TTC after miscarriage - new thread

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I just spotted that the old thread was now closed to new messages so thought I'd start another. The old thread for reference: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2457787-TTC-1-after-miscarriage-looking-for-some-buddies

I'm so sorry about your mil Mel...

Evening all!

I'm going back to work tomorrow after three weeks off from my MMC and feeling v nervous. I have been told that everyone at work suspects what has happened - I had my 1st mc in sept last year & had a week off which everyone knew about - and I am dreading it!!!!! I even had a glass of wine tonight, my first in 10 days, to calm my nerves. I just want to be pregnant and hopeful again, like we all do....

I'm still getting positive p tests 18 days after my surgery - preying it returns to normal soon so I know where we are....

Hope you all sleep well!

X

Loki - I just thought if I get my period, it would mean the preg hormones have gone? Am I wrong?

Thanks for your kind words ladies

Hello to all the new joiners, sorry you find yourselves here.

I'm currently in my fertile window on cycle two.

I'm feeling much more positive than I was last month, everything feels more natural with my DH rather than the regimented "we must have sex right now" which neither of us enjoyed. Due to ovulate Tuesday or Wednesday I think then into the 2ww.

I'm off the booze completely, trying to eat better and cut out coke to reduce caffeine intake. I'll be focusing on exercising, staying well hydrated and getting 8 hours sleep.

Fingers crossed for everyone.

Good luck Fedup. It's good that you're feeling more relaxed about things.

Hope your first day at work is going OK Hopefulkate

Just got back from yet another epau scan and still have retained tissue but it has reduced so it looks like I'm reabsorbing it so no need for erpc. Now have antibiotics to ward off infection and another scan in a week. Did anybody else have to have so many follow-ups? I'm glad it's at least moving in the right direction though albeit slowly

Sorry to hear that insufficiently. I had a mmc and had two scans to make sure everything was away (which it was). Had a low grade temp though and infection markers in blood is high so got docs this week.

I had a lot of follow ups Insufficiently, i had two scans before it happened naturally but I haemorrhaged so ended up with more scans in hospital.

I then had two more afterwards (with bloods) as it took a long time for my HCG levels to drop and my lining was thicker than it should have been, all over the course of about 3 weeks from start to finish.

Hang in there, it will all be over soon enough.

Sounds positive that you are likely reabsorbing though. The MA have some interesting stats on being more fertile and more likely to have a healthy pregnancy within 6 months of mc so there are positives to draw.

Well I have no idea what my body's doing now... Got a positive ovulation stick today on CD34! I know it's not easy to predict your first cycle but I thought I had ovulated a week ago.
Not sure if we will be able to keep up with BD every night for much longer!

Welcome to everyone new here. It's not a nice place to be but it's a supportive bunch.

melavi I think your right with your period meaning all hormones have gone. I would probably still test just in case though. Otherwise if I did get a positive test I would be wondering if it was just leftover from before or a new pregnancy

insufficiency I didn't have any follow ups after my hospital stay and a scan showed everything hadn't passed. Feeling fine though and got a negative test. It's good you don't have to go in for further treatment now.

I think you are right too Mel. I think, for me, I would be driven crazy waiting for my period because it can take a little while. Then if it didn't show I'd want to test, then wouldn't trust the test iyswim?

I've had the antibiotics, Insufficiently. Metronidazole and another one beginning with C. Metronidazole is quite nasty - do not drink any alcohol because you will be sick x

I have Co-amoxiclav which might be the c one you mentioned.

Llindsey maybe you get 2 opportunities this month as a bonus

How many dpo are you Lindsey?

I just peed on an opk. If not really sure why. Curiosity after experiencing a bit of ewcm. I can't help but feel a bit 'how the hell am I back here?'.

Lindsey are you sure you're not pregnant? Positive pregnancy often shows as positive on OPK. That's how I found out I was pregnant last time, a really strong OPK!

I'll do a test tonight now from your comments and report back if it's negative or positive. Hopefully the hormones will have settled.

Thanks so much Insufficiently - it was OK, much better than I thought it would be. I was dreading bursting into tears but thankfully it was so busy and within 5 minutes it was totally forgotten that I hadn't been there for three weeks....

Forgive me for bursting in when I haven't been on the thread too long but Lindsey it does sound like you may be pregnant? Have you taken a test?

Loki - what did your OPK test say?

