TTC after miscarriage - new thread

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I just spotted that the old thread was now closed to new messages so thought I'd start another. The old thread for reference: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/2457787-TTC-1-after-miscarriage-looking-for-some-buddies

Keep going Paco. You'll get there very soon. Bless your wonderful husband. Enjoy your lunch!

I have just been to the loo, and I am STILL spotting. It's not in my urine like when I am on my period but there is quite a bit on the tissue. I definitely ovulated as the OPK went peak after 4 days and then now it's negative but why I am bleeding? I thought ovulation bleeding only lasted a few days, but like you say, it could be left over products of MC that came out as my cervix opened to ovulate. Argh! So confusing. xx

Paco great to hear you've got your husband supporting you and that you're managed to get out of the house. Enjoy your lunch.

Kate wondered where you had gone... Glad to 'see' you back and feeling a bit better.
I had the same as you, spotting at ov for about 3 days. Wasn't much just when I wiped mainly and was pink, Loki had the same thing around ov. It's never happened to me before. Looked in the net and it says it's a sign of a good strong ovulation and is perfectly normal. Friday before ov mine was bright red on the tissue and seemed loads, it went away over the three days after.

Thanks Amy! Good to be back. How are you feeling? Has AF been yet? Have you TTC this month or are you waiting?

Xx

Feel a bit crap to be honest Kate. I've been having these horrible cramps down low like af is coming but no it's not made its appearance yet.

Been tracking my temps and I ov'd 8 days ago according to the chart and yes trying right away. Caught my ov by hours I think but not hopeful for anything this month. No point in waiting around, EPU nurse said do what I want if I feel ready so that's what I'm doing.

Why not hopeful Amy? Do you know what's causing the cramps if it's not AF? Have you taken a p test? So sorry to hear you are low. It's bloody tough being in this situation xx

No idea what's causing them, they were so bad I couldn't walk but tied in with ov those days but been having them ever since in varying degrees.
Everything's ng at the min.
Thought it might have been a uti but I tested my urine at work and it's all clear! It's a mystery!
It is tough want af now xx

Did you speak to a doctor? You poor thing. Sounds horrid xx

Glad your husband is being supportive Paco. It makes a huge difference. I waited until after my first AF to start trying again as my uterus felt really raw and sensitive my first cycle and I didn't want to go straight from a later m/c to an earlier one and have to wait even longer.

Amy I hope the cramps stop soon or that you figure out what they are. That sounds awful.

The morning DDog asked up on the bed when I woke up to do my BBT. I moved my feet over to make room for him. He clearly thought I hadn't given him enough room as he got up, stomped on my feet a couple of times, got back down, stuck his head under the covers and stuck his cold wet nose on the bare patch on my back just above my pj top. Then he got into the much larger space I left when I shot across the bed into DH's side . I am glad he still has his smart cheeky side to the fore. Today AF is so heavy that I got up, put in a super tampon, took DDog for a walk and went to church and could feel myself leaking already in church. Less than a hour and a half after putting it in. So glad I had a pantyliner on too. I was worried that wouldn't be enough to last the mass though. Of course today was the day the priest dragged the service out forever. It was quite a sprint out and home at the end of the service. AF is definitely still heavier 5 months after the m/c for me.

Kate i did talk to my dr and I've also spoken to the gyny ward at the hospital. While I was having my scan to confirm mc they discovered a 6cm corpes luteum on my left ovary which is functional (enlarged because of the pregnancy) it produces the progesterone until the placenta takes over during conception. What they're saying is one of three things; it could be the cyst has leaked causing the pain but if I'm not bleeding it's no concern or that my body is getting ready for af or that it's a side affect of the miscarriage causing a spasm as my body readjusts to not being pregnant.... I'm hoping its af.

Brenna glad your dog is still himself. Sorry about af being so heavy. I'm dreading mine as they were heavy to begin with and no doubt will be heavier still

Xx

Fingers crossed it is AF Amy - I really feel for you. Hope it doesn't give you any more pain.

Brenna - your post made me laugh! Sweet dog. Hardly ideal when you are bleeding though! Sorry about AF being so heavy. Hope it eases soon and that you are wrapped up nice and warmly this evening.

I have started bleeding a bit more heavily now - still not a period, but pinkish streaks. And got cramps and bloating, so there is clearly something afoot down there! I imagine my body is expelling the last few bits of tissue as it ovulates and this next period will be heavy. There is no way this is just ovulation bleeding - there is just too much of it. Sigh. Anyway, looking forward to next week when hopefully this will all settle down.

Hope everyone is having a lovely Sunday evening xx

I know this is going to sound silly and ridiculous. I've been poas for a few days. I'm 10dpo and I've had 3 pregnancies (1 MC) and every time I had a +ve by this point. I'm totally gutted as there is no sign of one. I know it's only 3 cycles since my MC but I'm devastated. I just want my baby back, the one that I MC. I just want to be pregnant, I miss being pregnant. I just want a baby.

