TTC after miscarriage - new thread

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I just spotted that the old thread was now closed to new messages so thought I'd start another. The old thread for reference: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2457787-TTC-1-after-miscarriage-looking-for-some-buddies

I'm glad I'm not the only one. I'm getting a bit sick on myself and the constant fluctuations in my thoughts. I'm 21 days post miscarriage. The bleeding started 28 days ago and I passed everything a week later. Perhaps the reason I'm all weepy today is because af is on the way? is that possible? I usually have 28 day cycles.

Loki I'm also 21 days since my mc bleeding started. It started on the 10th lasted for two weeks and had spotting for the last week. Today is the only day I've had no spotting at all. I'm expected my af to be later an not like a 'normal' af. I counted my mc as lmp not sure if that will be right though

Loki and amy I think for the majority of people, their normal cycle sort of starts from the last day of proper bleeding as that's when your pregnancy hormones fall sharply and your body kicks back into gear.

For example a 28 day cycle.

Bleeding stops on 1st Jan
Pregnancy hormones leave by the 5th
19th Jan ovulation
2nd Jan period

I think what we are all feeling in the first month has a lot to do with the hormones changing too but doesn't make it any better. ..

Thank you, I still have hcg hanging around so I know I'm not starting a new cycle yet hopefully it'll all be gone by next week.

My mc was backwards I think. I had all of the bleeding first - 7 days of very heavy bleeding, then passed everything, then bleeding slowed dramatically and stopped two days later. It's been 21 days since I passed the baby. If my period returns in the next week I'll be overjoyed. My tests were fading from 48 hours after I passed the baby and completely negative by last weekend. I was only testing weekly though so don't know the exact day the hormones returned to normal.

Hi all

Reading through your messages this morning made me think how bloody strong everyone seems. It takes amazing strength to get through a MC and put a smile on for the world - I don't think people who haven't experienced it understand. Being back at work this week has taken every ounce of strength I have. I have cried in the toilets a few times but I am so proud of myself that I got through it. I think we should all be kind to ourselves and remember how amazing we are being, despite not feeling like it at times! Sorry to sound all American!

A little update on my situation. I went to the EPU yesterday and explained my situation. They said it was impossible to be pregnant again but did a blood test and swabs anyway. My HCG came back as 162 (I think you are officially pregnant when it is over 50), so the doctor said it is likely that I have tissue remaining which will pass with my next period. Within hours of leaving the hospital, I started spotting then it stopped. Then today I have stringy brown mucus stuff (like you get at the end of a period), so I guess this is the start of AF? My first period after my first MC started slowly then stopped then came on full force so I guess that is what will happen again. All VERY confusing but the whole process of miscarrying is confusing.

So now I have some clarity, I am going to go out tonight with friends, drink prosecco, have fun and look forward to being able to TTC again in a week's time. I signed up for Ovia this week which I find strangely reassuring knowing that the next cycle is not far away.

I have also started taking loads of supplements and making DH take them too so hopefully with the next cycle my body will be fighting fit and ready to conceive (fingers crossed)

Have great Saturdays everyone!

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My tests have been going down slowly over the last week dropping by 100 every 48hrs rather than halving. Dr advised weekly bloods until the level is under 50. Have a test on Tuesday. Still having faintly positive HPT's so...
I think mine has dropped slowly because there was still something left in my uterus but the sonographer didn't know what it was at that point but were guessing products of conception and at that point the bleeding had turned to spotting. Passed a big clot the evening after my scan and nothing but brown stringy bits since (sorry tmi). Also I didn't know I pregnant until mid way through bleeding so they couldn't even guess at the gestational age of my baby. I think I was around 6-7 going on some symptoms I had, should have guessed really but put it down to me having numerous colds and the fact I'd had surgery to remove my gallbladder a week or so previously

Enjoy your night out Kate.
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Loki and Amy* I had ERPC but then had retained products and haemorrhaging. My AF started exactly 26 days after the surgery (despite +ve preg test for almost 4 weeks). I have a very regular cycle though and even after birth of DC1&2 and exclusively bf, I got my AF regular as clockwork! I think it all depends on the individual- sorry not much help.

Had a little cry at the shops and bought a baby toy. Don't know why but felt I needed to.

Bless you all. I honestly thought a miscarriage would be a quick thing, before this whole awful process.

Two weeks post "miscarriage" and I am now bleeding fresh blood again. I've been bleeding, in total, for about two months! Still positive tests, or it'd think it was my AF.

I really don't want to have to go back for an ERPC as I just want this to be over now, but how long can you feasibly wait for a miscarriage to be complete!? Surely it can't go on that long? It's doing my head in.

I didn't expect it to last so long either missclarke. Not bleeding but I still have retained tissue 3 weeks after mc and epau nurse says I should expect another bleed to clear it although it might come out with AF.

Can you have an AF while there's still HCG hanging around? My scientific brain just wishes I understood it all!

My hcg is going down so the nurse seems to think it should happen. I really don't understand it all either though, makes me feel so powerless!