My body is still confusing the hell out of me! Still getting strong positives on pregnancy tests and (I know I shouldn't be waiting lots of tests) but I have strong OPK's too. Am also very bloated with tummy aches, like I do when I am about to come on. Do you think I may have retained some of the tissue? Would I be in pain if I had? Or is bloating a sign?

x

And good luck Mel.x

I went back to work today after 2 weeks off. I work at a school. My first conversation was with a little one who came running to tell me they were glad I was back and mum is having a baby. Typical. I was also aware the my boobs still hurt going up and down the stairs and I started to bleed a bit! All a bit full in. Was glad to get home x

Oh Solan, I am so sorry. That is not what you need at all on your first day back. Hope you are cuddled up, nice and warm now. Things will get better for us all I'm sure. x

Solan that sounds tough, exactly what you don't need. Hope you have had a nice relaxing evening tonight.

Good luck Mel and Lindsey!

Loki, I know the feeling very much back to square one.

The clinic told me to go back if I was still getting positive tests 3 weeks after the mc. Mine stated to fade a couple of days after I'd passed everything. Opk was faint which means negative. I don't really care - no idea why I tested to be honest. I'm fed up I think. I miss being pregnant. The thought of being pregnant horrifies me. I want a baby. I need to be pregnant again. And so on go my crazy thoughts!

Hello all the new people. Sorry you are here. Some very sad stories there. Solan, that is such a hard conversation to have straight after getting back.

Kate I was told to come back if I didn't have a negative test by two weeks after mine. It could be retained tissue. The OPK is not surprising, it can pick up HCG as well as LH as they have a similar structure.

My brother phoned for a rant last night about how he is supposed to be starting a new project at work but it is badly timed as my SIL is due in 3 weeks and did I know how hard it was to be stuck in limbo waiting for the birth? I didn't shout at him that it is a hell of a lot harder being stuck in limbo waiting to be pregnant. Both of their pregnancies were quick to happen and very uneventful. He has other issues to deal with though and I am sure it is really stressful waiting for the birth too. I wish I could be stressed about that though. It was my birthday too. Happy birthday to me.

CD5 and AF has bogged off. Here we go again. It is DH's 40th on Saturday. It is also my friend's funeral. I have booked a hotel witha pool and jaccuzzi in Edinburgh for saturday night and a night out at a comedy club. I am not telling him about this and am going to sneak a bag of clothes into the back of the car. I wasn't able to book anything before now as we had that stupid travel ban of his. I am glad we are past that. Here is hoping that a night in a hotel during my FW does the trick.

Wellcome to all the new people, Cd8 here and not in the mood for BD, not sure why.

I really must get in the mood in the next few days or we will miss the window.

Brenna I wish you lots of baby dust on your trip

Hello everyone, and welcome to the new people

I've not been keeping up very well as I hit a bit of a low, but I think it's great we have a new thread title and are open to all!

I had my first experience of the scan picture posting thing last night - an old friend, not seen him for a while - and I just dissolved. I'm usually philosophical about it - that's not the baby I want - but I suppose it's timing. I wonder too if I tried to bounce back a bit quickly because of Christmas and New Year.

My 'It Starts With the Egg' book came yesterday, so I'm having a read today.

Hopeful and Missclarke I very much wish I was pregnant but I did a test at same time and it came back negative.

Loki Ive got no idea how manys DPO I am. Could just be 1 or could be up to 2 weeks I guess. I stopped bleeding on the 1st of this month. Just a waiting game this month

Solan It must be really hard working with kids after a miscarriage, I feel for you.

Brenna Enjoy Edinburgh this weekend. Hopefully the weather clears up for you as today its pouring it down and the wind has made such a mess! Xmas trees on the roads this morning!

Bonxie Its so difficult isnt it! One minute you think you are fine then a silly thing trips you up and you're right back at the start. I found it hard at first with the scan pictures on Facebook. Especially as everyone seemed to announce just after my miscarriage. I'm not so bothered by it now but every now and again I get hit by it.

Ive booked a spa day for Thursday with my hubbie to chill out and treat ourselves. Im hoping the advice about a warm womb will come true!!

bonxie yep scan photos on Facebook I've struggled with, especially the people who's babies are due in July like mine would have been. My solution has been to spend much less time on Facebook and remind myself that people tend to just post the highlights on there, and that for all I know those people could have been trying for a while or even had a miscarriage before the sticky one too.

solan sorry about the tough day - in my work I come into contact with pregnant women and children too, I've also found that tugs at me emotionally - with time passing it's got easier though and it also focuses me on how much having children matters to me, and makes me more determined to do whatever it takes - right now I'm thinking that's be patient and be kind to myself as I'm still in the early stages of my TTC journey, which like all of ours will hopefully have a happy new beginning at the end if it.