc stuff must be about luck and fate. Hope everyone is else is doing well.