TTC after miscarriage - new thread

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I just spotted that the old thread was now closed to new messages so thought I'd start another. The old thread for reference: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2457787-TTC-1-after-miscarriage-looking-for-some-buddies

brenna I know how you feel with the pregnancies around you. my best friend told me on friday how she is pregnant for the second time - 2nd times she's never used contraception, her husband just needs to look at her and she's pregnant! she was moaning about it too as earlier than planned....felt so unfair!

after posting my first message on here on monday night, i bizarrely got stomach pains when i went to bed, it got worse and worse so we went to a&e, they thought it was an appendicitis at first but it wasn't, the scan showed fluid in the pelvis which can happen very easily when the monthly cyst around the egg can rupture and causes pain - they've given me antibiotics to clear it and a follow up gynae appointment.

i just hope it is a normal coincidence and nothing to do with what's going on down there. it's another month we can't try anyway.

I will ask the gynae all these questions and if my fertility is affected etc.

fingers crossed for your 2ww, never an easy 2 weeks!

Brenna your dog is lovely!

Jodie hope your feeling better today.

Erm the gas! Not had that yet is this something to look forward to?!

My SIL is due the same week I was meant to give birth. I'm trying not to think about it and take it one day at a time. But it's so tough.

I've had a sad few days coupled with feeling really strange. I've had a sore head for three days now, feel like my heart is racing and just like I'm not on this planet. Mum is worried it's my blood pressure. If I'm not better by tomorrow going to go back to doctor.

Hi everyone.

Paco how are you feeling?

I've had a v strange day. I went to the doctors to ask about my bleeding - she did a cervical examination and all seemed fine in terms of infection; she has referred me to a private gyno for a scan but also said I should take a pregnancy test in a week as some women bleed in early pregnancy....

So I left the doctors, got a First Early Response test for next week but suddenly got an urge to do it... And it was positive! Very faint but I showed it to a nurse & she said it was a positive & faint line was v early to test.

I am so confused and think it might be a faulty test. I have been bleeding on & off for 6 days, and I haven't had an AF yet since my MC so can't imagine it's a true positive. So tired of the confusion.

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It does all seem so unfair Jodie

I hope it is a real positive Kate. Do one in another week and see?

I am back from my friends. I did really well and didn't cry. I gave her a wee pink and grey jacket I had made for my great niece that had been too small for her by the time it was finished. This is my friend's second and her first was a boy. She was so excited to have something pink and then nearly cried when she found out I had made it.

Fingers crossed it's a real bfp for you Kate

I am definitely not symptom spotting but if I was 5dpo is far too early for sore nipples, spot breakout, and nausea to mean anything isn't it...

IC I was the same at 5dpo. Had very achy boobs since 6 dpo. Tested today but BFN. I'm 11 dpo. I used a frer. I think it was a bit hopeful to think I'd fall straight away but the boobs are usually an indicator. I'd have expected to have seen a faint squinty line at this point though. I guess it's another 'new normal' after the mc. Hope you have better luck

I don't think you're out at 11dpo. Didn't get anything til 12dpo last time and that was the faintest squinter. Good luck!

Hope you feel better Jodie I'm sure it is a coincidence....do push for a scan etc.

Well done Brenna for being so brave. It can't have been easy.

Hopeful, that is great news but I know what you mean about the confusion. I don't suppose you can do anything but just sit and wait now. Will be thinking of you!

So I'm in my first fertile window since miscarriage, and had a lovely day with DH yesterday at Loch Lomond and was looking forward to dtd (even though I've been thinking/saying I'm not going to actively try yet but just not prevent). As soon as I realised it was my fertile window though I didn't want to waste the opportunity. I've got tonsillitis and it made me panic that it might mess around with ovulation and that will be another month wasted. I do want to be preg by my previous due date of July..However DH had some work to do and then I got all grumpy and told him it was my fertile window and I just really didn't want to waste it and did he have to do the work last night etc. He said he doesn't want to get 'hooked' on doing it at the right time as that's more pressure and we will dtd when we dtd (ie not planned). I was all fed up and grumpy by this point anyway so I just went to sleep. Great.

Jodie so sorry you have to put off trying for another month, that's so unfair!

Brenna, your dog is so cute! That is an amazing stink face. I used to have a cat who would do a similar thing when cross, animals are so funny!

Hopeful, keeping everything crossed that this is a new pregnancy for you. Have you tried doing a CB weeks pregnant estimator? Could you ask for 48 hour bloods to be done?

