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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Thread for the down at heart and lacking in optimism

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duchesse · 28/12/2006 19:33

I probably shouldn't do this, but...lovely though the ladies on my current ttc threads are, there are times when I feel I need a break from the upbeat atmosphere.

My story- 38, going on 39, three children easily conceived in my 20s, ttc number 4 for 3 years before finally achieving a pregnancy that ended in foetal death at 12 weeks and miscarriage at 13 weeks (Oct 2006).

Frequent lapses of hope. I simply can no longer believe that it will all be OK, that this month will be the one.

Now contemplating stopping trying.

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rahrah1 · 08/01/2007 17:40

It is defiantly a long path for some people. It's a heartbreaking experience...it will be one special baby when it happens....

Impatience · 08/01/2007 18:20

Hmm, stil can't tell whether I'm pg, about to get my period or just thoroughly poisoned from my persistant boozing... Virtual hair of the dog please. A pint, please. Make it three.

Thanks for all your congrats, and thanks Ready for your delight! Let's see whether this works... Might do ANOTHER test tomorrow.

Gotta dash but hope to drop by and down a few more later xx

eclipse · 08/01/2007 19:58

Congrats from me Impatience. I wasn't planning to join in with the tequilas but, since we're celebrating, it would be rude not to.

Dh and I are off on our hols in a few months and decided to take a few months off from ftc just so we could party while we're away. I agreed at the time cos I thought it would take the strain off, but now I'm not so sure. Think I'd enjoy the holiday more if we'd at least given ourselves every chance to conceive or of course if I was up the duff. Actually. I agreed at the time because I thought I might already be pregnant.

It feels like forever since I haven't constantly been looking for symptoms and now there's no chance I'm pregnant I'm still imagining them.

Oh, God. I knew the tequila was a bad idea. Or at least the last half pint was. Now I'm entering into the 'Confessions of a truly insane person' competition. AF finished a few days ago. It was as normal. But I still convinced myself I might be pregnant and that I am one of those people who goes on getting af while pregnant and this afternoon I just wasted an hpt (do I need to say BFN here or can that be assumed?) and another ticket out of Delusions-ville. And don't bother smirking. I know I'm not the only one - you know who you are.
Cheers.

greedyforbabies · 08/01/2007 20:13

congratulations perve! i did tell you before when you got pg i was stealing your baby...so whats your due date going to be again?
..........otherwise it looks like you are joining me with the super long cycles! i am cd31 today and still no sign of an egg! too late anyway cos sfdh (read, stupid f**king dh!) has gone away and left me on my own.

heard lots of good stories about clomid rahrah, but i know that this thread is NOT the place to share them!!

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duchesse · 08/01/2007 20:13

Well, Eclipse, I didn't entirely believe the period whilst pregnant and "oh my god I didn't know I was pregnant" stories.

Until it happened to me in August. I realised then that if I were the kind of person with variable length cycles and variable types of bleeding, I would maybe not have had a clue that I was pregnant until nearly 12 weeks, if it hadn't been for the feeling like crap all the time: I bled at 4, 8.5 and 11 weeks- ie roughly at period times. The last bleed couldn't have been mistaken for anything other than a haemorrhage, mind you.

Also, I reached 11 weeks with child number 2, in complete and utter denial- I felt a little tired, but not particularly nauseous. I was still breastfeeding child number 1, and hadn't got my periods back.

So I reckon now that anything's possible, and am completely paranoid that I could be pregnanct despite periods, and should i really be drinking this limoncello (IRL) when I might, just might, be pregnant despite only just having ovulated, and I daresay the egg won't be any good anyway since I was negative on a ovulation test strip.

Incidentally, have you ladies with polycystic ovaries tried limiting carb intake? The theory that PCO and PCOS are linked to pre-diabetes seems to quite credible. It might be a low-tech approach, and relaitvely easy to achieve.

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duchesse · 08/01/2007 20:16

Hey, Greedy, I have a super time-saving idea: why not get someone else in to do the deed if SFDH is going to go away at crucial times? ;)

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greedyforbabies · 08/01/2007 20:30

duchesse - fantastic idea! might not get a ginger one then either!

greedyforbabies · 08/01/2007 20:33

ginger baby i mean! was that obvious!

just been on another more chirpy thread and felt the need to post on here how much i HATE the stupid babydust thing! soory to all who belive in babydust, but it seems so twee and nicey nicey to me that it bugs me everytime i read it!

