April 2014 thread! - still continually supporting one another!

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New thread :)
I want to see lots of our old faces back!!
Come on girls!

Oooh where you off to cupcake?

Dd2 could have the sans birthday as your brother then! But I'm hoping she comes at 37 weeks I'll be scoffing pineapple and on my birthing ball hoping to get things moving!

That's wicked news about the maternity pay!!! You looking forward to starting?

Id go for a toddler bed at the moment! I miss a real bed so so much! I just can't wait to have my own place without his mess and smells, that seems like a dream at the moment. I'm a bit worried about ds though, he doesn't like change to his routine and also he's used to having me in his room, I don't know how hell react to having me in a different room.

Still no news on the house tho

Yes, we want to know the sex. It is an early Scan- I think I will be about 8-9 weeks.
I can't believe your DH Ducky. He must be oblivious to it all! You must be exhausted not getting enough rest.
Hope you have a lovely holiday Cupcake - whete are you off to?
I am in bed already. DH is just locking up and feeding the cats then he's coming up. We are both tired. When I think just three years ago we went out every Friday night until late and came back and went a bit mad in bed, had a lie in on Saturday morning and then just had a nice lazy day. We are like two old people now

I don't have a clue how I used to stay up past 10 lulu! Ha. Yep, h is completely oblivious. He's gone out tonight drinking and won't be back until tomorrow afternoon. Every time I ask who he's with he changes the subject.

I have had a take away

I am lying in the sofa with my feet up. Am just exhausted. I took DS to the beach this afternoon and pushing him home just wore me out. DH has gone out for a run along the sea front. I might have a bath and go to bed.

Ducky- did you mean your DH went out drinking for nearly 24 hours and would not tell you where he was going? I hope you took the opportunity to sleep in the bed.

Is your house far from the sea lulu? Sounds lovely

Yep he went out, I text him once I think but he didn't reply. From what has been put on Facebook by other people he was only with two other people and one left half way through. He got back around 5pm the next day.

I didn't sleep in the bed lulu as he never changes the sheets and I won't be doing it for him!

I had physio today and have been in so much pain they suggested crutches and a support thing, they said they don't offer the proper belts anymore I think I'll have to buy one as its been so bad today.

Is your house far from the sea lulu? Sounds lovely

Yep he went out, I text him once I think but he didn't reply. From what has been put on Facebook by other people he was only with two other people and one left half way through. He got back around 5pm the next day.

I didn't sleep in the bed lulu as he never changes the sheets and I won't be doing it for him!

I had physio today and have been in so much pain they suggested crutches and a support thing, they said they don't offer the proper belts anymore I think I'll have to buy one as its been so bad today.

Sorry if this posts multiple times, my phone keeps freezing

Hello! Sorry I've been absent!
I'm exhausted lol. Ds2 is teething and he's taking it really bad :(
Ds1 has started his new pre school too which he likes :)
Had my consultant apt too and they said I could try vba2c :) so I'm happy with that!! :)

Ducky your spd sounds bad!!! :(
You really need to sleep in a bed :/

I'm going to Skegness Lulu. I'm super nervous. I've had a hard week with the kids so being 2 hours away worries me

That's great news about ds1 enjoying himself, but poor ds2 have you tried absenol? (I think that's it!).

Oooh fingers crossed you get your vbac this time!!

No I've not tried that! I need to! All I've used so far is teething gel, cold teething rings and calpol. But he's so bad bless him and his gums are super red.

How are things atm at home ducky? Any update on finding a house?

Definitely try it cupcake, ds was really bad and it's the only thing that works at all on him.

Things are still rubbish. H is still oblivious.

They're still waiting for the keys back but it is due any time now, the owner went to look it over today apparently.

I looked on h's phone praying to find evidence of an affair or something but all there was were messages to his friend showing off about how much he'd drank within a few mins of me dropping him off. He's also told them he's going to 'persuade' me to let him have a party at the end of October, and I will 'send ds to her moms for the night'. Baring in. Mind it will be less than 2 weeks to my induction. We're also struggling for money and he spend at least. £50 on his little outing the other week, at the very least

Hi, I'm so sorry to jump I your thread but I was really bored and started looking at the active threads and had a little flick through. I noticed that lulu must come from my neck of the woods as you mentioned RVI in Newcastle, and that you are having next baby at new hospital - which I'm assuming is cramlington (NSEC)?