I know it hasn't been long but I don't know what to do. I don't know whether to look into IUI. We dtd pretty much every other day at least. I track my temperature so I know I ov. I had reflexology again this month (as I did on cycle when we last fell pregnant). I just don't know what to do. I can't keep doing this every month and I can't let go.

Aw Jo. I feel exactly the same. I'm so sorry. 10 dpo is still really early though. With dd I got a fainter than faint positive on a frer at 11dpo and BFN at 10 dpo. With the baby I lost I got BFN at 11dpo and a fainter than faint bfp at 12dpo. Every pg is different do try to stay hopeful.

Hugs Jo. I know how you feel about wanting your baby back and to be still pregnant. Each month that goes past and the negatives start arriving again I feel so empty and lost. Rowan would have been my first, so I have no idea how easy it will be for us to have any more. I fell quickly with him, this time seems to be harder and I am dreading my due date in May. It is getting scarily close now. When I fell in love with my husband it was his talking about his family and all the fun he loved having with them and all his cousins and I could see how wonderful a Dad he would be. For the first time in my life I could see myself having a family with someone and I loved the idea. Right now I can't see it ever happening and I feel so broken. I am even worried about our abilities to adopt instead as we want to move to Italy in 5 years and I don't know if we would be allowed with that in mind. Hopefully we will be able to adopt in Italy, although I am now fighting to get fluent in the language in time.

I hope that you don't have to keep doing it for long. I find if I think about doing this for 6 months or more to come I lose the will to live, but if I just try and take it 1 day at a time and live only with what I am doing today, it doesn't seem too daunting.

Jo Loki and Brenna. I know exactly what you all mean. It took us 2 years to get to the point where we finally did conceive and I still struggle to understand why we lost it. It just isn't fair that it took so long to finally get our turn and then it was snatched away from us.

It was our first pregnancy so I know that if and when I am successful again, the whole experience will just be clouded with fear and over analysing every twinge and I won't be able to enjoy it. I'm trying to stay hopeful that it will happen again and it will also be a positive outcome but it is really hard - I can't imagine still being in a position where we are trying in 6 months either but I just don't know what else to do. I have also been having reflexology, I had 5-6 sessions before my previous pregnancy, I've has more than that since the mc so far

POAS again, definitely positive

I hope this isn't insensitive for those who are struggling, but I terrified of it all happening again. Don't want to work out the due date so I have another day to mourn in future

Albus that makes a lot of sense. I feel like I need to be pregnant again but I'm actually terrified of going through pregnancy again.

Hugs to you mrsunsure. It really is a shitty time

Morning all- I don't know what it is about Sunday nights, but I never sleep well! Was awake still at 3am! Feel drained to say the least.

For all those who are struggling- it is really a difficult time and situation to be in. Wanting to be pregnant so badly but having that constant thought of everything going wrong again. I've been there after having my twins. Bearing in mind I was only 20 when they were born far to early. For the last 9 years it's been niggling away at me. Having my DD's was so hard, the pregnancies, reaching milestones getting past the 21+5 mark. It still didn't go away.

I was given a piece of advice by my mums dear friend.
She said, if it's going to go wrong it will, they'll be nothing you can do about it if it does. Worrying won't stop it if it happens. Enjoy your pregnancy, if it ends you'll have been happy that you enjoyed the time you were given.

It's stuck with me for all these years. It didn't make being pregnant any easier but I thought of that, took a deep breath and thought that the possibility of things going right was actually just as much as things going wrong.

and hugs to you all xxx

Thanks Amy, that is a lovely thought.

My dilemma today is jogging. I am 1/3 of the way into a programme. I feel like it is doing me a lot of good, and is helping weight loss. (I am very overweight)

Do you think it is safe to carry on? I don#'t want to involve any medical professionals just yet

Albus carry on but don't push yourself too hard. Exercise in pregnancy is really good. I went to the gym in early pregnancy, did start to feel a bit dizzy with the increased blood volume and just had to change what I was doing a little.

My dr said just don't do and weights and if you start to feel tired or weak stop.

I think you are ok to keep jogging. It'll be good for your mind too

I am quietly happy for you Albus and hoping it all goes well. I think you are feeling how we all will if our time comes. With regards to the exercise I was told it is ok to carry on exercise your body is used to but don't try anything new and listen to your body and don't push it. So I would carry on with the stage you are at assuming you feel ok while/after doing it but maybe reduce the rate at which you are increasing what you are doing, so that you don't put any extra strain on your body. People run races in early/mid pregnancy still if they happen to be fit and already doing it.

I have last 1.5 kg in a week and a half. I am quite pleased with myself. Only another 10 to go.

Albus - congratulations to you. Keep posting. You are bound to be terrified but everyone here wants and needs to hear success stories after everything we have been through.
Congratulations on the weight loss, Brenna. That is good going for 10 days!
Amy, you are right about being positive. I struggle at times but I know I need to try and think positive.

Congratulations albus!

I'm going to start doing couch to 5k again. I feel like running really helps to clear my head.