TTC after miscarriage - new thread

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I just spotted that the old thread was now closed to new messages so thought I'd start another. The old thread for reference: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2457787-TTC-1-after-miscarriage-looking-for-some-buddies

Wow hugs to everyone who is having a rough time, today especially.

I'm now on cd29, no sign of AF. I'm getting really frustrated with myself as around ovulation I was sure I'd missed it but now I'm allowing myself some hope which I don't want to do for AF to arrive again. I did a test last Tuesday that was negative, of course, but now I'm thinking it could have just been too early. Argh! This hope/disappointment cycle is not fun!

I decided to do a nice thing and bought my newly pregnant friend some flowers and a card to say congratulations. I figured she had tried her best to be sensitive, even though it didn't work out that way, and she is one of my BFs so I needed to show her I was ok.

Sendings you all love and hugs today, def not easy with all my friends wishing each other happy mothers day on fb and group chat! My baby would haven been due around now so feeling a bit sad, bought myself some mother are day flowers!
Fingers crossed for you fedupithink xx

Did a test this morning on the off chance (only 11dpo!) and BFN, but came downstairs and found my DH had bought me Mother's Day flowers. He'd already left to go to his Mum's for the day, but it made things a little easier. I'm off out for brunch, hope everyone is having an okay day. Sun is out here so that makes things feel much better!

Hi all- hope you're all ok today. It's hard day today.

My DD's and DH got me a card and some presents. The card made me cry so much I couldn't see. DH had sent it from ALL of the kids not just our DD's. I should have 6 children now but out of my 5 pregnancies I only have 2 that are here. This makes me sad and grateful all at the same time.

I believe, if you carried a child but didn't get to meet them, you're still a mum.

Hello all, just a quick message from a graduate of this thread to say I'm thinking of all you lovely ladies today. Keep talking to each other and I wish you all the best of luck with your ttc journeys x

and hugs to all who need it today. I'm far more emotional than I thought I'd be. Normally ignore the day completely (complex family situation) but I was looking forward to this being the first positive one. DP has gone out to see his family and I've stayed home to feel sorry for myself in peace. Cat is keeping me company, he's very snuggly.

Thanks for thinking of us and popping back Sunday, it's very kind of you

Loki that really is a horrible thing to have to face about the card. I'd have cried too. Even more so about the due date. I am dreading mine. I hope that by 1 year on it will feel less raw than it is right now. Big hugs from me.

Likeswise something. Have a due date hug for today.

Amy what a knob. Surely she would be getting it all from you as you arrive? That was lovely of your DH. Well done that man.

Well done FedUp. I hope you will feel better for getting over this hurdle.

I am sure your little one knows you are thinking of them Jodie.

Sorry about the BFN Elderberries. Your DH has done well too.

Hi Sunday.

I am starting to get increasing hormone on my OPKs. Have DTd this morning too. I also have a chest infection and am crackling while I breathe and coughing up green gunk. Very lovely.

Thanks all. A good sob really sorted me out last night. Still teary today but I'm just going with it. Hope this is it for you Brenna and hope you get some joy tomorrow elderberries! Amy I don't know how you are still standing after that many losses. Your dh sounds lovely. Ic - hugs for you today. It's shit, but you aren't alone. Hope everyone else is okay

Brenna I hope this is the month for your bfp! My step dad is a knob and that's putting it politely! My mum knows the routine I have on Sunday's and that every Mothering Sunday since I left home has been the same. She had her things this morning for the first time in 8 years!

Loki having a good cry is the best way to release tension. Losing so many babies had actually made me a lot stronger than I once was. I have no medical problems (apart from ME and fibromyalgia, they don't affect fertility and pregnancy) so the losses were put down to bad luck apart from my first which was to do with PROM after a car accident which I kick myself for and have done for the last 9 years since my boys were born.
I absolutely hate being pregnant because of all that has happened but it doesn't stop me from wanting to try again.
I'm lucky to have a very supportive family and my DH is a legend, he's been with me through thick and thin, through spiralling into a horrid depression and out of the other side. Ignoring my pregnancies with the girls, you know I can't even remember my pregnancies apart from the bad bits! Can't remember when they first kicked me or how much they moved nothing!

This is why I say to enjoy every minute of being pregnant (when we all get there, which I believe whole heartedly that we all will!) as there is just as much, if not more of a chance of having a healthy baby at the end of it

I love your positivity Amy

Glad you're feeling a bit better today Loki. Sometimes you do just need a good cry to get it all out

Hope your chest infection clears up soon Brenna

Good luck Elderberries! 11dpo is still early

Amy, that is so true about enjoying pregnancy. While I HATE what happened and how my first pregnancy ended, and while I was really upset most of the pregnancy as we knew it was going wrong from fairly early on, I still look back with fondness at those 7 weeks I was pregnant. I'm also learning to forgive my body for 'not working'.