I just wanted to let you know that I had DD2 there in May and the consultants and midwives were all brilliant. Own room felt like a luxury, although be aware the "bed" for DH is actually just a very uncomfy reclining chair!!

I had DD1 in RVI and was due to have DD2 there as well but I changed to Cramlington when I was 36 weeks (very late in the day I know but it was to do with after care).

Cramlington in far superior to RVI in my opinion, having experienced both.

Best of luck, and congratulations!

Going to pop out and buy some today ducky as he was bad last night again.

I can't believe he's still oblivious to everything! He's obviously just pulling the wool over his eyes as he's got an easy life how it is and wants it to stay that way. As to him persuading you to have a party id tell him to stuff it eugghh men!

On another note... it's my birthday today!!!
24 now

Let me know if it works, the poor thing. Was the only thing that did with ds, and if I remember you can re apply after 20 mins.... but check that!

I'm just desperate for this house now, I'll be so so gutted if I don't get one soon. I can't take it much longer and my anxiety is back with a vengeance :-( I still feel bad for him but I just can't go on like it.

Oooohhh happy birthday cupcake!!! You doing anything nice? Had any nice presents? It's my birthday Sunday too!

Well so far so good ducky :)
He's fallen straight to sleep and didn't seem to be in pain! Yay!

Really hope you get the house soon ducky! You'll feel so much better once you've finally got out.

I sorted the garden out! took me 2 hours and the kids have been a nightmare today. I'm actually glad my bday is over.
I got some new boots from the dc's. (Told exH exactly what to buy me from the boys) my mom got me some perfume and maternity clothes oh and a voucher for one nights babysitting haha

Yay for September bdays ducky!!

Oooh the voucher sounds good! use it wiseley!!! When is your gender scan again cupcake? Ds has been on the absenol today too! He has four teeth coming through just right about to break through.

The voucher sounds great right about now! Dc2 decided to wake up and not go back to sleep and all he's done is cry :( nothings calmed him not even the absenol.
Oh no ur poor ds!! Ds2's tooth is like that literally wanting to pierce through.

I've had such an awful birthday today :( I've cried most of the day. I just don't understand why the kids won't behave and then now ds2 not sleeping. Feel like I'm not coping atm which scares me because I'm about to have a 3rd child to look after all by myself. Plus I think I should have stayed on my antidepressants. Just worried that if I go back to the doctors to go on them again it will affect the baby and I don't want that :/ but I'm literally having chest pains through stress and anxiety.

I need to find a good man to take care of me and help with the kids lol.
My moms having a hen do this weekend and a night away in Leeds. That's all she's going on about And all my cousins are talking about and I'm just sat here crying wishing I could have a break lol but obviously I'm not going as exH 'can't' have the dc's for the weekend

I do apologise for moaning but I really needed to get this all out

Ducky my gender scan is a week on Monday. On the 26th :)

Oh cupcake sounds crap. And as did exh what a dick. Sounds like he wants them only on his terms. That's not a father! I would help you out if I could

I'm sure I've read on here about some anti depressants you can take while pg... i have no idea though. I have often thought about asking for some but I'm only depressed when I'm with h. I just need to get away from him, for my physical and mental health. All my hair has started falling out again and I think it's down to the stress.

Sounds like you are feeling crap Cupcake. You cope really well as a mum. I couldn't do what you do. You will be fine. It will be hard but you'll cope.

DH is out tonight. DS has just gone to bed. He had a fall today in the garden and scraped his face. He was hysterical. I was quite scared because of the fuss he made but he's fine and once it was cleaned up it isn't much. I am sitting with my feet up and a big mug of tea. I'm going in the bath in a bit.

Hope you have a nice time in Skegness Cupcake. I would rather have a few days there than be at hen parties- I hate those. Don't worry about finding a man. You've got enough to be doing and they are problematic creatures themselves. DH was late leaving this morning. There was toast, butter, milk and dirty dished on the worktops when I went downstairs. He had spilled milk on his shirt and taken it off and dropped it infront of the washer and got one out of the drier- not ironed. A pile of dirty football kit was on the floor- he had put his clean in his bag because he's playing tonight.
He made himself some sandwiches for lunch and had used the cheese and ham that was for me and DS- packets left on the worktop. I could have flattened him. Then he rang from work to say he'd forgotten his football boots and could I drive them up and drop them off and would I mind taking him an ironed shirt because he hadn't realised how creased the one from the drier was until he got to work and he had some important meetings and looked a sight. DS is no bother compared with him some days.