Loki, 11DPO is no where near too early to be out! I think 11dpo is still in the minority of getting a BFP? Pretty sure most of them happen at 12/13/14dpo.

Cheeky, telling my DH it's my fertile week almost always ends up in tears (mine, not his!) Have you tried just asking him to come to bed because you want to be with him and leaving the whole TTC thing out of it?

I finally had a +OPK Tuesday evening and yesterday morning, pretty sure yesterday was the day. I was very excited as I haven't had a +OPK since the MC (granted, this is only cycle 2, so basically I didn't get a +OPK last cycle) and we've been having so much sex. Which has been nice, but I think it's been about 9 times in the last 14 days so I'm ready for a break! We went about 9 weeks without while I was pregnant as I was bleeding or spotting for so much of it so it's nice to be able to enjoy each other like that again. Fingers crossed now for an okay LP.

That does sound pretty difficult Cheeky. I second Elderberries' suggestion above. During my fertile week I just put my effort in to putting my sexy moves on to DP rather than telling him it's because I'm fertile! He probably notices there's a week in the month where I come on to him a lot more than normal but he doesn't seem to be complaining! It's difficult when you really want it but I do think it's important to try to maintain intimacy and not let TTC dictate everything. You have a whole week of fertile time though so hopefully all is not lost. It only takes one time! Good luck

Hope your appointment with the gynae goes well jodie.

That was us last fertile window Cheeky. Night away in a hotel booked for DH's 40th. Nice hotel and spa, sexy nightie bought (at some considerable embarrasment after nearly bumping into our priest holding it), lots of spoiling of him. Nothing. I was fed up. We are not even married a year. There was a lot of tears and angst from me a couple of days later. We had a big talk about it though and hopefully this month will be better.

DDog is feeling better and has forgiven me. He did some playing for the first time in ages. He is now cuddled in next to me. Thank you all for the nice comments. He does the best Stink Eye and is very handsome in my opinion. But I may be a bit biased.

Hi ladies, may I join you all?

It's been 5 months now since my last miscarriage (two in a row), and we're not trying as such but taking things as they come. I am however, having really odd CM. From the day my AF clears up to the day before it's due again, I'm always getting fertile, stretchy CM I'm not sure what to make of it and it's really just so bloody confusing! Before my miscarriages, my cycles were perfectly normal - CM followed a text book example throughout the different stages of my cycle. However, my periods are still always on the dot on time, so I don't think it's a hormonal thing.

We're a fairly young couple so it's very unlikely to be aged related.

According to my calculations, I'm most fertile on Mothering Sunday so hoping for some luck ;)

Take care!

Hi Schenker welcome to the thread although I'm sorry you find yourself here. Two mcs in a row must have been tough

Sorry if this is an overly personal question but are you dtd lots? Sometimes residual semen is hard to distinguish from ewcm. Sorry for asking!

Otherwise perhaps it's hormonal

Hopefulkate fingers crossed for you!

schenker that sounds like a good omen.

cheeky poor you. I'd be in a grump if he did that too. I hope it's not spoiled your trip away. My DH is oblivious to any kind of charting, fertile windows etc. I'm going to get some ovulation sticks just to be sure that it's actually happening. Not sure what he will make of that

Insufficiently not too personal at all! In all honesty. we only ever DTD once every week.. roughly. Unless I'm fertile, then he makes more of an effort. My young DP isn't as sexually active as usual, this is because he feels unconfident within himself since gaining quite a bit of weight over the year, but it is thankfully getting better.

I've heard that fertile CM throughout the whole cycle can indicate PCOS.. But my periods are always regular and I have no excessive hair, other symptoms etc.

I just looked in my app at the symptoms I got on my BFP cycle and at 6dpo I had a tingly left nipple and minor cramp, 7 dpo I recorded feeling really emotional...same as this month... This is going to be a long 2ww!

Insufficiently good luck to you my lovely!

Insufficiently good luck to you my lovely! [flower]

Insufficiently good luck to you my lovely! [flower]

Thanks for the support girls I'm not going mad! I think I'm feeling al sentimental as the miscarriage is raw for me and I want to get preg quickly but for DH, he doesn't mind when it happens (a few months here or there) he does want a baby though.

Insufficiently good luck xx

Thanks everyone. I'm cramping so think af might be on her way. I'll keep testing like a crazy person (obviously ) but not hoping. I'll be more proactive with smep next month!

I'll keep my fingers crossed Loki and for you insufficientlycaff.... We all deserve so much luck on here.

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