Loki, nothing but hugs for you

Amy, that is really sweet of your DH to think of that.

Sunday, so so glad to hear you're finally getting your baby! And thanks for reminding us there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Brenna, sounds sexy! Hopefully this will be your month!

Still no spotting the afternoon of 11dpo. VERY happy things look to be heading the right direction with my LP am going to start acupuncture at the student clinic this week (hopefully, haven't made the appointment yet!) so hopefully we're moving in the right direction. I'm hoping a bit of acupuncture can bring forward ovulation and even out my cycles a bit. Anyone else done acupuncture?

Does anybody know if it's possible to have retained tissue even after the first period post mc? My last period was the 1st but was quite light whereas this one, the 2nd, is unusually heavy with large clots. I've over-flowed my mooncup 3 times today. Considering I had retained tissue after mc this is more like what I thought my first would be like. Had negative hpts since 1 week before last period though

That's what my first period was like. I had to change protection every hour and even then I was flooding and wearing a pad as well as a super+ tampon. How many days did you go between your mc and first af without any bleeding at all? According to my GP, you need to have 20 days with no spotting at all in order for it to be a period not still part of the mc. I don't know if that's correct but it makes sense for how I have been. This af has been completely different and normal.

I stopped bleeding really quickly after mc. Bled for 5 days. Then 4 weeks to 1st AF.

Is really bad cramping before your first af normal?

I know I've just ovulated but having the worst pains all day. It's upsetting me a little bit as it reminds me of the cramps I was getting when I had my mc.

My first couple of periods were quite a lot heavier. It sounds like your body may be having a good old clearout. Hopefully your next one will be normal.

I am still wheezing and crackling away. I am indeed very sexy

Paco I had severe cramps after ovulation until af.

Insufficiently mine was like that on Tuesday overflowed my mooncup 4 times that day but this was my first af since, that was cd2. What cd are you on? After that it was medium/light and has changed to brown spotting the last 2 days, now cd7.

CD3. 1 was heavy & painful, 2 was only slightly heavier than normal, day 3 today is a lot heavier. Spotting for 4 days before AF started. Hopefully it is just a good clear out so everything can go back to normal once it's done

I hope everyone is doing ok today, new week and all that.

I'm now cd30, no spotting as yet but it is early. Boobs still full, feel very calm and happy. Do I dare hope this might be my month?

Ive checked back on my tracker app and my last 6 months of cycles were 31, 29, 31, 30, 31 and 28 days which was my shortest ever last month. It would be particularly cruel of AF for this month to be 34 days based on this right?

I've decided not to test until Thursday just in case as I don't want to see another bfn.

Fedup I'd dare hope! If nothing appears I'd say af is late if you test on Thursday. Do you know when you ov'd? Most people lp stays pretty consistent during their cycle. Mines 15 days, it's never changed despite mc's and children coming into the equation.

I'm cd 8 today. No spotting as yet today. DTD last night as well so feeling pretty chipper this morning but I am tired though so I might treat myself to an hour in bed before I go to work at 2. Having a slight flare of my fibro too, haven't been taking my meds because of ttc, I think the meds side affects are worse than the condition itself!

ThanksAmy I'm trying to keep myself sane and not let myself get carried away to be disappointed but it's so hard!

I'm not sure when I ovulated, I had downloaded ovia and was paying far too much attention to my ever shifting fertile window sadly.

That's a shame about your meds, hope it settles soon.

Well the spotting is back! Bright pink every time I wipe, it's mixed with ewcm now and opk's have gone from a definite negative to an almost positive, not quite dark enough to be positively positive yet though!
Can I ovulate when I'm still spotting like this? And I'm only on CD8!
It's really getting on my nerves now.

I think you can definitely ovulate whilst spotting Amy and I'm sure I've read on here it can even mean a particularly healthy ovulation for that month. I've never experienced it myself but I'm sure the others will be able to advise?

Fedup I had spotting with ovulation last month but I had stopped spotting after my mc. This time I've not stopped spotting since af that ended 3 days ago. It just keeps coming! Opk's are turning positive so I guess I can. Just worrying about everything, thinking maybe this mc has buggered my whole system up.

It's literally driving me bonkers!

I'm spotting again. Thought af had finished but it's only cd6 so I'm trying not to feel down about it. Amy I spotted all through over last month. No idea what it all means but wishing you luck anyway.