And he came home last night having had 5 pints and was totally out of it.I made him sleep in the spare room and he fell asleep fully dressed. He was ill this morning - very pale, feeling sick, splitting headache and is only just now starting to look normal. DS and I have been out without him today. He left his car last night and had to go back for it today. Is feeling very sorry for himself and has had no sympathy from me. He thinks he might need to go to bed early to get some sleep and feel normal tomorrow.

Ducky I think u will feel so much better and less stressed once you are away from ur H. It will do u the world of good.

Lulu what a perfect way to describe men! 'Problematic creatures'
As for your dh I would have made as much noise as possible to serve him right for drinking too much and having a hangover
And poor ds hurting his face! Children get all sorts when exploring and playing don't they.

I'm almost set for our holiday. I've done all the washing today, mainly all the DC's clothes, I seem to wear the same clothes day in day out got 2 new tires for my car as well. I really hope the dc's behave! If worst comes to worse I will just have to come back earlier than planned
My gender scan is a week on Monday I am so so excited !!!! Trying to think of ways to do a gender reveal for the family :)

Have a great holiday Cupcake. Don't come home early. They will be fine. They will love the beach and the sea and digging in the sand, ice creams, rock pools. You will have a lovely time. The fresh sea air and sun will do you good.

DH has been fast asleep since 9 in bed. I am sitting with a big glass of iced apple juice and a large packet of crisps with my feet up. Having a very nice quiet night.

Ducky - hope a house comes up soon for you so you can sleep in a bed and have some peace of mind.

It is my scan this week- on Tuesday. Bit nervous. Apart from tiredness which seems to have gone in the last couple of days, I don't feel pregnant.

Lulu I hope ds face is better.... and dh recovered! Iced apple juice sounds lovely! I will be thinking of you Tuesday, I was very nervous as this time I had a week of sickness then didn't feel at all pregnant, I didn't with ds either. Will dh be going with you?

Hope you have a lovely time on holiday cupcake. For the gender reveal are you planning on doing something big? Or just something small? If small you could send the grandparents a little box with a note saying 'your going to be grandparents with some little pink or blue booties? I read that once on here and thought it sounded cute.

I'm exhausted. Ds sleep has gone bad again. Last night he kept waking up crying, in the end I put him in my bed (a small blow up single) and he just lay there for hours discussing very important things the whole time he wanted me to just sit there rubbing his tummy. Then he was demanding drinks. Am hoping it was a one off because he had been a bit poorly in the day and is teething.

There has been another house come up, not the one I wanted but it's a house. It's bigger than the one I wanted but it doesn't really matter as db would move with me. Am going to try and contact estate agents in the week, although it's difficult because h has loads of time off coming up the house I want is still being refurbished apparently. I love it but even when it comes up there's a few people waiting for one so it's no guarantee I'll get it and I just can't wait much longer as I need to sort dd's stuff.

Thanks Lulu :)
Good luck for your scan on Tuesday I'm sure all will be fine. I'm 15 weeks now and even tho I have a bump I haven't felt baby move yet and I really don't feel pregnant

Ducky I really hope you get this house, u deserve it. I'll keep my fingers crossed for u :)

Well I've packed our bag, I hope I have everything for the boys!!
I'm so so nervous!!! am I crazy for taking away 2 small boys on holiday whilst also being pregnant??

The scan was fine- they said I am about 10 weeks. Could see tiny hands and feet and it was sort of wriggling round. DH got all emotional when he saw it on the screen. It was about 3.8 cm long which she said was fine.

I have had a surge of energy that last few days. Not as tired anymore.

We are going to keep it to ourselves as long as possible.SIL had DS today - she thought I was working.

Hope you have a lovely time cupcake and hope the ds's are on their best behaviour!

Lulu that's great news! Only 2 weeks to your next scan then? Do you have any feelings whether it's a boy or girl?

Well I'm still waiting for my house to come up so it looks like I'll be viewing a different one at some point this week.

Me and h have actually been getting on recently, although we still sleep in separate rooms and gave no physical contact what so ever. I don't feel that way towards him any more. I feel so horrible for doing what I'm doing but I know I can't just go on like this for his sake and I know he will be horrible once it happens.