TTC after miscarriage - new thread

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I just spotted that the old thread was now closed to new messages so thought I'd start another. The old thread for reference: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2457787-TTC-1-after-miscarriage-looking-for-some-buddies

Mrsbevo any news? Sounds v possible to me, how are you feeling?

Jo Malones - I'm sorry I can't tag you.

Bless you, I'm so sad for you. It's so heartbreaking isn't it? I don't think it ever gets easier maybe we just learn to deal with each hurdle that's to come. My friend told me she was pregnant today and i broke my heart but we just have to know our time will come and we will cherish it more than ever. I was at a party in the weekend and a lady was 20 weeks pregnant drinking wine and crying because she was having a boy and she wanted a girl. My husband whipped me straight out of the party people like that are just awful humans sometimes.

In regards to your advice, bless you thank you so much. I'm thinking you might be right as when I did the first ovulation stick it was positive I did one 2 and 3 days after and it was still positive so would the sperm stick around for that long for me to conceive is the question. It's a week tomorrow and AF still not here. Maybe that's what has happened

Hopefulkate - I can't tag lol how do you tag names in bold
Like you have to mine? I'm new to this site.

Thank you for asking. Still no AF will be a week tomorrow but I haven't done a test yet and I became obsessed so thought best to wait and see if period comes over the weekend and of not then do another.

Still feeling tired but not so much sick anymore just a horrible taste still and discharge!

Kate keep us updated tomorrow - hope it's good news.

Thanks MrsB are you on phone or laptop? On the app I click the T, on the laptop I have to add a * to the beginning and end of every word for bold.

Some people are awful! Glad your DP took you away. I don't know why people have such a preference.

Thank you Jo I've got it now :)

I know my word is be happy with anything

Big group hug girls X**

Running I had terrible pains a week after my ERPC, was terrified as I'd hardly had any bleeding. After very sharp pains for 2 hours, writhing around on our bed because I couldn't sit up properly DH turned to google and started asking what my pain was like as we though it might have been the rest of the miscarriage about to start or even appendicitis! Turns out it was really bad consipation once DH had managed to get up off the floor, dry the tears from his eyes and stop laughing, he nipped to Tescos and got some laxitives. The relief was almost immediate! Hope you're feeling more comfortable today.

Jo I also just finally had my BFN, last Saturday. I was expecting it, and was glad my body was sorting itself out, but felt so deflated at the single line. Felt like I could do an amazing magic trick bringing up two lines when I was pregnant

As for me, I'm pretty sure I ovulated yesterday. CM was creamy today after lots of EWCM yesterday and a few other O symptoms. It really threw me and have come home and had a cry to DH this evening. It's only CD17 after my ERPC! Lucky we finally bit the bullet last Friday and have got a few sessions in since then, but the whole TTC stress has hit me full force again. Still determined to NTNP and just have as much sex as possible, but I'm terrified of it taking another 8 months like the last one did. And also scared of getting knocked up again this cycle because so many people know about the ERPC and it would feel a bit weird having people know we were back at it so quickly!

How long after MC is it okay to DTD? I'm not even thinking about conceiving yet, am still bleeding a bit and having positive tests, but I'm totally fed up of not being intimate with my OH. It's not about sex, it's about intimacy.

I'm still concerned about infection risk :(

Ouch, period pains have hit. Bring on February and hopefully a medicine free month leading to a healthy bfp!

missclarke we dtd as soon as I stopped bleeding. That's said, I bled on and off for a month due to haemorrhaging then infection. We also needed the closeness. I honestly thought the bleeding had stopped when we did. It's so tough but only you know when you're ready to ttc.

Hi everyone! having a crap week this week. I've had parents evening and had some quite rude people who have asked the question 'where will a drama GCSE get my child' (which is a fair enough question and one I'm happy to answer) only to then go on to disagree with my every point and challenge me to repeatedly prove the validity of my subject but dismissing every argument I put forward. So frustrating. To top it alk off, I should be 16 weeks pregnant tomorrow and I feel really sad about that today. Im trying ti be ok but im still so sad. I do think dh and I might be good to go with dtd physically which will help, but, walking in after a long and frustrating parents evening to a messy house and dh having fed our dd McDonald's rather than the spagbol that I cooked from scratch yesterday has pissed me off. I want to smush his face. He didn't even have the decency to bring me a veggie burger!