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duchesse · 08/01/2007 20:42

God, me too. I refuse any of those twee expressions. I'm glad it's not just me...

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rahrah1 · 08/01/2007 21:16

I've made a thread on Clomid and PCO, so I can get info about it prior to my appointment with CRM. I find I get more info from here than when I go to a consultant. Then I can ask questions and look like I know what I'm talking about. So if any one has any info for me, please post on this thread

Babydust to all

rahrah1 · 08/01/2007 21:17

Sorry only joking...

Gloom to all....

ura21 · 08/01/2007 21:52

Hi all, can i join too? feeling really fed up that it i now a year since coming off pill (though when i'm being honest once i factor in reg af, it's only 9 months of ttc - only huh) but really am feeling it's never going to happen. best mate is pg - due in 4 weeks, happy for her (really) but also v esp when talking to her dh last w/e who kept saying he thought it would take much longer and was dissapointed it had happened so soon. wanted to slap him! pass the wine please.

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duchesse · 08/01/2007 21:59

Wine, Ura? You sound like you need something stronger. We have vodka, tequila, and someone over there has a spliff. I think it might be with Cocoa the guinea pig at the moment. Oh, yes. She just fell over giggling. Look at her little feet waving...

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ura21 · 08/01/2007 22:07

oh go on then, if you insist! the despondent side of me says i've nothing to lose.

ladybug007 · 08/01/2007 22:29

Oh please, oh please can I join in? I've been FTC for about a year, am 36 and have a dh working abroad a lot. Am going to visit him in a few days but think it will already be too late for this month. Plus all my friends are pg with their 2nd babies, all of which 'just happened' or took about a month to conceive. Boo hiss ( but am thrilled for them really, just, you know).

ladybug007 · 08/01/2007 22:30

Oh and a dry white wine please!

ura21 · 08/01/2007 22:35

oh i know! pull up a seat next to me and we'll sulk together. btw does anyone else get really pissed off at all the 'accidental' pregnancy storylines in soaps or is that just me? mind you i got pissed off by the toothpaste last week - yes toothpaste!!! (the one that offers 3 in 1 protection for your (non-bloody-exsistent) family) someone call the men in white coats...

ladybug007 · 08/01/2007 22:41

I absolutely agree. Well, don't watch any soaps but the storylines still manage to filter through by osmosis. Accidental pregnancies shouldn't happen on Celeb Big Brother at least, but you never know, I suppose. So nice to have grumpy virtual friends - despondency rules!

ladybug007 · 08/01/2007 22:49

By the way, Greedy, I totally empathise. My dh is away nearly all month, then back, then away for most of feb. I know he's not sure about having a baby, but as Austin P would say, jeez, throw me a fricking bone here!

Impatience · 09/01/2007 10:24

Greedy, is sfdh refering to dearest/darling or dck hed?

I did ANOTHER test this morning. Despite all our squinting neither of us could even hallucinate a line. Even our eyes have lost their optimism. Greedy, I'm really feeling for you for your ridiculously long cycles! If this is my body trying a new strategy I just want it to know I DON'T LIKE IT. It's hard enough trying to insem at the right times when everything's predictable! Pass the spliff this way please, it's never too early for me.

Eclipse, take that fab holiday! One month of not trying isn't going to break the bank. Prob not going to make a difference anyway, huh?

babydu........ ah f it.

rahrah1 · 09/01/2007 12:50

No one has answered to my thread... Stamp my feet!!!

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duchesse · 09/01/2007 13:01

Rahrah, which topic did you put it in? Try putting it on several- health, pregnancy and conception eg. Perhaps you need to go and bump it from time to time.

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greedyforbabies · 09/01/2007 15:39

guess what....still haven't f**king ovulated! i hate my body i hate my body i hate my body i hate my body i hate my body i hate my body i hate my body i hate my body i hate my body i hate my body i hate my body i hate my body i hate my body i hate my body i hate my body i hate my body i hate my body i hate my body i hate my body i hate my body i hate my body i hate my body i hate my body!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

rahrah1 · 09/01/2007 16:19

I just put it on conception, will pop threads on other topics... Thanks

Impatience · 09/01/2007 16:58

what day are you on now greedy? very impressive!

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