I didn't think a new cycle would start if there's hcg because your body still thinks it's pregnant? I'm going to ask about it when I go to the GAU on Tuesday for my bloods

I did another test to double check and it's completely negative. I'm hoping for af now. Never thought I'd say that!

Loki glad your test was negative!
Mine was almost invisible this morning so hoping with fmu tomorrow it's gone.
Never thought I'd be pleased or even praying for a bfn and af!

I only tested twice the day I found out I was preg. I didn't test after that at all although I know some like to test regularly to see the lines getting darker etc. I'm just being silly but I don't want to test again until I'm preg. I don't want to test to make sure it's gone. I would've thought that my next AF will be proof that it's gone so I'm just hoping for that. We aren't TTC in the meantime. Surely that's correct isn't it? You can't get your af if there is retained products/preg hormones kicking about?

MissClarke I'm not sure about getting your period with HCG in your system but I ovulated about 5 days after I finally had a BFN. I would probably want to talk to a doctor if I started bleeding with a BFP. When did you miscarry? I've heard you need to have 21 bleed free days for any further bleeding to be able to be counted as a period.

Cheeky why are you so against tracking your levels down to a BFN? Are you tracking ovulation at all this cycle? I found it useful to know what was going on and now I also know when to expect my next period. Now I also know that when I start bleeding again it's going to be my period.

Amy good luck with the test in the morning! It's sad going back to only seeing that single lonely line but it's also a relief. I ovulated 5-6 days after my BFN so if you're trying again start away just know that you can gear up to ovulate with HCG still in your system!

So, I definitely ovulated last week. Can't quite believe it, on CD17, and that's counting CD1 as the day of the surgery. Had a momentary panic this evening as I had a metallic taste in my mouth briefly- the only times I've had that is the month I had my chemical and the cycle I got pregnant with the one we just lost it was only for a minute though and it's gone again now, so we'll see what the next week brings. That would be both amazing and scary!

Smellsofelderberries fingers crossed for your BFP! Will be waiting for good news

So today I did my final HPT which was an astounding negative! OPK is positively positive too so we'll see about the ovulation, may not happen but at least I know it's a true positive now not hcg. Still have one blood test to confirm my levels on Tuesday, hoping its under 50.

Last night me and DH husband were messing around and one thing led to another, we DTD but forgot the protection I'm allergic to latex which makes it so difficult to get condoms. Hoping my ovulation test is wrong! I've text him at work saying I'm fertile (I think) and he came back with 'oops' lol.

Hope everyone has a nice day

I'm so fed up this morning! I'm still getting positive p tests, the bleeding has stopped so it clearly wasn't the start of AF, I've got tugging pains in my tummy & feel constantly sick... When I started bleeding on Friday I thought my body was finally getting back to normal but now it's completely stopped. When will this hell end?! I just want to start trying again but it's been four weeks now and still positive tests. I'm so angry!

Sorry girls. It's just getting me down now. I feel like I'm waiting for my life to begin. I'm fed up of putting on a brave face and watching all my friends fall pregnant so easily. I'm fed up of being happy for everyone else and never having any luck. I'm tired of being the one people feel sorry for and look at with sympathy. When will life give us a break and let us have the one simple thing everyone else seemingly gets so easy? I'm starting to think it may never happen. And what then? So depressed today.

Hopefulkate is the positive dark or faint? Maybe you're retaining some tissue hence the bleeding again. Maybe warrants a check up at the EPU, your body is trying to expel what is left. There's a website I looked at that says this can happen with retained tissue but I don't know how to put the link up so you can have a look at it.
I'd defo go and get yourself checked out though.
I understand how you feel about being happy for everyone else... I feel the same with everyone announcing pregnancies at the moment. I think 30 of my friends are either pregnant or have just given birth.
Big hugs for you Hun

Thanks Amy. It's so tough isn't it?

I went to the EPU on Friday and they said my HCG is 162 so they asked me to test again in a week and if it is still positive come back to them. I guess I may need another bout of antibiotics to clear the final bits of tissue out. Tired of waiting....

It is really tough hun... My bloods were at 170 on Tuesday last week. My bleeding started on the 10th and turned to spotting on the 21st I've had that ever since. Just there when I wipe. Like you I just want it to stop so I can carry on with out being scared everytime I go to the toilet that there's going to be more there and for a bit of closure too.
Feel in limbo still waiting and waiting.

Are you still getting positive p tests Amy? When did you miscarry? Did you have surgery or miscarry naturally? Sorry for all the questions.

I had surgery on the 6th Jan and then had an infection shortly afterwards so had a course of antibiotics to clear it up. I bled ALOT and then stopped bleeding a few weekends ago. So I presumed that all the tissue would have been gone, so the thought that there is more lingering in there is just a nightmare.

Well I finally 'womaned up' and dtd last night. A couple of glasses of wine helped with my nerves and once we got started I was able to get lost in the moment instead of worry. Hopefully I'm back on the road to the new normal. Thanks for your support everyone.

Ah brilliant!! So pleased. I felt very shy the first time we DTD after the miscarriage and between us, it hurt a bit the first time but I just ignored it and carried on and the second time was all back to normal. Are you in your fertile window Loki?

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