Oh Loki. What a frustrating evening. Did he even buy a donut or milkshake for you?!

I feel very angry today too Loki. Angry but then I have no tears. And my food is fluctuating like the wind!

I want my period to come quickly so we can TTC again but part of me thinks I might wait two periods. I'm not sure really. Just feel so mixed up at the mo. Want to be able to TTC ASAP but I'm scared too.

Nothing! Arsehole that he is!
I've had crumpets and a large glass of red! I can bring myself to ttc Cheeky. I just think 'not try but not prevent' is the only way I'll make it through the next few weeks.

Arse! Lucky it isn't ov so you can glare at him all evening!

Cheers! My wine must be medicinal for period pains along with the massive chocolate bar

I've just stuffed myself with a cup of tea and about 10 chocolate digestives...

Have you DTD since your m/c Kate? If so you could be pregnant again. Either that or you could have retained tissue or it was a partial molar pregnancy. I would get in touch with your EPAC and get it checked.

Glad you finally got your BFN Elderberries. I hope that soon you will have a new BFP.

I am gobsmacked about that woman. I'm glad your DH whisked you away. I work in a bid hospital and have to avoid the main entrance as it is right next to the maternity unit and I seem to be forever passing heavily pregnant women smoking outside the door.

MissClark you can DTD once you stop bleeding.

Tonight I made dinner and then DH announced that he didn't think he could DTD on a full stomach. He left his dinner on the table with the door open while we DTD. I have a happy dog and a hungry husband now. . I didn't laugh much, honest.

brenna that is brilliant!!! Nice work!

I'm at the hospital now, they say it's not possible to be pregnant again but they are just doing urine test. Will let you know. Eek.

Afternoon all! Just have to get this off my chest- no sex is killing me argh

Burning essential oils to de-stress! Working a treat, mandarin oil smells delish and making me crave fruit! Made myself a fruit salad to take to work with me.

HPT still faintly positive, OPK negative however. Moving in the right direction.
Awaiting af (hurry up) so I know it's over and time to start again!

Hope you all have a good day

Haha AmyB that was me until recently. Didn't even have sex for a week after stopping bleeding but I was getting rather frustrated...
Original plan was to use condoms until after first AF but that went out the window in the heat of the moment. If I get pregnant before having AF so be it but I do want that first period for dating and closure. Oh well!

Hope the essential oils and fruit helps to take the edge off! Perhaps a cold shower will help

Brenna that is hilarious! Lucky dog, and lucky DH even if he had to go hungry! At least you know where his priorities are, as keen as I am to be pg again I think I'd have chosen dinner greedy cow

Loki hope you have a good weekend to make up for your crap week and parents' evening. Get your DH to make you something nice or take you out for dinner to make up for it and screw parents who don't see the value in drama. Even if they don't go on to become an actor I think drama is great for building self-esteem and confidence. I'm actually really shy IRL and thinking of doing an improv class to boost my confidence. Would loved to do drama as a child though, I was always hiding away in my room writing plays and forcing my cousins to act in them when they came over

Brenna that's hilarious!!

I've been told by our current clinic that i need to wait three months after a MMC before transferring a frozen egg. Has anyone only waited one cycle and had success? Three months seems so long when I'm nearing 40 (which I'm aware isn't old). X

I'm really struggling. Twice I've told myself that 'tonight the night' to dtd and twice I've stopped myself. Despite feeling very much like I want too. I miss my husband and I miss sex but I'm terrified. Does anyone else feel like they are desperate for a baby buy terrified of getting pregnant?

Well I'm positive I'm in the 2ww now as my OPK's have been negative for a few days now. I had a month of darkish lines though which was annoying!

Been having some crazy dreams which happened last time but I'm just trying to be realistic and not get my hopes up. Feeling like I'll be very dissapointed if I don't get a positive this month as I want it just a bit too much feel like this month is lasting forever (I guess at CD37 it kinda is...)

Loki I feel the same as you. Desperate to be close to my hubby again but terrified of being pregnant. It's really hard to explain this to my DH.

Loki, I feel the same, desperate but scared again to be pregnant as couldn't face another MC. AF arrived today on time so off to shop and relax and hoping for a successful February.